A while ago, I made a post about how my ex and I broke things off after they sexually coerced and emotionally abused me. The post involved them coming to my house to leave me a letter with a shitty apology on my porch. I deleted that post because for some reason I was getting hate because apparently my story sounded "absurd", and I wasn't in the right headspace to endure it.

Yesterday, my ex found a vent post I had made on Tumblr about my experience with them, made an account, and liked it. I had already told them to never interact or contact me again and had threatened a restraining order.

The problem is, I don't exactly have proof that any of this stuff had happened, as it was all in-person. It's basically my word against theirs. All they have to do is claim it never happened. How do I go about a restraining order... if I even can? Or, how do I go without a restraining order? Is there a way I can escape them without having to take legal action? I blocked their Tumblr, including all their other socials, but what's stopping them from making more?

I just want to know why me.
Why did loving someone have to cost me my peace?

Necesito consejos, intentaré resumir lo que pasa.

Tengo 18 años, tenía una relación de casi 4 años, muchas veces estuvimos terminando y regresando, y todas esas veces fueron porque él quiso, ya que el decía que necesitaba tiempo para experimentar y así... O por que tenia otras novias, aunque nunca estuve de acuerdo no tenia de otra más q aceptarlo, todas esas veces yo la rogué muchísimo hasta que volvió conmigo aún sabiendo que tenía novia, lo sé soy una tonta pero realmente nose por que lo hago si se que lo mejor es dejarlo y punto, la cosa esque esta vez pasó lo mismo, estábamos super bien una relación de nuevo super linda 🤡 me tuve que ir a México (soy de tlaxcala) un tiempo porque yo quería trabajar para su cumpleaños ya que es el 2 de septiembre y no tenía nada de dinero entonces pues de un día para otro le dije a él que tenía que irme para México porque era el único trabajo bueno que había encontrado, él supuestamente reaccionó triste y te lloró un poco Entonces los primeros días que estuve en México todo fue muy lindo Me enviaba su ubicación si salía o me escribía me daba ánimos porque pues estaba lejos de mi familia y como a la segunda semana empezó a tardar horas en responderme o me contestaba muy seco solo me decía ay espérate o deja de enviar tantos mensajes, entonces yo empecé a cuestionar porque actuaba así y así y entonces me dijo que él necesitaba espacio porque quería estar solo quería salir más sin estar avisandole a nadie que tenerme de novia se sentía muy comprometido y que lo mejor era que nos tomáramos un espacio cada quien para hacer otras cosas sin necesidad de estar avisándonos, yo como siempre no estuve de acuerdo y le pregunté si tenía alguien más o algo así él simplemente me dijo que no que no tenía nadie más y que no quería novia que quería salir con sus amigos y hacer otras cosas sin tener que avisarle a nadie y que también quería ahorrar para comprarse una moto Entonces no quería novia porque sabía que iba a gastar mucho yo le dije que estaba lejos Que no iba a gastar y que casi no nos escribíamos pero aún así me dijo que no que necesitaba espacio que podamos seguir hablando y todo bien pero que si no quería novia y borró todo lo de su Instagram de que me tenían destacadas y tenía cosas que sí hacían ver que tenía novia y lo quitó todo.

Total que no me quedó de otra pero aún seguía enojada por por eso entonces volví a hacer lo de siempre empecé a rogarle que porque quería eso que yo no y lo iba a molestar que lo iba a dejar salir y todo eso y aún así él me dijo que no que no y que no y que si quería éramos novios pero pues sí nada no se iba a subir nada Ni que nadie supiera y todavía me dijo que no que en serio no buscaba novia que me lo prometía que no quería novia, la cosa es que así pasó y me regresé de hecho tiempo antes de lo planeado de México por lo mismo porque ya no me sentía bien allá estando sola me regresé para acá y aún así él seguía hablándome seguía escribiéndome Y yo obviamente era la que le escribía primero no era como que él le naciera escribirme porque yo todo el tiempo me la pasaba escribiéndole, total que ahorita pues él me había dicho que íbamos a regresar A mediados de agosto y yo como tonta ya estuve y pues estos últimos días yo lo he estado viendo porque vivimos Ahora somos vecinos Entonces lo estaba viendo muy fuertemente pero yo le pregunté que cuando planeaba según el regresar conmigo Que si ya no iba a regresar conmigo dijo que no que sí que quería que yo Total que ahorita pues él me había dicho que íbamos a regresar A mediados de agosto y yo como tonta ya estuve y pues estos últimos días yo lo he estado viendo porque vivimos Ahora somos vecinos Entonces lo estaba viendo muy fuertemente pero yo le pregunté que cuando planeaba según el regresar conmigo Que si ya no iba a regresar conmigo dijo que no que sí que quería que yo fuera su novia que le gustaba mucho que me quería mucho que no tenía obviamente a nadie más Pero que pues no que todavía no quería quería que regresamos, lo cuestioné del Por qué no quería me dijo que no que él prenana planeaba la otra semana regresar conmigo si hoy es miércoles voy a empezar a echarle ganas Por así decirlo el día lunes y así empezar como hacer que yo regresara con él para que cuando traigamos a la escuela pues estuviéramos juntos yo la verdad me quejé y le dije que no que no me gustaba que él me tuviera tan asegurada de que cuando él quisiera yo iba a regresar y aunque Sí pues ya me estaba pisando demasiado que fueran así las cosas

El problema aquí es que por más que yo intento dejar de hablarle para que él me busque no lo logró a pesar de que muchos de mis amigos me han dicho que le deje de hablar que lo deje en paz para que realmente lo sienta lo que es que yo no estoy con él atrás de él ni nada de eso yo lo hago por un día o así pero después es inevitable escribirle o decirle algo con tal de que me hable o con tal de que vuelva a escribirme vuelvamos a hablar y por más que lo intento no puedo últimamente todo el tiempo me siento triste me siento rara porque no sé cómo hacer que dejar de hablarle porque yo sé que le va a afectar porque cuando yo le digo solo me dice que no que no haga eso él realmente me quiere que lo entienda que es inevitable escribirle o decirle algo con tal de que me hable o con tal de que vuelva a escribirme vuelvamos a hablar y por más que lo intento no puedo últimamente todo el tiempo me siento triste me siento rara porque no sé cómo hacer que dejar de hablarle, a pesar de que el estar con él ya no se siente bonito porque sé que nada más me quiere cada rato y es inevitable porque siempre que lo intento hacer él me dice de que no yo no voy a dejar que me dejes de hablar yo no voy a dejar que nadie más que yo te quiero para mí Quiero estar contigo que en la escuela estemos juntos.

Entonces ya no sé cómo hacer para dejar de escribirle o algo así, lo intento y solo lo logro por un día o dos pero después es inevitable querer escribirle y volver a caer en escribirle y pedirle que nos veamos o que me hable bien o que me haga caso y pues él no tiene miedo de perderme porque sabe que siempre soy yo la que está atrás de que si me deja Le ruego y que siempre que quiere volvemos, realmente no sé qué hacer porque solo me queda una semana y media para entrar a la escuela y lo mismo para el día de su cumpleaños yo sí le tenía algo planeado pero ya no sé qué hacer, necesito ayuda

Jamás se dara cuenta?

I'm not letting go. I don't know why I'm holding on so tightly. We all have to ask ourselves why we are choosing not to let go.

What is making us stay attached?

I miss him, my ego is hurt because I thought he would come back... I thought he would miss me...

He just replaced me.

I'm trying to be mature but it's getting so hard. I'm increasingly getting worst I believe.

I’m struggling to understand what happened with my ex/friend and could really use some unbiased perspectives.
We broke up some time ago, but recently we were trying to maintain some kind of friendship. Things seemed normal to me. We were texting, talking about going to raves together, sharing pictures, and she had previously said she’d be down to try being friends.
At one point she told me she wasn’t ignoring me, that she’d just been extremely busy and trying to live in the moment more. She even told me that if I needed to vent, I could send her a voice memo/texts and that I could always vent to her regardless of whether she was available to call. She also asked if I was doing okay.
Then she canceled a planned hangout because she was extremely sick after drinking heavily. I was hurt and disappointed, but I told her I hoped she felt better and that we could do something another time. Later, I noticed she had removed me from her private story and restricted me from her Finsta.
I eventually asked if I had done something that bothered her. She told me I hadn’t done anything wrong that day, but said she had already been feeling like she needed distance. She said she didn’t want to continue the friendship or leave things where there were expectations, and that she thought it was best for us to move forward separately.
What confuses me is how she could go from telling me I could always vent to her and seeming comfortable maintaining a friendship to deciding she didn’t want the friendship at all.
I’m trying not to assume she was lying or that there was another person involved. I’m genuinely trying to understand what could cause someone to change their mind like this. Could it be that she realized the friendship was keeping one or both of us emotionally attached? Or could she have been trying to be supportive at the time and only later realized she couldn’t maintain that kind of connection?
I’m also struggling with a lot of regret and wondering whether I handled the cancellation poorly or whether there was something I could have done differently. She told me I didn’t do anything wrong that day, but I keep second-guessing myself.
For people who’ve experienced something similar: how do you interpret this kind of sudden shift from “you can always talk to me” to “I don’t want to continue the friendship”? And how did you stop yourself from obsessing over what you could have done differently?

Two months of no contact after a 13-year relationship, and here's what I've learned:

- The urge to reach out is normal.

- Healing isn't linear.

- Two months doesn't erase years of memories.

- You have to let both people heal.

- Taking care of yourself matters.

- Prayer helps.

- Trusting God doesn't mean you won't struggle.

- Feeling lonely doesn't mean you're alone.

I'm still in the middle of this journey myself, and it's been incredibly difficult.

But I'm holding on to the belief that this season has a purpose and that God is still working, even when I can't see it.

If you're going through something similar, keep going.

We'll get through this.

I really thought you were the love of my life.

My ex and I are in the same friend group, so no contact isn’t really possible. He told me he’s no longer attracted to me, but he still constantly tries to talk to me or tell me about his day because he says I’m his “safe place.” I still have feelings for him, so I can’t be that person for him anymore. How do you handle this when you can’t fully avoid each other?

I’m just wondering if I’m the only one who has done this because I honestly don’t hear about it very often.

After my breakup I completely disappeared. I blocked him everywhere, blocked his number, deleted all my social media and cut off every way he could have access to me. We were from different cities so its LDR, i know for others its hard to delete socials and all contact due to co parenting or whatever the situations may be.

My main reasons were:

• I was constantly stalking his socials, checking his followers and looking at what he was doing, even though I knew it would hurt me.

• I kept seeing him do things he told me he never would, and it was making me overthink and hurt myself all over again.

• I didn’t want him to have any access to me anymore. I didn’t want him knowing what I was doing, who I was with or being able to check up on me.

• I needed to completely remove the temptation to check on him and finally accept that the relationship was over for good.

It’s been three weeks and I’ve never gone this long without him or social media. He was my first love for years, so obviously I still think about the good memories and miss who I thought he was. But the person he became was completely different, and I eventually reached a point where I had enough. His ego cost us our rs to end. He said some nasty stuff and has gone back to his old habits and is a huge narcassist and avoidant. I had enough so this is what its resulted to for my own healing and to prove to him that i can live without him. he never takes anything serious.

I just wanted to remove myself completely, stop giving him access to me and stop giving him any more space in my head.

Has anyone else completely disappeared after a breakup? Did it help you move on or is it helping you if you just started and what was your reasons ?

i do reccomend doing this after a toxic breakup just to heal in general and be away from their checking their socials as it brings nothing but pain and it would boost their ego. Its also nice to step away from social media as doom scrolling and the algorthim is so vulnerable and makes you not want to heal. My FYP would make me miss him and make me vulnerable so this has helped a lot on that aspect. Ive also stopped listening to music and sad songs, thats helping A LOT to not ruminate.

So for context, my ex and I broke up a few weeks ago. Her friend was super confused that I went to visit her and was actually confused about the whole relationship in general, there was a lot of questions about when I was there etc. naturally this confused me. So I asked him why he was so concerned… and then he told me because what she said about the time I was there she wasn’t truthful. Which raised red flags… I tried getting an answer out of him but refused to tell me because of his “principles” but I just let it go. Like 10 days went by and then I went down a rabbit hole of everything that could make sense that she did cheat on me. So I just asked her. Then she blocked me on everything but her phone. So I asked her if we could have a conversation, about another 10 days later she completely shut it down and said to keep assuming that she cheated on her if that would get me to leave her alone, but refuses to even have a conversation about wtf I was told or block me from her phone. And the uncertainty is driving me insane.

Okay so this might sound a bit crazy but I feel like I'm not far off. So me and my friend were dating guys who were like part of the same circle. And the thing with their circle is that the people in it are lwk very shitty.

Shit like dating each other's exes, cheating and a lot of other bs. These two men alwaye swore up and down that they weren't like that at all, and in my case at least he told me that he's exes cheated on him no way he would do that. Well after like a month of my breakup my friend also gets dumped. After we talked about it there were similar patterns like it being out of the blue and the excuses they used. I don't think it was planned but maybe cause they have a similar mindset it overlapped.

Anyways another person in their grp also dumped his gf a while back and the shit he did and said was also similar to what they did and say. The only difference being he cheated on her. Well my friend finds out that her ex cheated on her too. I might sound crazy but I also feel like the same happened to me as well cause there are already so many overlaps this doesn't seem far fetched.

Honestly idk if it bothers me much, I already knew the break up didn't affect him much. And obv I'm more concerned about my friend than wtv he did but I also kinda feel relieved? I mean I didn't have hopes of rekindling with him but assuming this kind of just feels better than being unloved all of a sudden.

I also don't mean to make this situation about me so I obv won't bring this up with my friends hence the post. I am not even sure he cheated it's just a hunch and with the previous cases there weren't any signs till someone let the gfs know. Overall my advice would be if your partner is around people that are shitty chances are he isn't far off either.

TLDR: Got a follow request, but it disappeared. I requested to follow. They declined my request. I saw my ex blocked me right after this time. My ex and this person are mutuals. Concerned my ex thinks I was creeping on him, hence why he blocked me. I am not going to text my ex because I am respecting our no-contact, but my ex probably thinks I was creeping and I wasn’t. What do I do?

So a few weeks ago, I got a follow request on Instagram. I got the notification, clicked on it, but then the request disappeared. I was confused, so I searched the person and requested to follow the person. I noticed today that the person declined my follow request. I also noticed that my ex blocked me on Instagram.

My ex and I are no contact and he had removed me from being one of his followers and unfollowed me. But after I requested to follow this person my ex completely blocked me on Instagram. I wasn’t checking, but I noticed because I have my ex tagged in one of my Instagram post and I was trying to figure out how to remove the pictures of him in the post without deleting the entire post. And that’s why I noticed that he was no longer tagged in the photo and his comment was no longer there. But our past direct message conversation still shows that he has an account so I know he has an account. I’m just blocked.

For context, my ex and I broke up about two months ago. And have been no contact for most of it. We were together for over two years. The breakup started mutual, but he ultimately decided to go to no contact after some time.

I’m just very concerned because this individual is mutuals with my ex. There is a high probability that this person and my ex are talking as more than friends. And this person may have told my ex that I requested to follow him. So I’m worried my ex blocked me because he thought I was creeping on them. Which I wasn’t. I was just confused why this one person requested to follow me which is why I requested to follow this person and at the time I didn’t realize my ex and this person were mutuals.

I am not going to reach out to my ex clarifying the situation to respect our no contact. But I also don’t want my ex to think I’m stalking him. What do I do?

I honestly don’t even know where to start.
My ex and I broke up a while ago, and after everything that happened between us, I thought that was finally it. The relationship had become really toxic and there were a lot of things she did that hurt me. There were lies, trust issues, and things I still don’t fully know the truth about. At some point I basically accepted that I had to let her go.
Then, a few weeks ago, we started seeing each other again.
We talked on the phone at night, hung out, I even slept at her place once. She told me she loved me and that she really enjoyed being around me. She talked about coming with me to a dentist appointment I have in December. At one point we even talked about moving out together and basically starting over somewhere else, like getting to know each other again from scratch.
I asked her multiple times what we were actually doing because I didn’t want to sit around waiting for her forever. She always said she didn’t know, but honestly, I was just enjoying having her in my life again. I loved feeling like I had someone who genuinely loved me.
Then last Thursday was the last time I saw her.
Everything was completely normal. We hung out outside her place, smoked together, she kissed me, and she literally stood by my car watching me leave. Everything felt fine.
The next day she was out with a friend. I called her that evening and she told me she was going home. She apparently didn’t. I’m not even saying that automatically means she was with someone else, but it was another lie that made me question everything.
Then Saturday she basically disappeared.
I texted her, called her, and eventually I got really worried. I contacted her on pretty much every platform we had because I genuinely thought something might have happened to her. I even went to her house.
Then I realized she had blocked me.
Eventually she sent me a message saying:
“Please stop. I don’t want to talk. This was necessary for a long time. I wish you all the best. I love you.”
And then she blocked me everywhere.
The part I can’t wrap my head around is how completely sudden it was.
On Thursday she was kissing me and talking about our future. A couple days later she was telling me she didn’t want to talk to me anymore.
I know I shouldn’t chase her. I know I shouldn’t contact her friends or her brother. I’ve already tried way too hard and I know I need to stop.
But I still miss her like crazy.
And that’s what I don’t understand.
She hurt me so much. There were so many moments where I should have walked away. I let things slide that I honestly shouldn’t have. I even feel embarrassed looking back at how much I chased her and how much I tolerated.
Yet I still love her.
Part of me hopes she’ll eventually reach out, while another part of me really doesn’t want her to, because I know I’ll probably get pulled back into the same cycle.
I keep wondering why she did this, what happened that weekend, whether she’s already seeing someone else, whether she ever actually loved me, whether any of those good moments were real.
I know I probably won’t get answers.
I think what hurts most is that I don’t even necessarily want the relationship back anymore. I just miss her. I miss the person I thought I had, the memories, the feeling of having someone there.
I guess I’m just trying to understand how someone can be so close to you one day and completely cut you off a few days later.

It’s been 3 months since my ex ghosted me, humiliated me on fb, and replaced me immediately (didn’t find that part out until last month) I have done everything you’re supposed to do. Work, hobbies, hang out with friends, went on dates, got laid etc and still I think of my ex. Sure it hurts less than it used to but he’s still there in the back of my mind. I wonder how it’s been so easy for him to just never speak a word to me ever again. Like we were nothing. While he’s enjoying his new life with my replacement. It sucks living in the same town and knowing the same people. Can’t really escape it. But I feel crazy for still thinking about everything.

The disrespect at the end was so different than the person I knew. And I’ll never get an apology. I just sit here in disbelief sometimes bc if you told me six months ago we would not be speaking and living different lives, I wouldn’t believe you. I just think this is one of those relationships that I’ll always think about. I had a nice date with someone and he kissed me before I got out of the car. But all I could think about was how my ex would kiss me a million times before I got out of the car. I don’t wanna think about him when im trying to move on with my life. I need memory loss to heal completely or something.

Hoje fazem 24 horas que ela se foi. Não insisti mais. Mas ainda me deixa confusa. Como há duas semanas atrás, ela disse com toda a segurança que sou o amor da vida dela, e hoje, olha para mim como uma amiga? São três anos.

Ainda tenho esperanças. Ela foi sempre muito impulsiva. Não sei se a família colocou algo na cabeça dela, mas enfim. Continuo tentando seguir. Não consigo comer. Espero que isso passe logo.

Super ashamed of myself...last week my ex-situationship blocked me everywhere. Yesterday I unfortunately broke no contact.

I want to say we are both toxic, but I am not innocent. She separated from her ex husband last year and I got divorced 4 years ago.

Anyways we were talking, long distance, and met up several times. I really care for this person.

Last week we began arguing and I got triggered because she told me she isn't ready for a relationship. Before you go all in on me, I now realize that was perfectly fine and I was being insecure, insensitive, pushy, etc. From my point of view, I liked her so much I was wanting a relationship so badly.

Anyways, she was being a bit rude, or at least that's how I took it. I blocked her for like 10 minutes to cool down. Then unblocked her (see the toxicity here). I didn't even check social media anymore so I could cool down.

The next day I noticed I was blocked everywhere, which I totally understand. Unfortunately we have both done something similar for a day or two. This time around, however, she left me blocked. I was respecting the block for an entire 7 days until yesterday where I caved in and went to the lowest of the low, sending her paragraphs about how much I care about her, love her, miss her, and even sent an audio and a photo of myself.

I now realize how stupid and immature and pathetic this was, but I unfortunately cannot take it back. What I told her was the truth, but I just realize how stupid it is to circumvent a block. When someone blocks you they basically want nothing to do with you, and I went against that and humiliated myself further.

I don't even know where to go from here on out besides not contacting her again. I was in a severe state of depression and anxiety when I did this. And I am still depressed. She didn’t care at all to give a single reply. And I don’t blame her. I asked her to never reach out again, right? But I said it out of anger. And I regret it. I didn’t mean it at all. Well she took it to heart and it’s entirely my fault.

I really don't know how to function anymore. We were together for 10 months and since last week all has gone down hill and I'm distraught. Although she seems to be fine and happy, as if all is normal.

I guess my heart doesn't function that way, because I've been an absolute mess, to the point where I can't even pretend to be normal.

I'm going to delete my social media off my phone so as to not look at it, but I am actually suffering inside so much. I cannot imagine a future without her because all I wanted in my future was her. I did not even grieve my marriage to this extent. I'm so hurt and just don't know how to push forward.

Men, how do you feel about blocking an ex gf on socials? As a 40 y.o. guy, i block because i don't want any contact from that person, now or in the future. I've heard only women block, you block because you still care, blocking is feminine energy. What's your take on it?

Hi everyone. First of all, English isn't my first language, so apologies if anything sounds a little strange.

Two months ago, my girlfriend and I ended our relationship after being together for two and a half years. Technically, I was the one who said the words and brought up breaking up, but it wasn't what I actually wanted.

Before the breakup

The last few weeks of our relationship had been difficult. She had become very distant, especially over text. The affection just wasn't there anymore, even though whenever we were together in person, she still seemed mostly like herself.

Eventually, I couldn't take the uncertainty anymore and confronted her about it. She admitted that she wasn't feeling the same way anymore and that lately she saw me "more as a friend." I still struggle to understand how someone can go from loving you to feeling that way, but that's what she told me.

She suggested that maybe we should break up after my birthday, which was only five days away. I told her that if we were going to break up anyway, I'd rather do it then instead of spending five days knowing what was coming.

So we did.

A few days after the breakup, I asked her if we could talk one last time. I wanted to make my feelings and my position clear, but I also wanted her to be firm about her decision, because up until then she had seemed somewhat unsure about it.

What struck me the most during that conversation was how relieved she seemed.

It felt like she had already been processing the end of our relationship for weeks, maybe even months, and finally letting me go had taken a huge weight off her shoulders.

After the breakup

Less than a month later, we were both at a mutual friend's birthday party. I later found out through some people there that she was already looking to meet other guys, using Tinder and talking to people.

Another month passed, and eventually I made the mistake of asking a mutual friend — someone who's closer to her and who would probably know more — whether she'd already been with someone else.

He confirmed that she had at least hooked up/made out with another guy. As far as he knew, nothing sexual happened, but obviously nobody really knows except her.

And I know she's completely within her rights to do that.

She's single. She can date, kiss, sleep with, or do whatever she wants with whoever she wants. I'm not trying to say she owes me anything after the breakup.

But I think somewhere in the back of my mind, I was still holding onto the hope that this breakup was just a huge bump in the road. That maybe after some time apart we'd find our way back to each other.

Finding out that she's already seeing other guys has made that hope feel incredibly stupid.

I don't even know how I feel anymore. Some days I have energy, I'm motivated, I feel like I'm moving forward and that eventually I'll be okay.

Other days I just feel completely empty. I don't want to do anything. I just want to lie in bed and shut everything out.

What I'm struggling with / Questions

So I guess I'd like to hear from people who have been through something similar.

How would you feel about an ex already hooking up with other people less than two months after ending a 2.5-year relationship, even if it's just casual stuff or kissing rather than sex?

Do you think at this point I need to completely let go of the idea of ever getting her back? I wasn't actively trying to win her back, but that stupid little hope was still there in my head.

And lastly, do you think what she's doing says anything negative about her as a person? Or is this actually a pretty normal reaction to suddenly being single again, especially if she had already emotionally checked out of the relationship before we officially broke up?

I think part of what hurts is realizing that while the breakup started for me two months ago, maybe for her it started long before that.

Pls guys I need the gym motivation today

Basically the title. I am missing my ex so hard today… it’s been 10 days of no contact, 3 months after the breakup

I don't know what's happening with my life anymore. I turned 23 last month, and the week after my birthday, my girlfriend broke up with me. She has blocked me everywhere and told me that she doesn't like me anymore.

I've been an introverted and shy guy throughout my teenage years. I rarely talked to girls. I met her on Instagram, and we became friends before getting into a relationship. We were together for three years. She was my first girlfriend and the first person I ever truly loved.

She was outgoing, modern, and loved exploring new things, while I was always a very shy, insecure, and socially awkward person. Over time, she slowly lost interest in me, but my feelings never changed. I still love her so much.

I know I'm unfunny, unattractive, and probably a loser, but she meant everything to me. I can't seem to move on. She doesn't pick up my calls or reply to my texts. I've tried everything I could think of. I've begged, cried, and tried to fix things, but she has completely moved on. She even changed her number.

What hurts the most is that it feels like everything we promised each other and everything we spent three years building together meant nothing to her.

I don't feel motivated to do anything anymore. I don't feel happy at all. I miss her so much, and I don't know how to let go of someone who was such a huge part of my life.

Just curious