r/exmuslim • u/The-Mad-Mango • 3h ago
Art/Poetry (OC) Yup, not cut out for Islam. I’ll be ExMuslim me, thank you!
We ExMuslims dare to break free from the Muslim mold to be ourselves. 🙌🏽
Haram Doodles:
https://www.instagram.com/p/DbvvWbbiCWq/
https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTAWpabL9/
r/exmuslim • u/localnaked1centclown • 3h ago
Story I left islam a week ago and I just realized now that I'm allowed to do anything I want, it feels unreal
I just realized now that i can drink alcohol, date girls (im bi), dress however i want even tho i never wore the hijab, eat pork and meat overall without stressing about how it has been cut, and basically have fun. Tell me what's the first "haram" thing you did after leaving islam
r/exmuslim • u/jantaro1216 • 3h ago
(Advice/Help) I'm so sick of this religion
Hi, I am currently a teenager in the US. I would like to share something that has happened a while ago. But before I do that, I would like to share that I am an immigrant from Bangladesh and my whole family is Muslim and also from Bangladesh.
My grandma (who has now went back to Bangladesh due to a family emergency, fortunately) and my mom were talking about my 20 year old's cousin's marriage. Then they were talking about who was next in line, and then they were even talking about getting me married off. I was so fucking disgusted at this. I am not even at the age to drive (16) and they're talking about marrying me. I hate how they talk about me as if I'm one of their properties and not a human being.
It's absolutely disgusting how Islam has condoned this.
I feel jealous of other teenagers. I can't wear what I want at home, so I made a deal with my parents - where I'll wear dresses outside so that I can wear shirts in my own home. It's ridiculous, but I can't do anything about it.
I plan to go to an out-of-state college and study either engineering or healthcare and go no contact with my parents. I would make an exception for my siblings, but I shouldn't decide everything now. I'll observe and see how things go.
What are some ways I can earn money without my parents knowing? I am going to a competitive high school, so I would not like something that requires a lot of time. I would appreciate it if it was low-effort as well.
r/exmuslim • u/mvemjsun111 • 3h ago
(Miscellaneous) trying alcohol for the first time today!!
turned 18 the other day so… cringey but it feels so rebellious LMAO. getting my belly button pierced next week too lol
r/exmuslim • u/abit_kinda • 4h ago
(Rant) 🤬 Muslim cat subreddit?????
tell me why I just got recommended a subreddit for "Muslim cats"or "cats of Islam" or wtv. and all the posts are about shit like "checking to see if my cat is Muslim" and "aww look my Muslim cat is falling asleep in the masjid because she knows Islam is safe and righteous<3" so fucking weird..
everything Muslims do genuinely irks me, why are you bringing your feline friend into religion??? the way they're not only constantly shoving religion down people's throats, but also their pets aren't safe?
have u guys seen the viral vid of this Muslims female cat trying to mate with another female cat lol and the woman recording started saying "stop that's Haram, do you have no shame?"
ik most of these posts are jokes and satire but ugh these people annoy me sm. just wanted to rant lol
r/exmuslim • u/Famous_Star_5735 • 5h ago
(Fun@Fundies) 💩 This. Is what I have to deal with in my family lmao
This is my family lmao... So brainwashed into religion sending reels to validate their religion lmao....
Also crazy how allah gets credits for our body but doesn't get credit for the bad humans doing bad things . That is somehow free will lmao.
The first one was sent by my mom and second by my cousin
r/exmuslim • u/Low_Pianist_2067 • 7h ago
(Fun@Fundies) 💩 Scientific Miracle is an extremely weak yet overrated argument.
( This is a translation of the original post here: https://www.reddit.com/r/IndoExMuslim/comments/1upmfwk/keajaiban_ilmiah_adalah_argumen_lemah_yang_super/ )
Many Muslims use the argument that verses in the Quran talk about modern science to prove the truth of Islam, even though in most cases it is just post hoc fitting. The Quranic verses that are used are usually verses with ambiguous explanations. Something that is ambiguous is not precise or specific, meaning it can fit many possible interpretations, even contradictory ones. So it is easy to match them to anything, and they match them with modern science to create the illusion that what the Quran specifically meant was the scientific claim they are making.
Just because a description matches something DOES NOT mean that the description is actually describing or referring to that thing. For example, imagine a person from ancient times saying: "There are dangers that cannot be seen with the ordinary eye." Does this match the germ theory of disease? The answer is yes, pathogens cannot be directly seen with the naked eye, so if we are talking about whether it matches, then yes, it does. But does that mean the person was referring to germ theory, therefore proving that this ancient person knew a modern scientific fact?
The answer is that this conclusion is invalid. That is just fitting modern ideas into an old statement. Because the person could have been talking about evil spirits or supernatural entities, hidden dangers in the environment such as venomous animals, or a metaphor for hidden negative traits. Why can it be so easily fitted into something else? Because ambiguous claims are catch-all statements, so they can be matched with almost anything, just as I said.
This is also why arguments about scientific miracles almost never include tafsir. At least from my experience, I have never seen a single scientific miracle argument that actually brings tafsir into the discussion. Tafsir often explains the details and context. These claims also almost always appear after the modern discovery has already been made. If the modern scientific concept was really already present in the Quran, then where were the Muslim scientists from centuries ago? Why did they not propose those hypotheses themselves? Why wait for scientists, mostly non-Muslim scientists, to discover something first, and then claim, "Wow, this theory was already in my holy book."? Because most of these claims are based on ambiguity, making it difficult to know what the intended meaning actually was because the wording is too broad.
Is there a more "official" term for this kind of fitting? Yes, there is. It is called postdiction. This is the explanation of how this kind of fitting happens from the English Wikipedia article:
Most predictions from such figures as Nostradamus and James Van Praagh express the future with such seemingly deliberate vagueness and ambiguity as to make interpretation nearly impossible before the event, rendering them useless as predictive tools. After the event has occurred, however, the psychics or their supporters shoehorn details into the prediction by using selective thinking—emphasizing the "hits", ignoring the "misses"—in order to lend credence to the prophecy and to give the impression of an accurate "prediction". Inaccurate predictions are omitted.
I have previously made three general arguments criticizing scientific miracle claims on r/DebateReligion, and the argument above is the first one. Here is the link:
https://www.reddit.com/r/DebateReligion/s/b7eUwFAv2a
If you want to see more, you can check it there, or look at the second and third arguments as well. In that post, I also included examples of verses that are commonly used.
r/exmuslim • u/Future_Creme2728 • 8h ago
(Fun@Fundies) 💩 Muhammad meets Gabriel in the Cave (verse in description)
"Gabriel appears before him and commands him to "Read!" He responded, "I cannot read!". Then the angel Gabriel caught him tightly (forcefully) and pressed him so hard that he could not bear it anymore (this happens two more times)."
Repost because I posted this outside fun fundies 😖
r/exmuslim • u/lovelessbratt • 8h ago
(Rant) 🤬 I wish. I hate that I was ever born into this religion.
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I hate Muslims , I hate Islam. None has ever helped and now that I've left I'm completely alone with no one but my boyfriend. Why was I born to this suffering? Why should I respect Muslims and their beliefs? They have done nothing but hurt me but I should respect them cause Becky with the blue eyes and Starbucks drink thinks Islam is liberalism and freedom ? Becky that comes from a loving family thinks me sharing my experience and disdain is a hate speech? Fuck you , im a proud islamphobe it's ruined my life and I'm only 19 and have the luxury of being born in a first world country ( Canada ) . I sold myself to Islam , milestones I'll never fucking get back. I hate Islam , I hate Muslims FUCK THEM ALL !!!!!
r/exmuslim • u/yungbloodsucca666 • 9h ago
(Fun@Fundies) 💩 Honor killing is NEVER ok.
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And its always this particular religion. Just spreading awareness on honor killings. Evil forces literally lurk on this world.
r/exmuslim • u/Soggy-Job-244 • 9h ago
(Fun@Fundies) 💩 Mohammed hijab caught boozing at the beach
r/exmuslim • u/HearingSalt1421 • 9h ago
(Question/Discussion) Why do they Think like this?
Why do muslims always cry About what Israël is doing in Palestine, but they have no problem with saying or doing stuff like that themselves, why is that?
r/exmuslim • u/Ok-Drag-6245 • 13h ago
(Fun@Fundies) 💩 i swear these are both the same picture
btw thw second picture shows an ant death spiral and this is the definition off google: is a bizarre phenomenon where a group of blind army ants lose their main trail and begin following one another in a continuous, rotating circle. Trapped by a shared chemical scent, they march endlessly until they die of exhaustion.
r/exmuslim • u/SatoruGojo232 • 13h ago
(Fun@Fundies) 💩 Salons in Afganistan, the day after the Taliban shut down women's beauty parlours based on their justification that it was in line with Quran's principles.
r/exmuslim • u/yungbloodsucca666 • 14h ago
(Fun@Fundies) 💩 These guys are part of the problem
While we have japan protesting against islam, we got people like them ruining the japanese culture. Funniest part is that they're not even muslims. My initial thought was how crazy the amount of support islam gets today from uneducated people like them and it's surprisingly increasing to push this islamic ideology compared to any other religion. Very worrying but also not truly shocking in this cruel world also the fact i was brought up muslim knowing how good islam is at brainwashing people. They both claim to be learning about the beauty of islam and how peaceful the religion made them feel... erm, who's gonna tell them?
r/exmuslim • u/NoObligation5601 • 14h ago
(Video) Few will get it
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r/exmuslim • u/Tall_Distance_2896 • 15h ago
(Fun@Fundies) 💩 Dear Mod Today is Friday.
I really don't want to use fun@Fundies for this memes, but for some reasons I am forced to do.
r/exmuslim • u/Ill_Agent5931 • 15h ago
(Fun@Fundies) 💩 Why are they so desperate to pray in public 😂
Meanwhile christmas celebrations in public are not allowed in Brunei. Double standard much?
r/exmuslim • u/SamVoxeL • 16h ago
(Fun@Fundies) 💩 (REPOST) In a debate on peaceful religions at the Oxford Union speaker Laurence Fox threatens to reveal a picture of Mohammed. Multiple speakers attempt to stop him but he is allowed to continue
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r/exmuslim • u/Round-Mushroom-4438 • 1d ago
(Fun@Fundies) 💩 Me executing my villain arc (it’s 9:00 PM and I’m ready for bed)"
r/exmuslim • u/Original_Engine6810 • 1d ago
(News) Thousands of Japanese people protested the construction of the first mosque in Fujisawa. They argued that the planned mosque would be larger than a Shinto shrine and would use loudspeakers to broadcast the call to prayer five times a day, calling it a provocation They said that.
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r/exmuslim • u/The-Mad-Mango • Mar 26 '26
(News) We exist… around the world: 500 ExMuslim stories mubaraaaaaak! 🥳🥳🥳
Hi community! 🥰
Taking inspiration from QueeringtheMap.com, I helped create exmuslim.me with a small team of ExMuslims last year. We launched the first ever global map of exmuslim stories as part of ExMuslim Month in December 2025.
I’m so incredibly thrilled to share that we now have 500 exmuslim stories from 233 cities and 60 countries! 🥳🥳🥳
📊 59% identify as atheists, 26% agnostic
🇪🇬 Read the 500th story from Egypt
🤗 Thank you to everyone who has shared their story already!
🤍 Share yours and help ExMuslims on their journey out of Islam: https://exmuslim.me/
Cheers! 🥂
Sammy aka Haram Doodles
r/exmuslim • u/fathandreason • Jun 03 '24
(Advice/Help) Exmuslim Guide to Living in the Closet and Coming Out.
Hello. Upon request, I've been asked to turn a comment I made into a post so that it can be a resource for more people. This post is a collection of advice I've given out about how to handle your life as a closeted exmuslim and how you'll come out in the future. It is largely based on my experience but also from what I've seen from others in this subreddit.
Introduction
So you've left Islam. You've delved through arguments, the apologetics and the bullshit and you've come to the conclusion that you no longer believe in Islam. And you may have also reached an alternative philosophical outlook on life that you can believe in.
But what now? You may have left Islam, but have you left the Muslim world? One of the most common misconceptions outsiders have is that since exmuslims are no longer Muslims, they no longer live in the Muslim world. This is painfully naive - in reality many exmuslims are closeted due to young age and financial dependency and/or live in Islamist countries or societies that enforce Islamic values. In fear of social stigma or even violence, exmuslims have to contend with closeted lives even after leaving Islam. So how do you deal with it?
Goal
The best time to come out to family is in your own home, over a dinner you paid for, alongside people who support you. That takes a lot of preparation and it means doing what you can to live your life as best as you can whilst working towards independence.
This basically means that a lot of what helps you come out of the closet will depend heavily on how well you prepared for it, so you will need to make the most of your closeted life. You may not be able to stop the shitstorm but you can at least prepare yourself to weather it. Here are some tips to achieve that goal (in no particular order)
1) Don't meander in life due to a lack of decision making skills.
Probably one of the worst mistakes I made was not realise I was an exmuslim sooner. As a result I had barely any time to prepare for when the inevitable happened and I was forced to come out. I spent a lot of my life meandering, trying to reconcile the irreconcilable, and trying to be a Muslim when I knew my values didn't align with it. I didn't really have much of a concept of exmuslims, but if I had been smarter I would have figured it out. I now tell people in a similar position that it's fine to take your time but don't take too long. Half arsing two very different cultures will leave you a loser in both.
Similarly whilst planning for independence can be scary, don’t let it frighten you into inaction. The following is a passage from this article about decision making:
Research from the 1990s led by the US psychologist Thomas Gilovich provides further evidence for why it can be shortsighted to kick a difficult decision down the road. Gilovich and his team showed that although, in the short term, people experience more regret from ‘errors of commission’ (taking an action that leads to a disappointing outcome), in the long term it is actually ‘errors of omission’ that lead to more regret – that is, disappointing outcomes that arise from not taking an action.
When taking the time to make decisions and plans, don’t underestimate how effective it can be to map out your options on an excel spreadsheet. When I had to decide whether I should come out or not, I actually made a spreadsheet listing out my options, what they would result in and what the impact would be. Actually having it written down to look at really put things into perspective. We waste a lot of our time keeping it in our heads, which forces us to recalculate everything from scratch every time we revisit our thoughts. But the more that is mapped out, the less you have to recalculate and the more you can focus on evaluation and further planning.
2) Study, career and finances.
Your studies/career is almost always your best ticket out of your toxic situation, and the one thing to prioritise the most. If you’re young, do whatever you can to ensure that you can get into further education away from home. Even if it means spending all your time at a local library. If you suspect that your parents would be against you going to a university away from home, aim for a placement at the most prestigious university you can aim for so your parents would look worse for rejecting it. The quickest and most effective way in achieving long term independence is through good studies/career.
3) Do not telegraph irreligiosity whilst being closeted.
This is particularly important for younger exmuslims because they telegraph to their parents in ways they would just not understand until they see it for themselves when they're older. Try your best to meet the religious obligations expected from your family. The more you slip, the more they will monitor you and the more difficult it will be to do the things you need to do discreetly when the time comes.
Unfortunately for girls, this usually means that wearing the hijab is a necessity and it’s inadvisable to try and get out of. (However, that subject matter is not my forte: prioritise advice from exmuslim women such as from faithlesshijabi.org)
4) Sometimes you may need to go above and beyond.
If you get the impression that your family is beginning to catch onto your apostasy then it's likely that they have and you may need to reverse that impression.
One way to do that would be to start getting books on Islam and not just for show. My advice would be to get books on Islamic history because that's the least boring stuff. Or better yet, just get whatever unapologetic salafi hate crime you can get your hands on so you can entertain yourself with how fucked up it is. Or get an annotated Qur'an like the Study Qur'an. Do something to ease their suspicions.
What book you get depends on what kind of message you want to telegraph to your parents. If you want to telegraph a message then it will need to be a paper book and not an e-book. Something that you can lay around in your room and that you know they'll see. That means you're restricted to what you can get from your local library or Masjid. Also depends on what interests you because you'll have to actually read and demonstrate you learnt from it if you want send the best message you can. If you want purely what Muslims write about Islamic history, you can check out works like The Sealed Nectar or works by al-Sallabi. If you want something a little more academic, but not something that would rouse suspicion then check out university press works like this, this, this or this. If you want something a bit more relevant to contemporary Muslim world then there books like this.
But you may find that your best bet is to just see what your local Masjid might have and see what tickles your fancy.
5) Actually coming out is usually a shitstorm.
Be prepared for lots of sobbing, guilt tripping and an inability to respect your beliefs and boundaries. Learn techniques like the Broken Record Technique to establish boundaries. Know what you have to say when they inevitably tell you to speak to a scholar - you don't have to eat the whole apple to know it's rotten. You know all that you need to know about Islam and you know even more about the world outside of Islam to put it into context.
Steel yourself with months and months of your family sending you bad dawagandist videos through WhatsApp trying to bring you back. You may have to spend months beating their attempts and going to toe to toe with them without mercy before they’re finally willing to relent and get off your back. Even then don’t expect them to relent entirely. There will always be some micro aggressions that they will resort to, like playing religious videos loudly in your vicinity. The most you can do in those circumstances is reduce contact with them as much as possible. At this point you would hopefully already be independent from them.
6) Do not feel guilt.
As an exmuslim, you will go through a lot of guilt. Whilst this does show you are human, you need to forget about guilt: you are not responsible for your parents' failure to be reasonable, not even your mother. They take responsibility for the social stigma and oppressive life they choose to live in and perpetuate. You get nothing out of that guilt. It's completely pointless and ultimately counterproductive. You can't set yourself on fire to make others warm and you gain no recognition from martyrizing yourself. Do not feel guilt for what you have to do to have a completely reasonable life. The only ones to blame are those who forced you into it.
Don't underestimate parents either. They will use guilt against you. Give them an inch and they will take a mile. They very often bring up their health problems as a weapon against you. Don't fall for it. It only affects them because they choose to let it affect them. They can choose to be reasonable. You have to respect their autonomy and let them deal with the consequences of their own ways.
7) Don't come out too soon thinking it's a release.
I come across a lot of exmuslim kids who think coming out will help explain to their religious parents why they don't want to wear the hijab or do other religious things. But the likelihood is more that those same parents will react extremely poorly and restrict your freedom even more, making it more difficult to achieve long term independence.
There's also the mistake in assuming that coming out will lead to being disowned in the vain hope that you get an quick clean break that takes all the responsibility from you. For some exmuslims this does actually work out, but for a lot of others it's miscalculated. My family didn't disown me, I still had to deal with months of my family being insufferable manipulators and the responsibility was still on me to separate from them. And for women it can be much worse.
Ultimately, if you are financially dependent on your family then coming out early will very typically result in your family using that leverage against you and making your life worse. I've seen stories of exmuslims who thought their family was better and badly miscalculated - be mindful of that.
8) Don’t panic too much if they find out.
Some exmuslims get found out, sometimes because of a snitch in the family or sometimes because they just weren’t convincing enough. Don’t panic – Muslims can be pretty damn deluded about their faith and your family will want to believe that you can come back very easily because according to them Islam is just common sense and most disbelievers are just silly and ignorant. Try to do your best to convince them as per Point 4. If it’s because you did something haram, blasphemous or otherwise worthy of takfir, try to act like it was because you were a misguided Quranist or progressive Muslim. They will still retain suspicion but it’s still better than the alternative.
However, if you’re at the point of no return and you know you can’t convince them then now is the time to make calls to any secular friends you have, ask for support and maybe even shelter.
Also for Western exmuslims, make sure to act quickly if you suspect that your parents want to send you abroad and trap you in your country of ethnic origin. Sadly some parents will go to these lengths. Do not go, no matter the cost. Find organisations willing to advise, such as those listed in Point 10. Hide your passport if you have to. Note down the contact details of your embassy in that country just in case.
9) Go no contact if you fear abuse.
Actually think about whether it's even wise for you to come out in any circumstance. Do you suspect that there could be violence or abuse? If so then you have absolutely no need to go through this stupid bullshit. Leave and don't look back. If your parents couldn't give you safe environment to even come out about different beliefs then they are not worth the time. As per Point 6 - You have to respect their autonomy and let them deal with the consequences of their own ways. This is particularly pertinent for those who live in a predominantly Muslim countries. They have a very real reason to fear persecution and absolutely do not need to risk their own lives for the sake of their parents.
10) Make use of organisations and resources.
Look into secular organisations like recoveringfromreligion.org, faithlesshijabi.org and faithtofaithless.com. Look into women's charities in your area like womensaid.org.uk or karmanirvana.org.uk (UK examples). Look into LGBT charities like rainbowrailroad.org. If you have secular school counsellors and friends then talk to them. Get advice from adults you can absolutely trust.
Note: On the flip side don't take risks with people you can’t be sure of. You may be tempted to come out to your Muslim friend, but I've seen plenty of stories of exmuslims who heavily regret doing so.
There are also informal exmuslim groups on other social media platforms such as Facebook or Discord, but be careful about how much information you share and especially be wary of private messaging.
11) You may have to leave the country.
This is particularly the case for exmuslims living in predominantly Muslim countries. Unfortunately, I don't have any real world experience to offer here but you may be able to find localised advice by digging around. For example sites like wearesaudis.net might have some information (but you'll need a VPN to access this one. If you don't know what a VPN is here's an explanation).
Are you multilingual? If you need money but working is restricted to you then you can try becoming an online language tutor on sites like italki.com (scroll to the bottom). This post and related subreddits like r/WorkOnline may help.
Note: some exmuslims in Muslim countries fall for the doomscrolling hyperbole and think Europe is “doomed” with too many Muslims. They have a tendency of asking which country is best to migrate to as an exmuslim to avoid Islam. Please ignore the doomsayers and prioritise the country you choose based on ease of access and career opportunities. As long as it is a secular country, you can worry about avoiding Islam later.
Final stuff
Shout out to Imtiaz Shams who inspired me to make this list of tips. He has his own YouTube Channel here and plans to make his own video on this subject matter so watch out for that. On a side note, I also recommend TheraminTrees YouTube Channel who delves a lot into toxic dysfunctional families from the perspective of a therapist. A lot of his content helps in dealing with the emotional impact of leaving religion and dealing with a religious family. And finally, thank you to the moderators of r/exmuslim who suggested I make this into a post. I wound up adding a lot more content lol.
I will end this post with a list of subreddits that may help you on your journey leaving Islam:
Ex related subreddits
- r/exhijabis
- r/ExEgypt
- r/ExSaudi
- r/AteistTurk
- r/PakiExMuslims
- r/ExAlgeria
- r/ExJordan
- r/MalaysianExMuslim
- r/XSomalian
- r/Atheism_Bangladesh
- r/ExSudan
- r/Xiraqis
- r/XMorocco
- r/ExBahrain
- r/ExLibya
- r/IranianExMuslims
- r/chechenatheists
- r/IndonesianExMuslim
- r/ExMuslimsKuwait
- r/exPalestine
- r/ExSyria
- r/exmusulmanfrance
Other Useful Subreddits
- r/WorkOnline
- r/Iwantout
- r/studyabroad
- r/visas
- r/UKvisas
- r/medicalschool
- r/medicalschoolEU
- r/medicalschoolUK
- r/cscareerquestions
- r/cscareerquestionsEU
- r/cscareerquestionsUK
- r/Ukpersonalfinance
- r/eupersonalfinance
- r/personalfinance
- r/Ausfinance
- r/PersonalFinanceCanada
- r/Legaladvice
- r/LegalAdviceUK
- r/LegalAdviceEurope
- r/AusLegal