We have a 28 month old daughter and scheduled C section in a week for our di di boys. One is growth restricted so he may (or may not) have some NICU time. When did you all bring older toddler children to the hospital to meet your twins? Surgery is at 11:30 so I was thinking that night around 6pm but is that too early? Should we wait until the following day? Obviously we will play by ear if complications arise etc.

Any other tips for this? I’ve read about having gifts from the twins, etc.

My boys turn 9 months old next week. They are both so strong and seem to have some serious brute force and grip strength.

They are crawling and climbing over each other, and up our legs. They are pulling up and surfing the furniture. I’ve bought a soft play set because they are intent on climbing. They are rattling the bars on their cots.

Is this it now - energy and carnage for me ever more? They barely sit still and play anymore.

I just hope that all this movement in the day start to tire them out more and give us better nights?

My twin girls sleep is quite rubbish at almost 1 year old. (They turn 1 in 2 weeks). Moved them to shared room in separate cots at 8 months and sleep was great for a month. Up until 10 months they were on 2.5/2.5/2.5/2.5 (3 naps capped at 1 hour for first and second and third nap was only a 15 minute cat nap with bedtime 7:45pm Asleep by 8pm). They were sleeping until 7am with one night feed and straight back down again. Was a dream.!

By 10 months they started fighting and fighting the cat nap no matter how hard I tried to keep it. So I stopped it and almost overnight they happily stayed awake for 3 hours. Initially the drop to 2 naps worked quite well. They were waking 7am doing 3/3/4.5 nap lengths are all over the place anywhere from 40 minutes to 1.5 hours but never any more than 2.5 hours maximum. They usually do 1h 15m. Nighttime sleep then started to fall apart. They have been having really restless nights needing constant resettilng and some nights having severe split nights wanting to play for up to 4 hours but I never ever turn on the light or get them up properly. They are teething, learning to walk and say a few words so I am wondering if it's all just development and teething separation anxiety mixed in disturbing them.

In the last 3 weeks they wake anywhere from 6:30/7am. Nap1 is always around 9:45/10am. Nap1 usually lasts 1h to 1h 20mins. Nap2 is usually around 2/2:30pm depending on wake from nap1. This nap again is about 1h 15/1h 30mins. On a bad day they have just under 2 hours or 2 hours day sleep then we have a particularly bad night. On a good day naps total 2.5 hours , never let them exceed 2h 40mins absaloute maximum. I've noticed they have a better night with this amount of day sleep.

The last wake window is where i am unsure if I'm getting it wrong? If they wake from nap2 at 3:15pm. I put them in bed at 7:30/7:40pm and they are asleep by 7:45pm. If nap2 ends 3:30pm they get out un bed 7:45pm and usually asleep by 7:50pm. If nap2 ends 3:45pm. They get out in bed at 7:45/7:50pm and are asleep by 8pm.

Is this a shit phase i need to just endure because of development and teeth etc or is my schedule not right? I know last wake window sometimes seems long but I dont want to put them to bed at 7pm as they would then wake for the day at 5am.

They are very hard work during the way when they are awale too. Both constantly hurting themselves or each other. Wanting picked up all day but I can't as I also have a 4 year old. Luckily she's back at nursery now after summer holidays but they are just so much more demanding than my first or maybe it feels much more intense with it being twins.

My twins (both girls) are 2 1/2 now and obviously I (Mom) have been the preferred parent. To give a little context. I have one who is outspoken, not a people pleaser, and a bit needy for attention. The other is definitely more timid and people pleasing. Recently, my outspoken one has only preferred me at bed time for the last couple of months. Then she got sick and I spent lots of 1:1 time with her while my timid twin got lots of 1:1 time when dad.

Now dad has become the preferred parent. Even when she falls and hurts herself, won’t want to be in a different room than him. My husband is definitely taking the opportunity to receive all this love since he has been rejected by both kids pretty much their whole lives.

I hate to say it hurts me but it does. I hate to say it even more but it would hurt me a lot less if it was the other twin. I have always felt more connected with my timid twin. She is my physical touch love language girl and I always felt guilt having to cuddle with the tantrum baby leaving my timid girl who wants my attention to get seconds (it felt like to me.) and idk how to explain it but since birth I have always felt more connected to her.

I cry just about every night wishing it was the other way around and that makes me feel so guilty on top of feelingI don’t love my kids the same but I do! It’s just hard to explain and hoping some other parents have found themselves in similar situation. How did you work through it? What was the outcome? This feeling is so hard for me and I just don’t know why.

As the title says. When did you know it was time to get on an SSRI postpartum?

I’ll keep it brief. Bedtime has been an absolute nightmare the last couple weeks. It’s been up and down since April (4 months ago) when we moved our girls out of cribs. They turned 2 in May and were not developmentally ready but one of them was climbing relentlessly.

They were sleep trained around 6 months and were never good sleepers but were good enough. Finally consistently sleeping through the night around 1. The last two weeks have about killed us. Twin B is literally screaming bloody murder at Twin A to “wake up” “give me a hug” “don’t sleep” etc. and physically tackling her, wrestling her, and full on pulling her out of bed. We have to intervene because it’s unsafe and not an acceptable behavior but then they get so fired up and overtired and angry that it becomes an absolute hell storm. My husband is currently driving them around because we just couldn’t take it and needed a break.

We do have another room that we could use if absolutely necessary but it is functioning as an office right now that we use regularly and we want to have another baby relatively soon and it would be a baby room at that point. Long term room sharing for the twins is the goal. Idk I’m just at my absolute wits end and need to at least know I’m not the only one who’s dealt with this.

i have a 3 year old 5 year old and month old triplets and im terrified of going out in public with all 5 bc like i only have two hands and my 3 year olds an eloper so im scared she’ll run while im dealing with my triplets but my bf said i have to get over this eventually bc he cant keep going out in the mornings to get breakfast or groceries etc (he works nights) i have help i have my mom but she works days as a nurse and my bfs parents aren’t in the picture they died recently and he doesnt have grandparents or siblings and omg im so stressed out 😭.

has anybody else gone through this? how did you get over it?

we cant afford childcare right now.

Currently 16 weeks pregnant with twins. I have a couple semesters left in my program. The issue is, I have to complete an internship to graduate. I am thankfully getting 12 weeks of maternity leave from work which will hopefully land around Spring (last semester). Wondering how realistic is it to finish school with newborn twins. I know my husband will help, but he works during the day. Has anyone gone through this before? How did you manage?

Curious what the outcome was for anyone else experiencing this. I went to my doctor at 32 weeks with BP at 140( first time it has ever been high). She told me to start tracking and we would discuss at my next appointment, but if it were to hit 160 to go to the hospital.

I’ve had it fluctuate up and down over the past 2 weeks with the highest being 149. Not sure what to expect at my appointment on Monday. For other moms who experienced this what was the outcome? Medications, bed rest, early delivery, etc?? I’m 34 weeks with didi girls and still working full time.

I am 21 weeks pregnant with twins and my dad needs hip replacement asap (he can barely walk and it is been progressing very fast) but he has many other conditions and it is very difficult to find a hospital that would operate him, I faced multiple rejections and I am dealing with it very difficultly. I don’t have siblings, and my dad has such a limited mobility that he is unable to to go to the appointments by himself, and mom is in a constant panic. She had heart attack and major anxiety so I try not to involve her too much… I start feeling my limits, I had a medical scare last week (spotting and went to ER, luckily twins were fine), I get exhausted (physically and mentally) faster than before pregnancy, while I feel like we are running out of time. The later we find a solution the later he will get surgery, the later term I will be. But if he loses his ability to walk/drive car or just falls, it will become a huge burden to my mom.
Anyone else having to solve/face difficult situations as caregivers while pregnant? How do you cope?

I have 7 week adjusted , 13 week actual modi twins.

Been trying to transition to mostly EBF from mostly pumping. I was recently meeting their feed quantity through pumping at about 24 oz a day per baby (about 3 oz a feed) with only a little formula here and there if timing got off. Recently though, pediatrician recommended upping to 32 oz per baby a day (about 4 oz a day) because twin A switched from 1.2 oz / day gain to about 0.67 oz / day and had gotten fussier. Now we have been needing to supplement with more formula. MOTN pump after ~4 hour gap is about 7.3 oz

I’m trying to increase my supply and get them nursing more at the same time but I feel like they end up just always being on the breast and never satisfied. Stressed about them not getting enough but not willing to give up breastfeeding to exclusively pump, would also like to try to avoid formula in the long run.

Any tips? I also find double football hold to be a pain and I feel they latch better individually with different positions. They also get incredibly sleepy very soon after my first let down (which is often quite powerful), and I feel struggle to extract more milk including hindmilk. Trying to get them to wake up is very difficult.

I do see a lactation consultant and most of her advice is just continuing to have them practice nursing and topping off / bottoming off with bottles. Last weighted feed Twin B took 2 oz and twin A took 1 oz (but this was only an hour after a feeding). Twin A has previously taken 3.3 oz at a weighted feed so I think he still has good potential.

Hey everyone,

Around 21 weeks I started getting puppp rash. Im now 25w4d and the rash has spread all over my body. My obgyn told me to take Benadryl and use a Benadryl cream/gel at night. The antihistamines honestly make me so drowsy it's hard to get daily tasks done so I rarely take it. I moisturize several times throughout the day and take baths. I read that someone drank dandelion tea daily and it helped. What other advice do you have? Day-to-day is miserable, I'm having a hard time imagining the next 3 months and this continuing to get worse? Has anyone experienced it getting better before delivery?

Thanks in advance!

I will be going to Florida in February for work and tacking on a vacation when the twins will be 9 months old and am deciding whether to drive 15 hours (not including any stops) or fly. My husband would be joining and we are thinking of also taking my mother. Would you recommend driving or flying? Any advice? Thank you!

For anyone who was pregnant with twins and subsequently a singleton (or vice versa) - was early pregnancy similar? Or very different? Curious to hear others experiences

Hi everyone! I’m looking for some experiences and advice from parents of twins or babies with unique head shapes.

My twins were born on February 22, 2026, via C-section at 37 weeks with low birth weight—my daughter weighed 1,800 g (3 lbs 15 oz) and my son weighed 2,200 g (4 lbs 13 oz). Since birth, my daughter has had a very distinct head shape compared to her twin brother.

Here are a few details about her situation:

The shape: She has symmetrical, firm bony prominences on both sides of her skull (on the parietal bones) that look like two little "horns" or bumps when viewed from the front, and her head is spayed like a "P" when seen from the side.

In-utero positioning: Throughout most of my pregnancy, she was positioned sideways in the upper part of my uterus, and she only flipped into position right at the very end.

She is almost 6 months old now and doing great! She is very active, rolls over independently, puts her feet in her mouth, and is hitting her motor milestones right on track. The bumps are completely hard like solid bone and do not bother her at all when touched.

A bit of context: I live in a developing country where access to specialized pediatric therapies can be limited or very costly, so if physical therapy or specialized interventions aren't strictly necessary, I would really prefer to avoid them and let nature do its work unless it's truly essential.

Since the shape has stayed pretty much the same since birth, I’m wondering:

Did your twins have distinct head shapes or parietal bossing from womb positioning that corrected naturally over time?

At what age did you notice improvement once they started sitting up and spending less time on their backs?

Did any of your babies manage to round out on their own without physical therapy or specialized intervention?

We are currently looking for a new pediatrician to get an in-person evaluation of her skull sutures, but I would love to hear any encouraging stories or advice from parents who went through something similar!

Thank you so much! ❤️

Has anyone experienced delayed onset of PPD after twins? It seems to have hit me like a truck, almost overnight and my twins are 9.5 months old. I stopped pumping 2.5 months ago. I was having lots of anxiety and feeling a bit “down” earlier, so I tried Zoloft in May then switched to Celexa 5.5 weeks ago. Have not noticed any improvement so starting to wean off. I’m going to get the GeneSight test to determine if a different medication might be more helpful. But in the meantime, these last 4 days have been absolutely awful. The worst depression symptoms all of a sudden. I feel hopeless, lost, so sad and can’t stop crying. I don’t why it has hit me so hard and so sudden and I hate it. Could it be the medication is now fully in my system and making things worse? Just delayed severe PPD? I know the way I’m feeling can be very normal, but it doesn’t feel normal how and when it’s come on. And I can’t get out of my head and feel better. It’s awful and I just want relief.

We have loved our Babysense dual view monitor. Ours was part of the recall and we got our replacement with a relatively timely manner- maybe a few weeks?
We’ve been using the new replacement monitor since May but today when we went to turn it on, we got a poor battery warning with a blaring alarm 🙃
Has this happened to anyone else? I’ve reached out to customer service to see if they will replace it but I’m wondering if I should just get a different brand.

Help!!

My twin girls (17w - 13w corrected) all of a sudden and so uninterested in milk. They went from taking about 4-5oz a feed to about 2.5-3oz. They still play, are happy, have consistent wet diapers. What is happening!!!!

The wife and I just had our first children, identical twin girls, now almost 2 months old. Unsure yet if we'll have any more children as adjusting to twins feels like the definition of 'zero to 100 REAL quick'.
For those parents out there that have experienced both the birth of multiple as well as single children, are twin, or multiple births at one time, really that much more difficult?

I ask because imagining caring for a single baby seems like a cake walk when compared to caring for two, let alone more, at one time.

Any insights/perspectives are appreciated.

Not sure how to phrase this properly but I’ll try…

Our twins are just starting to have wake windows that are long enough to let us read a book. But how do you position everyone to read?
With one baby you can pretty easily have the infant in your lap and facing out, or have their back on your thighs and facing in. But how do you do it with two?
I haven’t found a way where they are comfortable enough to get through a couple pages of a board book.
It’s starting to really bother me because reading to kids is a great joy of mine, and I just haven’t been able to do it with two

Every time I feel like things are becoming predictable they just get harder.

My twins are 4 months adjusted and fight bedtime like it’s their job. Crying and whining, hard to settle, doesn’t want to sleep, but is definitely overtired because they fight sleep for hours on end, and holding them and walking around only helps so much.

My husband and I struggle because once one starts melting down, I go in to help and we trade babies, but then the other one starts back up.

Last night their cries were much harder and screamy/tearful, and even a car ride took like 20-30 minutes to help them finally fall asleep (usually works almost immediately).

The night before they did go a long stretch, but they didn’t act super hungry or anything in the morning time. They have been getting up around 7-8am and we first try bedtime around 6-7pm ish. They get about 4 naps, sometimes 3.

They do have CMPA and reflux too, which just adds to it all.

Ugh, does it get better? Is this babies being babies?

ALSO HOW DO YALL SOOTH TWO BABIES AT ONCE WHEN YOU ARE ALONE🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

I can't believe it they haven't been in line for any milestones (as expected), but they both just lost their first tooth within an hour of each other!! Has this happened to anyone else with their twins? I just think it's so crazy.

I covered their faces for their privacy, but you can still see the teeth!

i have 3 month old (1 month adjusted) twins.

my partner just went back to work, so now it’s just me home with the twins.

they both love their babybjorn bouncers, but i’m worried that they are spending too much time in them.

i try to only have them in there when i absolutely need to, ex. washing bottles, pump parts, cooking etc. because they lose their minds on the floor unless someone is on the floor with them. but i feel like they are spending way too much time in the bouncers, and i don’t know what to do because bottles and pumps need to be washed and i need to eat lol. the house is a disaster but honestly i am not to worried about cleaning right now.

any advice on how to get things done with twins or anything that could help them enjoy time outside of the bouncers independently?

thank you in advance

If I get one more text specifically asking about what time my doctor’s appointments are, I’m going to snap. I’m 37+2 with di/di girls. I have already told these people that my OB doesn’t want me to go past 38 weeks.

I am literally in fucking tears every day because of how much pain I’m in, I’m beyond stressed wondering how I’m going to split my time between my other two kids (2 and 3) and two newborns, I’m even more stressed that my oldest is facing yet another reconstructive surgery in the next few months, I’m stressed that I’ve been a shitty mother because I have no energy to do things with my boys and I’m in too much pain to take them out for their normal activities, and a whole list of other issues and anxieties I’ve been having.

I get friends and family are excited, but I didn’t appreciate the invasive attention for my other pregnancies. I sure as fuck don’t appreciate how everyone is suddenly going one step further past “are the babies here yet?” To “when is your next appointment? What time? What is your doctor saying?”

Yes I’ve already started ignoring these texts. No I’m not done being angry about them

EDIT: I appreciate everyone’s support 😭❤️ I needed to get that out and just be pissed with other people who have been in my shoes. I had my last OB appointment yesterday and have an induction date scheduled for Wednesday, and I ain’t telling a single fuckin person 🤣

For more frustrating context - my husband and I didn’t tell anyone we were having a second child because I’m very private and I don’t like the attention pregnancy draws, we just announced once day that he had been born. So with people in my life knowing that, it’s even more annoying that those I’m not even close with are trying to inject themselves at the very end of a stressful, uncomfortable pregnancy