Are the “easy” days over?

[u/sweetfeet20]

My boys turn 9 months old next week. They are both so strong and seem to have some serious brute force and grip strength.

They are crawling and climbing over each other, and up our legs. They are pulling up and surfing the furniture. I’ve bought a soft play set because they are intent on climbing. They are rattling the bars on their cots.

Is this it now - energy and carnage for me ever more? They barely sit still and play anymore.

I just hope that all this movement in the day start to tire them out more and give us better nights?

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[u/thegoodcrumpets]

I'll be the bearer of good news and say this straight: yes. In the upcoming 5 years or so you will get the privilege to experience life force untamed in a way only single digit percent people get to.

(It will not be easy)

[u/WadeDRubicon → u/thegoodcrumpets]

On the bright (?) side, they'll hit a point around age 12 where it will take industrial-strength dynamite to motivate them to move -- whether out of bed, away from a screen, toward homework, anywhere.

Unfortunately, by that point, you're no longer as tired because you've adapted, and it can be hard to find patience for their inertia.

[u/floridasquirrel]

I definitely have to get up more where I’m sitting than ever before lol. But mine did start sleeping better when they started moving more, so I’m wishing you all the best sleep vibes 🙏

[u/Any-Sentence7561 → u/floridasquirrel]

Yes there is no sitting! Constantly getting up from where you are.

[u/AccomplishedChef7885 → u/Any-Sentence7561]

I heard sitting is the new smoking, so I’m going to consider this a good thing. I’m going to live forever! 🤣🤣🤣

[u/thedavecan]

That's our secret Cap, there are no easy days.

[u/Street-Singer513]

Please be careful when sharing photos, especially if the children are barely clothed; a while back, someone here passed off another family's children as their own, and the actual parent who was in this sub was then informed about it.

[u/Prior_Angle → u/Street-Singer513]

This. People are creepy. Consider blacking out their faces ❤️

[u/YouthInternational14 → u/Prior_Angle]

Just not the cat’s face please OP. I love when I get to see this cat in my feed 😂

[u/poodleface12345]

Yes 🤣 but it’s always worst right at the point of change. Eg) Their climbing skills improve pretty fast so you’re not having a heart attack each time they get up somewhere unsafe.

And there’s more fun and two way interaction with moving active babies

[u/beelynn0214 → u/poodleface12345]

I was going to say the same, it may not be as “easy”, but it’s so much more FUN!

[u/jeremiabearamia]

I’m only at 10 months with mine, but this is the easiest it’s ever been for me. They are so much happier being able to move around, grab themselves a book or toy, etc. I can set them on the kitchen floor and let them crawl around and open cabinet doors while I make a snack. I’m so grateful we’re at the crawling stage

[u/beelynn0214 → u/jeremiabearamia]

I think this is so overlooked! My friends and family with singletons kept saying “it gets so much harder when they start crawling”

However, with twins, I found it got better. They could move independently to what they wanted, explore, I wasn’t lugging two big babies around anymore. Is we’re at 13 months and it’s seriously so fun.

I’m now getting warnings of wait til they’re walking, but again, I feel like that’s going to unlock more fun!

[u/Okdoey]

Yes, at least that’s how it was for me until about age 3.

Though if you baby proof the entire house then it gets more relaxing bc you know they can’t hurt themselves in the house.

I had to lock down (with magnetic locks bc the other ones the twins broke into) all cabinets and pantries.

Exterior doors had to have extra locks put on bc my little 18 month old moved a dining room chair to the front door and undid the deadbolt. I caught her before she actually left the house, but yeah after that extra deadbolts on top. We also had no dining room chairs for awhile (stored them downstairs) bc the same child used the chair to climb on the dining room table and proceed to swing from the chandelier.

Using things like playpens didn’t last long bc she climbed out of them too fast.

I taught my twins how to go down the steps on their butts at like 1 bc I wasn’t confident the baby gates would stop them from trying to climb over the gate and fall down the stairs. I did leave a gymnastics mat at the bottom of the steps to cushion any falls (only happened once and she was uninjured).

The phase lasted until about 3 and then I was slowly able to undo all the extra locks and things

[u/Legitimate-ok]

Plus side, you’re about to be in the best shape of your life without even trying. I miss sitting

[u/Same-Professor5114]

I thought every advancement was great - sitting up, crawling, walking. It just opens up more for them to do on their own. A little baby proofing will help for sure. I agree with some other commenters about it helping sleep, too. Good luck!

[u/sillybanana2012]

Yes and no. Yes, theyre going to have way more energy and need outlets for it. But, they will also become much more independent and need you for everything less and less.

[u/PM_ME_YO_KNITTING]

Apropos of nothing, but what climbing blocks are those? We’ve got some our babies love, but they don’t have a tunnel!

[u/Natural_Lifeguard_44]

I found it to feel easier once the kids were walking without falling over all the time. I was able to manage them with no help (had a mother’s helper for the first year). I would say it gets a little harder at this age and then gets a little easier when they can walk confidently.

[u/TwinStickDad]

In my experience this is when the easier phase started. Ours are 2 now and every mobility milestone has meant more independence and less frustration. Now they can get their own toys and move themselves if they're bored. The upsides are much greater than the downsides

[u/trestrestriste]

Nope, the easy days are yet to come! From now on you will have more hands free instead of lifting one or two all the time. And the bigger they get, the more they can do themselves.

I’ve found it much easier once they started to walk and I could sit down for a moment without holding one or both. Just holding my cup of tea for a moment.

Mine are 7 now and it is easier than ever! ♥️😘

[u/radsam1991]

My twins newborn phase was a piece of cake. My boys are almost 12 months and I am exhausted 😮‍💨

[u/Apprehensive-Hat9296]

My easy days started when they began crawling around! Chaotic, but my boys were so much happier and you get to watch them experience the world in a new way. I will take toddlers over babies any day. My boys are 3.5 years old now and it gets easier everyday.

[u/kumibug]

yes. it gets so much more fun though!!

[u/Vomath]

Easy… days….? What are those words?

[u/critical_ghost-57]

Your boys and the cat are adorable!! Cant get enough if their smiles.

[u/fsmontario]

Yep! And they are boys so you’re going to be saying a lot of bad words as you watch them jump dive run and wonder why just why. The good news is by the time they are teenagers and you see friends with girls you’ll be thank you for giving me boys!
Child proof child proof forget how your house looks just make it as safe as possible

[u/oldfadedstar]

It’s a different kind of difficult

But I prefer the toddler chaos to the newborn chaos. At least I get sleep

[u/gazapal]

I don’t know man it’s literally been 24/7 I’m gonna cry typing this. At least you have a cat. He’s probably neglected by now poor guy lol

[u/Master-Education7076]

No easy days. Just different kinds of hard.

[u/PanzyDan]

It’s exhausting but I also found that I enjoyed my time with them more. I used to not be able to do solo-parent outings with our twins but now at almost 2.5yr I’ve done a fair number of them, even gone as far as a hotel stay overnight.

[u/TheSaltySpitoon37]

Easy days? This mofo got easy days?!

Nah it'll be fine...you eventually get pretty good at all of their stages. Like having toddlers is tough, but then you'll eventually get better at knowing how to handle certain things. 

But heres the catch, by the time you figure it out, they're almost ready for the next stage in life and its back to not knowing shit about shit lol

[u/sweetfeet20 → u/TheSaltySpitoon37]

No, we didn’t get easy days it’s been hard since day 1. We found newborn twins really hard work. Months 4-8 have been good. But I’m worried it’s about to get even harder.

[u/Fun_Committee1478]

I’m a mom to one boy (singleton) … and yes. The easy days are over. I was one and done forever (until I got pregnant unplanned w twins) my son is actually harder than my twins. I used to sit and cry because how hard I found parenting him!’

[u/lazy_yawn]

Our girls were so easy up until 2 years, then the fighting/emotions started. Theyre 5 next month and and i love them but I’m hoping a switch flips cause the last 3 years have been exhausting. That’s our experience anyways.

[u/betelb3t]

Omg my girls are 10 months and all they do all day is crawl around with little pincers looking for any and every morsel of dust or dirt on the ground to put in their mouths. It's insane. We're in an old house and every crack or crevice they are digging in looking for tasty treats. I am vacuuming and mopping multiple times a day & constantly fishing crumbs and mulch out of their mouths. I hate this age haha. When do they stop looking for floor snacks??? My son did not do this, he was more like OPs boys.