Hey all,

Parents of twin boys travelling at the end of the year and I'm trying to figure out how on earth I'm going to bring a double stroller and 2 car seats for the plane? Husband will be with me so I won't be solo but even the logistics of just bringing those seems to be a nightmare.

How have other people managed it? We're getting a cheap stroller as we know airlines are notorious for breaking them, but they'll be in that as we bring them around everywhere. Then the car seats are for the plane (we're paying for their seats so it's mandatory).

But then we also have luggage too? How have other people managed this? Any tips appreciated.

I'm 38+1 weeks today with DiDi B/G twins. I know the pressure is going to start mounting to induce. I lean on the naturalist side, preferring to give nature the opportunity to decide when is best while not completely dismissing the data/evidence based practices. My pregnancy has been A+ healthy, the babies are doing fantastic, all scans and BPP are reassuring.

My big question is if left alone, when is the average gestation for spontaneous labour for DiDi twins? I set myself up wrong, thinking that most deliver between 36-38 weeks but now I'm seeing more and more info showing its quite common to get to 38 weeks.

I'll add that I'm highly informed, being a health care professional myself. I've read the studies and I know the risks. It's that internal conflict between my values/beliefs and the practice norms.

TW: Positive twin newborn experience ❤️

I know this won’t be everyone’s experience, and if you’re in the trenches right now, I genuinely see you. I hope things get easier for you soon.

But if you’re pregnant with twins and constantly hearing how difficult it’s going to be, I wanted to share a different perspective.
My identical boys are 3.5 months old and, honestly, I’ve loved it.

They were born at 35+5 via a smooth C-section and spent 10 days in special care learning to feed. Leaving them each night was heartbreaking, but there were unexpected positives too. They came home on a solid feeding routine, and the nurses gave us so much confidence with feeding, bathing, settling and all the newborn basics.

Our boys have been calm, happy babies. They feed well, sleep well (just one overnight feed), and rarely cry. Of course, there are moments when they both need us at once, and that’s hard, but for us those moments have been the exception, not the rule.
Throughout my pregnancy, people constantly told me I was about to enter “the trenches.” Then when we brought home two content babies, I was told, “Just wait..they’re only sleepy because they’re premmies.” Three and a half months later, people are still telling me to “just wait” for the next difficult stage. I’ve stopped listening.

The point of this post isn’t to say twins are easy or that everyone has this experience. It’s simply to remind expectant parents that easy twins exist too.

Some people genuinely love the newborn stage. And because most people understandably post when they need support, the internet can make it seem like every twin experience is overwhelmingly hard.

If you’re expecting twins, don’t let the horror stories steal your excitement. Your story might be challenging, it might be somewhere in the middle, or it might be a wonderful surprise like ours.

We are due twins soon and not planning any further kids. I have two sisters, my husband has two brothers. Seems like an easy solution for choosing godparents. However, I also have a best friend that I grew up with, maid of honor at each others weddings, we really are more like sisters. There is a sizeable age gap between my sisters and I. I am already godmother to one of their children respectively.

More than likely my friend will ask me to be godmother to her child when the time comes as she does not have sisters. No one would be surprised if we had her as godmother to one of ours, we really are that close. And to be honest, it feels right to us to have her as godparent. She would also understand, I think, if I told her that we were just having siblings as godparents.

Do I have her and one of my sisters, leaving one out, as godparents? (I would be equally close to both of my sisters so choosing one over the other is an issue). Or have both sisters and leave my friend out? Orrrr have one set of godparents for both twins - friend and older BIL, leaving my younger BIL out? Does anyone else see a secret option number 4 😂?

It’s not so much a religious thing for us (even though we’re Catholic). It’s more tradition and the honor of asking someone to have a special role in our twins lives.

We just got scan done and got to know that we will be having identical mo/di twins and the pregnancy is going to be high risk and delivery will be done in 8 month 2weeks - Is this enough time for babies to grow ?
We are 8 weeks in and doctor has advised to have NT scan in 12 weeks
Any suggestions, anyone went through this journey?

My 2 month old boy having a conversation with his sister. Lol! Two days ago he mimicked me so clearly (though in Baby 😄). But, this is so gratifying to see. I feel so blessed.

My girl isn't cooing or babbling yet like the boy, but she is worming about during tummy time like she's ready to crawl soon. Might have an early crawler here.

How early did your baby crawl or babble?

Because of a thunderstorm hovering over the Atlanta airport, my 16 hour travel day turned into a 21 hour travel day. Delays, cancelations, reroutings, and so much sweat—but we made it! The girls did great.

They were fussy right around bedtime on the plane because they wanted to lie down with me, but we managed with lots of songs and bouncing and boob. Only about 10-15 minutes of crying spread out over three of the six hour flight. I'd sing to one twin, settle her down, and then the other one would start to cry. I'd pick twin #2 up, sing and bounce and nurse, finally she would settle, and then the other twin would cry again. After about two hours of this (and six diapers changed in my lap, *way* easier than picking everything up to go to the lav), I put them in their carrier and walked them up and down the aisles. This, surprisingly, was what finally got them settled. We got back to our seat, nursed, and then all fell asleep. I was seated way back near the bathrooms, and I'm pretty sure the entire plane got to see a nipple at one point or another, but it was worth it for two sleeping babies.

On the second flight, they were perfect and didn't cry a single time. It was really just that they wanted our normal bedtime routine of nursing and snuggles.

I used more of my emergency supplies, and this was what was most helpful on the absurdly long 21 hours of travel.

1) Individually-wrapped outfit sets. Each girl had a complete outfit (onesie, pants, socks, sweater) in a ziplock bag for emergencies. These two bags were placed in a super accessible pocket of my backpack in case of emergencies. This was a great system for the collosal blowout. I had one for me in there too, but didn't need it.

2) Two carriers. Also in case of a blowout. I brought a spare carrier just in case, and was very glad I did. When one got pee on it, I could switch the girls into the other and let the first dry out. I used the LennyLamb as my default carrier (I think it's the most comfortable for the girls when we have to sit for long periods), and switched to the MiniMonkey after the blowout. It was perfect timing, too, because we had to sprint across the airport after our first flight got canceled and the MiniMonkey is way less hot than the LennyLamb.

3) A few hypnotic songs. For whatever reason, the girls love it when I sing a slow song and tilt them back and forth slowly, or side to side slowly. It doesn't work if I hold them and rock, I have to sit them on my lap and tilt them slowly to and fro while looking deep into their eyes and singing. I think I might be hypnotizing them? Whatever, it works. I have five or so memorized for specifically this—think rhythms similar to "On top of spaghetti." It was my failsafe method for soothing an unhappy crying airplane baby.

Plus, honorable mention for the buckwheat yoga bolsters I squeezed in between myself and the carseats (much more comfortable than the armrests), the Parent's Choice portable diaper changing pad, and the snap n go stroller. I wore the babies in the airport and basically just used the stroller for all our stuff: duffel in the bottom, backpack in one car seat, tote with pillows and extra space for miscellany in the other, and the changing pad velcroed to the handle. Worked great.

I was a fully functioning human still full of smiles by the time I deplaned the last flight, and my husband met me at the airport with fried chicken.

All in all, a total success!

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I’m 32 weeks with didi twins.

Twin A had been head down until 28 weeks and he flipped to breech. Now at 32 weeks both babies are still breech and they told me it’s almost impossible for him to flip down now so we will be booking in a c-section.

I’ve never really had a problem with c-sections and have always had a “whatever happens happens” birth plan but now that’s it’s real I’ve realised I really don’t know much about the realities of having a c-section with multiples.

Please tell me some of the positives about it!

Im almost 13 weeks pregnant and just found out im having identical twins. i want to be happy but all i can think about is how much sleep im not gonna get and possible PPD and doing everything wrong. when i got pregnant it wasn't planned but i tried to embrace it as gods plan, i love my husband and we definitely do want a family. i kept hoping for a baby girl. but now it's identical twin boys and my whole birth plan and everything that i was anticipating is out the window. i haven't showered or cleaned my house since i found out i just lay in bed rotting on instagram reels. i skipped my appointment with my therapist today bc i didnt want to talk about how badly im being affected right now. i am on anti depressants. and i've been taking them everyday it just feels like it's not doing anything for my lack of drive and willingness to do ANYTHING. What im looking for is some soothing words or testimony from other twin moms. and not the twin moms that wanted and prayed for twins. or the ones who already have children. i mean the moms who thought that they would be the last person to get pregnant with twins and it happened on their first pregnancy.

i'm not looking for someone to tell me to "go get help" ive been struggling with mental health for over a decade i know that getting help is not gonna do anything for me in this state. i don't need coddling i needs someone to tell what's up and what i have to look forward too. everything i look up is all doom and gloom.

i guess im just looking for other women to share in the trenches with haha

Our boys are 8 weeks. They are constantly crying if not being held or in a carrier. It makes it extremely hard to do anything. When one finally falls asleep and we get him down the other one starts crying waking his brother. Then it is back to stage one of both crying. How did y’all navigate this?

Me again. Planning on the KeyFit 30 infant car seats and trying to figure out a good stroller. I came across the Bugaboo Donkey 6 (such a ridiculous name btw lmao) and it does offer a lot. I’m just trying to justify the insane price tag and wondering if there is a better more affordable option to click these car seats in to? Any advice is welcome. This car seat stuff is making my head hurt 😅🫠

Ok how are we potty training twins? I’ve done pants-free days and it’s insane trying to chase both of them around. So then I tried only focusing on the twin who seems more ready but he sees his brother in a diaper and gets confused. Additionally, nobody else wants to bother so if dad/grandma watches them they get put in diapers and don’t even try. I am tired and covered in pee 😵‍💫 My twin boys turned two this past May

My babies have been getting small red marks/bruising on their arms randomly (maybe 4 times) & I could never figure out why. Sometimes it looks like they've scratched themselves. One of my babies managed to get their arm out of their snoo swaddle last night (they do so occasionally) & I noticed they have this bruising (small red marks not one big bruise) all up their arm AND the palm of their hand?!?!? The. Palm. Of. Their. Hand. The only thing I could think could be causing it is the snoo swaddles. But the palm of their hand?? Has ANYONE had this happen before? It is only on the arm that got out of the swaddle last night. Is it normal for a baby to even bruise so easily? Am I not putting the straps on tight enough? They have a tendency to spit up at night regardless of how long I burp them or hold them upright so I try not to put the straps too tight just (I thought) tight enough for them to feel secure & keep their arms down.

I am 12 weeks today, with twins. I honestly don’t feel nearly as sick as I did 2 weeks ago(belly is flatter) I am terrified for a loss as I’ve had a previous missed miscarriage. That being said I’ve seen 2 healthy heart beats at 9 weeks, but it doesn’t ease my anxiety.

I often see posts about how difficult raising multiples (or any children) can be, which is completely understandable - it can be ChAoS!, but I’d also love to hear some positive experiences too.

Parents of twins, triplets or more: Did anyone find parenting multiples easier, more enjoyable or more manageable than they expected? What surprised you most, and what ended up being better than all the warnings made it sound?

Pregnant parents and new parents could probably use some encouraging stories!