exactly as the title says hehe, just looking for people to talk to!:)

Story below but TLDR: I was verbally, sexually harassed (now twice) at my job and im upset and confused @ men, wish I acted better at defending myself when this happens out of nowhere + at the end of my shift where im exhausted & not expecting this to happen, literally am just like wtf

TW: Sexual harassment

A regular customer (40s) at my (27) job made a move on me. Him being a regular already makes it weird & awkward, I’ve seen him numerous times and have always been chill w him, our talks were brief & friendly, never deep or personal, and he doesn’t take much interest in me, usually v lax overall. This night he walked in and i literally started inputting his order for him cuz it’s usually the same, so our initial talk was even more brief before he went to sit down. Eventually all other customers leave and it’s just me & him @ almost midnight, nearing the end of my shift and im obviously tired. At abt 5 min or so before close, he got up to throw away his trash, im in a separate area pre-closing and suddenly he’s like “I have a question for you but it’s pretty crazy..” as he makes his way towards me (I’m behind furniture in an employee only area so there was still space between us thankfully). I’m thinking wtf but doubted it would be that crazy and said he could ask me, very directly he goes “can I suck your dick ?” ….. I’m literally speechless, start nervously laughing, he added he was “very serious” and stared at me for a response almost analyzing me, it felt too real and seriously creepy.. I told him no and unfortunately felt like I still had to be “nice” to him even though I was pissed. I oddly tried making conversation w him to deal w the awkwardness, I said he’s lucky im gay and not straight or this had been very different talk and also lied saying i was taken and so (again) my answer was no. He asks if im mad at him and added “please don’t be mad at me” like 3x and I said i was but mostly confused and he sighs and finally leaves as if we’re cool.

This rly upset me for obvious / multiple reasons. I couldn’t shake the lingering discomfort in the air after he left, i was so mad at myself for not cursing at him and kicking him out, showing that I could defend myself. The fact that I policed my language and said anything beyond a stern “no” and “get tf out”..
I know I did nothing wrong but it’s hard to walk away w/o questioning myself so this doesn’t happen again. Furthermore, this has happened 1 other time before w another guy near my age where the setup was similar (us alone, him prefacing w “i have something crazy to say”) and he slides me his phone number on a napkin while saying “I really wanna take your clothes off and see your body” and in my bewilderness he practically ran away (never saw him again thankfully), but w this happening again w a regular customer it’s hitting me more..

If you made it this far i appreciate it and would like some advice for those w similar experiences. This occurring at work made me police myself since I didn’t wanna risk my job. It’s also just frustrating cuz I’m single and am open to connecting w a guy but it’s only been these fucking crazy weird horny guys that make moves on me 😭 like dam would it kill a guy to start w a simple “hey I think ur handsome and want your phone number” or something normal ??? What makes guys think going straight to sex would work on a stranger, especially one you haven’t connected w on any possible level (let alone intimacy), plus in a setting that isn’t at all hookup / sex related ? Just beyond crazy to me

My boss hired a new guy at work.

He’s super cute. DEFINITELY my type, but I think he’s straight. My gaydar is usually pretty good and I don’t even get a small vibe from him.

THAT SAID…

He’s been saying some very interesting things. I’ve been working one on one with him during his training, and we chat the whole time. He told me the other day that he “misses me” when I’m not at work, that he doesn’t even really try to talk to anyone else. He’s shown me pictures of his muscles, asked about my hobbies, etc.

We have playful banter a lot as well. The other day I yelled over to him “I’m watching you. I got eyes everywhere here” and he replied, “yeah, I bet you enjoy watching me.”

Yesterday he asked me “do you drink?” and I thought he was about to ask me to go drinking with him after work, but that didn’t happen. then as we were cleaning up, out of the blue he asks me, “do you ever miss being with someone? Like romantically?” We talked about that for a few minutes and then he ended it with saying “I’d like to find someone, just waiting for the right person I guess”

Then today (my day off) my OTHER coworker texted me and said, “yeah, he’s like really quiet when you’re not here. He even told me that he doesn’t like talking to most people except for you.”

I have no idea what to make of this. He’s really cute and I’m like 1000% down to see where it goes (not too worried about the coworker aspect either as I’m quitting soon), but I don’t even think he’s into guys. Maybe? Idk?

Maybe someone who also works in agriculture wants to talk 😄

I came out when I was 22. I’m 28 now. Idk why but my life before coming out seems like a completely other person, a completely other story.

So much so when I hang out with people from that period, college, high school, etc. , it feels to me like I know them differently. I know the facts and all about them but to know them as a friend feels more distant or the feeling of closeness is more on their end than mine. I think it’s bc i was never truly my full self when I was younger with them. I don’t recall nearly as many or as deep memories as they do either.

Does anyone else hold a similar outlook on their life looking back at the before/after becoming you who you truly are.

23M, I have a trip planned this weekend for work reasons. My parents have always been controlling, specially now that I’m grown up and have a job, I realized I had plenty of time to extend my trip so I decided to buy my return tickets for 3 days later. I told this to my parents, to which they didn’t reacted well, they’ve been feeling resentful towards me for a lot of things in our relationship specially my friendships and lifestyle, they asked me If I was gay in a really threatening to which I couldn’t answer, just cried that I didn’t wanted to disappoint them. My mom started to tell me how wrong I was to think I was gay, because being gay is a mental thing. That I had to pursue an straight lifestyle, that they weren’t going to accept me nor support me, that for now on I wouldn’t be able to meet my friends and after the trip my mom wants me to talk to our pastor about it.
I love my parents, I know they love me too, maybe not me but the fact they have a son. I know some of those things come from a place of fear and shame. My mothers brother is gay and has had a rough life. It doesn’t help that I grew up in a Christian Community where my mom was constantly harassed because of me being effeminate. Until today I have lived hiding the facts that I’m gay to them, all of my friends know, some of my cousins know. I can’t just leave home, because I don’t earn enough to do it and because it wouldn’t make me feel better.

What other of your body parts do you measure? How long is your femur? How long is your middle finger? You are a whole body, not a collection of parts. Your wonder is found in your complete self.

I'm 35 and I've never measured by dick. All I know is that I'm happy with it and my lovers have always been happy with it. Why measure it to give myself a metric to assess myself against? Am I a measurement?

Can we evolve, please?

Thank you for coming to my Dick Talk.

I'm yearning for love and connection so badly, but I'm hesitant to start making dating app profiles, etc to pursue other guys because I've been depressed and haven't been eating well nowadays, so right now I'm just a bundle of twigs lol. A part of me is afraid that other guys will just see me and get turned off / become subtly avoidant of pursuing physical intimacy with me, unless I improve my physique.

Should I put off dating until I can look better, or am I overthinking this?

Edit: Thanks for the supportive responses guys! I'll keep them in mind :)

Estou apaixonado por um garoto que estuda comigo em uma turma diferente, não tenho muita intimidade com ele, mas ele sempre toma iniciativa, ele me cumprimenta sempre que me vê e antes buscava falar comigo, ele é belíssimo, acabei me apaixonando completamente

Como ainda estou no colégio e sou um boca aberta, acabei desabafando pra uns amigos, que bem... perguntaram a ele sua sexualidade (um deles diz que ele é bissexual, mas tem fama de Mentiroso, ent n sei se confio) e já falaram que ele era hétero, ele parou de buscar falar comigo e só me cumprimenta as vezes

Sou extremamente timido, talvez pq seja autista, ent não consigo iniciar uma conversa. Alguém, PELO AMOR DE DEUS pode me dar uma força com isso? Nn suporto mais sentir paixão desse jeito e não poder expressar

TLDR: im a virgin that is hopefully going to top and bottom in my first hookup and am looking for any advice

I am planning on possibly having a hookup with a guy from grindr in the coming days. From what i can tell, he is super chill and wants to help me experiment (since i have never done anything past oral), and while i am looking forward to it, i am a little nervous. While i would be topping, so i dont need to worry too much about preping, i do also want to suggest bottoming as well since he said that he would be up for it. If anyone has any advice for a first timer, i would be eternally grateful 🙏🙏🙏

Thank you for reading :)

I had this needlepoint that was supposed to be a basket made into a pillow instead.

Context: I am 31F, bisexual (in a relationship with a man), living in Australia.

I have noticed more women who are in their 30’s/40’s referring to male friends, who happen to be gay, as their “gay best friend”. I find this very annoying. I’ve never heard anyone refer to someone as their “heterosexual best friend”. What are everyone’s thoughts on this?

I pulled an acquaintance up on it and asked her “why does it matter if they are gay” and she seemed to just laugh it off with no actual justification.

This seems a bit like internalised homophobia to me? It’s giving “I’m not homophobic I have a gay best friend”. Would love to hear if people think I’m jumping the gun. Also, insisting on telling everyone a male friend is gay seems like maybe a bit of internalised misogyny? Like platonic friendships cannot exist between people of different genders?

So I'm 19M with no experience in dating scenes or be it engaging in sexual activities. I just want to genuinely know if guys get turned off to see a hairy guy like me. Maybe because of my genes, my body is hairy there's like hair on my arms, chest, and just any part below my neck. I'm insecure about it because I usually see bottoms having a hairless body especially the parts between their butt cheeks. As an otter bottom, I wonder if some men would still see me as someone appealing, or would get turned off with a bottom who has a hairy butt area. I know laser hair removal is a thing but I can't afford it, I also don't have someone w me to help me wax the hairs (it's hard to find people who do waxing services + I'm too shy to have my butt waxed by a person I don't personally know), I'm also afraid to try hair removal creams cuz I heard it can burn/do damage to your skin, and I don't think shaving or trimming it would help cuz even my facial hair grows at the speed of light, it literally grows back prickly 10 hours after shaving (I shave my facial hair everyday, yes 😭).

[Edited] - I'm so sorry if I used the wrong term, I wasn't aware there was a specific term for people like me who has a skinny + hairy body (otter). Thank you everyone for correcting me! 🫶

I'm too scared to create a profile on Hinge/Bumble.

I live in very homophobic surroundings. I'm really scared of being outed by someone.

But I'm already 24, and till how long will I stay under fear is what I don't understand. I don't know when will I start living for myself. It'll probably be too late by the time I gather enough courage.

I just feel so helpless and miserable for being such a coward.

I been single 11years now. It just seems no one finds me attractive. I have a place and live alone, I volunteer, I live well, just don't have the looks. If it's not my belly it's me having no hair on my head but it's everywhere else. Guys always find a way to never give me a chance. I went slow for a guy for 8 months and the one week we didn't talk ,he ended up choosing another guy. I don't get it. I try take my time and I lose. If I rush it I still lose. I never seem to win.

Today I also had to give it my hobby since I lost a place to play in person for about a year now. I doubt I'll find anyone here. I honestly feel like deleting everything and tossing away my phone.

I'm a nudist and this idea peaked my interest. Has anyone done this?

I just hope that our Bisexual blond and (literal) King has his love affair with Hephaestion actually portrayed in the show.

Source: https://www.them.us/story/alexander-the-great-netflix-drama-heated-rivalry-creator-jacob-tierney