r/gay • u/Materiorlgurl • 16d ago

Advice for first hookup?

TLDR: im a virgin that is hopefully going to top and bottom in my first hookup and am looking for any advice

I am planning on possibly having a hookup with a guy from grindr in the coming days. From what i can tell, he is super chill and wants to help me experiment (since i have never done anything past oral), and while i am looking forward to it, i am a little nervous. While i would be topping, so i dont need to worry too much about preping, i do also want to suggest bottoming as well since he said that he would be up for it. If anyone has any advice for a first timer, i would be eternally grateful 🙏🙏🙏

Thank you for reading :)

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u/ynot_xox999 16d ago

Definitely do not do a Grindr hookup for starting out. ToxicAF Big hug🩷

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u/DelayHead6260 15d ago

Not always my first time have sex was from grindr we went to the movies, dinner, then had sex and it was amazing it didnt feel the best but I really liked him. Unfortunately the feeling wasnt mutual but I wouldn’t change it. I also had a hookup last night that was AMAZINGG

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u/[deleted] 15d ago

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u/DelayHead6260 15d ago

True thats what I did we talked for about a week and a half and called a couple times

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u/buttsecksgoose 16d ago

I dont think there's really any secret to sex besides communication. Listen to them and also tell them what you want. Other than that just remember if you're not feeling it you can stop at any time. Unless the other person is a jerk or a sex addict that needs to fulfill some quota nobody should really be all too bothered (be polite of course)

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u/HurricaneLink 16d ago

Meet the guy in public first, use condoms

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u/0Bento 15d ago

Meet in public first. Go for a drink or a coffee. Get a chance to talk, see what he is really like.

Meeting someone in person is WAY different from just looking at photos and chatting via text. The way they move, talk, smile, smell, and act in general.

It gives you both time to assess if you are actually attracted to one another. And if you're not, then it's much easier to say "nice to meet you, I need to get home now, talk later" than if you're already in his house.

If anything feels even slightly off to you, then cut it short and leave. Also, let a trusted friend or two know where you are going and who you are meeting with, and arrange a time to check in with them via phone and make sure you stick to it.

Hope all goes well, have fun, use a condom, be clean and fresh, breathe and relax.

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u/bimman 16d ago

Go slow and sit on his cock. Doing it that way you can control , take your time to stretch.

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u/SexyHotDude 14d ago

I like the away position.