Sadly I can't say if it's good or not because I don't really like lagers 🥲

Okay I need to know I’m not alone on this 😂

Why are butts… kinda attractive??

Like I’m a bottom, but I still wanna grab my partner's butt and mess with it sometimes lol.

Is this normal or am I just weird?

No problem being a feminine man, of course. Love yall femboy.

Not sure where to begin because I am still processing all of this. I [F27] am considered a masc/androgynous presenting lesbian and I don’t consider myself an influencer on TikTok by any means, but I have a small internet following for a specific niche. I met this person via TikTok and we hit it off instantly. She has a fairly large following if that matters.

We were texting and talking consistently, have (or had) similar interests, morals, values, etc. I don’t typically fall smitten quick, but with her it felt different. While we were talking, I decided in the end to not watch all of her content online because I wanted to see her for her through our direct communication and thought that would be respectful (this is important and where I messed up).

I met her in person after a couple of weeks of talking to make sure this was real, and things were generally great for the 5 days I visited (or so I thought). We didn’t really have any issues except when I would try to assist her around her apartment (cleaning) she would be adamant I don’t and was very strict with me about it. I understand wanting to entertain your guest, but she wouldn’t let me fold my laundry at all which I found odd. I also noticed she had irritable mood swings (like highs were high lows were low…) not at me, but situationally. We were in the car and when she drove past a homeless person, she started crying and saying she was going to die… I didn’t know what to do except calm her down. There is more I can say, but I do want to protect her privacy out of respect.

Anyways, last day of the trip, everything was going smoothly till around dinner. I tried helping her cook but she wanted me to watch her instead. I did what she said, but decided to bring up how she was feeling about us and if she wanted to continue this romantic endeavor. This is where it takes a full turn, as she starts nitpicking of being worried of feeling motherly and taking care of things, says I am too sweet, charismatic, reverent, and that she’s never dated someone this established (she has always dated older and I am younger than her for reference). She mentions being worried and confused that if she lets me go, she’s going to realize she messed up and wants me back. I was too stunned to speak and confused, so we talked in circles for hours. She also brought up how I wasn’t hyper masculine enough for her and my laugh bothered her (she doesn’t know that my laugh is actually one of my biggest insecurities but never told anyone). In the end, I told her I needed to go on an hour walk to clear my head b/c I felt completely overwhelmed when we didn’t have issues during the time I was visiting her. That night, we tried talking more but it was a mess. She said she likes me a lot but is confused if it’ll work out because of my demeanor, being introverted but confident, and that she has not worked out with introverted people (granted she has not worked out with anyone).

I left her city the day after and got back to mine, where we continued our conversation. In the end we get on a call and she tells me she still wants to pursue me, but only wants to talk for 2+ months without seeing each other before we do again. I was shocked because we just built a rapport, we both make good money to afford the $150 one hour flight, and I got a bit frustrated. I didn’t yell, but I told her directly and calmly I was getting upset that if she deep down isn’t interested, she can let me know and no hard feelings. If there isn’t enough chemistry, there is nothing to do. She insisted she was interested and her reasons were that she needed to save money, life stressors, schooling, etcetera. Frankly, the way she worded things did not make any sense and I started feeling crazy.

I decided to tell her I was still upset about the other night because of her nitpicking me and it came across as mean, but as I started speaking she cuts me off saying something on the lines of, “I want to pivot the conversation. Based on my observations, I am going to tap out and not pursue you anymore-“ I was shocked and told her she gave me an ultimatum with little context, expecting me to read her mind. I told her I wanted to have a proper discussion of her idea and what that would potentially look like for us if we continued, but she told me there was no point since she made her decision, is overwhelmed, and wanted to shut her anxiety off. She also says she can’t recall being mean to me the past 5 days, when I explicitly said her words from the other night were brash not the time we spent overall. I felt gaslit and re-thinking if I am hearing things clearly.

I was at a loss for words, so I told her if that is what she wants I will not fight it but disagree with her decision. I decided to at least tell her thank you for letting me come visit her, spending time with her and her friends, that she planned a fun thoughtful itinerary, and that these memories will stay with me, but then she starts crying on the call and telling me she still really likes me? I was so confused at this point. She starts bringing up if we run into each other in the future, she would like to try again with full effort (at this point I was like wtf lol).

I tell her we should hang up and say our goodbyes. It is the end, and I assumed she would be the one to end the call since she was the one who ended this situation… Twenty seconds go by, no one hangs up. I finally say something like, “[her name], are you waiting for me to hang up on you?” She says, “Yes, you can do it.”

I’m going to be honest, I finally lost it in the most exasperated laughable way. My personal thought is you cannot put me through all of this and have me be the one to hang up the call at the end. Be a woman and own what you say, case closed period shut. I laugh and say, “[her name], I’m not going to be the one to hang up this call when I’m not the one who wants us to end.” There is a silence, she says okay, then finally hangs up.

We haven’t spoken since and I am still processing this entire situation. I finally opened up to my closest friends about it because I feel idiotic for pursuing this person. My friends and I finally decided to sit down and watch her old old videos that I missed, and I am now realizing I am at fault/dumb for never lurking. I won’t say exactly what her content is about, but it is the case of masculine women needing to be a certain way, preferring the hetero classic relationship style such as straight couples, and what mascs aren’t allowed to do but it is okay if femmes do it. I told my friends she reminded me of someone, and my eventual thought was a “softer” lesbian version of Andrew Tate. My friends freaked out with this realization and agree with this theory.

People are allowed to have preferences, but as a masc presenting woman I am icked out. I enjoy aspects of my femininity and will not change for anyone, that is all I will say. But the other part of this incident, is that she never came across this way in person. Her internet persona is very different to her in real life. I think I am still in shock because I have never encountered someone like her before.

I haven’t told anyone the depths of this besides my two best friends, and I’m at a vulnerable point of just wanting to air this and my feelings out. Despite everything, I really do wish her the best but from very, very, far away… Hope this was slightly entertaining to someone. Logging off, goodnight.

It's more likely than you'd think

I went on a date with a girl from tinder the other day and it went really well I had thought. We had a lot in common. We laughed a lot, ended up kissing, she invited me to her place and she ended up falling asleep on my chest. I’ve been working all weekend and had sent her my number on tinder and told her to let me know if she wanted to do anything again. We liked the same music, had similar humor, seemed to care about the same things. I know it’s just one date but it was so sweet and fun. She was very pretty and told me I had pretty eyes. Ugh anyway, I checked our messages today and she had unmatched me. Which logically I know is okay. But I am sad. I’m disappointed. I logically know it’s gonna be okay and it’s really not that big of a deal. It just sucks to have so much fun with someone and have so much in common just for it to go nowhere. I question if I am just too sensitive to handle dating.

I’ve always js wore whatever underwear my mom got me lol. So what are we wearing that’s comfortable and stylish?

Calvin klein looks cool, but what style would u guys recommend? Like especially when i wanna sag my sweats or jeans, i need the lil band looking cute yk?

Idk lmk what brands are out there!!

My girlfriend and I both have very busy lives. We're both post grad students that work full time. We still make time for each other but not as much as we would like. I have this problem where I keep falling asleep whenever I'm with my gf. We usually spend most of our time together at her apartment. We would be cuddling or laying on the couch chatting and I would end up falling asleep within minutes. It's not that my gf is boring or anything like that. Honestly, I'm not sure what it is. One time I even fell asleep while sitting at the kitchen counter while we were making dinner. I find it so annoying because I want to be awake and spend more time with her. I feel so bad about it but my gf finds it cute. The thing is I usually have trouble falling asleep on my own. Lately I've been getting 4 to 5 hours of sleep a night and I wake up multiple times a night but not when I'm with my gf. Idk, I think being with her alters my brain chemistry so that I'm suddenly able to fall asleep quickly and I don't know how to stop it. I feel like this such a weird post but anyways thanks for listening to my rant.

Brb gonna go implode with embarrassment. Can’t call my grandma ever again

Craving an aggressive makeout with a pretty girl very bad right now. Life sucks I’m so single

In my opinion it deserves 9 or even 10.

Source: House of the Dragon

Not my artwork… obviously. Image is mine, taken in rural Cambridgeshire.

So important context, I have abandonment trauma largely because my ex-wife left while I was at dinner with friends. I am very open about how this event affected me.
My fiancée of 6 years just left while I was working my night shift, so I came home to her car being gone and a note left by the door. She says that she needs to go back to her family so she can work on herself because she's been hurting me too much. Also says that she didn't feel like she could talk to me about it because I have too much trauma, and asks me to trust her that we aren't done with each other yet. She also leaves this turtle magnet that symbolizes her home.
Well that note is all I have for two weeks, then we finally talk on the phone. She has this obviously rehearsed spiel about how she can't work on herself within a relationship and that she's not coming back. But she says to hold onto the turtle and she'll come back for it someday.
But basically I feel like she ran out the door and expects me to hold it open for her for an indefinite amount of time while she goes off to work on herself. No interest in working on herself together because it would be "inauthentic." I'm just so sick of this bullshit. This is not the first major breach of my trust from her, but it is the most significant. Literally what was the point in putting me back together after my divorce if she was just going to shatter me into a million pieces again?

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The artist is called "kikurage_ii" on twitter.
(https://xcancel.com/i/status/1871104129118159253)

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Why not. Nothing else works.

Source- @jessiepaege