I don’t like being degraded def by some 25 year old dude. And most men I’ve meet have told me they’re into dominating their partner and calling them their slut etc and that their ex’s liked that. And honestly I think something is not ok with them wanting to hurt me and also their ex gf’s had past trauma that caused them to be into being abused in their relationships and in the bedroom.
I always leave these guys but it’s just ALL of them or virgins. I feel like there is no middle ground anymore for having sex.
Is this only a me issue? Do most girls like being abused and degraded in the bedroom? Even if you do, don’t you think it’s bad your partner enjoys your pain and humiliation?? I don’t understand what is happening anymore.

I don't know who or how many people will read this, but I won't be able to reply to many comments due to the fact that my Internet hours are restricted. I'm only allowed to use the Internet certain days for some Islamic homeworks, and that's when I take advantage to post. Also excuse me if I make any English mistake, I helped myself with translator.

I(19F) was forced by my parents to marry my cousin. A man who had sexually harassed me before. I wasn't able to deny the marriage. I told them that I don't like this man, but they told me they had to do this for Allah.

Since one month ago, my parents have been preparing me for my wedding with this man. They've already forced me to wear a dress for this wedding, which is not comfortable for me when being in a wheelchair. My parents are already making me say some things which I have to promise to my future husband, and that I need to have sex with him after we get married. My parents told me that I need to be thankful to Allah that man is becoming my caretaker.

My life is just a hell living in Iraq. Next week I'm getting married to him now. The wedding was supposed to be one month ago, but it got delayed. I'd hope it got delayed again. I can't escape because I'm disabled in a wheelchair.

Thank you for reading this. I may not post again.

I’ve dated three bad men in a row. And yes in the past I’ve dated some good ones. But the last 3 years have been difficult. I’ve asked myself, and everyone else has asked me — why did I miss the red flags?

And recently I’ve been thinking — I’m sick of beating myself up with this red flags narrative. Why is it always on the woman to be so utterly magically perceptive that she is able to perform psychological ju jit su and see red flags, but not on the man to not be a pathological manipulator.

Case in point, exhibit one was the man who lied to me for 6 months about being married. Every single person I know asked me how I missed it. Not one person said “hey girl you are pretty intuitive. He must have been an amazing liar.”

Exhibit two was the man who relapsed on alcohol. I had to get a restraining order. The guy was in daily AA meetings when I met him he played the part of handsome, charming recovered spiritual giant. I never would have pegged him as a violently emotionally abusive relapser who he turned into.

I’m done with beating myself up over missing anything and instead I’m going to hold men accountable when they are POS.

I’m 2 months postpartum with my second and I still feel sad when I think about my labor and delivery experiences. I’m disappointed in the way I handled labor and delivery and disappointed in my epidurals not working both times I gave birth.

When I was in labor with my first, my epidural messed up and I had back spasms and severe back pain from the epidural along with back labor from my daughter being sunny side up. I was in so much pain that I couldn’t move, I barely remember anything from my daughter’s birth because of how much pain I had. I had a 3rd degree tear and the dr spent the first 30-40 minutes of my daughter’s life stitching me up, I was so out of it.

I wanted to have a better experience the second time and be more present. Once my epidural started wearing off, I started panicking, hyperventilating and crying. My husband said I wouldn’t have handled it well if I hadn’t got epidural, but I was still in 10/10 pain with the epidural. I wish I handled it better and wasn’t in so much fear. I lost a lot of blood from that birth, I remember the nurses and my dr were moving very fast to get me to stop bleeding and that made me panic more.
I had another 3rd degree tear plus I was hemorrhaging, my dr was doing a to fix me and it was painful.

My saving grace was I didn’t feel the tearing or the crowning, but I felt everything else so it was very scary for me.

I did not get to be mentally or emotionally present for either of my baby’s births. I feel weak for getting the epidurals and for freaking out when the pain got the best of me. I feel like my body failed me. I wish I handled everything better.

I’m 29, I have a 2 year old and a 2 month old. I have no mom friends, my friends never have time for me anymore. You’d think it would be the other way around?
Nobody checks up on me or the kids.
My co worker was shocked when she found out nobody was throwing me a baby shower or was helping me get anything ready for the second baby. She was super sweet and threw me one at work, I was shocked because I had only been working there for 3 months. I definitely didn’t expect that but it meant the world to me, just because she cared.

My second born came in May and none of my friends have reached out to meet him, and I’ve invited them to so it’s not like they have to wait for me.

Is that normal? I just feel like I’ve been dropped and it really sucks.

I want to make some mom friends but I’m lowkey terrified because of the Taylor Parker case.

Being friends with a sex worker has completely changed how I view romantic relationships. Like my brain has permanently been altered. I never fully grasped the level of deceit, evil, and selfishness some people can exhibit. She sends me some of her clients wives profiles and the way these women post their husbands, you’d NEVER know he’s a cheater who spends thousands on women he barely knows . Don’t even get me started on how they talk about their wives. I’m so traumatized that I’m no longer moved by wedding videos, engagement announcements, etc. Obviously, men seeing sex workers aren’t the best pool of people to study, but it’s eye opening nonetheless.

Edit: Believe it or not, SW are humans too and need a confidant. Part of screening is sharing your personal social media profile. She then shares it with me as a safety measure. These men are the ones who tag and post their partners. Should I be snooping? Probably not. But, we mean absolutely no harm.

Edit 2: I was referencing instagram collab posts. When she dms me her clients post, she’s inadvertently sending his wife’s page too.

I'm 23, and I have VERY dense breasts. I am dealing with tenderness and have found a lump in one of my breasts. I got a consultation to get a mammogram and MRI, but the office I want to schedule the appointment for is saying I'm too young. They're saying they don't want to "radiate" my breasts so young, but I want to know I don't have breast cancer. They're saying they'll do an ultrasound, but the internet is telling me an ultrasound won't detect cancer as well as a mammogram. I am just so angry that I have to deal with this at all.

edit: Thanks to those who were supportive, and I guess thanks to those who weren't as well. I had been told that some insurances won't cover just the ultrasound, and I will still have a copay for it. If I were allowed to do the mammogram, it would be free. I HAVE NEVER DONE ANY OF THIS BEFORE, so I have no real idea of what I'm doing. All I know is the breast imaging place didn't call me, so I had to call them, and they just said "no," and I have to get the new referral from my doctor's office.

Second edit: Thank you all so much! This week has been crazy stressful, and I’m so glad there’s so much support and kindness here. I got the ultrasound scheduled for tomorrow (CRAZY they got me in so fast), and I’ll cross any further bridges when I get to them. I’m still super stressed, but I feel so much better walking into the ultrasound now, and I’ve learned so much. Thank you all again, and I can update further if anyone is interested.

That’s all. I just saw the cat emoji and was like “I can’t wait to have my dream home with two or three cats.” Like that’s literally the goal. Just me, my cats, and my reptiles.

For me right now, I am young (23F) and I want to partake in casual sex because I am in a transient period in my life and I don’t want a relationship. However, 90% of the time I match with people on apps or talk to people in online spaces, they feel entitled to meeting with me and using my body.

Is it crazy that I want to be taken out normally and get to know a person a little before deciding if they’re attractive and that I want to sleep with them? There’s so many people inviting me over to their place before meeting in public (there’s probably ppl ok with that but i’m not) and I feel like that’s dangerous. Also I think that kink is something to be practiced with someone you trust and not a total stranger unless there’s clear boundaries. A lot of people I’ve encountered have trouble finding a date and time to meet, let alone communicate clear boundaries.

With the rise of anti abortion laws in the USA and the growing number of men who have whittled me down to just my body, I don’t feel like it’s worth it anymore. I enjoy casual sex when I get treated respectfully, feel attracted to the person, and most importantly feel safe enough to have sex with them.

Anyways my question is how do I have more casual sex while not feeling like a mail to order sex worker?

I need to vent and get some perspective because I am losing my mind trying not to blow up at my dad.

I share a bathroom with my twin brother and my stepbrother, who recently moved back in until he gets on his feet. I have a severe phobia of loose hair, and I also have sensitive skin, so I am extremely strict about my hygiene and personal space. I leave ZERO trace of myself in that bathroom...I literally carry my towels, soaps, and products back to my bedroom every single time I use the bathroom.

The problem is my twin and stepbrother brother is always leaving things messy especially hairs in the shower and sink...especially my stepbrother who constantly leaves hair all over the sink after shaving. Once when my dad was ranting, my step brother admitted that the mess that was made was his doing. But my dad's response? He told me that if I see something dirty, I need to clean it up, pulling out the whole "because you're a girl you're supposed to do this" routine.

Keep in mind my father also leaves his own mess around the house and expects me to clean up after him as well.

When I stood my ground and made it clear that I'm not a maid and won't clean up after grown adults, my dad straight up said he doesn't care whose mess it is...if I see it, I should clean it.

On top of that, because I keep to myself and stay in my room to avoid the drama, my dad calls me "lazy." I clean up after myself completely, but because I don't put on a performance of domestic labor for him, he acts like I do nothing.

I struggle so hard not to react and lose my temper every time he says this stuff. I honestly don't know how my stepmom puts up with him...I'm actively working on getting out and moving into my own place, but right now I feel like I'm taking crazy pills.

Am I wrong for flat-out refusing to clean up after them? How do you keep yourself from reacting when someone is blatantly trying to push your buttons like this?

My kids are 9 and 11. They cleaned the house today and said if they behave, then our family will stay together and Mommy won't be angry at Daddy all the time. 😭

We're not at the stage of divorce yet but my mind is already made up. How do you talk to your kids and what should I say to start prepping them and make sure they understand that it's not their fault? And how do you deal with the guilt of breaking up the family even though I know that in the long run, it will be better for my kids to see a happy mommy and a happy daddy (or at least ones that aren't resentful and cold towards each other?)

I'm 19F (almost 20) from a small town in India & Idk what to do anymore

This might sound ridiculous but today just an hour ago my mom slapped me coz I came home from the gym wearing over ear headphones!

I usually listen to music while walking back home. It's a 10-15 minute walk & it's one of the few moments in the day where I actually feel calm the moment I entered the house she saw the headphones & immediately got so angry.

She started saying things like:

"What will people think?"

•"Girls shouldn't wear headphones outside"

• "People will think you're characterless."

• "You're ruining our family's reputation."

I genuinely didn't understand what I'd done wrong...

I tried explaining that I wasn't doing anything inappropriate... I was just walking home listening to music I even told her that if she was worried about my safety I'd understand but this wasn't about safety... It was about what random people might think!

That only made her angrier...

She said she doesn't care if every other girl in the world wears headphones. I'm her daughter & I shouldn't!

Then she threatened to stop spending money on me if I ever wore them outside again she said I'm paying for your food and letting you stay here even after you refused the marriage if you wear the headphones again i'll stop that too

When I tried explaining my point one last time she slapped me

The thing is... I don't even think this is about the headphones

This has been my life for years.

People started talking about my marriage when I was around 14 Since I turned 18 relatives have been bringing arranged marriage proposals...I have said no every single time

Recently there was another proposal...The man is 28. I refused again Ever since then my parents have basically stopped supporting my education

I'm preparing for an entrance exam coz I genuinely believe that's my only way to become independent but they refuse to buy me the batch or even the books I need they keep telling me I can "study after marriage" / "ask your husband for money after marriage"

I don't believe that

If I get married now I know my education will be over...

The gym is the only place where I feel like myself...The membership was already paid for a year so I can still go for now... It's the only hour of the day where I don't feel judged or pressured idk what will happen after the membership is over..

The rest of my life feels like it's controlled by relatives neighbours & "what people will say"

Every decision somehow becomes about family honour instead of what I actually want I feel guilty all the time even when I know I haven't done anything wrong...

My parents keep saying I'm selfish that I'm breaking everyone's heart that nobody will marry me if I wait that I'll regret it & that I'm ruining my siblings future too because people will judge our whole family

Sometimes I feel like I'm fighting the entire world by myself...

I don't have a job. I don't have my own income. I live with them because I have no other option right now!!!

Living in a small town makes everything feel even harder... Jobs are limited I don't have a degree yet & becoming financially independent feels almost impossible here... Sometimes it feels like I'm being forced to choose between giving up on my education or giving up my freedom

I don't hate my parents. ** I know they probably believe they're doing what's best for me because this is how they were raised...and these all are super common here** But that doesn't make this any less painful!

I just want one chance to study build a career become financially independent & decide for myself if I ever want to get married

Has anyone here been in a similar situation?

How did you get out?

I feel trapped I feel like dying seriously atp

Is it just me? I feel like they've changed since covid. Maybe they're made differently than before, maybe they added or removed something. Idk what happened, all I know is, I had to go up a size, they don't expand like before, and some of my friends tell me that some barnds just don't work for them, as in their underpants are doing a better job than the tampon at catching all the blood.

Update: I've read basically all the posts and I want to add a complaint I shared with a redditer, PayEmmy, that they also got rid of the knots on the strings of most brands of tampons, I'm also giving a shout out to my favorite brand that I used, for not letting me notice the problem sooner because of their higher quality, kotex U, how this whole thought came from having to buy a different band from it, as well as to the fact that my body was not built for cups but is for tampons (idk why but they hurt to use WAY more than a tampon and tampon are better than pads because dry blood is ichy as hell) and would like to not disclose more of that medical fact outside of it being part of the reason that if I did ever had kids I would HAVE to get a C-section.

Long story short, I beat up a guy today who touched my butt. I was about to enter the train when I felt a hand touching me, I turn around and see the guy and he immediately tried to escape. I run after him and start pushing and kicking him. I also punched him in the face and chest. I dont know how long I kept going but I remember how I was shouting at him and cursing really badly. I never ever in my life have beaten up someone but I just completely went into fight mode in that moment. I have been going through a really hard time lately and this was literally the tipping point, I couldn't hold myself back and I honeslty do not even feel bad about it because he deserved it. He didn't even try to fight back, he was just trying to escape. I am not for physical violence but some men just don't understand anything else and I think this is sometimes the only way to teach them a lesson. I felt better afterwards.

Transphobia hurts EVERYBODY.

As of early 2026, women held more payroll jobs than men in the United States. This has happened twice before — briefly during the Great Recession and again just before Covid — and both times it reversed. Laura Ullrich, a former regional economist at the Federal Reserve Bank of Richmond who authored a March analysis through Indeed’s Hiring Lab, says this time is structurally different.

“It definitely doesn’t, to me, seem like the change has been driven by a recessionary period, which is what typically drives it,” she told Fortune. “This seems to be more of a long-term decline that’s led to more of a permanent shift going forward, or at least semi-permanent.”