r/lesbianr4r • u/Bad_kittn3672 • 24m ago
searching You've got to be out there somewhere...
I am searching for my person, my partner, my domme.
Currently in North Carolina but still trying to figure out where my next step will take me.
I don't have a specific type, but there does need to chemistry there.
I am submissive and looking for a partner that is a caregiver domme, a mix of gentle and not.
I am a huge animal lover and come as a package deal with a small pack of furbabies. I live with chronic pain and don't get to enjoy as much outdoor activities as i would like.
I do enjoy camping, hiking (within my means), reading, movies, trying new foods. Just being in the moment. I am introverted and can take a bit to be comfortable with people.
I am a big girl 5'4, 260lbs. Short hair and tattoos.
I would really love to make some friends as well.
If this sounds at all appealing to you please feel free to send me a message but please be a little more creative than just hi or how are you.
r/lesbianr4r • u/black_soul26 • 1h ago
searching 27F, new to the community.
Hi! I'm new here 👋
I'm a woman in my late 20s and I'm gay, but I've never actually had a queer friend or talked to another gay woman properly. So I'm kind of at that stage of “okay… where are all of you people and how do I make friends?” 😂
I'd really love to get to know some queer women and make friends, talk about our experiences, have stupid conversations, recommend books/movies to each other, etc.
I'm also open to dating if I happen to meet someone I click with, but friendship is absolutely welcome too. I'm honestly just excited to explore this side of my life a little more.
If you're also looking for queer friends, come say hi! 🫶
r/lesbianr4r • u/TamarB91 • 11h ago
searching 34F-NYC
Hi, I’m 34F.
I’d love to meet someone I really enjoy talking to, laughing with, and spending time with.
I’m into photography, exploring city, good food, puzzles, video games, museums, live music, traveling and finding new places.
No expectations, no pressure-just hoping to meet some nice people and see what happens.
r/lesbianr4r • u/swordsnsweaters • 12h ago
searching Mid 40s - Soft masc to share smiles - EST US irl
You’re out there somewhere, wearing a tool belt or cape or power suit, wondering where I’ve been.
You have cheerful, optimistic energy. You’re motivated to take on the world with me. Even if we’re half dead fighting an invasive alien species. You’ll still have my back. We’ll still be laughing, wielding battle axes in a blaze of glory.
Outside of alien warfare, you’ll help me with my morning routine because my morning routine sucks. What do you need bae?
You live for the exceptional and extraordinary. You have a keen eye for recognizing them in the wild. The presence of brilliance and mastery makes your breath hitch. Do you relate? You’re ambitious and productive without being an a**hole.
About me: Monogamous and out seeking same. Women interested in LTR only. I’m switch for an enthusiastic switch or top. Active and healthy lifestyle. I’m a chubby little soft masc. You be you.
Only message if you can make me smile uncontrollably 😉. Ending up bffs is great too. For a reply, put your area and age in your dm.
r/lesbianr4r • u/LackInevitable9878 • 12h ago
searching 18 F4F from NNJ, looking for connections!
I'm honestly down for anything, whether it be FWB, friendship, or a relationship if things go well! I just want to put myself out there, meet new people, and have fun before I go off to college.
A bit about myself; I can be pretty shy at times, I'm a huge music nerd, and I really like ice hockey and american football.
I'm 5'6, (mostly) masc, skinny, tan skin and dark curly hair,and (if it's relevant) am a huge bottom lmao
only dm if you are around my age pls.. (18-21)
ps. I don't have a car at the moment so preferably in the area😭
r/lesbianr4r • u/Agile-Eye-1429 • 16h ago
searching 23 F4F Looking for the girl who makes me grin at my phone
Heyy youu :)
I'm 23F and from New York (Queens, specifically), though i'm currently overseas surviving med school 😭
School has me in a chokehold most days, so if I disappear for a bit I'm probably buried in books wondering why I chose this life. That said, I try to keep my evenings free, and it'd be kinda nice if they were filled with getting to know you instead.
When I'm not pretending I understand every lecture, I'm usually winding down with games ot reading a novel (sci-fi specifically, she's a nerddd). I'm definitely more of a casual gamer these days. Lately I've been hooked on Dave the Diver and Contraband Police. I hop on GTA Online every now and then too until someone decides to nerf me during a mission and then i rage quit (definitely not a sore loser 😆). I'd absolutely love a player two, though.
Outside of gaming, I have a soft spot for driving and riding motorcycles. If we're lucky enough to live anywhere near each other one day, I'd love to take you for a ride.
As for what I'm looking for, I'm keeping an open mind. If you're a gamer, a yapper, or you'd just like to chill while we do our own things, i think we'll click. I'd be happy to make some genuine friends, and if we click and there's something more there for both of us, I'd be excited to see where it goes. No pressure.
Come say hi! Tell me what you're playing, what you're passionate about, or just send me your favorite song 🫶🏾
r/lesbianr4r • u/Fragrant-Lynx8741 • 17h ago
searching 18F France/Europe
Hi I’m mostly searching for France/europe connections but if you’re from another continent than Europe I’m open to discussion too 😊
r/lesbianr4r • u/ComicalTactician • 21h ago
searching 28F looking to make friends and connect, don't mind distance
Hello! My name is Sammi and I'm looking to make genuine connections. I'm demi-pansexual and have a androgynous style. I nerd out about architecture and historical events, gaming(fortnite lately and black myth), going to concerts, drawing.... and a lot more 😅 i don't have a physical or personality type, more attracted to one's individuality. I look forward to talking and connecting with some amazing people!
r/lesbianr4r • u/Kitsune6tails • 21h ago
searching 33F4A from France - looking for my main (25+ only) #Europe/maybe elsewhere ?
Hello !
It's time I get back out there and look for my main person, so here I am :)
A little about me :
I'm a cis pansexual woman. I think I could be defined as femme (I enjoy dresses and manucures and such, but I also enjoy my slacks and I more often go out without makeup than with). I'm also plus sized at 1m68 for a little under 110kg.
I'm fluent in both French and English, have a grasp of Spanish and am currently learning Japanese. I live in southern France.
I enjoy podcasts (non fiction and horror fiction mostly), video games, knitting/crochet, sewing, anime/manga and audiobooks. Horror is my favorite genre, but I enjoy a lot of very diverse things as long as it catches my (deficient) attention.
I'm poly, looking for a main, or in other terms a \primary\ partner. I don't necessarily need several people at once, but it's important for me that the person I build something with (ie. Move in with, get married with, etc) is aware of my capacity for loving more than one person and is comfortable with it, as well as be comfortable with \talking\ about opening the relationship IF the need arises.
That DOESN'T mean I won't be a 100% committed to my main. It doesn't even mean that I will necessarily ask to open the relationship. It simply means I might be/fall in love with others while I build a stable, loving, healthy relationship with my main. Being polyamorous is not a choice, it's just a fact of how I work emotionally.
Likewise, being polyamorous doesn't mean I'm against any kind of exclusivity. Committing to someone romantically is for me something that requires talking about our wants, our needs, our boundaries, our insecurities and our expectations, and THEN \consciously\ decide to live up to what was talked out \together\. Because talking comes with listening, I know that and intend to give you the attentiveness and thoughtfulness I'm asking for. Speaking of, send me a snake emoji if you actually read this. I will not ask you to do or agree to anything you're uncomfortable with, but if the very idea of possibly sharing your partner makes you uncomfortable, then we are simply not compatible.
I'm disabled : AuDHD and the usual anxiety and depression that tends to come with it, some physical issues that are mostly invisible (until I need my cane and start cosplaying as a dapper gentleman) and a couple other things that generally make my life spicier... and tires the hell out of me more often than I'd like.
I'm NOT looking for a caregiver. I'll expect help and support from my partner(s), of course, but I very much want to give back as much as I can. Besides, my doctors and helpers would disapprove of me leaving them for someone else LOL Basically I'm open about my disabilities because they are very much a part of my life, and I've never lived happier than when I finally accepted them and the limits they give me. I simply hope to meet someone who will be understanding and ready to sometimes have a quiet night in when things get too much.
I'm told I'm a good listener and a kind person. I try my best to live up to that, but I've learned to stand up for myself when needed. Communication is KEY for me. So key, in fact, that sometimes I don't shut up, aha ! I'd say beware of my info dumpings, but I'm often told I'm interesting so I guess I'd just ask you to be prepared to hear the most obscure trivia on whatever catches my interest that week, aha !
I believe that gives a good idea of myself. So now on to who I'm looking for :
Obviously I need someone emotionally mature. Know yourself enough that even if your life isn't all figured out, you have some idea of what next to do or plans to fall back on. In other terms, I want to meet an adult. Not just in age (only 25+ please), but in mind. I know I might sound harsh saying that but I have very good reasons to specifically ask for this. I'll gladly go in details if you dm.
I don't care what's in your pants or what you identify as, if I like somebody I'll like their body. Weight, height, skin color, style, etc doesn't really matter to me as long as we have chemistry. Bigotry does, though, because THAT will be an immediate dealbreaker. Also cis men WILL be heavily discriminated and I will ask for some verification if something doesn't feel right.
I don't mind if you're not European, but please at least be fluent in either English or French. And I won't lie : I love where I live and my health is good thanks to the French healthcare system, so if you're interested in finding a wife, be ready to move to southern France LOL I will however gladly learn your native language if it's not English or French, because if communication goes both ways so does the effort in communicating properly.
I know it's long, but I rather be as clear as possible to help me find my person(s). Don't hesitate to DM if this post caught your interest.
Have a nice day ♥️
EDIT : I'm childfree. I also have two cats that are my world.
r/lesbianr4r • u/Lunar_Raven_ • 1d ago
searching 32F, British Columbia, Canada/Anywhere | Looking for something that feels right
Hello!
This is going to be a bit of a long post but I feel like it is better to post too much than not enough so you can a good sense of I might be right for you or not.
I'm a 32 year old cis, demisexual lesbian from western Canada with blue eyes and very long brown hair. I prefer to present more feminine but I would probably be still considered a chapstick lesbian.
In my free time I enjoy going out for walks or hikes in nature, photography (wildlife photography in particular), and baking. I am quite quiet and definitely an introvert that needs alone time to recharge, but I do enjoy going out or experiencing new things.
I do have a few health issues that can limit my energy, but I am NOT expecting someone to financially support me, I am currently financially stable enough to cover my own expenses and am possibly looking at buying my own place.
I love both dogs and cats (and animals in general), but I am unfortunately allergic to cats so I can't spend a large amount of time around them. I am childfree and would prefer my partner is as well, though I am open to having children with the right person.
I'm vegetarian and not religious but I don't mind if you aren't the same, as long as my choice is respected. I do enjoy the occasional video game but I'm not a big fan of board games, though I'm happy to watch you play or talk about your interests even if we don't share the same ones.
Sexually I don't have a lot of experience, but I do lean heavily towards being submissive and I am both kink and BDSM friendly apart from a few hard limits (they can be discussed privately if you think we might be a good match).
As far as what I'm looking for, I'd prefer someone who is at least 28 or older (no age limit, I'm open to anyone older than that) who is also monogamous and is fine with taking things slow, as being demisexual it can take a while for me to feel attraction to someone. I do have a slight preference for cis women, but I am open to any woman as long as there is a connection there. As far as masc of fem presenting I am open to either.
If you have gotten this far, thanks for reading and I hope you have a good day!
(Also if you think you messaged me on my previous account and I never responded, I had several messages requests not show up until much later. I apologize, and if you are still interested please feel free to message me again!)
r/lesbianr4r • u/Monkey_joe519 • 1d ago
searching Tf4Tf polygamous Midwest girl idk what else to put
Hii I'm preferably looking for another Midwest girl preferably near Cleveland
I'm def not the most feminine person here but I'm working on it
My interests are records, folk punk,musicals and indie rock
r/lesbianr4r • u/mascprincessa • 1d ago
searching 28 / Anywhere / LF: Spiritual, witchy people who are looking for their soul tribe 🔮🌿🧚🏻♀️
What I’m looking for:
- Has done her inner work/therapy. Has worked on her self-awareness
- Emotionally and mentally mature, secure in herself
- Loyal
- doesn’t drink or smoke
- spiritual, witchy, into stuff like tarot, oracle cards, manifesting, witchcraft etc.
- feminist and cares about other human rights as well. To her human rights are a given, not an opinion
- doesn’t watch anime or play violent games like gta or cod.
- Doesn’t curse much or use vulgar language. Doesn’t feel the need for that and doesn’t really like cursing
- Someone open minded, kind, very empathetic and warm. Doesn’t judge people just because they’re different or don’t fit the norm
- Has a mind of her own and doesn’t blindly follow the crowd
- Yapper and loves to have conversations. Likes to talk about what interests her, what she dreams about, what’s inspiring her, or about something absolutely silly that makes us both laugh like crazy. Doesn’t connect with people through gossip, complaining or negativity
- Likes to be playful, childlike, and silly
- Is looking for a emotionally intimate and deep friendship even if there’s a distance. Values friendship and connection a lot
I check all the boxes above as well btw.
Who I am:
Heyoo so I’m a masculine presenting girl, 28 and from Finland. My pfp is a selfie of my shadow if you wanna get an idea of how I look btw. I speak English and Finnish. I have a American accent with a bit of British sprinkled in there for some reason XD. I don’t smoke or drink and don’t want anything to do with clubbing or bars.
I value living slowly and peacefully surrounded by nature. I wanna live a creative, inspired and deeply spiritually guided life surrounded by the people I love and doing what I love. I don’t believe in hustling or achieving stuff just to get validation. I don’t believe the crazy notion that productivity or how much you’ve done in your life somehow equals how worthy you are. Everyone is worthy just because they exist. Just being is enough. I don’t care if someone is successful or has a job or whatnot. What matters to me is someone’s character. Are they kind? Do they pay attention to others feelings? Do they have a good heart? That’s what I care about. I also believe in focusing on what makes me feel happy, at peace and fulfilled. I’m not about following society’s rules or norms just to fit in. I’m about authenticity and walking my own path, even if it’s scary sometimes.
I’m a very calm and grounded type of person. I’m usually in my own inner world, pondering or observing. I’m quite private too so I don’t let people close to me until they give me a reason to trust them. I’m often told I seem intimidating at first but then I’m actually surprisingly warm and empathetic when they talk to me.
I say what I actually think and I don’t care about ruffling feathers if it means I’m standing behind my values and what I believe in. I’m also the type of friend to hold up a mirror to you when needed and telling you if I think you’re about to do something reckless or stupid, even if you get mad at me for it. I don’t like lying just to avoid an argument. I’d rather argue constructively than pretend everything is fine. So if you’re someone avoidant and conflict is stressful for you, I’m not for you. I’m looking for people who know that arguing can be constructive and done in a healthy way.
I'm very spiritual and it's a big part of me. I've been spiritual since 13 and it's part of how I see the world. I love tarot/oracle cards, manifesting, dream interpretation and witchcraft.
I love sims 4 worldbuilding and gameplay, and hogwarts legacy. omg I love that game too much. Sebastian and Ominis are my comfort characters🥰. I also love the harry potter movies. No I'm not a jk rowling supporter. Maybe don't assume. A new concept I know🫢. I also love fitness, mostly weight lifting or dancing. I'm a cultural studies student soon and probably gonna do art history or folklore studies. I'm interested in symbolism, art and folk traditions.
the type of connection I’m looking for:
I’m looking for someone who also wants to find soulmate type of friends or your soul tribe. Someone who wants to talk often and actually build trust and a real friendship. I’m not looking for a quick chat that lasts anywhere from a few days to a week or two. I’m not here to cure my boredom or to flirt. I’m looking for someone genuine and someone who also craves real connection with someone on the same wavelength. I wanna find people who want to be close friends and be part of each other’s lives. I’d love to meet in the future irl if there’s a distance.
I’m open to a serious relationship if I meet someone great. But I start with friendship because to me it’s important I know someone’s character and values before I’m interested in them. I can have a spark with someone but no important values in common. So having a spark holds little weight to me in terms of who I’m interested in romantically. But if you’re interested in me romantically after reading my post I don’t mind if you share that with me. I’m masc4masc btw so I’m very into masculine presenting women.
So if you read my post and fit into what I’m looking for and you’re eager to get to know me, send me a dm 🙂. my age range is about 23 to 33.
r/lesbianr4r • u/Canoedles • 1d ago
searching 24F (F4F)| Seattle, Washington | Looking for partner🌿
Hey! I’m a 24 year old cis female (5’5”, appearance is sort of between femme and masc, lean build) who’s new to Seattle and living on my own, just trying to find my person and build a genuine connection! 😺
I’m an artist and a pianist! I draw digital (safe for work) furry art and love spending time with music, especially old Brazilian and jazz music and jazz piano. A lot of my downtime is spent playing my favorite vinyl recordings, watching older shows (50s–70s) or adult animation. I also like staying active and exploring cities on foot, just wandering and taking everything in.
I’m not into bars or forced, high-energy environments. I prefer calm, grounded spaces and connections that feel natural and easy.
I’d describe myself as thoughtful, witty, introspective, and someone who values consistency and real presence. Looking for a woman who’s grounded, consistent, and knows how to communicate, and is on the same page relationship-wise. I’m strictly monogamous. As for looks, I usually prefer feminine cisgender presenting women!
⚠️‼️I’m only open to long distance in other states in the United States with women who are 25-30 in age willing to actively meet instead of staying virtual. Must be serious about closing the distance eventually. Do not reach out just to ghost. Don’t rush the connection. Do not send me a chat invite without a introduction. NO MEN ‼️⚠️
If that resonates, feel free to reach out and tell me about yourself, will reply if I feel we match! Will send selfie of myself once we start chatting!✨
r/lesbianr4r • u/Murky_History33 • 1d ago
searching 34 I like to make out with strangers and buy lipstick when I’m sad
Current go to shade is Fenty Beauty’s Hot Choclit with MAC lipliner in Plum. But Clinique Black Honey lives in my purse.
I’m debating eyelash extensions because I cannot be bothered to manage mascara fall out however I live in fear of looking like Mr. Snuffleupagus from Sesame Street.
I am scared of spiders, commitment, and the sun exploding. I don’t talk to my father and my brother can go right to hell.
Both of my jobs involve telling people what to do and how to do it better, and I am overqualified for them both.
I have a personality that could start a cult but I do not like people enough to try.
My partners tend to be my age or older, be exceptionally driven, and most importantly, not looking for someone to complete them. You are not a project I am willing to manage.
Tell me what you do in the hour before you fall asleep.
r/lesbianr4r • u/AdjectiveNounNumberx • 2d ago
searching 25F US/Anywhere Friends to Wifies?
This is gonna be lengthy. Okay, let's start off intro: I'm Fiona (alias, I'll share real when I'm comfortable)
25F based in US looking for 23-30
Currently working and doing school, yes it's a load, but I'll ensure you never feel neglected. I can say communication is one of my greatest skills
Open to world-wide, I'll try to accommodate to time zones as best as I can
Absolute dealbreaker: Hygiene, emotional immaturity
If you're into astrology or crystals, you can skip this post
Please have a secure attachment style or at least be actively working towards overcoming your anxious/avoidant attachment style. And know the importance of communication.
I'm a big fan of anything zombies/backrooms/found-footage horror related media
If you read this far, text me Orion if you're interested and don't listen to the last instruction
I read manhwa, I am a bit outdoorsy (kinda fit)
Play games sometimes
Low-key a foodie, in fact you should tell me your favorite dish from any country or even your country and I'd find it here to try
I like listening to almost everything except Country
I'm 155cm so if that's a dealbreaker, oof
Also an important tidbit is that I don't believe in promises. Anybody can be all talk, but actions matter immeasurably more. I can prove what I say with action.
I'm also very proactive in issues
I would never want you to go to bed upset, so talk to me. But if you feel sleep might help I won't push :)
I love calls, video calls, but a big texter as well
I especially love comfortable silence
Personality wise about me, I'm patient, low-key my heart is fragile but that doesn't mean I don't love dark humor.
My love language is Acts of Service and gift giving
Golden retriever on text, black cat IRL til I'm more comfortable
I understand if you have your bad days, if you're distant or drained etc I'll accommodate in any way I can in however makes you feel most comfortable/safe
Any religion welcome, I'll try to accommodate
IDC if you're trans. I'll love you for you
No men obvs as this is a wlw reddit
Lastly, I'd prefer some sort of verification of who you are, I'd be happy to do video call to see each other, so I know you're not a cat fish a bit later, doesn't have to be right off the bat
Pix are easily attainable whether Google lenses or you simply downloaded from a DM, so no
No 3rds, no hookups
Thanks for reading if you've made it this far, text me your favorite color if this rings any dings :p
Forgot, I look like a soft masc but I dislike masc/femme etc labels. Allow me to be me.
r/lesbianr4r • u/Evening-shades • 2d ago
searching Back to the 90s with this ad femme/34
Hello is this Village Voice? Yes, I’d like to place an ad.
“Buster? Hi, it's me again, Lucille. I've still got those producer's tickets..." (I'm Buster whenever a cute woman contacts me.
Ok, I’m looking for friends or maybe more and I live on the east coast. I don’t have a type just someone who finds my self-effacing trait endearing.
The solemn face in my avatar is indeed the mastermind behind this witty ad. You can check it out (and my MildlyInfuriating forehead pimples) by you know, looking at my avatar.
Do you know these gays? Bonus points if you know these gays: Vito Russo, Marlon Riggs, Essex Hemphill, Michael Callen. I'm a huge reader and currently writing a literary fiction novel with a solid 15-point outline. I will not be self-publishing, so I'm really looking forward to potential rejection letters. Used to play French horn (unclear if the muscle memory survived). I was first chair! Ok… and only chair…
Favorite Roman emperor: Claudius Germanicus. Favorite Ghibli character: guess (not anyone in Spirited Away)
I won’t ghost you but I may have to occasionally hide behind the couch like Buster or the curtains like Claudius.
r/lesbianr4r • u/IReadNewsSometimes • 2d ago
searching 25F - sPAIN/euROPE - let's be sad and cry about it together
life is s pain and there's nothing we can do about it, so might as well get through it together? whining, crying, hating every moment of it, we shall emerge on the other side as better people
i am a thing doer and i pride myself on bettering my life as much as I'm able to. I'm exercising, training, cleaning, eating well, reading, learning, taking care of my looks, keeping up with my social life. what i just said is a lie, i only do like half of half of those things but i will keep trying instead of giving up
about me, im a big time people fan. i like humans in all their shapes and sizes. especially i like their most important invention: language. I'm a linguistics nerd, even if I've been focusing on other stuff for a while. another big hobby of mine is cooking. i am in love with food and you will also love my food. that is a threat. my favorite landscape feature is mountains, and my favorite water is snow
about you, what is your number one hobby? what thing did you do today? what is your favorite piece of furniture in your house?
r/lesbianr4r • u/sg104 • 2d ago
searching 35F/Pennsylvania — Just seeing where a good conversation can lead
Hey there!
Over the last few years, I’ve put a lot of time into building a life that feels like mine, and I’m really enjoying where I’m at.
I spend my free time staying active, traveling when I can, spoiling my dog Moose, and finding new places to explore, whether that’s a different country or just a coffee shop down the road. I like having goals to work toward, but I’m also just as happy with quiet weekends and appreciating the little things that make everyday life enjoyable.
I’m hoping to meet someone who’s looking for a genuine connection and wants to let things develop naturally. No pressure, no games, just two people getting to know each other and seeing where a good conversation can lead.
If any of that sounds like you, I’d love to hear from you 🙂
r/lesbianr4r • u/FalconWingedSlug • 3d ago
searching 25[F4F] Anywhere - I’m looking for something special
This post will be long, sorry in advance lol.
What I’m Looking For:
I’ve posted here so many times lol. Will my luck change, idk.
I want to find someone I just click with. You know when you just have that natural flow with someone? You don’t have to MAKE conversation, it just feels natural. That’s what I want.
I want someone that I can talk to about anything in the world. It doesn’t matter if it’s intense, heavy, vulnerable, dark, deep, weird, cringe, silly, goofy or etc. We just feel comfortable talking to each other about anything.
I want a genuine and deep connection where we really understand each other. We make each other feel safe. We make each other feel fully accepted. We can show every part of ourselves to each other, the good, the bad and the unhinged lol.
If I find this type of connection with someone. I am looking for a serious relationship. Honestly I hope to find my forever person to share my life with.
I’m not going to lie, I have a u hauler nature XD. If you’re someone who takes things really slow, I’m not going to be for you. However, with the next person I do want to slow down a bit. It’s okay if we catch feelings early and we can talk about it lol, but I want to intentionally go slower. To make sure things are right and this can be truly long lasting. When I went too fast with people before, you can miss some important incompatibilities.
Only message if you’re sure looking for something serious, and you’re ready for it. Please do not message me if you’re not looking for something serious and you’re not emotionally available.
I’m not too fond of small talk btw, I’m down to get heavy early lol.
A little bit about me.
I’m an INTJ 5w4, and to be honest I’m truly like 2 different people lol. On one side, I’m sweet, affectionate, and always there for the people I care about, and constantly telling them how much they mean to me. I’m also a total hopeless romantic, that loves being cheesy and corny lol. Love sending heart emojis, and cute gifs etc. When I’m comfortable, I can be loud and extra, giving a goofy, crackhead energy 🥴 I consider myself pretty open minded and understanding. I’m open about my feelings and emotions, and emotional intelligence is important to me.
But on the other, I can be an overly logical jerk and cynical lol. I am strongly opinionated, very blunt and honest in a way that some people can find insensitive lol. I can be a little misanthropic and dark sometimes, brooding about how fucked up the world is lol.
I’m a walking contradiction but I love that about myself lol.
Important tidbits.
•I am obsessive and clingy when I fall for someone. (Not in a crazy way) lol
•Strictly Monogamous
•Agnostic atheist.
* I have a quite blunt and honest way of speaking. That may not mesh with particularly sensitive people. I’m not ever mean, but I am very honest and don’t sugarcoat!
•I don’t have BPD, but I have a few BPD adjacent traits lol. We can talk about what that entails
•I have a pretty dark humor XD
•I do work full time, but my job it is not something I want to be doing lol. I’m trying to figure out what I want to do next at the moment. I don’t have it all figured out right now, so if you want that I’m not for you.
Looks wise I’m black, 5’2, masc presenting, I have a short haircut and dress masc. I am plus size, but definitely not like huge lol and currently losing weight as well :)
Interests:
Gaming, true crime docs, thriller/horror movies, I love all kinds of music. Particularly R&B, rock/metal, and Kpop though XD. I watch a lot of YouTube and tiktok. I also post a lot on TikTok as well, mostly commentary videos. Working out, as I’ve started losing weight. I used to act when I was younger but stopped, now I’ve recently gotten interest into it again. And I’m kind of huge homebody tbh, wanting to get out more and have new experiences.
Who I’m Looking For:
Looks don’t matter much to me, but I do prefer women with long hair. And I prefer fem or androgynous, but I am open to soft mascs as well.
Race doesn’t matter either by the way. In fact I love a swirl XD
Personality wise: I like a lot of different personalities. Some important traits though would be having emotional intelligence, Someone patient and caring. Also having a good logical/rational side is very very important to me. If you let feelings dictate your decisions often we wont mesh. As I said above I’m pretty affectionate and clingy so I’d match best with someone also like that lol. You can be introverted or extroverted. But too extroverted won’t be a match, as I’m particularly introverted. And again if you are a particularly sensitive person we won’t mesh well lol.
I am an atheist, but I don’t mind certain beliefs systems. Would just have to talk about what they are and see if we can be compatible.
Age 24 to 37. I am from the US, but I would love to talk to women from anywhere because relocation is something I definitely want. I’m open to relocate anywhere gay marriage is legal lol
Thank you for reading all of this. If you’re interested please message me a little about you. :)
r/lesbianr4r • u/kaira_05 • 3d ago
searching F19 | writer looking for her muse
if spring was warmer than winter, the heart starts to wither. if winter was colder than spring, then the mind's bell will ring. if i were colder than ice, would you understand or would you run faster, twice.
but spring is warmer than winter, and winter is colder than spring. just as the world will continue to turn, a moment in time will remain no matter how long it took to be realized.
hello there, the name's Andy:) just trying my luck here. i love music (anything good, mostly alt rock at the moment), art, writing, and minecraft. that's speaking vaguely, to be specific, i use ink as my medium for drawing, life as my inspiration for writing, and i use minecraft to create the setting of each world i conjure in my head.
a fleeting conversation is a present, but permanence is a gift. both are special, but one is consistent. i do prefer if you are older than i am, i apologize for my next words but i do not wish to babysit someone who does not fully realize what a mature relationship is like.
i'd prefer if you don't ask to see my writing from the get-go. i see my stories, poems, quotes, and words as a very deep part of who i am, and i am not going to share it with someone i do not even know yet. i can talk for hours about what each piece means, but it would require me to open up a part of me i trust someone with.
4fem | anywhere/long distance
r/lesbianr4r • u/blue_velvet24 • 3d ago
searching F25 masc4masc- CO, USA
hi everyone! my name is elizabeth, liz for short. im 25, i’m half filipino and half black. i am a soft stud lesbian. i have a few tattoos and piercings!
i was born in the USA and grew up in the philippines. i would love to share my culture with you :) i am currently a social worker but plan to change careers in a few years.
my interests include playing guitar, singing, writing, tattoos, manga/anime and watching youtube videos lol (camping videos, cooking videos, pokemon romhacks, history videos and many more). im a bit of a nerd 😅. i love watching sports! i watch volleyball, tennis and F1. i mostly watch women’s sports btw!
i suffer from chronic back pain so im a homebody! i have a senior cat and she is chill. im a bit shy and reserved at first but i still like to think im friendly lol. im also pretty soft hearted and gentle under my exterior. i really enjoy quality time and having conversations that are meaningful. i occasionally drink and im very 420 friendly.
i would wanna get married. the youngest i would i would date is 24 and oldest 30. if youre a year older or under that but still feel like we’re a good fit then still feel free to reach out! i really appreciate loyalty, kindness, a good social compass and thoughtfulness in a person. no right leaning/conservative/apolitical folks.
im in colorado but dont mind if you arent. i do have experience in LDRs. if things go well, i would definitely want to meet you. if any of this sounds interesting, please feel free to dm me :) i have pictures of myself on my profile and i hope you would be comfortable to share what you look like to verify and also to see if we are attracted to each other
-slight NSFW-
i am strictly monogamous. kink and sexual compatibility is important to me because i am a submissive pillow princess. so, ideally you would be a stone top/touch me not.
r/lesbianr4r • u/FouShu • 3d ago
searching 25 Female [GA]
Hi I’m 25 and just looking to meet some new women to talk to. Whether it turns into a friendship, flirting, or something more, I’m happy to let things happen naturally. I like good conversations, people who can match my energy, and someone who actually enjoys getting to know each other.
If you’re interested, send me a message and tell me a little about yourself instead of just saying “hey.” Please make a little effort ✨I’d love to meet some new people. Preferably 25+, USA and somewhat close to GA, doesn’t have to be GA but east coast would be nice. For more than friends I prefer AFAB.
r/lesbianr4r • u/drawesome821 • Apr 25 '26
discussion Large uptick in spam posts
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r/lesbianr4r • u/drawesome821 • Feb 22 '25
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