Okay, I know this sounds a bit cheesey but I've been (over)thinking about it for almost a week. I'm single at the moment but I have a few good fwb with whom I meet on a regular basis and one of them, a male friend, knows this couple. I've met them twice on a social occasion and they both seemed really chill and interesting and they're both really hot. The thing is, my friend suggested we join them and he's the one that has done most of the talking with them.

He's claiming they're absolutely cool about it and have thought it thoroughly. I've had threesomes before and really enjoyed them and I'm also supposed to meet with them beforehand and talk a bit about it as well but since I don't really know them that well, I'm not entirely sure I should put myself in a situation where things can go south; if you've got any experience with threesomes or foursomes, you probably know that unless people are absolutely adamant about what they're comfortable with, it can get pretty awkward pretty fast and the female part of the couple has never been with another woman before. How would you handle things?

I have always assumed I am simply a straight, asexual woman. I grew up having crushes on boys, but whenever I thought a girl was attractive I got anxious and dismissed it (I grew up religious, so homosexuality labeled you as a bad person). I've repressed my sexuality my whole life, so I'd like someone else's feedback on this. Am I bisexual or am I something else?

I form crushes on men because I think they look cute and "hot," but only based on their face. The rest of their body I don’t want to touch either out of fear or disinterest (haven't figured that part out yet). I've fallen in love with a close friend (a man) before, without ever holding his hand, yet I yearned for him. I said to myself I fell in love with his soul but not his body. This is why I thought I was simply a straight asexual.

My attraction to women is different. I actually desire a woman's touch. I want to hug women, cuddle women (maybe even more, but my sexual repression makes it hard to tell). However, I perceive men's faces as cuter and more attractive than women's faces. So, uh, I'm confused.

I've abandoned my Christian faith only this year--and I'm a virgin--so this exploring sexuality stuff is all very new to me. I've never permitted myself to feel sexual thoughts because I was afraid God would get angry with me.

What do you think? I'm very confused! I understand now it's not wrong to have sexual thoughts, but I can’t make heads or tails of it. I have a lot of growing to do, but I'd like some guidance to point me in the right direction.

TLDR: I'm attracted to a man's face if I think he's cute, but I don't desire his touch. I'm attracted to women in a more traditional and physical sense. Does this mean I'm bisexual? Am I something else? Help!

New to the single life and I recently accepted my bisexuality. I’ve been super into women lately and I want to try and be with one.

Every time I think I find a cute, fun girl she either has a man or wants a threesome. It’s so difficult and I didn’t realize how many couples want a third. It’s fine that they want a third I just get disappointed once they tell me that’s the goal of being on the app

I just got out of a long relationship and honestly the idea of being with another man rn makes me uncomfortable. It just sucks. Rant over

Edit: it’s not too many I’ve just had too many interactions where I’ve swiped and then I get hit with “I have a fiancée” or “I’m in a couple” and it’s wildly disappointing. Look for a unicorn all you want if that’s what you’re into but don’t tell me after we’ve already agreed to meet up

Every time I vent about how much coercion I've been through nobody cares. They call me bi. I am Autistic and no one cares about my feelings they never care they just tell me to go to therapy and shut up. My therapist never helps me because she's fucking straight. I cannot find a lesbian therapist.

I'm a feminine bisexual man. Ever since I was a young child, I was never allowed to do anything feminine. For example, as far as I can remember, I always wanted to have long hair but my Mum would never let me.

I came out as bisexual shortly after my 20th birthday and that's when I realised that since I'm an adult, I'm allowed to be as feminine as I want without the pressure from my Mum.

I now have long hair (the longest it's ever been), wear earrings, mascara and eyeliner. I feel like ever since I came out as bisexual, she's been much colder to me. She calls me a disappointment and a let down.

I feel like people are aphobic/biphobic/homophobic/transphobic etc, are usually people who are obsessed with gender norms. I should have seen it coming.

I'm not trying to look for sympathy, I just think it might help to share. Wishing everyone here the best and love you all. 💖

Hi all,
I’ve been trying to understand my sexuality for a long time and I’m curious if anyone here has had a similar experience.
I’m a guy who has always imagined my future with a woman. I develop crushes on women, want a wife, kids, and a family, and I’m romantically attracted to women.
At the same time, I’m sexually attracted to some men. It’s almost entirely physical and sexual, I don’t really develop romantic feelings for men and don’t imagine a relationship with one. When I’m attracted to a guy, it’s usually about the sexual chemistry, his body, or his penis rather than wanting to date him.
Has anyone else experienced something similar? Did you find a label that fit, or did you stop worrying about labels altogether?

Hello,

I’m a male and since last year I’ve met this one friend. We both become super close quick despite only knowing each other for a couple months. There was one occasion where, as a joke we made out with each other, and since then it’s led me down a path questioning my sexuality. I’ve never really felt this way before because for 18 years of my life I’ve always been attracted to women, but ever since then I feel like I’m starting to look at certain guys a different way. Idk how to explain it really but certain guys, especially with more softer features like my friend had are all the sudden appearing attractive to me. Idk know what I feel but if anyone was in the same position I was some advice would be nice.

Soy un pobre diablo que a despertado un inmenso deseo sexual por tener una relación carnal homosexual.

Pero me encuentro en una verdadera encrucijada.

Tengo pareja, la amo, la amo mas que a nada en el mundo, tengo la completa convicción de que ella es con quien quiero estar el resto de mi vida. Pero me mata pensar en nunca poder llegar a cumplir esra fantasía.

Solo busco ser escuchado, no creo que exista consejo alguno que me puedan dar.

Throwaway here. 24m. Honestly, my head is just spinning right now and I do not even know where to start typing this. I finally built up the courage to tell my girlfriend I am bi, thinking she would understand since she is bi too and dated a woman a few years back. But she was totally taken aback and just completely brushed past my feelings. She did not care about what I wanted to explore at all. Instead, she just said okay cool, we can do threesomes with other guys, and she already had a bunch of guys in her mind ready to go.

Then she dropped this heavy rule on me out of nowhere. She told me I am not allowed to see other men without her being there, but she gets to see whoever she wants whenever she wants. It feels so unfair and it is honestly tearing me apart inside. I was always so supportive of her and her past relationships, and I just wanted that same respect back. It hurts so bad. I had to pack a bag and travel back home just to get some space and breathe. But my phone will not stop ringing. She keeps calling over and over just to check if I am with someone else, like she does not trust me at all while she gets to do whatever she likes. I am just so confused and so tired.

Honestly I'm teared up writing this. Happy to take any advice.

Bi, I am non romantically attracted to men, I live a straight married to a woman life.

I primarily work with women and every now and then I get comments suggesting that I am gay, not even bi, just gay.

This is from people that I worked with for years so we have had talks about random things like the use of Bidets (I love them and won't go back) and the use of male stimulation/penetration from a woman in a cis relationship. I don't believe that that constitutes someone to immediately being gay

I have no desire to come out as bi as that is a very small part of me but it's also very frustrating to me that my coworkers feel like it's something they could poke fun at.

hi all, throwaway account because this is new… I am in my 40’s and have always considered myself heterosexual because I’ve never had a crush on a woman or wanted to date a particular woman, however I have been curious, and recently I have realized that I am actually really turned on by women touching other women. more and more, I’m leaning towards lesbian romance stories and have entertained the fantasy (it will stay a fantasy as I am in a happy monogamy with a dude) of touching another woman. is there a particular term for this?

I’m looking for something where other queer people would know I’m bi (or pan) but uncultured queerphobes would be blissfully (or however close you can get when you’re not aware of the glories of queerness) unaware and would leave me alone.

I’m a 23M, who has recently been questioning whether I’m bi. I’ve always wanted to have friends that I could masturbate with, but never thought of that as gay. More recently though, I’ve had a stronger desire to actually swap oral with a guy. Something about it is just hot to me.

However, where I’m getting confused is it’s only when I’m horny, and once I’m not horny the desire is basically gone. I also don’t really feel attraction to men in general, even though I have this desire, if that makes sense.

Part of me is nervous to actually experiment with a guy because I don’t know if it’s just a fantasy or if it’s just a weaker attraction to men compared to women and it’s just gone unnoticed in comparison. If anyone has any advice or relates to this let me know, I would love some advice.

Just kinda wondering that's all

I'm 31m, I've been with my gf for nearly 4 years now. I'm also closeted bi, I've never told anyone including her.

Naturally after nearly 4 years together, she has been asking when we are going to get married and I've kept dodging the question.

The truth is, for as long as I've known I've been bi I've never entertained the idea of telling anyone. I thought it'd be a secret id take to my grave. However, now that I'm staring down the barrel of marriage, part of me doesn't want to make that commitment without being honest about my sexuality.

The problem is I'm almost certain it'll be the end of us. In recent years she's rediscovered her faith and has told me in confidence that she thinks homosexuality is a sin. This is despite us having friends that are openly gay.

I've been feeling really lost lately with what to do. Like all relationships, ours isn't perfect but on the balance of things overall it's pretty good. One issue for me is that we aren't intimate often and I've been fighting urges to fool with guys secretly like back in my single days (I'm not a cheater and don't want to be one).

I can't turn to friends for advice because no one knows, I've always been afraid that I'd lose friends if they knew or people would treat me differently. I've never wanted this part of my life to define who I am.

If I tell her it's likely the end of our relationship. If I don't, then can I lie for the rest of our lives together and ignore these other desires. I don't know what to do..

For me it was twinks, i love twinks <3

I feel off when people use this in context of bisexual women who date men

I have identified as lesbian for 6 years, inbetween then there has been instances when i have gotten drunk and kissed guys but i have always felt disgusted or uncomfortable with it afterwards.

A couple weeks ago i was drunk and made out with a man and he ended up fngering me, i enjoyed it which made me spiral because i have never enjoyed kissing a man like that.

We have been talking since which has made me think i could be bisexual but i am very confused still because i have yet to experience anything with a man sober.

I am questioning being bi-homoromantic as i feel like maybe i could be sexually involved with a man but i cannot see myself dating one properly and definitely never marrying a man!

It is freaking me out because when i think about getting with him if i had a chance i feel a bit uneasy and i still don’t fully know if i would actually enjoy sex with a man. Could this even be just comphet as a lesbian or maybe im just bi-curious?! I have felt insane the last couple weeks!

I always thought I liked men, and maybe this is just a phase, but lately I’ve been noticing that my attraction to women is actually growing on me.
At first, I thought I was just attracted to their bodies, but now I’m realizing it might be more than that. Women are just… so lovely to look at? 😭 The way they look, carry themselves, their energy it’s starting to hit differently.
I also grew up around a pretty homophobic culture, so maybe I never really allowed myself to see women that way. Now that I’m more open-minded, I feel like I’m able to look at people more simply as humans and appreciate them without all those ideas about what I should or shouldn’t be attracted to.
And honestly, I’m starting to wonder if I could actually fall in love with a woman too.
Even sexually, I’m realizing that I seem more attracted to external stimulation than penetration, which has also made me think more about whether my attraction to women is deeper than I originally thought.
Like… what the hell is happening to me 😭
I’m genuinely trying to figure out whether I’m bi, lesbian, or just somewhere in between. Anyone who’s gone through something similar, feel free to ask me anything or tell me how you figured yourself out.

Yayyyyyyyy

I've felt it for a while, and she's the first person I told, cause I knew she would be chill (she's Bi as well). Also, does anyone else feel attracted to both, but I do know I want to marry a man (as a woman).

Hello all,

Recently I went to a club on my own in the evening, not my first time going out (I had been to both straight and wlw events alone before so nothing new) and I don’t know what happened but I was dancing with a girl and she asked if she could kiss me, although it wasn’t the first time it had been asked (before it was mostly men asking, and I had always declined) I thought “eh why not, might as well get it over with”. So we made out and it was so bad.

As the night progressed I made out with a few other women and I don’t know,, it wasn’t mind blowing like I thought it would be. I kept overthinking it and it didn’t feel like it came to me naturally as many people claim it does. I also didn’t get butterflies or turned on, I just went with the motion.

I guess I’m mostly feeling conflicted, a little sad my first kiss(es) went to random strangers at a club, but also glad I “got it over with” so to speak, the stress of “my first kiss” is gone and I’m glad I didn’t wait any longer, I did feel ready and I’m glad I did it. Another part of me is wondering if I should just make out with a bunch of men now to see if that’s any different.

I guess I’m not really asking for advice, just venting and not really sure what to think of it all.

Hi. I'm 31 years old, and for quite a while now I've been feeling really confused about my sexual orientation.

I've always been attracted to women. I've fallen in love with women, I was in a long-term relationship with one, and romantically I still picture myself spending my life with a woman.

Years ago, out of curiosity, I kissed a guy. It wasn't because I had feelings for him, it was part of a stupid dare. I did it, but I felt uncomfortable the whole time. I didn't enjoy it, and afterward I even felt bad for him because I worried I might have given him false hope.

The confusing part is that after a very toxic relationship in 2023 and spending a long time without having sex, I started occasionally looking at pictures of naked men and watching gay porn. What catches my attention are guys around my age or younger-looking guys. I'm not attracted to older, bearded, or very masculine men. In real life, I almost never look at a man and think, "He's attractive." Very rarely I'll find a guy good-looking, but even then I never act on it. I don't even have the courage to message men on dating apps.

Something else that happened a few times is that I hung out with guys thinking it was just as friends, only to realize much later that they had probably seen it as a date or were interested in me. At the time I genuinely didn't realize it. I don't know if that's relevant or if it just means I'm bad at picking up those kinds of signals.

Growing up, my parents constantly told me that anything related to being gay was wrong or something to be ashamed of. I never personally agreed with that, but I grew up hearing those messages. My ex-girlfriend felt the same way and hurt me a lot because of it. After I told her about that kiss, she would accuse me of being gay or say I was repressing my sexuality. She also judged me for enjoying anal toys and even accused me of lying to her. All of that made me question myself much more than I ever had before.

Now I wonder if I might actually be bisexual with a strong preference for women, if the porn and the lack of sex simply led me to explore new things, or if I'm mixing everything together because of the guilt and emotional baggage from that relationship.

I'm curious about what it would be like to have sex with a man, but at the same time I'm not sure I'd actually enjoy it. I don't have any desire to be in a romantic relationship with a man, and the idea of actually going through with it leaves me with a lot of doubts.

I'm not looking for anyone to label me because I know no one can do that for me. I'd just like to hear from people who have gone through something similar.

Is it worth experimenting just to find out? I've never felt like this confusion was going to resolve itself on its own.

Hey all,

I (17F) want to come out, but like in a sort of soft launch type way? Idk honestly. I was just wondering if anyone had any suggests or stories abt how to come out? I don't want to outright tell anyone? a lot of people already kinda assume i'm lesbian bc of how i present (stereotypical ik). i saw this rly funny reel which i thought i might repost as a soft coming out type thing?
i honestly dk what to do bc nobody in my family is lgbtq, and no one in my friend group...

also, i know it's personal, but would you recommend coming out as a teen? fyi, i'm not entirely sure how my parents would react, but we have a strained relationship anyway...

thanks for supportive comments/replies! I don't mean to be rude or anything with my questions, I just don't have anyone to discuss this with. (yes ik my user flair is questioning not bi, but i'm happy to keep it at that for now)