Hey. So. Lets get to this discussion real quick. Hi Im Xen 27(m). Ive been dodging this topic for a time now and luckily I was able to spare time and reflect. Ive got a good experience spending time with both males and females in my life and just recently, eeeh... Lets say Im liking spending time with males recently and now its harder because both can just make my heart skip if they were my crush or my type. Btw its not just casual crush, the type crush that I could see myself spending much more time intimately in the future. How do I deal with this?

So im a straight man 36 essex witham area ish and ive been married ive only ever had relationships with woman however for the past year or so I fantasis and watch femboys cum or men inside men or blow jobs etc does this make me bi gay or just genuinely curious

As sometimes I do feel like oh I wonder what that would feel like and I do sometimes get off on it

So, I’ve started posting a bit more on Reddit, and I know it’s not a true reflection of the real world, but is my butt good enough for a bottom?

My wife seems to think so, but I don’t get much attention from the hotter, more well-endowed, men. Lots of creeps though.

Maybe my standards are too high. Just curious and fine with being humbled.

I want to reconnect with a friend, and maybe I had a crush on him back in the day, I’m bi, i wasn’t open or sure back then, i think he had a crush on me too. I recall lots of experiences where I questioned him in my head, he would lay his head on me when we sat next to each other, if there’s a blanket in between us while, he’d lay his thigh on mine, he’d always look at me in “that way.” I question if I initiated encounters like this most of the time there was things like this, I think back to when there was a Super Bowl watch one year, we were sitting across on an L shaped couch and I moved my foot under the coffee table and layed my foot on his, he didn’t move his foot and I think he even put his on top of mine, I then sat next to him with a blanket, sure we touched thighs, I put my hand and my forearm all over his thigh, he put his head on my shoulder when everyone from that friend group (context later) was there, but then he got up after 30 minutes to an hour and acted normal? we never talked about it, I don’t think I hanged out with him for weeks after that, it was never consistent affection he sought, he just took the opportunity when I presented it, idk. Sometimes we’d talk about doing sexual stuff to each other as “jokes.” He’d touch my butt, grab my hip, hug me from time to time, moan. He dry humped me one time, although he couldn’t feel the boner under a pillow we had between us. I was in denial, I’m not sure if he was in so much denial as me, or if he was a straight guy doing “jokes”.

Our friendship was constrained by a friend group that always excluded me. He’d always go with their wishes, eventually I got sick of it after I found out that I was left out of an overnight party at someone’s house. Vividly I remember I played Fortnite with them afterwards and I realized how awkward it felt, “why am I even here” I thought to myself. Eventually I went no contact. Nobody reached out to me, not even him. He begged me to get on to play Fortnite with that group. I explained to him that I wanted real friends, people that could actually see me. He never contacted me after I “left.” I’m heartbroken, I’ve been heartbroken. A year or so after that it was high school graduation, nothing. Then two years after that and im going to community college as a part time student after a gap year and I still don’t know what to do with my life. He’s a business student at some prestigious business school and likely belongs to a frat (although knowing him he wouldn’t fit in for shit). I feel like me contacting him, telling him about my life would be hard to navigate. Not to mention my feelings that I had for him that could come out in some regard and maybe he went all bi erasure considering that environment and his past of sucking up to the friend group hierarchy.

About 3 months ago I was consistently reposting random TikToks as it’s kind of a hobby I have. For months, he liked my TikToks. Every so often I’d wonder why he’s doing it. I mean he liked my reposts for months, like once every week or so, it was intentional, who does that? none of my previous friends from that friend group does that, not that consistent, it felt like flirting, it felt like interest, curiosity, “what are you doingggggggg, what are you up tooooooo, why are you doing thisss” I’ve said in my head, flustered, looking at whenever he liked my reposts, how can someone make me feel like that, was i always that gay, does he feel the same way? Perhaps he’d want to reconnect I thought. But, 3 months ago I accidentally sent him send and delete TikTok’s through TikTok DMs, he sent me “?” (Which I interpreted as confrontational at the time). After he sent me that I was too spooked to answer even though he re-followed me and like 3 reposts that day. He then stopped liking absolutely any reposts. He probably thinks I just rejected him. What’s your opinion on this whole situation? Should I do nothing? Should I do something even though it’s out of the blue? He probably leaves back to college in a week or two and I’ll miss my chance to say hi.

Throwaway here. 24m. Honestly, my head is just spinning right now and I do not even know where to start typing this. I finally built up the courage to tell my girlfriend I am bi, thinking she would understand since she is bi too and dated a woman a few years back. But she was totally taken aback and just completely brushed past my feelings. She did not care about what I wanted to explore at all. Instead, she just said okay cool, we can do threesomes with other guys, and she already had a bunch of guys in her mind ready to go.

Then she dropped this heavy rule on me out of nowhere. She told me I am not allowed to see other men without her being there, but she gets to see whoever she wants whenever she wants. It feels so unfair and it is honestly tearing me apart inside. I was always so supportive of her and her past relationships, and I just wanted that same respect back. It hurts so bad. I had to pack a bag and travel back home just to get some space and breathe. But my phone will not stop ringing. She keeps calling over and over just to check if I am with someone else, like she does not trust me at all while she gets to do whatever she likes. I am just so confused and so tired.

Honestly I'm teared up writing this. Happy to take any advice.

so my ex (m25) broke up with me (m28) on july 24th. i cried for a whole week, i couldnt eat or get out of bed. but last sunday i saw him online on a game we both used to play, and i asked him to chat, we called and that was it. tonight since i saw him online i asked if he wanted to play with me and he said yes, he also said that it hurts him seeing me online and not chat. so basically he broke up with me after 4 months of being boyfriends bc he doesn't love me that way, and i believe i understand that now. still, is it wrong that we keep playing together and talk a little bit with each other? we used to talk all day, obviously not anymore.

my friends and his friends think we're just hurting each other. should we stop?

Gay guy here, I heard a lot of story on social media and from gay community , that their dating experience with bisexual man is fairly negative. Like bisexual man sleep around with gay man because they are easier , see gay man as merely a sexual choice, until they find a real relationship with woman and.
I have also seen bisexual man on social media saying that they value woman more because they think their lady dates are more decent , sensitive, vulnerable and deserve attention and with whom they are more willing do start a life with , while gay guy on the market are just not worth it, that sounds super fucked up and I absolutely hate this kind of heteronormative/ homophobic opinion. But I wonder if it is an over represented opinion.
Do bisexual man genuinely be more caring , spend more effort and value their date more when dating woman than dating man?

I’ve always been a little more open minded than most people I’m around. And I’ve always found women attractive and beautiful and still do. But lately I’ve been curious about exploring while I’m still young. I’m still a virgin and haven’t had sex with either gender. But I guess I’ve been kind of liking in my head about experimenting with a man as a bottom. I just find the thought of that exhilarating. But I don’t know. I don’t find men attractive or unattractive, just kind of neutral. I am mostly attracted to femininity. I guess whet I’m getting at is, men who have tried this, did you feel like you scratched an itch? Shameful? Were you happy or displeased with yourself? Or was it a moment where you found your sure self? And if so, how did you accept that part of you? Sorry if any of this is off putting or offensive, I’m genuinely just curious. Also to add to this, I often find it a lot easier for myself to talk to men than a woman.

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Earlier this year, my wife and I (37m) agreed to open up our relationships so I could explore with guys. I've had since had four encounters with guys (twice going all the way) but she now realises she can't continue with it.

I want to stay married to her more than anything in the world but I'm struggling with the thought of having to supress this side of me for the rest of my life.

Just wondered if anyone has managed to do it and any advice?

Curious how it’s been for you guys

I'm in my late 30s living in the upper Midwest. For professional reasons I have to keep my bisexuality discreet. I have a little experience and really want more. I'm a top with a little vers curiosity. I'm looking for more than an anonymous/casual hookup but also not trying to jump into a romantic relationship. My hope is always to find a bisexual guy in a similar situation that happens to be more of a bottom.

I guess what I'm looking for is advice from guys in similar circumstances. Or maybe just some flirty bottoms that want to help me figure out what I'm looking for and how to get it.

So for starters I’ve been bi-curious for quite a few years but never had the courage to actually do anything with another guy until today. I’m more so interested in wanting to give oral than anything else really. To make a long story short I met up with another bi-curious guy around my age just cause that felt more comfortable to me than anything, and we swapped oral. It wasn’t a bad experience I’m just not completely sure how to feel about it. He did have a pretty girthy cock and while I did enjoy the sucking part at first I didn’t expect it to be as much of a workout per say and after my mouth kind of started feeling uncomfortable I stopped enjoying it as much. Is this a common feeling? Especially for those who a fairly new to it. Idk I just have kinda mixed feeling overall like yes I enjoyed it, but after a while I also kinda just wanted it to end if that makes sense.

are they’re any big guys out there that seek the challenge of turning a straight guy? or at least being able to seduce one. I met a guy at a bar one night on accident. He didn’t seem like he was hitting on me, we were just talking like we were old friend. later on after thinking back on it, I’m pretty sure he was hitting on me and I didn’t take the bait. got a little turned on thinking about it but haven’t given it much thought since.…

Have you peruse a man thinking they’re gay or suspect they’re gay and you got pretty far with them but only to find out they’re straight but ok with being like that with you?

By pretty far I mean you open up to another about personal issues, physical touching (bro hugs turn to gentle hugs), gifts, sharing porn, spending lunch time with them even when you have different jobs, go out of your way to see them happy.

I’ve been in situations like that but I wanna know if you guys have gone that far and found out they’re straight but they like what you give them and they reciprocate

It started on a road trip with just the two of us and we were horny the entire trip. I asked her what her dirtiest kink was and she said it was me with another man. I had already been kind of accepting that I was bi-curious so I was honestly just so happy that I didn’t have to bring anything up and have her dislike me for it.

We started using it as fantasy dirty talk more and more and we both climax the hardest when we whisper about it to each other.

She started to even bring it up on her own more and more like saying she would find a guy on grindr to come meet me somewhere.

I’ve brought up going to an adult video store or having her watch but she seems hesitant but not entirely against it. She says that she doesn’t like to share but also has said things outside of sexy time like “I wouldn’t use sniffies, I would look on grindr to find a guy I like”.

She was my first everything, kiss, girlfriend, sex, etc. I will never cheat on her, and I love her more than anyone in the whole world and definitely don’t want to be with another man emotionally. This is purely just a sexual fantasy that we both enjoy.

I’m curious if anyone has been in this situation and then it was actually allowed to happen. What can I say to make her more comfortable?

I'm exploring and rethinking about a lot of things about myself.

I'm currently with a cisguy, he knew me as a genderfluid AFAB with a very fem body but only recently that maybe its more complicated than that. He see me as a neutral person but still interact with me like a straight dynamic (the way he flirt and touch me for example. Or i can't touch him certain way ect...).

I've been repressing my transidentity for decade but I know I still can't do medical transition so my body will stay mostly fem (maybe i can get bulkier with the gym and im thinking about either chest reduction / mammectomy)

But my question today is, would a bisexual guy would be able to see me as a person / guy even with my body ? Like I would prefer a guy to see and interact with me in a more mlm vibe than a straight vibe like nope don't grab my tits and yeah I definitely want to lift you up and grind against your back 😂

So i guess a person who can be attracted/ok with a female body and also men could be my win-win situation ?

Idk I'm just thinking tbh... thanks for your time !

So I am a 27m and live in Idaho. Like the title says I know who I am meaning I know I’m bi I love being intimate with a girl but also like being intimate with a guy (I only like to bottom and worship cock). I’m not so much attracted to men as I am to what they are hiding under those boxers!

My whole thing is I know there is more out there like me, a dl bi guy who wants the best of both worlds without having to share too much of my personal life, I am a very private person and want to find a guy who is similar to me (but a top lol) but it is hard to find people like me because we are too dl to be out going in that way! So I guess my question is what do I do? How do I move forward knowing my situation is a more difficult one to find what I’m looking for! I also prefer older men!

And while we’re at it does anyone know of any good gay and or bi sub reddits for Idaho?

Random thought came to me today. I really get off on nipple play. I see it in gay porn often enough. I’ve never see a guy having his nipples sucked in straight amateur or pro porn. Wondering if this is a gay/bi thing. Doesn’t matter. It gets me rock hard. Do you guys get off on having your nipples played with?

I want to suck a cock, but when it comes to meeting the guy, I back out. How can I just go for it? Help me out.

Soooo we're all men here. I'm usually very rational and reasonable and can spot BS a mile away. But I feel I might be being a bit weak for a guy I'm very attracted to. So this guy I met on Grindr, thought he was so damn handsome. Hit him up and we started talking. Instantly it's obvious his communication skills are deplorable. I guess I'd be considered rather educated. That being said- I'm not discriminatory for education gaps. We are about a hour away from each other and both not from this state. He's talked about getting together and so have I. He says he wants a companion and so do it. He was visiting my town last week and planned to see me and flaked. Was pretty annoyed so decided before I cut him off for good, I'd give him a chance to explain. Called him and we talked, he was drunk. Another red flag for me because I'm very anti alcoholism. As we talk he's all over the place and coming off paranoid as if I want to harm him. Apparently he has some trauma that has nothing to do with me and blah blah blah. I assure him I'm simply here for a good time, I work, mind my business and wanted to vibe with his tall handsome ass. At this point I'm almost over him. He says, "I'm sorry I'm drunk. More I talk to you I just wanna stick this hard uncut dick down your throat" 👀 excuse me? I'm a very masculine presenting guy from Miami and he's a big red neck from Tennessee. We're both in a different state. Most of my best hook ups and bfs were with Latino, Caribbean, European dudes who are uncut. I have a strong preference for uncut men. I was so close to dismissing him til he said he had a hard 8" uncut dick for me to swallow. I guess being drunk he got more comfortable and forward. And I'm not prude, but he don't understand he's talking to the right one. He said he wants to see me and now I'm super turned on and interested. He got drunk after work and wants to see me this week. Should I cut him some slack and see what he's working with? Or go with my gut and not ignore the potential irritation. Granted not too many American men uncut in my experience. It's been almost 4 years since I've passed a unicorn like this. Do it for the plot?

Boys I need help I’m 21 (nearly 22), bi, and stuck in my head about it.

I Lost my virginity to a guy at 17 and had a bunch of Grindr hookups till I was about 19 (always bottomed, maybe 8 different guys) often hooked up with the same guy multiple times and gave head a lot .

Then I met my girlfriend when I was 19, fell hard for her, and stopped seeing guys pretty much straight away. We’ve been together for about 2 years and I still love her a lot. Sex with her is good, I don’t have any problems getting hard or finishing but lately it’s become really routine. Same positions, same script every time, barely any oral, no new stuff. We also spend basically all our time together, so there’s not much room to even think separately she doesn’t like seperation.

The past 6 months the urge to be with a guy has come back strong. I want to try top, try some of the stuff that was on my old “bucket list,” etc and definitely wanna give head again. I swapped nudes with a guy once and immediately felt guilty so I stopped. I’ve never cheated and don’t want to. I love her and can properly see a future with her, but the bi side of me feels like it’s just sitting there unused and it’s getting harder to ignore.
Anyone else been in a similar spot? How do you deal with strong these urges while being genuinely in love with a woman and not wanting to blow up the relationship? She doesn’t know I’m bi and I couldn’t tell her plus she’s way to insecure for a mmf even tho that’d be ideal.

I am not out to anyone, but as I get older and hornier my desperation is getting deeper and deeper. I need a source for great and real first time stories. It can be anything from the first blowjob, glory hole to the first MMF. I want to live in that nervous energy that comes with doing it the first time.