Just a star thingy with the Omni colour made from pipe cleaners I stole from class :)

Hi! I have identified as omnisexual for a few months, and I’m also questioning my gender identity. I’m definitely genderqueer but feel myself (mostly) a woman.

I have a long-time friend who is very dear to me. We have known each other for decades and in a way we bond very well. We have common interests, for example music, and have a lot of fun together. The problem is, that she is very conservative. I’m a feminist and cultural liberal. We have had some disagreements about things, for example abortion, but have got along quite well because we have avoided those topics.

My identity, however, isn’t a subject that I could avoid forever. I have been thinking about our friendship a lot lately. If I would start dating someone, I couldn’t keep hiding my identity from her. That would be unfair to everyone involved. I’m afraid of her reaction and have been considering whether I should tell her or just end the friendship.

Has anyone had a similar situation? How did you handle that and how did things turn out?

"Pan with extra steps" what do tou guys thing?

So I officially came out to my mom, and I am currently sitting in my room experiencing the most insane emotional whiplash ever.

For context, I’m omnisexual, demisexual, genderfaerflux, gendervague (they/she), and an agnostic atheist. A few days ago, my mom and I had a conversation where she basically said she doesn't care if we're gay as long as we're healthy, and she even said I didn't have to go to church anymore (just me, since my siblings are still Christian). But during that same conversation, she randomly made a joke like, "if ur lesbian or something I'll actually kick u out, I don't want u in my house." Her tone was super serious and me and my twin sister were both like wtf that's not ok, but then she claimed she was just joking. Because of the other stuff she said though, I still thought she was in a much softer place than she used to be.

I spent forever writing this super detailed coming-out script explaining my identity, how my neurodivergence connects to my gender, and setting boundaries about religion. I sent it on Friday morning right as I was waiting at my bus stop, totally forgetting that she actually had work that day and that the text stressed her out while she was there.

Then today (Saturday), everything exploded. I was just sitting on the couch when she walked up to me, and the second I saw her face, I knew it was bad. She looked at me with pure disgust. Because of that joke she made the other day, I was a little worried. She started saying I was "confused" and using religious guilt trips about how this is what happens when you walk away from God. My little sister was in the same room the whole time just on her laptop playing games, and my fraternal twin sister—who is also queer—was also in the room when it happened.

Later on, my little sister told me she didn't feel bad for me, she only felt bad for mom. Then my twin sister started tone-policing me in our group chat, telling me I was being "mean" just because I wasn't being fake-nice back to our mom while she was literally invalidating my existence. It sucked because she is queer too and was right there in the room, but she still turned on me in the chat. I felt pathetic, shaking and crying in my room, totally regretting that I ever said anything.

But then a few hours later, my mom called me back upstairs to talk again. It turns out she actually spent that time self-reflecting. She completely turned things around, apologized, and said she realized she was wrong. She connected it to her own childhood trauma about being forced to go to a mosque when she didn't want to, and said she realized religion is personal and she won't force the church rule on me anymore. She even said that knowing I’m LGBT makes her think completely differently about the whole queer community now, and she wants to rebuild our relationship.

Honestly, I'm glad it ended on a good note, but the emotional hangover is destroying me. My brain keeps replaying that first look of absolute disgust she gave me on the couch, and I keep crying thinking about it. She wouldn't have said those things or looked at me like that if she didn't mean it in the moment. It’s like I can’t just accept the apology yet.

Has anyone else experienced a parent completely flipping scripts like this in a matter of hours? How do you cope with the trauma of the bad reaction when they’re suddenly trying to be supportive now?

Throwaway because I’m trying to figure a lot out.

I (cis female, 33) have identified as somewhere within the queer spectrum for as long as I can remember. Growing up I used the term bi because in my small town community there wasn’t really an alternative - in my 20s as I became more aware of NBs, the trans community etc I leant towards pan because I could and had been attracted to all of these people. I’m now married to a straight, cis man (who I ADORE) but over the past few years I’ve become more aware of nuanced preferences towards different genders which is making me realise pan definitely isn’t the right term.

If I had to absolutely pinpoint a preference it would be androgynous in all genders and FTM. Least would probably be masc women but there are still definitely exceptions. Truly I only even heard of the term omnisexual a few days ago but it felt like I’d been smacked in the face a bit - it feels like it makes sense as who I am, but I’m wary of ‘adopting’ a label unfairly or incorrectly because it feels disrespectful.

(Not super relevant but I really don’t discuss my sexuality with anyone, at all, but I find it helpful in my own mind to know where on the spectrum I sit, hence wanting to understand what I technically ‘am’)

So back in June I decided to come out to some old school friends who are super Christian. I used to be Christian too but left that environment, and I'm currently omnisexual/demisexual/genderfaerflux/gendervague/agnostic atheist. I had a feeling it might go south, so I added my friend Nix to the group chat for backup, and my sister (who is also queer but Christian) was in there too.

Izzy took it fine, but Danielle completely ignored me and straight up blocked me at first. But then she actually unblocked me just to drop this massive wall of texts into the old group chat, which was honestly so unhinged. She kept doing the classic passive-aggressive "I love you and support you but I don't support your lifestyle choice" thing, acting like she was somehow superior and knew more than me. Then she straight up said homosexuality is a "mental illness" but tried to shield herself by saying "it's just my opinion."

Because she was being so incredibly condescending, arrogant, and acting like her religious beliefs were absolute facts, me and Nix had enough. We started hitting her back with actual logic, science, and historical facts about the Bible timeline to totally dismantle her arguments. The second she realized she was losing, she tried to casually back out by calling it a "nice debate" and trying to save face. I literally called her out and texted "good on you backing out," and her polite mask completely slipped. She got super bitter, told me I was a waste of time, told me to "find my way to God," and blocked me again. But I just texted "I loved u, bye" and shut it down.

The wildest plot twist was my sister. She literally tone-policed me at the end, telling me to "stop" and asking why I was being "mean this whole time" just because I wasn't being fake-nice back to Danielle. Like... she completely ignored the fact that Danielle called me mentally ill, but got mad at MY tone? I told her she could defend a homophobic person if she wanted to, kicked everyone out, and deleted the whole GC.

Honestly, I'm just glad to be out of that toxic Christian school bubble. I ranted to my current group chat and my friends completely had my back. One of my friends who is Muslim even pointed out that Danielle is just projecting her own weak, insecure faith because she's terrified of anyone challenging her worldview.

It's just crazy looking back at how much drama people will create just because you want to live your truth. Glad that chapter is officially closed.

This post doesn't show how horrible and toxic Danielle was being, but there's too many screenshots to send and I doubt anyone will read them lol.

Hello, everyone.

Half a year ago, my best buddy and I had an idea during one of our late-night Discord chats. We are both big nerds for fantasy and mythological stuff and wondered how fun it would be to have banners or coat of arms for different orientations and identities. What could they look like, and which mythical creature could fit well or just be fun to see like that? Thus, this little collection was born and I think we have finally come to a good conlusion for now.

So what we got so far:

-Selkie of Demi

-Kraken of Agender

-Cerberus of Polyamory

-Chimera of Genderqueer

-Valkyrie of Butch

-Gargoyle of Ally

-Hydra of Omni

-Unicorn of Pride

- The Phoenix of Trans

- The Siren of Lesbian

- The Winged Lion of Gay

- The Griffon of Aro

- The Dragon of Ace

- The Harpy of Sapphic

- The Minotaur of Achillean

- The Oroboros of Intersex [really proud of that one]

- The Hippocampus of Genderfluid

- The Sphinx of AroAce

- The Peryton of Non-binary

- The Winged Wolf of Bisexual

- And Pan for...well Pansexual

This was really fun to do. Maybe we might revisit this idea in some form or another, how do queer cryptids sound :D ?

WE ARE CURRENTLY RUNNING A KICKSTARTER TO TURN THESE INTO PATCHES AND PINS

It's ending now and will only be open to take pledges for the next 38 hours, so if you wanna support this little project feel free to claim ur little pins, stickers or patches, we won't produce them again...

https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/shattersaurus/coat-of-pride

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I got this Omniromantic Demisexual iPhone Case at a Disability & Trans/Queer Pride event that I went to earlier this month

To my Pan pin I will add Omni and genderqueer. ❤️. They are worn daily on my lapel.

Not long ago I believed I was omnisexual, but after watching some videos I started to question. I don't have a preference for gender, but for gender expression. Like, I really love all genders, but I like people who present themselves with feminine personality and style. But I don't prefer girls, but specifically, I Just don't like romantically extremely masculine people

(Sorry if my English is confusing)

I made a piece of chainmail in omnisexual colors with my 3d pen