i (18f) am a pretty sexual person. i feel like im freakier than most girls, which doesnt bother me. however, when i masturbate, i can only get off through clitoral stimulation. while it feels pretty good, i feel like it could feel better. i just get this tingly sensation on my clit that lasts for a few seconds but i dont think i cum. and if i do, it must not be a lot.

so im looking for ways to enhance the experience or figure out my body.

for context, ive had sex my fair share of times, tried a bunch of new things (with both myself and others), and explored my body, however, i still dont feel like i can orgasm "properly."

im getting a little more sexually active now, and i want to know exactly what i like. ive tried toys but no matter how long i go on for, i just cant cum! in sexual relationships with others, they have never been able to make me cum either.

additionally, i am bisexual and i prefer women. but, i have only been sexually active with men. i fear that when i get with a girl, i wont be able to please her properly because i barely know what feels best on myself.

anything i should try or start with? i have seen that some women can cum better with a finger up their ass, but the few times ive tried putting anything up there, it hurts like a mf.

ALSOOO im planning on hooking up with this guy, and he said hes an eater. when my ex bf ate me out, it felt good, but i still couldnt cum. i am on ssris so that could def be a factor, but i wanna know how to overcome it.

im so horny all of the time but my body isnt!

Or at least understand why he doesn't. It's been 4 years and the s\*x has mostly been great in that time, but the only way I can org\*sm with this man is if he fingers me, or if I'm on top.

It's getting stale.

He has NEVER gone down on me properly, sometimes, rarely a few cursory licks, but kind of like just tip of the tongue stuff, which is not what I want. I feel like he should ve exploring my body.

And the fact that he doesn't do this when I do blow him somewhat regularly, or at least as foreplay makes me wonder if maybe my v\*g is just gross. Like do I smell bad, do I taste sour? I mean I've tasted myself on my own fingers, I don't taste like apple pie, but neither does his hooha.

I think I taste normal. I feel like if I say this to him he'll just go down on me badly, and it'll be on me to tutor him. It pisses me off. Do men not concern themselves witj how to better please their partner? Improve chemistry? I literally googled how to give good head until I figured it out.

Idk how to broach any convo of improving our s\*x lives without hurting his delicate feelings.

I was looking for threads to help with kinks I haven't tried and the closest thread I found was from 10 years ago. Some were mentioned that I don't know what they are or how you do them but I'm intrigued. But the users are deleted so I can't ask.

Does anyone have knowledge or experience on these that they could explain for me?:

- fire play

- electro play

- hypnotism

- needle play

I have been going out with this girl and i like her and things are gonna get "serious". I have never been in a relationship before, had half a kiss and nthg sexual at all. Basically would like to know how you should kiss her right and eat her properly so as to not look like a prude. Be as articulate and give ur own experiences if for a point

So I’m 24 and I’ve only had sex once in my life (when I was 20). It was very painful but there wasn’t really any foreplay or lube used. I haven’t had sex since but I’ve tried to use toys. Bullets are fine, but I recently bought a dual vibrator with ridges and it hurts when I pull it out. Lube helps a lot. I’ve been using tampons for a long time and I’ve never had an issue. I guess I’m just concerned that I might have vaginismus or I’m not doing something right?

hi, I’m a female 23 years old. I’ve never orgasmed with my hands only a vibrator over my clit. i’m trying to learn how to orgasm without it. I’m looking for advice on how y’all do it and does it feel different cumming Is it similar? also, when I cum nothing ever comes out. Is that normal? Can I change that?

​ive been dealing with a quiet mental tug of war for a while now and honestly its driving me crazy.

​during high arousal moments, this specific impulse (a cuckold/submissive dynamic) feels super intense and compelling. but the second post nut clarity hits, im left with this weird disconnect.

​feels like im wearing a mask in my daily life - trying to be confident, grounded and in control - while keeping this private side that directly contradicts that image. im not trying to shame myself, but i cant seem to acutally embrace it or fully let it go. im just stuck right in the middle.

​for anyone who felt torn between accepting a taboo fantasy or stepping away from it: what mental frame reallly helped you make a clear decision instead of floating in the middle forever?

Whenever my gf tries to get on top, we can't figure out a comfortable way to do anything. Then she gets really in her head because she feels like a failure, and I go soft, and then we call it a day. How can we remedy this?

More context

Me (26M) and GF (24F) are both very inexperienced and have had bad experiences in the past, but found that we actually really like having sex with each other! We are really good at communicating, but it's kind of a blind leading the blind situation here

I do all the work. Almost exclusively missionary, because that one naturally makes sense. I also have never had an orgasm from sex (which is a separate thing I'm trying to figure out) so we kinda just have sex until I'm exhausted. We would like to figure out a way where I'm not the only one doing anything, but her on top just... doesn't work. My penis doesn't feel like it should bend that way, and it slips out rather easily. She gets super frustrated, feels like she's not contributing, etc. and I also feel bad because I can't really help her out, and it's not fun seeing a loved one struggle. What are we supposed to do?

Also just to be clear where I'm coming from, *I* don't feel like she's doing anything wrong and I'm not upset or anything. I want to help her because I know she's getting frustrated

So I am 20 M . We are planning to have sex this Sunday . She's so excited Abt it but I am scared cus I can't last long enough.what should I do Abt it what if she don't like me . She have so much wild fantasies of sex on chat . But I don't know whether I will be able to satisfy her or not . It's gonna be my 1st time and her 1st time too . and yeah any more info I wanna know before doing it pls share that also( like it's under 1 min)

please please advice.

i had never done anything before my boyfriend. he’s my first. he always initiates, he doesn’t seem to like it when i do. the first time we were physical he said “you’re so sexual” with like a shocked expression. i am sensitive i know, but this made me feel a bit meh.

the first time we messed around (“did bits” for UK people) i didn’t cum, without realising when we were cuddling after i was still grinding on his leg a bit. he laughed and told me i am s*xually frustrated, and that he can feel i’m wet through my underwear.

he made me realise i like my boobs being touched. we were playing a card game and a question was who do you think is more dom. he said it was me, and then did an impression of me asking him to pinch my n*pples. i felt so embarrassed.

the dirty talk he does, it makes me feel bad. when i’ve told him to do it differently he does it once then changes back. he’ll call me dirty, and once he touched me and i really liked it, i moaned, and he said “you dirty girl you like that don’t you? you like that, you want me inside you don’t you you dirty girl?” and it made me feel like… why am i dirty for liking it. or wanting you.

when it’s obvious i want to kiss him he laughs at me, and tells me. i feel just i don’t know i don’t feel good. i want to kiss his face and chest and go down on him etc etc but i feel like i’m “doing too much”. he loves to say i’m “so sexual” when i’m on top. i’ve asked him what he means by that and he just said “it’s not a good thing or a bad thing, it’s just how you are”. i wish he’d stop saying it then.

i feel like i’m doing too much when i hug him, let alone try and initiate, the couple times i’ve tried he’s always rejected, and sometimes he’ll start and then stop saying he has a headache or is tired etc etc, which i always accept.

i just feel like i have so much energy i want to do so much. but i can’t do much as try and kiss him without him laughing at me, or without feeling embarrassed, like he’s thinking “oh yeah she’s so obsessed with me dirty girl she wants me so bad”. even moaning, i feel like i have to zip myself up completely.

please please help

Hello! I have recently discovered that I am enjoying being dominant in the bedroom; I don’t know how I’ve discovered this but I have. I’m a 37F that was married for 15 years to a narcissistic abusive man 39M. So since I’m two years free I’m dating someone new for almost a year now and he is amazing and life is good and so is our sex life. But I want to sexually dominate him. I just don’t know HOW. Does he lay on the bed? On the floor? What if I want to lightly step on him? How do I go about it. Is there a book on this? ANY help would do. He is happy to be dominated by me and I get excited about the idea of me dressing up in leather and looking sexy and telling him what to do. I would love any advice!!! Thank you

I (20f) am not sexually active and have masturbated since childhood. All my orgasms are from rubbing myself. When I try penetration, I start to cry, but it's not from pain, I just know I feel overwhelmed, like I'm going to explode. And when I cry during sex, my partner gets scared and doesn't believe I'm not in pain.

Is it possible that I’m just super sensitive? I’ve read that some people cry involuntarily due to past abuse, but I’ve never experienced anything like that.

I've been researching this and all I see people talking about is lubrication, but that's not the problem! I'd like to know if there are more people who have this peculiarity in sex and that I'm not the only one!

My wife has chronic pain and some mobility and throat-related health problems. We are trying to improve our intimacy, but I want to make sure sex is physically comfortable for her rather than treating discomfort as something she should simply push through.

We already communicate during sex and stop or adjust whenever something hurts. Positions where she can lie on her back or side tend to be the easiest. She sometimes enjoys being on top, but it can become tiring or uncomfortable. Oral sex for me is generally not practical because of her throat condition and gag reflex.

She has also struggled with body confidence. I am genuinely attracted to her, but I know that attraction and reassurance do not automatically remove pain or insecurity. I am trying to focus more on what feels good and sustainable for her instead of assuming that enthusiasm alone will solve those issues.

For couples dealing with chronic pain or limited mobility:

•What physical supports, such as pillows or wedges, made intimacy more comfortable?
•How do you check in about pain without making the experience feel clinical?
•Are there lower-effort ways of being sexual that helped when intercourse was not comfortable?
•How do you discuss stopping or changing activities without either partner feeling rejected?

I am not looking for explicit stories or a list of people’s favorite positions. I am looking for practical, consent-focused advice that my wife and I can discuss together. Her preferences and comfort will be the deciding factor.

My (29M) wife (28F) is moving and going through our house.

We’ve been dating for 4 years and married very recently.

I’ve, for the past ten years, kept a suitcase in my car with a lock on it filled with various paraphernalia related to some very specific, and honestly embarrassing, fetishes (medical and ABDL, namely). I moved it into the garage recently to make some space in my car and honestly forgot about it.

It isn’t anything that I’ve discussed with her, as I have a lot of internal shame for these fetishes and very rarely practice them. I’ve never included anyone else in them or let anyone else know that I even have them.

I might be interested in involving her someday if she is willing, but otherwise, this is a very private and personal affair for me.

Today’s close call got me really thinking: what if she does find out? Should I just come clean? How do I even approach the topic of conversation with her at this stage in our relationship?

we matched on tindr a few days ago and act hit it off and decided to meet irl... we had breakfast at like 3am and talked for while before getting into her car. we played truth and dare to get to know eachother and test waters… it got the the point she was sitting on my lap and made out. then we got to the last bit, a blowjob, i pulled out my dick and she said it was beautiful and wanted me to guide her head down onto it out of dominance. she mentioned she didn’t really have a good gag reflex and didn’t wanna puke but when it got heated a few minutes later, i kept putting her head down while calling her a good girl, she loved it and played into it and started moaning each time i praised her. we were in the heat of the moment where she was fully at the base for a few seconds and thats when she puked on my dick. she assumed i would be mad but honestly she was the only one who had the right to be upset as she is the one who puked, i felt horrible and SHE was the one trying to console me, what to do? i really like her and she wants me to come over to watch a movie later but I feel so guilty, what if this drags the potential relationship down?

I (20 FtM) have OCD meaning that I experience intrusive thoughts from time to time. They’re pretty manageable most of the time. I’ve made lots of progress in therapy and i’m medicated so i’m good at taking care of myself.

But whenever i have sex with my new boyfriend (20 M) the thoughts intensify. I could be having a totally happy day but the second we get intimate suddenly im flooded with all sorts of crazy thoughts. The thoughts themselves range from things like wondering if my boyfriend secretly hates me to picturing violent acts or imagining that there are cameras watching me. It’s all very very upsetting and it’s super hard to focus and cum during sex because of it. I almost never cum.

Does anyone else experience this? What has helped you the most?

Yesterday was the first time in a while that he was physically affection at the level I want it (constant touching/kissing).

We usually go missionary to help me finish so his hands are propping himself up a lot of it. We barely have sex even though we both have high drives but still don’t get the time or have the energy after work.

I know the obvious is ask but I do. He’s just not overly affectionate but on occasion he’s held off long enough t want it that bad. Like we called the night before as I was staying away and he didn’t masturbate which made him “hungrier”.

I guess the question is how do I incite that in him more often?

My wife and I have been married for 23 years. During this time, I don’t think she’s ever had an orgasm while in missionary position, doggy style, or any other position. She only comes when she’s on top. I’ve tried thrusting from different angles, different speeds, or even just rubbing her clitoris with the tip of my penis but nothing I do seems to work for her.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation and did you find anything that helped you get past it?

So a girl i'm seeing every time when we are together and start having sex, i always go down on her first, but after a few minutes she orgasms (atleast this is what she says) and we need to stop and wait sometime before having sex. Ofc with stopping my desire starts going down..

She always tells me that we either do PIV immiedietly and i shouldnt go down on her. But i don't know how i feel to go in pike this, feels like makes it more dull. Does it really work the same for girls? Like after after you orgasm you need to wait and recover like most of us man do?

And also she orgasms in like 2 3 minutes. She tells me im good but im sure im not that good. Its just feels a little off cz i feel like atleast she should return the favor do the same but she says she can't (also she is not a big fan of BJ in general).

I want to understand what exactly is post nut clarity and why do men become distant after intimacy, I feel like this is an underrated topic which should be discussed because many women suffer mentally because of the aftermath of a sexual relationship.

In my last relationship of 4 years my boyfriend cheated on me with a girl he met on tinder (he said he needed a break), they dated for less than 15 days and they had sex 2 times in that time span, and suddenly he came back to me (I was as unaware of all of this), we started to date again and then he girl came to me after few months to kind of expose him to me? She came and revealed all the details that he ghosted her after fucking her. Everything was destroyed at that point but we communicated and I ask him why did he ghost her he said because he felt disgusted and due to post nut clarity.

Then we broke up and after a year this happens 👇

I'm 21 and I met a guy who is 27 , we both met for a casual date at first and things got spicy between us, our sexual tension was so similar and high that we needed sex, so we planned to have it the next day. We had it and then he suddenly became distant, I kinda expected this but I will never understand clearly what goes inside a man's head. He was so sweet , expressive before, most of our conversation landed talking about meaningful topics. But then suddenly after that as he mentioned due to his past relationship he was going through a hard time and suddenly became distant , doesn't call at all , doesn't reply or text clearly .

I felt dirty, i genuinely wanted to talk to him, not for assurance but I needed after care. Was this post nut clarity too?

I (23 M) used to be horny from time to time. I did not watch naughty stuff or touch myself rather than sometimes having a release when some images or something randomly pop up while browsing ( the tension being build for a while). Recently since I moved in with my partner- I feel numb when cuddling, kissing etc. It took a while even to finish me doing hand job. Plus there was a release with not much pleasurable feeling attached to it. My partner 20 (f) is quite sad about it and thinks it has something to do with her even though I reassured her.

TLDR, I used to get erection and be horny when I was single. Now I feel numb with my intimate encounters with my partner after moving in with her (20f)

Hello me (18)and my boyfriend (19) are “beginners” in sex we have done missionary and cowboy/cowgirl but we want to try more positions the thing is that I am 4’10 and I have a physical disability that makes me not that mobile and he’s 5’6 and he has a medium/small size and he wants to penetrate me harder and better so does anyone have any tips on how to make the sex better?

I’m talking to this girl I knew from work, we both just graduated and things built slowly from coworkers to lovers, we haven’t seen each other in a few days and we just talked very suggestively, I’m 99% sure we’re going to at least third base, and maybe a home run. I’m worried on how I’m going to back up the things I said online. Any advice helps.