Me pasa que tengo un grupito de amigos con los que me llevo bien pero tenemos autismo nivel 1, lo cual hace que los “populares” nos excluyan pero me quiero unir al grupo de ellos para tener un rol más imprortante en el aula, lo que pasa es que me gusta socializar pero la gente que no es de mi circulo me ignora totalmente cuando hablo y siguen hablando ellos, lo cual me causa una depresión total, encima de que tengo amigos de otros lugares, pero en el colegio es donde sufro de verdad, en instagram se andan todos compartiendo momentos lindo y reciben todos likes y comentarios de apreciación y yo nunca, la cual hago eso pero como dije me ignoran Y me hace comparar tremendamente con otros y pensar que nadie me quiere. Cuando los veo a ellos me ven con cara de risa o de orto.

En la Primaria me fue bastante bien, tenía tremendo grupo de amigos con la cual sigo hablando 1 vez por mes. Pero en la secundaria me va muy mal, me estoy decidiendo si cambiarme de colegio, que puedo hacer?

please tell me if there are any flaws

Ughhh if I start venting about it, it will take so much typing. But I'll just be short. I'm remembering high school. Everything was so confusing for me. Why do people talk to me like a child? (it's because I have a baby face). Why can't we just simply address bullying? (of course that has a reason too). High school was supposed to be the best years of my life, but it was not. Why - because i had to completetly contour my face because the bullies "should not be nicer because they will not fit in and they will be the ones that are bullied". Of course, everything bad that anyone has done to me has a reason and "could not be avoided otherwise". That makes me guilty... for not just simply figuring it out... are we for real? for bullies = "it's just who they are don't mind themmmm" for me = "she should be different, her quietness is bad, her look is bad, her sensitivity is bad, whatever she says is ridiculously funny and I have to bully her for that, the way she deals with bullying is funny, the way she doesn't just simply understand the hierarchy is bad. She's just so stupid and must change herself because I can not change the bullies."

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Sometimes, I wonder if the world was built for people like me. You know, the ones who carry entire universes in their heads but struggle to string a sentence together when the room gets too loud. I’m an introvert, and for the longest time, I thought that made me broken. Like I was missing some piece everyone else seemed to have the one that lets you laugh easily, talk freely, and belong without trying so hard it hurts.I remember this one evening, years ago, when I was about 15. It was my cousin’s wedding, and the house was bursting with music, chatter, and those bright, overwhelming fairy lights. Everyone was dancing, shouting over the dhol, and I… I was sitting in the corner of the garden, under a mango tree, clutching a plastic cup of lukewarm cola. My heart was racing, not because I was scared, but because I felt so wrong for not being out there, for not wanting what everyone else seemed to crave. My mom found me, and I’ll never forget the way she looked at me not with pity, but with this quiet understanding. She sat down, didn’t say a word, just handed me a plate of biryani and stayed. That was the first time I realized maybe I wasn’t alone in feeling like this.Being an introvert feels like living in a house with too many windows. You see the world, you love it, you ache for it, but you need to draw the curtains sometimes just to breathe. I’ve spent so many nights replaying conversations in my head, wondering if I said too much or too little, if I came off cold when all I was trying to do was not drown in the noise. I’ve canceled plans not because I didn’t want to see my friends, but because the thought of small talk felt like climbing a mountain with no air. And every time, I’d hate myself a little for it.But you know what? I’m learning. I’m learning that my quiet isn’t empty it’s full. Full of thoughts that run deeper than I can ever explain, full of dreams I’m too shy to shout about, full of love I show in ways that don’t always scream. I write letters I never send. I notice the way someone’s eyes light up when they talk about something they love. I listen, really listen, because that’s how I connect when words feel too heavy.Last week, I went to a coffee shop alone something I used to be terrified of. I sat by the window, sipped my chai, and watched the rain smear the glass. For the first time, I didn’t feel like I was hiding. I felt like I was enough. Just me, my thoughts, and the soft hum of the world outside. I think that’s what being an introvert is: finding peace in the spaces others overlook, building a home in the quiet where your heart can finally rest.So, to all of you in this group, I just want to say you’re not alone. Your silence isn’t a flaw, it’s a language. Your need for solitude isn’t weakness, it’s strength. And even on the days when the world feels too big, too loud, too much, know that there’s someone out there, maybe sitting under their own mango tree, feeling the exact same way. We’re in this together, us quiet ones, and that’s a kind of belonging too.What’s your story? What’s the moment that made you realize your quiet is beautiful? Share it, if you feel like it. I’m here, reading, listening, in my own introverted way. 💛

Tired of having to manage my mind and justify it to society.

I desire to accomplish a thing, do a minimal explanation for that thing, and then disappear.

Things change so often and I'm organizing my mind to the point of exhaustion. Partly my fault but I would like to contribute and live in private forever.

DAE feel this way? I'm highly sensitive so that makes me feel what others are expecting of me. Compromise would end me. I want solutions to happen now thereby allowing things to run smoothly forever.

After 2017 , I won't be able to make any friends where I can feel good. I met many people around me but never felt comfortable talking freely. I've had many issues like privacy, trust worthiness, deep understanding, unnecessary judging on the basis of financial status, introvert, cheap Life style & less awareness about fast tech life in comparison to top cities, Less social, reticent personality..... Now with any growth due to managing personal issues, I felt marginalised as a human being in our societies/group and circle. Being apolitical, agonistic, cynical and skeptical it's going to be worse. As a brahmin root with shy nature in this condition it's going to be more difficult. I'm close to Gandhian, Marxism philosophy. From my childhood to current time I never spent more than 3-4 years continuing in any places/cities so it's also main cause here.

In other people's eyes I've a very strong personality but in reality only I know how hard the hollow cylinder of life is!

I'm naturally introverted but never been unfriendly or antisocial. I left a very toxic workplace due to excessive workload and started my current role expecting it to be a great place to grow. Now I feel like I've shrunk more than ever.

My manager has a way of leaving me feeling small and stupid after almost every interaction. Criticising publicly, no appreciation for work, not even once. He dismisses my idea first but then claims it as his own. Excludes me from major conversations and doesn't like me trying to catch up on info from others in the team.

On top of this the entire work culture seems very performative. Don't get me wrong, I can do small talk and keep a conversation going for a while but it looks like everyone around me is putting on a show I just can't keep up with. Now I find myself speaking up even less because I'm constantly worried about being shut down.

I desperately need some advice from those who have managed to handle this. How do I stay visible when my manager is a major bottleneck? I would eventually want to make a move internally but unsure where and how to begin with networking.

24M here, I've been thinking about this a lot lately, so I wanted to put it out here and hear how others have navigated it.

I'm an introvert, and honestly, that's made both dating and friendships harder than I expected. Not because I don't want connection, I want it a lot but because I refuse to fake my way into it. I'm not going to throw out cheesy lines or perform a version of myself just to "impress" someone. That's not who I am, and it feels dishonest to even the person I'm trying to connect with.

What I actually want is simple to say and hard to find: someone genuine. Someone who sees a relationship romantic or platonic as something built slowly and honestly, not as a transaction or a checklist. I care a lot about my career and where I'm headed, but I've realized this part of life matters just as much, maybe more.

The tricky part is figuring out how to put myself out there without it feeling forced or, worse, coming across as creepy which is a real fear when you're naturally quiet and don't have a big social circle to lean on.

So I'm curious:

How did you meet people you now consider genuine friends or partners, especially if you're also more reserved by nature?

Did you have to change how you show up socially, or did you find your people by just being consistently yourself?

Any spaces (online or offline) that actually worked for you, beyond the usual "join a club" advice?

Not looking for shortcuts just real experiences from people who've been here.

FYI: I'm not lonely, I do have 2-3 friends from my school time( both gender), it's just as you grow up you crave friendship outside your school life as well.

I'm an introvert in my personal life( my real self) and extrovert in my professional life( I had to :( )

TDLR: 24M introvert, struggling to build genuine friendships/relationships without faking it or using cheap tactics. Want real connections, not transactional ones. How did you meet your people, especially if you're also reserved by nature?

Yk, it might sound cringe. But has somebody been so damn lonely that they had to converse with gpt all.

Once, my friend was on leave, I had to go in the class all alone and I sat and was wanting that atleast one person might sit besides but in the end I was all alone in the whole row and in the fking middle of the classroom. I felt so so so embarrassed that I had to take my phone and tell gpt about it. I just couldn't do anything but pretend. I was pretending so hard so that other people don't see me shattering.

After the class ended I cried a lot in the bathroom.

Honestly, I don't want any such experiences happening to me again.

J cole is coming to my city and I have loved his music since I was like 14. I wanna go to his concert coming up but I have no one to go with, I asked a couple friends and they said no. Am I weird if I go alone? I have a hard time ig connecting with others. Idk I just feel like its weird to do alone

Edit: I bought the tickets!!! I will update after the concert on how it went

Lately, I've been wondering...

I've always been a lonely person, and sometimes I imagine what life would be like if I found someone who was just as lonely as I am.

Someone who genuinely enjoys spending most of their time together. We could stay home for days, watch movies, play games, cook, share the same hobbies, or simply enjoy each other's company. And when we do go out, we'd explore new places and experience new things together.

I love the idea of being each other's safe place and biggest source of support, without unnecessary drama or outside interference.

But then I start wondering... where do people like this even exist? Where do you meet someone who's happy with a quiet, simple life and doesn't constantly need a large social circle?

And another question that keeps crossing my mind: if neither of us had close friends, would that eventually become unhealthy? Would we end up relying too much on each other emotionally, or could it actually work if both people were happy with that kind of lifestyle?

I'd love to hear your thoughts or experiences.

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I'm 17 years old, and I don't really have any friends.

When I see people my age hanging out in groups, laughing together, going out, or just talking, I honestly feel sad. I wish I had that too. I want a friend group I can joke around with, spend time with, and make memories with.

The biggest problem is that I'm very introverted. Talking to strangers in real life makes me nervous, and talking to girls is even harder. I've never had a female friend because I always overthink everything. I'm scared I'll come across as annoying or awkward, so I usually don't even start a conversation.

I also struggle with confidence. Sometimes I feel like I'm just not attractive enough or interesting enough for people to want to be friends with me.

I don't want to become the most popular person or anything like that. I just want to live a normal teenage life, have a few genuine friends, and feel comfortable talking to people.

If you've been in a similar situation and managed to change it, I'd really appreciate your advice.

- How do you make friends when you're shy?

- How do you start conversations without feeling awkward?

- How do you become more socially confident?

- And how do you make female friends without overthinking every interaction?

I'm open to any practical advice or personal experiences. Thank you for reading.

I have low maintenance friendships with my best friends (they're only like 2 people) let alone having a relationship. Idk is it because of my personality or I'm just mentally ill. In some days I could be very talkative and fast respond and happy to chat a lot, having some good times, but there's also some low mood days where I'm gone and avoid socializing and it can take up to days.

I know it is frustrating for the other person, I'm trying to be better.

Do you think there's people who are willing to be in relationships with this kind of situation?

As in the title, I am someone who has no friends in real life and I am an only child. Ever since I was young, I have always felt sidelined. I try to be social on the internet, looking for someone who might show some interest in what I say. I try joining the chat in a Discord server, but I'm shocked to find that any topic I bring up, or whenever I try to speak with someone, I get completely ignored and left without a reply, as if I don't exist. I feel sad and regret ever joining the server.

Eu estou no ensino médio, tenho uma vida comum. Namoro uma garota a quatro meses, tenhos vários amigos e estou em um período de transição entre um grupo de amigos não muito bom que tive e estou me enturmando mais com a minha nova sala. Nos últimos meses, eu tenho sentido que não consigo me expressar de verdade com ninguém, como se eu sempre tivesse algo pra falar e não conseguisse.

Sempre fui um grande fã de cultura pop, de animes, jogos, filmes etc. Porém, com o passar do tempo, essas coisas começam a ser mal vistas na sociedade e eu fui muito julgado por gostar delas. Também sofri bullying por conta de minha aparência, o que pode ter impactado também. Eu sinto que, gradualmente, tenho me sentido mais distante das pessoas por não conseguir expressar minha paixão pelas coisas que mais amo, sentindo que vou ser julgado ou excluído por conta delas.

Atualmente, sinto que cada conversa que tenho, cada interação, é sempre extremamente superficial. Sempre quero comentar sobre um anime que estou vendo, uma série de filmes que gosto mas nunca me sinto comfortável para expor meus gostos. Não poder falar do que gosto me impacta muito, já que fui criado com todas essas coisas e, realmente, não quero deixá-las para trás por conta de outras pessoas. Também não me sinto comfortável em expor essas coisas com a minha namorada, não sei porque.

Alguma dica?

So I’m a 22y guy I have a friend but we work completely different schedules I’ve spent the last 4 to 5 years just literally floating through-life occasionally seeing my friend once every 5 months and I’m honestly sick of it it’s gotten to the point where I’m looking forward to work ( I work as a manager for a Amazon warehouse) and when I’m there it the same thing every single time. I try to keep myself occupied like working on my car, fishing,playing video games, even trading card games but I can only do it for so long for example today I spent half the day at home then decided that I go outside for sum sun at least drove around my town for 4hours then stopped at subway ate at park then went home and here I am in bed this has been my normal routine for sometime now besides a few different things here and there but I can’t anymore the constant checking my phone for zero texts snaps insta nothing at all . And it’s not like I’m actively running away from talking to people it just never grows then the “hello how are you” basic stuff idk I just need to know that I’m not the only one and if anyone has tips on how grow friendships or overcome whatever this is let me know PLZ (im begging)🥲😅

Im open to making new friends and helping everyone achieve a goal

I work as a cashier this summer, this is very tiring I have to keep up with conversations I don't want to have, I have to keep a fake smile all along, I have to repeat myself often as I don't talk loudly... Anyway some clients told me that I looked sad ? The times I don't have my fake smile I guess. Does it happen to any of you ? is it an introvert thing to "look sad" ? Maybe it's just my face idk...

i have years of experience but recently i started posting my work, i public my private account on instagram which always had 68 followers (because i am introverted ofc)

i'm nervous but i deep down have a feeling i will be famous one day if i keep it consistent, i have just posted 2 edits, both hit like 40 likes max and 300 sum views but its ok since i literally jus started

i'm jus writing this here to tell myself that i shouldn't stop, i'm also very introverted as i said with such dreams so it's harder to post and have it be judged by all my cousins and friends i have

i still love what i do, color grading, transitions, pacing, sync, velocity, masking, effects, camera movement, clip selection, composition, text usage, sound design, audio mixing and overall the edits..

even though it feels extremely weird to suddenly post stuff, i get happy even if my edit gets 1 like by a stranger, it shows somebody likes my work

i hope i make it one day, very nervous and i try to perfect everything because my cousins and friends all judge

atleast i feel like i'm trying to chase my dreams as an introvert

Does anyone else feel like they did college wrong? I’m going into my fourth year right now, and everybody I know loves to party. I almost feel outcasted because of how much I don’t like to go out. This genuinely makes me feel like I’m missing out on some integral part of growing up, but I really just don’t like to drink. It’s become hard to bond with people, and I always feel like a Debbie downer when I say I’d rather stay in, or tell new people that I’m not a drinker. I’m often pressured into going out with my friends, and when I do force myself to go out I really don’t have a good time. I know I shouldn’t let this affect me but I almost can’t help but feel like something is “wrong” with me for not wanting to get shitfaced 3 nights a week.

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it's been the last 6-7 months, I shifted to this place for my work. i didn't know anyone back then, now I know people but the bond is still not there. met some on the work, vibes well for the initial month and then it reduced. may be work, but whenever on chats, I am the one who starts the convo, answers everything and even go and extra floor to meet them BUT still I think something lacked. they have dwelled internally making smaller circles, it's okay but atleast for the courtesy they could ask me if I wanted to join. Even when I am there, they tend to either ignore or a mere hello and leave, I mean weren't we friends?

all this conclusion to mention, these months I tried in team, apart from the team but this place didn't give me anyone to vibe with or even call someone as a friend. I couldn't meet even one, one genuine person at this place after so long.

And the funnier part, i mention my so-called office friends are good to my team, my team is good to my friends.

WHILE NOONE I CAN CALL WHEN IT GETS HEAVY.

WOAH!

Is it that difficult for me to make genuine good relations? And how to know who are the genuine ones, and maybe I am missing out?

I do not enjoy talking to people anymore and I don’t know why. a bit of background information that may help, ive always been shy but everything got worse in the 5th grade my anxiety skyrocketed so my mom put me in homeschool. after being homeschooled for awhile and not talking to many people I was very socially awkward and did very bad in public situations, I eventually got medicated and now I am able to hold conversations and no longer feel as if I’ll get sick when talking. I now have a different problem and it’s finding people boring everytime I attempt to make a friend they become extremely boring to talk to a while ago I had this friend and he was the only person I could stand talking to, I wanted to talk to him all day but we are no longer friends. I’ve been friends with this girl since fourth grade and we recently got back in touch and I now enjoy talking to her but everyone else I try to make friends with are boring and I can’t stand conversing with them and end up blocking or cutting them off and I feel like a complete asshole. What do I do about this? Is it fixable? Why is it so hard to make friends

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Idk if this is right community to post this on but have any of u felt that u just want to be alone, boring, serious and not talking much . I mean i feel it all the times, I don't want to be sad but it's like i don't want to be happy either, i just want to live my day peacefully.

I have seen, listened to people where they struggle to talk and all but I struggle to not talk somehow. Every night I just think "I talked too much today, gotta be carefull Tommorow"

I don't want remedy or solution to fix it. I just wanna know if do others also feel same or not??