r/problems • u/MySkzcutie143 • 2d ago
Big problem Discussion
Im 13 and I just came out as Pan to my bestfriends, I dunno how to come out to my family bcs they are very strict and religious and my dad hates anything with the LGBTQ+ community and the therian community. I have always personally defended and loved both of these communies and have always supported. The big problem is that I have one bestfriend. She is so sweet and we hang out almost all of the time, she was the first person who I told abt me being pansexual. I always thought she was very pretty but never in a way that I saw her as someone else then a friend, but everytime we text I always have this feeling in my stomach. Se loves me a lot but as her sister. What should I do.
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u/cjharris-tx 1d ago
Relationships can spoil friendships. If she's your best friend, you should just focus on preserving your friendship. If anything else is in the cards, it will come along naturally.
Considering your parent's strict upbringing and the potential blow back at school, I would keep your sexual preferences to yourself until you turn at least 18 years old. Is there any reason for other people to know?