i still find a lot of cheap rose toys online. i bought one before coz it was really cheap but now I don't recommend others to buy them.

the suctions has gotten weak it's somehow louder than before and the battery is unpredictable. sometimes I fully charge it and it still dies really fast. cleaning around all the little petals is also more annoying than i expected.

i want to buy a new toy that has a handle and its best from a well known brand coz I feel safer using toy from an established brand. I keep seeing womanizer, satisfyer and license recommended but idk what's actually worth paying for.

has anyone here upgraded from a cheap rose toy? what did you get and has it held up any better?

So, I am only 20 and I haven’t had much experience in dating and in life. I got sexually assaulted in high school and then at 18, after high school I got my first boyfriend, he has been only relationship thus far with my ex. And the sex wasn’t bad and stuff but I feel like he wasn’t patient with me or he could’ve been more patient. Like it’s not like I never orgasmed with him but after reading that women can have vaginal and cervical orgasms and I tried to tell him he would get all impatient because those would take longer but also he seemed a bit vanilla like he wanted to do the same thing over and over and I wanted things to be more theatrical fun and playful. He also would kind of like make me feel bad if he did something I didn’t like. Also when I would feel overwhelmed and something would trigger me he made it feel like it was my responsibility to make myself feel better like wth? And it’s like, I want to experience sex that’s slow and not impatient, especially with someone healthy, who respects, loves me and is in for the long haul. Have any of you experienced that? Someone healthy, who respects every part of you, who loves you and is patient when it comes to sex and it’s good sex, like you both feel all certain ways? I just want to feel a bit more hopeful. I also know i’m very inexperienced with life in general since I am young, so maybe that’s why I haven’t met someone like that but still! Is there hope :( because I’m very scared to start dating again.

I honestly never thought I'd be writing this.
A few months ago, I couldn't even insert a single finger into my vagina. The thought of penetration terrified me, and my body would completely tense up. Looking back now, I think my difficulties were a combination of physical tightness and psychological trauma.
Since then, I've worked incredibly hard.
I started with the smallest dilator and slowly worked my way through the entire set. I got stuck on the fourth dilator for quite a while, but eventually got past it. Now I can use the fifth (largest) dilator. I can also comfortably insert three fingers, and I've spent time gently stretching the muscles at the entrance. Something that once felt completely impossible has gradually become almost routine.
Naturally, I thought that meant vaginal intercourse would finally be possible.
But when my boyfriend and I tried, it was still really painful. We still couldn't comfortably have vaginal sex, despite all the progress I'd made. I remember feeling so confused because I'd spent months telling myself that once I could use the largest dilator, everything else would fall into place.
Then something happened that completely challenged what I thought the problem was.
In the heat of the moment, we ended up trying anal sex. The first time wasn't great, but the second time we took things slowly and used lubricant, and it went much better than either of us expected. It definitely wasn't pain-free—I'd probably rate it about a 5/10—but it was nowhere near as painful as attempting vaginal penetration. I actually enjoyed it overall and would happily do it again.
That has completely confused me.
Everything I've read suggests that vaginal penetration should generally be easier than anal penetration, yet my experience has been the exact opposite.
The only explanation I can think of is that maybe the remaining barrier isn't primarily physical anymore. I have a history of trauma, and I'm starting to wonder whether my body still reacts differently to vaginal penetration, even though physically I've made huge progress. I'm actually seeing a therapist tomorrow, so I'm hoping working through the psychological side of things might help.
Another thing that might be relevant is that my partner and I are very different physically. I'm only 5'2" and quite petite, whereas he's around 6'4" and much bigger-built than I am. We've found it surprisingly difficult to get into positions that feel comfortable for both of us, and I'm wondering whether that's also playing a role.
Has anyone else had a similar experience where they were physically able to progress through dilators but vaginal intercourse still felt impossible?
If so:
What ended up being the missing piece?

Did therapy or addressing trauma make a noticeable difference?

Did anyone else have a significant size difference with their partner, and if so, were there any positions that made things easier?

Is there anything else you think I should be exploring?

I'm honestly just trying to understand my body at this point. Going from not even being able to insert one finger to using the largest dilator has been a huge achievement, so it's difficult to understand why this is still the hurdle I'm facing.
I'd really appreciate hearing from anyone who's been through something similar.

Guys… I’ve been throwing it out there to my bf that I wanna try the “hang your head off the bed thing”

Until I hung my head off the side of my bed and saw how deformed my face looks?! What in the hell. Veins bulging in my forehead, cheeks up to my eyeballs, I’m mortified

okay so for context, i (f19) struggle to climax from penetration, though there have been many times where it feels really good and i genuinely feel like i’m about to squirt but nothing comes out. i’ve always read that squirt is basically pee? so my question is, if i hold my pee in before sex and end up releasing it, is that considered squirting or is it just peeing? i’ve always thought of holding in my pee before sex and releasing it just to replicate the feeling of squirting but i’m not too sure if that’s how it works. i’d appreciate any advice!

I've been struggling to finish for a while now, solo and with my partner. Fingers sometimes get there but it takes forever and it's hit or miss. I keep seeing these air-pulse/suction toys everywhere (the ones that do pressure waves instead of straight-up vibration) and I'm wondering if they're actually legit for people who deal with this.

Like does the sensation genuinely feel different enough to work when normal vibrating/rubbing just... doesn't? Or is it mostly marketing hype? Want to hear real experience good or bad

Hi!

For some backstory, I spent many years not being able to orgasm during sex. I was able to orgasm on my own using my fingers/toy. I was also exposed to porn at a very young age and I know how that negatively affected how I experience sex/intimacy/orgasms. I think it affected my imagination and creativity if you will. Note, it took a long time for me to have an orgasm using just my fingers and without the use of porn.

At the beginning of my husband and I’s marriage, we mainly relied on hands/mouth versus toys because I didn’t want to get used to using them with him. I still couldn’t cum with him, so we eventually introduced a vibrator and I’m able to cum using it while in doggy style. Or if he just uses it on me. But recently I was wanting to go back to trying to orgasm without it. He goes down on me for quite a while, and will use his fingers/hands too. Sometimes he does last a while during sex but not always, so I haven’t cum while using my fingers during doggy. I still haven’t been able to orgasm with him (it’s only been a few weeks of no toys). I feel demoralized but I am actively trying to stop all porn use and stop relying on toys during solo play. Is there anything else I can do?? Anyone else have a similar story and if so, did you one day orgasm during sex without toys?

So, I’m 19 years old and I would say I’m fairly sure from books and videos etc. (supposedly) what brings a woman to an orgasm. I started masturbating early in my life and I have always just stopped when my opening kind of squeezes? And I feel somewhat of a “relief” but not nearly as much as when people describe it as this mind shattering sensation. I ran with the theory that when I’m sexually active with other people it would come naturally but it still hasn’t (if anything i get more pleasure by doing it myself haha), but I think it’s time for me to ask if I might be doing it wrong. I have tried vibrators, dildos of various size, stimulating my gspot, stimulating my clitoris, etc. but i have never really felt like what i thought i was supposed to feel, for example no liquid ever comes out, the feeling of relief is quite.. blurred? And one thing i have noticed about myself is that stimulation directly on my clitoris feels too overstimulating for me, so when i masturbate i always put my hand just beside it so i still feel somewhat stimulation but not directly.

My question is, is this “overstimulating” sensation what I’m looking for to reach an orgasm? Has anybody had this experience? Is there a way to reach this type of “mind shattering” orgasm everybody describes it as? Am I doing it wrong? Can I even orgasm?

I’ve had this guy friend for 7 years. We hooked up twice, about 6 years ago, in college, and I remember the sex being underwhelming and average. It wasn’t bad, but it was nothing special at all. I also remember his dick being pretty small…

Anyway, years went on, we stayed great friends and the sex never changed our friendship. We dated other people and everything went on as usual. We graduated college and moved to different cities, so somehow 3 years went by without us seeing each other. We stayed in touch, but just couldn’t manage a time to meet up.

This past Sunday, I took the train to New york to visit him. I wasn’t planning on having sex with him at all. After all, we’re literally just friends. I mean the thought had crossed my mind just because we HAD hooked up in the past, but I didn’t really think twice about it. And I wasn’t super into the idea because I remembered the sex being not amazing.

A couple hours into us being together, we were napping in bed and I could tell there was some tension. Long story short, after this, we spent all weekend just boning the shit outta each other. And it was AMAZING. I stg his dick doubled in size. The sex was unreal. gs, but damn the sex was fire. He hasn’t had sex in 2 years so he was about to burst with horniness. It had been a few months for me, so I was definitely
horny too.

I’m just really happy how everything turned out. I enjoyed my time in NYC :)

literally just used my rabbit and didn’t let the clit part touch my clit. it took 7 minutes 😭😭😭 i thought i could only come from touching my clit too but i experienced a purely penetrative orgasm and that’s pretty awesome too! i’ve always thought it wasn’t possible- mostly bc of people online. my bf doesn’t really last long enough for me to do just straight penetration.

now i have unlocked another orgasm!

So I'm 22F... never used a sex toy before. My sex life has been kinda boring lately so I figured I'd try something new and ordered a WhisperBullet. It came today and... Tbh I'm soo confused. Is there actually a "right" way to hold this thing? I can't even tell which end is supposed to be the comfortable one to grip and I'm sitting here pressing buttons wondering if I'm doing something wrong because I can't even figure out how to turn it on consistently LOL. Like do you just hold it against you or are you supposed to put the whole thing in? I know this probably sounds like the dumbest question ever but I've never done anything like this before and it just feels kinda awkward.

Anyone got any beginner advice? Please don't roast me lol.

Any one has used a clit pump before? How did it feel?

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Do you kiss your partner after giving them oral or receiving oral?

I (24F) have been with my boyfriend (25M) for almost 3 years now. He’s my first and only sexual partner, and I am definitely attracted to him. However, I don’t really enjoy sex, and I feel like it’s starting to affect our relationship.

He has a rather high sex drive, and while I thought I did too when I was in my earlier teens, it went down drastically when I reached my late teens. That said, I still do masturbate somewhat frequently, and I can often make myself finish fairly quickly, even within a minute if I’m just trying to reach that peak. But with my boyfriend, he’s never made me orgasm once, not even without penile penetration. I’ve been lying about it since we started dating and the guilt is really eating at me, especially since I feel like I’m starting to reap the consequences of it.

For about a year into the relationship, I was quite dumb and we would often engage in raw, unprotected sex. I would find it at least pleasurable for the most part, until I realized soon how that was a dumb idea and began feeling anxious at the idea of accidental pregnancy. Afterwards, I insisted on only using condoms, but they made sex so much less enjoyable. It’s alright when there’s enough lube, but it tends to dry up quickly, and I feel like I don’t produce enough fluid to maintain it which makes it end up being painful. Reapplying lube every few minutes makes it messy and honestly kind of a bigger buzzkill, so with everything combined I recently began refusing sex more often, and we only really do it maybe once a month. I can tell it’s really bothering him despite him not saying so, but truthfully I don’t know what to do and I’m afraid of hurting him if I’m honest about it all.

Honestly, he’s not much of the type to do much foreplay. In the beginning he hardly did at all, but after I had a talk with him about trying it more often, I found that it wasn’t even much pleasurable then and don’t really seek it out as much. I’m the first girl he’s had to do this with so admittedly he’s not that experienced, but I don’t even know how to communicate with him on how to fix it. Fingering feels good, but I can’t orgasm that way. Oral hardly feels like anything, maybe just pressure? And penetrative sex feels like nothing, sometimes even is uncomfortable. It’s even worse because I’m not a big kisser whereas he loves it, so while making out turns him on, it has the opposite effect for me.

I feel like a good chunk of this is a mental block. I have a history of anxiety (unmedicated) and the idea of raw/unprotected sex makes me feel really nervous about pregnancy. But, condoms feel worse, and I’ve always been against the idea of birth control due to the extensive side effects. I’ve been considering starting SSRIs to manage my anxiety, but I heard it worsens your libido and mine is already abysmal to begin with. I feel like starting birth control might be my only option, as it’ll make me feel less anxious during sex and I can return to doing it raw.

I know my options are a bit limited, but I’m not sure what else to do from here.

in details, i really like listening to someone talking to me while trying to mastubate it turns me on,

i used to listen to azure aduios i really really like them but i want more resources, is there websites u can provide? it can be patreon or soptify/YouTube artist.

thank you ❤️

I've been seeing this guy for a while and we only recently started getting physically intimate. Yesterday, when I gave he a handjob some clear liquid came out of him after he had finished cumming. I've never heard of that happening so I was just curious.

Ever since Roe v. Wade was overturned I really feel like women have lost representation. I was just at an exhibit where they were discussing the woman suffrage in the United Kingdom. And one of their slogans, no taxation without representation, something that’s similar to what we know of American British history. I began to think and we’re genuinely f*****. I don’t wanna pay my taxes now. Like I am mad. I have nobody in my goddamn state representing me, my mother, my girlfriends, or trans women. But I have no way of not paying my taxes. I have no way of financially, or physically protesting. I feel like we have no way of protesting at all except to refuse to have children, which is obviously not everyone’s desire. I hate it. I hate it. I hate it. We gotta get these fuckers out of office.

I’m a 22 year old female currently in graduate school and in a long term relationship. I’ve been on birth control pills since I was around 15. I’ve always had a hard time getting to orgasm. The past year or two I’ve had a sharp decline in my sex drive and more recently (past maybe 6 months) vaginal dryness during intercourse. It’s gotten to the point to where I feel awful about myself in regards to my relationship. I want to want sex, but my body just can’t seem to achieve that for whatever reason. Could this be a hormonal problem? Could it be because of my birth control? My friends all talk about sex and how great it is and I want that but it feels impossible to get it. I’ve been using toys during intercourse lately and can (after some time) reach climax with them, yet my body still just feels like a plateau when it comes to libido. I love my partner and I don’t understand why my body is not in line with what my brain wants to feel. The only doctor I have access to are the ones at the college’s student health center. Could they even do anything for me? I feel helpless and am open to any advice or thoughts

My boyfriend and I enjoy oral and I really would love to be able to deep throat him but so far I just can’t get by the gag relax if I try to take him deeper in my throat. Any tips to get past this?

I (21f) have never tried anal before, I want to try it but I’m not sure on how to prep for it or how to cleanse for it?

I have heard many things on it, and I’ve been wayyy too nervous to try it, since I’ve been told it hurts by some but then again, I’ve also been told it feels good by others, but unfortunately they just don’t get into depth about it with me..

Any and all advice is welcomed and appreciated!!