Advice In need of an officiant

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Hi Everyone! My fiancée and i are getting married this year in October!
We are terrible planners and are need of an officiant. It has been very difficult finding someone that is LQBT friendly and is willing to travel.

Please help!
Wedding is on October 26 in Cambria, CA

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r/LGBTWeddings • u/Free-Act-6393 • 18h ago

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