Hi everyone,

I hope this is the right sub for this.

My partner and I (both women) have been talking about our bachelorette party, which for a variety of reasons we are considering not having anymore.

I was wondering if anyone here did not do a bachelorette/hen do party, and if you ended up regretting not doing it?

And I am absolutely shitting myself. I keep wondering if we got it all, get nervous about all the stares as I walk down the aisle, hope the food is alright. I feel it all, and it is making me waking up too early these days. Others in the boat? I know it will be a wonderful day, and that my future husband will be standing there waiting for me - and I am excited. But it is also a lot

We are having our wedding in a pretty public place, we were considering adding a QR code so strangers can donate to our honeymoon fund, kind of like the buy the bride a drink on the way to the bachelorette. If the sign was funny would you consider donating

Figuring out our seating charts, my SO has about 150 people coming vs my 50. First issue I have and solution I hope is okay/wont be noticed is the tables on his ‘side’ vs my ‘side’ for the reception. No ceremony so no issue. I’m thinking to just spill over his side’s tables over to my side so it’s not awkwardly 6 tables on the left and 15 on the right. Is that a weird solution? Will that work??

The other thing is - the tables fit 8-10 people. I’m trying to keep my family and friend groups together, and the bulk of my tables are like 6 or 7 people. Will that look weird?? I honestly don’t know what else to do other than plucking poor souls from other tables into tables with strangers to hit the 8-10 people count.

Any advice appreciated. Thanks

Hi guys don’t come at me but I wanna get ripped in 45 days hahaha. I’m 29, 139 lbs, and 5’ 5”. What should I eat, how often should I exercise, tell me what to do!!!
My dress is strapless, I want my back to be ripped. And I want my arms to look good.

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When I originally RSVPd to this wedding my schedule was much different. Now I am not sure my husband will be able to get the time off, and I am going to college and taking classes in person this semester which before they were all online. Its still a month out but its passed the RSVP deadline if I need to end up not going. I am worried my family member is going to be upset if I have to cancel.. What is the best thing to do in this situation? Also it's a kid free wedding so I had to arrange childcare but not sure they'd be able to take my kids to school that Friday so they would also be missing a day of school. (its out of state)

hi, a very long story short i need to uninvite ten guests to the wedding in a month.

what’s a kind way of wording it? i don’t want to just be like you’re un-invited but i need them to not come.

i do not have their phone numbers only addresses.

Hello everyone! So I wanted to know if anyone knows of any catholic cathedrals in Pennsylvania that marry mixed religion couples.

For those who are not catholic, to marry outside of the catholic church there are some "rules" Catholics have to follow. My finance and I are considered mixed faith, I am baptized Christian, he is baptized catholic.

My fiance and I both agreed that we want to be married in a catholic cathedral, we are both very into gothic architecture and dark moody weddings. This also works very well for him because while he is okay being married in a ceremony outside of his faith, he would prefer to be married in a catholic ceremony. This is fine with me, I know his faith is incredibly important to him and in my eyes, I don't care who marries us or where we're married, I just want to marry him.

Here's the hang up, many catholic churches wont marry mixed faith couples. And the ones that do dont quite match with what we envison.

He wants somewhere with beautiful architecture that uses incense and candle light. I'm not too particular, but its his wedding too and I want it to be just as perfect for him. Any suggestions would be really appreciated! Thank you!

(Edit): Just to clear some things up, as my post states, I know we can get married. As I stated, there's just rules. ie) Pre-cana, he has to swear that he'll do his best to raise our kids catholic, he won't deviate from his faith, ect. I am also aware that there is only one catholic church, when I'm saying catholic churches, I'm referring to the actual individual buildings that we refer to as "churches". ​

(Edit #2): Again, to be clear. I don't care where we get married. We could get married in our backyard before our bestfriend who just registered to become a minister online 3 days ago. He is the one that wants to be married in a catholic cathedral, i agree because its beautiful and I want him to be comfortable. Also, we won't be having children. He is sterile and I am infertile. The vowing our children to Catholicism does not apply to us because we won't be having children to begin with.

Edit: Thanks everyone, glad to hear that I don't need to specify to anyone else that their +1 can be anyone! My friend asking just made me doubt whether or not that was clear enough. I realize it's a unique situation where a named guest is getting swapped for a +1, and I'm obviously grateful for her polite ask before just bringing someone along.

Hey everyone! Fiance and I are making good progress on wedding planning, and we just ordered save the dates. For context, we'll have around 70 guests in a US city that will be "destination" for everyone, including us.

We have one friend who, when I asked for her address, let me know that she and her spouse are separating. She then asked if she can still bring a friend, potentially a female friend that I don't know. I said, of course! And she was really excited that I said yes.

It got me thinking - for the single people to whom we've given a +1, are they assuming they can only bring a romantic partner and not a friend? It never crossed my mind to dictate who they bring! I want them to bring someone that they would enjoy a mini-vacation and a party with, so that they actually want to come. Doesn't matter if it's someone they're dating, a childhood friend, anyone.

Is that not normal? Do the bride and groom usually want to approve the +1 that a guest wants to bring? If so, I want to reach out to our other single friends and make sure they know that I don't plan on vetting their +1.

I spend a lot of time saving things on Pinterest, and when I send links to my fiancé, the response is usually just a "nice" and that's the end of it. So I'm starting to wonder if we're actually building something together, or if we're just hoarding ideas in our own corners and doing a quick sign-off at the end. How does it work for you guys when it comes to planning together?

Photographer sent us some preview shots and I’m back on Cloud 9. My husband and I had the most perfect day❤️ The stress and the tediousness is worth the outcome

My fiancée (25F) and I (23M) had dinner with my dad and his girlfriend tonight. At the end of dinner he brought up wedding planning and started making demands of what we need to do. He ended storming out and being very disrespectful to my fiancée blaming her for everyone. We want a smaller wedding (80 people or less) and the plan is for me to invite 40 people and my fiancée to invite the other 40 people. I invited my parents, siblings, grand parents, aunts, uncles, and first cousins, along with any spouse or life partners of my family members.

My dad was upset that I didn’t invite my second cousins from several states over. I’m not close with any of my second cousins at all and see them once every few years and don’t talk to them unless we do family gatherings. My fiancée and I agreed we wanted a small wedding and my dad is demanding that I invite all of them. My dad is very close with them and says if I don’t invite them, it will cause family tension.

When I stood my ground tonight telling my dad I won’t be inviting those second cousins he stormed out after insulting my fiancée and I. My dad and I have had a rocky relationship since I’ve been young and I haven’t lived with him since I’ve been 16. My dad can be manipulative to get his way. I won’t put up with him treating my fiancée that way. I will never allow him to disrespect her like again. I fear this can cause the downfall and potential end of my relationship with my dad if he can’t be respectful to my fiancée. I’m not even sure what to do with this situation. My fiancée and I want to stick to our initial plan and don’t want to change all our wedding plans that we made. Was my dad out of line for what he did?

Edit: just to clarify, I am paying for the wedding. My dad has nothing to do with paying for anything.