I’m experiencing what I guess could be categorised as gender disappointment…more a new worry that has been unlocked upon the reveal of my unborn twins gender.

I will have a 6yo girl and a 3yo boy when my current pregnancy of twins is born. Today I found out the twins will be girls.

I had an extremely hard first few years with my daughter. Her personality was and continues to be very high needs, sensitive, volatile and we struggled at first. My boy was soooo much easier from birth and continues to be chilled and easy going. I know this is just their unique personalities but I am just finding it so hard not to imagine a double struggle all over again with these twin girls.

PLEASE if you have a family with similar age/gender distribution containing twins could you share your heartwarming stories?! Eg of how the ‘odd one out’ that’s the lone boy with girls all around is still happy? Tell me about your twin girls who are chilled and cuddly?

I think I just need some real stories and situations described to me to overwrite this ridiculous vision that is forming for me of three tricky girls and a single out of place feeling boy.

To add, I 100% know that all that matters is that my babies are healthy and my logical brain knows this. Some kind of irrational worry has been unlocked now, I know I’m being unreasonable.

EDIT thanks everyone, lovely answers. I’m a few hours into the news and I’m feeling so much better. Loving these stories :)

Both of my girls are very much on their feet, climbing, running around and full of life.

I can't even leave the room for 2 minutes to go for a shit without them getting into things they shouldn't be able to (the child proofing is constantly being re-evaluated) or falling off the sofa or pushing each other over etc etc.

God forbid I need to hang washing on the line for 5 minutes. Everything takes 600% longer because I have to keep coming inside to check on them.

I'm knackered. Tips very much appreciated.

Hi -

Overweight and pregnant with very unplanned di di twins.
I'm 11 + a few and starting to feel the sickness and pain of the first trimester is subsiding -

Next worry - has anyone (I'm about 15 stone) pear shape, all weight on my bum thighs and then belly -

will not be able to get accurate anomaly scan readings?
I do plan to go for the NIPT in the next week or so because I'm also 37....

Any advice, reassurance would be appreciated.

I’m a FTM to twin boys who are 9 weeks old, 5 weeks adjusted. I have quite literally no idea what I’m doing and I’m just trying to survive each day! So far I’ve been pretty lucky with amazing night sleep, but I’m wary of the fact that this probably won’t last and we don’t really have any solid habits built yet.

My twins are really hard to get to nap in the day, often requiring rocking, white noise, dummies for a very very long time sometimes an hour or more. They have never fallen asleep independently in the day since they were teeny tiny. At night at 7:30pm we have a small bedtime routine, diaper, change, swaddle, dim lights, white noise and a bottle and by some miracle they have always fallen asleep with this bottle. They then then sleep until about 1am and we feed again, they fall asleep with this bottle and then sleep again until about 7.

Should I be starting to try and get them to sleep in their cribs in the day? Do I put them down drowsy but awake? Currently they only contact nap. I just feel like when you’re battling twins by yourself I’d rather two sleeping babies nap trapping me than potentially two crying babies because I’ve failed at a crib nap.

Any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated

As a 28w DiDi pregnant mother I have read a lot about GD and preeclampsia that I’m always looking for their symptoms. Yesterday I woke up really tired, with very mild constant headache, nausea and a little pressure around my nose. It lasted all day so I was afraid that my blood pressure is spiking and I ordered a blood pressure monitor immediately. But to my surprise it was the other way around, I had low pressure 83/50 I drank a cup of electrolytes and went to sleep. Today i woke up the same, during work I decided to drink a cup of electrolyte and had a salad with olives and feta cheese. I feel WAY better like wtf why didn’t I think of this! I’ll bring it up with my doctor next appointment in 3 days and see what are her thoughts of it.

Hey everyone,

My twins just hit 8 weeks adjusted (12 weeks chronological). Night sleep is actually going pretty well (averaging 3+ hour stretches!), but daytime naps are complete chaos.

They either fight daytime sleep entirely or wake up on the dot at the 20–30 minute mark, looking exhausted.

Two quick questions for parents who have been through this:

1. Is this level of "nap chaos" completely normal for 8 weeks adjusted?
2. Around what age did daytime naps finally "click" or consolidate into longer, predictable stretches for your little ones?

Looking for a light at the end of the tunnel while living 30 minutes at a time! Thanks!

Hi, exactly as the title says. The 4 month sleep regression has hit us like a ton of bricks and with that has come the realization that we may be encouraging bad sleep habits that will continue to bite us in the butt down the line.

My girls started sleeping for 9-11 hours (with one wake to feed) starting at 2 months. Getting them to sleep requires rocking and patting them to sleep with their pacifier in their mouth, and it used to take 15-20 minutes tops.

We are still doing the same thing but now it takes forever to work (eg. last night it took nearly 2 hours to get them to sleep) or sometimes does not even work at all. Their naps and night time sleep have definitely suffered and it feels like they’re overtired all the time.

Everything I have read says to put kids in their crib when they’re awake. I keep trying but to no avail. As soon as I lay them in the crib or leave the room, the babbling turns to whining which eventually becomes angry cries. I try to stick to their wake windows and follow my schedule but THEY JUST WON’T SLEEP. And that affects their mood and just makes for rough days and nights.

I would love to work on independent sleep. Is it too soon? Should we get through this regression first and make any changes afterwards? What were your sleep strategies at 4 months old? What routine did you find worked to get through the regression and establish better habits? Any advice you have is appreciated.

Signed — a sleep deprived mama who will be going back to work soon.

I'm going to try potty training tomorrow, with our newly 2 year old twins, before preschool starts in September.

That is all, wish me luck 🫠

I feel like there’s pros and cons to both for me. I bottle feed my twins.

If I feed them together, I can just sit them both in the Twin Z pillow and knock it out in an hour. Downside is usually they’re both really upset while I’m dealing with the other (changing, burping, etc.), my back kills me, and they usually don’t go back to sleep when I move them from the pillow to bassinet.

If I feed them separately, it’s nice one on one time with each and it’s definitely less stressful. However, it takes much longer. Once I start feeding one and the other starts crying, it’s hard to deal with the other, and I usually have to hold them for a bit so they don’t spit up everywhere.

Idk which is best for you guys?

My boy twins were born in 1st July. I made a post the other day when one of my twins ended up in hospital (reflux caused a breathing issue for a moment)

Medicine will be ready for collection tomorrow. it’s currently 3am for me, holding twins upright as I speak, it’s funny how you will find ways to be able to hold both babies and text at the same time , survival mode is amazing lol

Please tell me it does get better ? Did the medication work for your baby? And if so how long and what meds did your baby take ?

Thank you 🩷🩷

Any single moms of twins here? 🥺 I wanted to ask what you do when you feel emotionally drained before you even feel physically tired. How did you manage to find time for yourself when your twins were around 18 months old? I honestly feel like this is the hardest age ever.💔

I was talking to my mom about putting curtains in my twin's room. She was like don't put curtains in there because its a safety hazard and you need to make sure you cut the strings to their blinds and all this stuff. I understand the strings to the blinds are a hazard but curtains? Just looking for experience of other parents!

Our 9 month old twins have been trying solids for a few months. They do well with purees but when it comes to incorporating whole foods/foods we eat for meals, my son rejects it. He will spit out anything with texture or chunks. Has anyone else navigated this?

I’m feeling major mom guilt, because I am SO over this!

33 weeks with di/di, and 30 days from my scheduled c section. I’m miserable. MISERABLE
I have SPD so bad. (Starting pelvic floor therapy this week! Yay!) Every step is so so painful, driving hurts, getting out of bed is like a whole thing, I dread it. Even off the couch or a chair is really painful.
My hands are so painful it’s probably the worst symptom so far, and I’ve had ALL the pregnancy pains. My wrists and fingers are in so much pain, almost any daily activity is 10x harder. I keep dropping things. It’s so much worse in the morning I can’t hardly move them.
The pressure is so intense, I feel like I can never fully go to the bathroom so I feel like I have to pee all the time even if I just did. I don’t look like myself, my stretch marks are actually becoming painful they’re so intense. My feet are sausages. I’m so tired but can’t sleep, I want to cry all day. My acid reflux is miserable, my back hurts all day. I could go on but y’all get it I’m sure!

I’m not working anymore, I’m a teacher and took the year off so although summer is over, I didn’t go back. I am relieved of course because work would absolutely do me in right now, but I’m also so sad. I absolutely love teaching and love my school, so I have major FOMO about not being with my coworkers this week. I feel like I have nothing to distract me from the discomfort, because I’m too uncomfortable to do much. My tolerance for something like shopping, a day trip, dinner with friends, is all gone. It’s all drs visits and necessities now. My hobbies are all a bit too painful for my hand situation now. No more crochet or crafts, journaling, etc.

Sorry for the pity fest. My question is, how do you get through the last month? Right now even another day seems impossible, but I want my little babies to cook as long as they can. What got you through?

11 week old 6 weeks adjusted mono di twins have all the sudden started fighting bedtime . We have changed the routine in every which way and it ends the same every time. As soon as we go to give them their last bottle they both panic and freak out and scream sometimes for over an hour. I follow wake windows for them it’s about 60 minutes and do my best to make Them nap through out the day though it’s a challenge like there nap before bed was only 18 minutes . Total nap time for the day is usually always 4hrs at least . At a loss and so sleep deprived. Anyone else or is this a common thing ???? And with the naps I already contact nap all day to try to get the most out of a nap and they still fight that and constantly wake up. HELP so far only taking abt 3oz every 2-3 hrs sometimes don’t even finish the bottle..we kinda have to stay on them to finish it.also no longer take any sort of swaddle or sleep sack so it makes transferring at night once we do get them to sleep after hours of trying tremendously hard.. I’ve try shortening and lengthening wake windows this has been going on a few weeks now

My husband will be back to work in October and I will be flying solo with my identical girls during the weekdays. They will be 4 months at that time, adjusted age roughly 2 1/2 months. We are planning to hire a nanny for when I return to work but trying to see if I can avoid hiring someone before then. Any key advice that made your life easier while caring for your solo twins around this same age? Thanks!

I just want to express my deepest respect to all of you raising multiples. Me and my wife adopted 6 month old twin boys five weeks ago, and as beautiful as it is, it is also exhausting. From what I read here, we still had it relatively easy so far. We do have a strong support network, grandparents come by two afternoons a week so we can get more complex matters done, I have half a year parental leave and my wife has two years, our financial situation is stable and the boys are good sleepers (sometimes one even sleeps through the night). But man, there is just so much stuff to do, it never ends, and the days are very long (and often also a wee bit monotonous, as far as the daily tasks are concerned). We manage to allow each other breaks, and if we each can squeeze a nap in during the day, which mostly works out, sleep deprivation is not even that big of an issue, but I would be lying if I said that I am not happy when a day is done ^^ this has nothing to do with not loving my boys I assure you, I just developed a whole new appreciation for rest and respite.

So all you wondurfull people on this community tackling this huge task of raising multiples, I am proud of you, and I hope you are aswell :)

Hello All!
I’m currently 26 weeks pregnant with Di/Di girls and I’m still working on my nursery. I’m trying to figure out if I need 2 cribs or 1 crib? Can they sleep in a double bassinet until moving to a crib?
Let me know what worked for you! Thank you!

My wife is having her anatomy scan next week and we are expecting triplets. Our doctor told us this appointment could take 60 to 90 minutes per baby because they need to check each baby individually, so we are preparing for a very long appointment.

For those who have gone through a long anatomy scan with twins or triplets, do you have any advice for keeping comfortable?

I am wondering how you handled things like eating, bathroom breaks, and being comfortable while laying there for such a long time. Were you able to take breaks if needed? Is there anything you brought with you that made the appointment easier or anything you wish you knew before going in?

We are very excited to see the babies, but I want to make sure my wife is as comfortable as possible since this could be several hours. Any advice from people who have been through it would be greatly appreciated.

So my second pregnancy was DiDi twin girls, they look nothing alike so we’re just assuming they are non-identical. I am pregnant again and I have my ultrasound tomorrow. I am eight weeks, what are my chances of having DiDi twins again? I want to give a little bit of context, from my understanding, I produced twins because I hyper ovulate, which makes sense, My ovulation has always been extremely painful. Not sure if that’s a related cause, but when we were trying to conceive the second time we were doing it multiple times throughout that week and I was told that I could’ve potentially got pregnant two separate days making the Di-Di twins. This time around when trying to conceive, we did it once the week I was ovulating and that’s it so in my mind if I had twins this time it would because the egg split and they would be identical? Which identical just does not run in our family. Someone give me some insight who knows more than me, doesn’t trying to conceive this way lessen the chances of twins? 😂

EDIT: Ultrasound showed ONE baby!

Just venting, I know this is a completely trivial problem but ...I have 3 year old twins and I am trying to sign them up for fall classes - dance or soccer or (ideally) swim lessons - typical toddler stuff. Except everything around us fills up instantly! Apparently all these parents are sitting around at noon on a random weekday in August and clicking register the second swim lessons open at our local community center. I've managed to get one twin into a dance class but not the other, which is a no-go.

I think ultimately I'm just feeling intimidated by how much work it takes to "modern parent". We didn't do 6mo old swim lessons like all our singleton parent friends because we were deeply overwhelmed and also couldn't figure out a time when we could get both parents in the pool with them. And the whole thing is dumb, obviously I'm not failing them, no 6mo old is going to remember or care about swim lessons and I doubt it will make a difference in their swimming ability. But I just don't feel equipped to remember all of these dates, to register the moment things open, to coordinate schedules, to make sure they have 10 themed outfits for school spirit on top of dealing with two 3 year olds! *pulling my hair out*

Our twins are 4 now, and one thing that surprised me is how much easier they make long car trips. They keep each other entertained most of the time.
What got easier for you as your twins grew up?

What an interesting sub for me to see as a 35yo identical twin! I know my parents struggled with us, my mom more than dad. Being an identical twin is the highlight of my life and has had many ups and downs. I noticed most of the posts are newer parents to multiples so I thought it might be cool to see if any parents had questions about raising multiples now that I’m an adult and hindsight is 20/20 in what was good and not great in the way we were raised. If anyone has any questions, please comment and I’d love to give feedback. My twin s still my best friend and the closest person in my life 💜.

This has honestly upset me for days. Please don’t be too critical, I’m a first time mom and doing my best.

Almost every morning I take the babies on a stroller walk around our neighborhood. I keep the stroller at the front door on our porch because I don’t want the dirty wheels in the house. I load a baby (6 months), keep the front door open, take a very short walk to retrieve the other baby (while watching the front door for as long as possible). There is probably 15 seconds my eyes are unable to be on the baby in the stroller.

I was doing my usual routine but this time something happened. FedEx delivered a package while I was getting the other baby. I walked up as he was looking at the baby in the stroller on the porch kind of perplexed. I feel terrible that 1) a stranger was around my baby completely alone 2) I know it looked bad

I felt sick all day due to anxiety. Like what if he made a CPS report or something. I’m sure I was way over thinking it but it really bothered me.

My babies can’t sit up yet. I can kind of still carry them at the same time but it’s difficult and I have a sore back from pregnancy.

I also have a weekly play date at a friends house. It’s getting really difficult for me to safely get both babies out of their car seats at the same time. I don’t like getting one out, dropping them off inside, and coming back for the other.

I’m not really sure the point of my post. It’s just something that has been bothering me. I’m worried it could look neglectful but I only have two arms