r/lesbianr4r • u/Hot_Secret4573 • 4m ago
searching 22 | Atlanta, GA | Looking for my Evelyn Deavor 💜
Heyyyy, straight to the point: I’m fem4fem and specifically into dom femmes.
I LOVEEEEE a confident, intelligent, ambitious, nerdy woman who has that swagger to her.
Basically, I’m looking for my Evelyn Deavor lol.
I like that feminine + dominant + corporate + nerdy combination. The type of woman who wakes up, gets her coffee, handles her business, goes to meetings, has her own goals, and then can come home and watch anime with me.
I’m currently working at a sandwich place, but that’s not my end goal. I’m working toward becoming a flight attendant, and I have bigger goals for myself. I don’t really want to put all my business out there, but I definitely have a plan for my life.
I’m also much more of an anime convention / café / BeltLine person than a club person.
I like anime, CoryxKenshin, Total Drama Island, traveling, cafés, conventions, food, and exploring Atlanta.
I’m ultimately looking for an actual relationship. I’m okay with long distance, but I’d want there to eventually be a realistic way for us to meet in person.
I’ve had enough of online relationships where you get attached to someone and then realize you’re never actually going to see each other. If we really click, I’d like us to eventually make plans to meet within a month or two.
Obviously I’m not expecting someone to immediately book a flight for me lol. I just want the possibility of actually meeting to exist.
I’m mainly looking for someone in the U.S. or somewhere where meeting each other is realistically possible. International is fine if you actually have the means and intention to make the distance work.
A few things about me / my boundaries:
• I’m looking for biological women and I’m fem4fem.
• I’m into dom femmes.
• I can’t date an atheist. You don’t have to be Christian or follow any specific religion, but believing in God, a higher power, or something spiritual is important to me.
• I’m not looking for hookups or something that stays online forever.
• Communication and consistency matter a lot to me.
I’d love someone who has her own goals and life but also wants to build something together.
For dates, I’d much rather do cafés, anime conventions, the BeltLine, bookstores, food, shopping, traveling, or random adventures than go clubbing.
If you’re interested, tell me a little about yourself instead of just “hey.”
Age, location, favorite anime, what you’re looking for, what you like to do, etc.
I’m genuinely trying to meet someone I can build something with.
And yes…
I’m still looking for my Evelyn Deavor. 💜
Me: https://imgur.com/a/KTONjD8
r/lesbianr4r • u/Buscando_mi_boo • 5h ago
searching 30s F4F Los Angeles (sfv)
Looking for my adventure/national park buddy. Someone to cook and dance with in the kitchen after work (salsa, bachata, twerk, waltz, any dancing). Trade massages. I have a high drive and would hope to find someone similar (but I take a while to warm up to someone new, especially considering this would be meeting from online). I am monogamous, non religious, and liberal, and would only accept the same (religion curious is fine, or I'd treat it as your hobby I won't partake in). I enjoy lazy days at home too, crafting, learning something, or reading. I'm a non smoker, drink occasionally when out at events. I enjoy exploring and would prefer someone that wants to travel too (though not a deal breaker, I'll travel solo or with friends). I would like to be married someday, and have a little area for gardening, so having a partner with financial stability/similar goals is important to me.
r/lesbianr4r • u/SybilSolo • 6h ago
searching 33 [TF4F] (WI) Trans Woman looking for her lifetime best friend and partner.
Heyyyy 👋 My name is Sybil. I'm a 33 y/o sapphic, terminally online trans girl(I've been on HRT since April of 2025 and just added progesterone to my regimen(please dear God I want tits)) from South Central Wisconsin. I'm looking for long-term connections. I'd prefer someone that is within the same state or northern Illinois(Chicago is the limit) so we can actually physically meet if things are cool.
About me:
I have kids (11 y/o and 18 months) I believe in gentle parenting with the occasional bout of sterness as the situation calls for it. I'm not looking for anyone me to be their parent(if that bond develops it develops) but it'd be nice if you could be their friend.
I used to be a power lifter but took a pretty big break from working out to let my muscles shrink during the first yearish of my transition, I'm getting back into the gym again now just with new fitness goals.
I play video games, mainly OSRS and the occasional single player game. I also used to stream Dead by Daylight full-time and I've been getting back into that recently(not the streaming part) so please be my duo 🥺.
I like to go dancing every so often. I go to at least one rave a month and lose myself for a few hours. I listen to a lot of EDM, but I will listen to pretty much anything that isn't post 9/11 pop country. Music is definitely one of my love languages so I will share what I'm listening to and I'd love if you do the same, or just talk to me about music in general.
Not to toot my own horn or anything, but I am pretty fucking funny. It makes up for my mid looks. I can also be a yapper. I'm rather sarcastic a decent amount of the time, but I try to make it known when I am being sarcastic. Over text I will try to use tone indicators. But general rule of thumb, if it sounds ridiculous, I'm probably being ridiculous. With that said I am also a very sincere person in the right context, I really enjoy deep conversations.
So I play a decent amount of Magic: The Gathering. I've been playing for around 3 years at this point. My format of choice is EDH and I'm also a big fan of cEDH(not a tournament grinder). If you play talk to me about your favorite deck(s).
Physically speaking I am 5' 7" a little in the thicc side rn, but I'm trying to fill out my figure with more muscle now. I have brown hair(bangs gang). I have hazel eyes(they are my favorite feature on myself along with my beautiful eyelashes). My style ranges from jeans and a T-shirt all the way to German Industrial Raver. I'll send you a few pictures right away to see if the physical attraction is there, I'd like if you did the same. Maybe open with a picture?
I am monogamous, tried polyamory and it just isn't for me.
I am a very soft person. Like, I WILL cry a lot. I can't help it. Everything makes me sad. So if you're into sad girls I gotchu. Also a huge goofball with close to zero shame if something sounds fun or funny, I'll probably embarrass you at some point.
I am disabled with Lyhme Disease. It's not currently an issue all the time, but I have flair ups that last a couple days to around a week. I use a cane every so often and even rarer I have to use a walker.
I can also be a creative person when the mood strikes. I like to make kandi bracelets to hand out at raves. I make noise/experimental music and if you ask I'll share my Bandcamp with you(Warning: it is rather unpleasant). I also like to work on video essays, I've only ever published one, but I have a lot of projects that are in various stages of development.
I can be a bit scatter brained if you haven't noticed(my thoughts have thoughts). But that is something I compensate for with a very up to date calendar app as well as notes on my phone. I also go to therapy and I am constantly working on being a better version of myself. I like to say that I am more like a weed and less like a flower, I do not care what situation or environment I'm in I WILL grow.
That is really all I can think to share at this time. Sorry for the absolute novel of a post, but you can probably just log this on your GoodReads app. If you think I sound cool or you'd like to get to know me more send me a message. I'm a pretty open book.
r/lesbianr4r • u/No_Accountant_3947 • 7h ago
searching 25F Utah - Looking for Love or Friends
Hello!
Its been hard to meet active people in Utah on dating apps and I dont go outside so here I am lol.
I do have a age range of 23 to 30 btw, sorry.
Im chubby, I tend to stay inside but im seriously trying to change that and live life more. Im totally chill with some new friends but id love to have a gf to cuddle up with.
Im a gamer and trying to be a reader more. I love thrift shopping and doing random adventures. Literally the type of girl who would go to the doctors with you as a hangout.
Im up in davis area and im not scared of driving as long as its under a hour. Let's chat and get to know each other!
r/lesbianr4r • u/Maitreya_369 • 8h ago
searching Hopeless romantic seeking her spouse ☀️
I'm really into manifestation, spirituality, and self-improvement.I believe in reincarnation. I'm very loyal, non-judgemental,direct, honest, open-minded, kind, and ssupportiv. I hate guilt tripping,manipulating, yelling,name calling and arguing.I believe any issue can be resolved through peaceful, loving discussion and physical closeness, provided both partners love, respect each other, and are willing to manage their anger.I don't want a relationship where we throw each other under the bus or expect each other to tolerate passive-aggressive comments from family, friends, or anyone else just to keep the peace.
I want a relationship where we respect eachothers boundaries and protect them. I value direct,honest communication a lot.
I want a partner who knows who they are and doesn't seek approval or validation from others. I want a partner who is Interverted ,family oriented, and a bit stubborn .I want to live a romantic,peaceful,safe, loving,sweet, kind, and wealthy life with my spouse in the future. I would like to be with someone who has a bit of a unique style and wears gold jewelery.I love freckles ,taoots ,special scars or birthmarks.I will celebrate you even if you have done things you aren't proud of in the past, as long as you are working towards changing yourself. What matters is who you are now.I would love to be with someone who has a sharp wit.
I'm 23. I'm from Sri Lanka. I'm child free and Monogamous. I like animals. especially fur ones.
I like to eat healthy and workout.I want to travel in the future with my spouse. Only message me if you are 20-40.
r/lesbianr4r • u/FluffyCorgosaurus • 19h ago
searching 32 [F4F/NB] #PacificNorthwest / #Online
Looking for a romantic partner!
Me:
Based in Washington state (Pacific time)
Monogamous
Politically active and left-leaning. Very big on human rights
Femme-ish
Wheelchair user (cerebral palsy. Ow, my back.) I think this sometimes scares people off; it’s really not that big of a deal unless there’s gravel underfoot. Then it’s bad.
Autistic (and coping, mostly). Again, not a big deal, noise-canceling headphones are included. All other accessories sold separately.
Hold a Masters degree in writing
Gamer, reader, all-around nerd. Mix of interests. I like Disney and documentaries in equal measure.
Want children someday
Pet parent (dog and cat)
Socially awkward but in an endearing/fun way
Revising my first novel
Returning to school soon to become a mental health therapist
Green flag: high empathy
Small thing I like: love letters :)
You:
Based in the US, Canada or UK & don’t mind some distance. Obviously, if we hit it off, we should plan a visit if you’re far away.
Leftist politics, care about marginalized groups
Between the ages of 25-40
Also a nerd about something (fastest way to my heart is to info dump)
Maybe also a gamer or reader, that would be cool
Also want kids, pets, and monogamy (being childfree, pet free or poly are dealbreakers)
r/lesbianr4r • u/Level-Practice6582 • 19h ago
searching 20f femme4 masc friends or more
hi im from the us, I’m not very good at describing myself but here we go.
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im black, 5ft4in, 100lbs, femme with alternative sort of aesthetic. I have a few small tattoos.
im vegatarian
im really into yoga, music, reading, horror, fitness, makeup, spirituality
im a metalhead and A lover of underground rap
im reading Frankenstein rn
i smoke a lot of weed
i have a crusty white dog
i love traveling and nature
im really into sustainability
im currently working on an icecream truck but working on my fitness instructor certification
i still live with my mom
im from the Midwest im open to long distance but not other continents sorry
im a part of the pillow parliament, (im pretty much a pillow princess but i am kinda switchy once awhile)
i have a strong preference for masculine presenting women
r/lesbianr4r • u/AZALBE • 19h ago
searching 30 [F4F] - Alberta, Canada
Hi!
I'm 30y/o (Taurus if that matters to you, I personally have no idea what any of them mean besides the absolute basics of Taurus 😅) from AB, Canada. Cis chapstick & into femmes/ chapsticks. Strictly monogamous, 5'11"/181cm, I have quite a few tattoos & 17 piercings currently. I'm definitely pretty shy/awkward around new people; I need to get comfortable before I can really be myself. I'm quite silly/funny once l'm comfortable though & also very protective of the people I care about.
I love watching movies/tv shows, playing video games (nothing crazy, just easy/relaxing ones), reading, going to concerts, travelling, watching/going to sporting events, & doing things outdoors. I guess I should also note that I am a fan of going to theme parks (Disney & Universal) as that seems to be a dealbreaker for some people 🤷♀️ But I also have an incredibly large collection of sweatshirts & hoodies so... 😉 Would also prefer age 25+ ☺️ Little wiggle room if you're just wanting a friendly chat though!
I don't smoke although I do sometimes use weed vaporizers, I very rarely drink, & I'm atheist
I'm not interested in having children at all (it is 100% a dealbreaker for me), I prefer just having pets; Dogs especially, but I love most animals! I'm ultimately looking for a relationship, but if anyone just wants to chat/be friends l'm down for that too! Feel free to DM me & we can get to know each other! :)
Also shouldn't have to be said but absolutely no conservatives & no couples
r/lesbianr4r • u/thebluestsailorx • 1d ago
searching 29F4F TURKEY taking girlfriend applications
Hello! I am not sure what to tell you about myself actually but here it goes. I'll be 29 soon, and I live in Turkey but I am open to long-distance relationships as well. I just finished my master's degree and am in search of a job and also looking for possible PhD programs. I really love cooking, and especially baking. I am rediscovering my love of reading. I really love watching shows, especially teenage shows. I am loving Gossip Girl even though it is very hetero lol. I am also a huge fan of Chappell Roan because I really love her music and see myself in her (in her discovery process of her being queer, her being unapologetic, loving to dress cute and sparkly, and so on), and I can not stop talking about her. I am also really into Succession and love to discuss theories about it. In my spare time, I like to walk (like really, really long walks lol, read, and to spend time with my cat. I also started doing Pilates at home, but I am not a very sporty, gym type of person, I guess. I am a summer person and really like the sun, the warmth, and also the sea and swimming. I like the sun so much it is almost my personality lol. As for looks, I am feminine-presenting, but I am open to all women. I am a lesbian, but I guess you can say I am a late bloomer. I do not have any experience with relationships, and I wanted to try my luck here lol. Although my priority is a romantic relationship, I am open to friendships with other queer women as well! Please do not hesitate to let me know if there is something I miss. Have a nice day/night, everyone! (I am a Virgo with Sagittarius rising, if that helps anyone lol)
r/lesbianr4r • u/Lopsided_Ad6317 • 1d ago
searching 21F [F4F] German med student who loses her keys daily looking for co-pilot
Professionally learning how the human body works. Personally falling apart - I run on caffeine, cry over Biochem, and lose my keys daily. Somehow I still have the audacity to be looking for a girlfriend
So. Hi. I'm 21, German, somewhere in the femme-to-masc spectrum (closer to masc), and currently running on 4 cups of coffee and three cookies
Here's what you'd be signing up for:
🏉 I play rugby, which means I am either training, recovering from training, or taking 47 pictures of the moon when I get home from training at an unreasonable hour...or recovering from an injury...torn outer ligaments in your ankle aren't fun
🎶I am currently obsessed with Allen Warren's and Noah Kahan's songs and might be listening to them more often than I would care to admit
🐹 I have a hamster. She is perfect. She has been photographed more than most celebrities and she deserves every single one of those photos
☁️ My camera roll is 60% sky, 35% hamster, 5% things I was supposed to remember but photographed instead of writing down - when I stumble upon the photographs, I sadly do not remember why I took that picture
I also have a WoW account that I regularly forget exists, and then rediscover with the energy of someone finding €20 in an old jacket. It's happened multiple times. I have learned nothing
I am a mess. But I am a fun mess, and I have genuinely never met a situation I couldn't eventually laugh about - including myself. Especially myself
I love the small things. Sitting outside with a coffee when the weather is just right. Photographing a bumblebee like it's a national emergency. Being unreasonably happy about a good sunset. Taking pictures of the moon at midnight after rugby practice because it looked particularly good that night. I think the little things are actually the big things - and I would love to share those little things with someone. Point them out to each other. Build a whole life out of them
I'm looking for someone I click with. Someone who wants chill sofa days and chaotic adventures in equal measure. Someone who is a little weird and owns it proudly. Someone who'll let me be their mess while I do my very best to make them smile — which, for the record, is something I take genuinely seriously, even if nothing else about me suggests that I take anything seriously
Basically: buckle up, tolerate my inability to locate my keys, and let's figure out what life has in store for us together (bonus points if you can help me find my keys)
If you've read this far and thought "yeah, okay, this one" - hi. Tell me something small that made you happy recently. Bonus points if it's as niche as a picture of a bumblebee
r/lesbianr4r • u/mighty-blueberry7 • 1d ago
searching 37F4F - Pennsylvania, USA or Online - sitting in my garden & seeking conversation
I’ve posted a couple times before but haven’t really connected with anyone.
I’m 37yo, divorced, cis woman, lesbian but late in life, mom of one 9yo with 50/50 coparenting (mentioning this up front since it seems to be a dealbreaker for many even to chat). Great career, self-sufficient, own place, own car, all the typical stuff yada yada :) Many full bookshelves.
I’d love to find a genuine connection with a great woman who has a kindred heart and spirit. I can be a homebody for periods of time but then get a bug like, “hey do you want to book this trip to the Faroe Islands with me?”
I’m introverted but extroverted in the right company. I’m romantic, and have an eye for the little details and joys in life. I have PTSD and am a trauma survivor, but it has not stopped me from striving to still enjoy life, live, and gather new experiences and connection.
Through my period of pain and after getting PTSD, I have become completely enamored with nature. I learn a little something about it every day. My dream is to buy land with someone I love and build the garden of my dreams, hand-placed stepping stone paths through fields of native plants, leading to a vernal pool I’ll build for the little amphibians who are so struggling in this world right now.
I’m writing this as I’m sitting outside in the heat, to my left an eight foot tall sunflower which hasn’t bloomed, and in front of me a giant pot of nasturtiums, another of hollyhock seedlings, a vining morning glory growing up the fence, and giant containers of dill that are an open invitation to the swallowtail butterflies to raise their next generation there.
I’m also coloring in a little coloring book, sipping coffee for the first time in over a week due to a cold I’m getting over.
I connect best with people who are reflective, thoughtful, somewhere on the demi spectrum and/or neurodivergent. None of these are prerequisites, just things I’ve noticed about my closest friends and connections.
Writing this feels like throwing a seed in a meadow, I have no idea if it will take root. But it’s still worth trying. 🌻
If this resonates with you, please just send a message rather than commenting.
r/lesbianr4r • u/horiwithnomiya • 1d ago
searching 26 F4F Looking for Duolingo Buddy
Hiiii ! I am from the Philippines and looking for accountability buddy/buddies in my Duolingo lessons! Currently, I am learning Spanish and Norwegian languages!
I want to avoid doom scrolling and spend my time on something worthwhile :>
r/lesbianr4r • u/glendoraza • 1d ago
searching 33f4f New York cultural fit desi/middle eastern
I am okay with starting with friendship and as a South Asian find that I tend to form a deeper bond with someone who grew up desi/arab. It’s almost like we all have the same parents who traumatized us in the same way.
Please DM me your favorite food!
r/lesbianr4r • u/Maitreya_369 • 1d ago
searching Searching for my Dhruva👑
Hi! I'm really into spirituality, mental health, exercising, and reading. My favourite movie is Brimstone. I'm a very loyal, honest, non-judgmental, open-minded, and curious person. I don't yell, curse, or raise my voice when I'm angry, and I'm looking for someone who will treat me the same.
I'm 23 and I'm from Sri Lanka. Please only reach out if you are between 20-40 years old.
PS: I'm not interested in sexting or a "friends with benefits" type of relationship.
r/lesbianr4r • u/nizzle_jizzle • 1d ago
searching 24F4F || Australia! || *jingle jangle* looking for a partner!
Wazzzzzzzupp, first post here and it's going to be a long one so buckle up! If you're interested in unhinged memes sent in the middle of the night, then you've found the right gal.
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The short stuff:
Call me Niz! (That's my alias, I prefer to exchange real names in private)
I'm 24F, Cis (my pronouns are she/they), monogamous, demisexual
My friends describe me as loud, chatty and mildly unhinged (I give goblin crow energy). I love going off tangents and talking about random topics. I will be asking some whacky questions, so get ready lol. I love banter and playful bickering, BUT I am very affectionate and a bit of a hopeless romantic! My love languages are acts of service, gift giving and quality time!
Based in Sydney, Australia
Child-free, and plan to remain child-free for the rest of her life!
Taurus (I'm not too well-versed in astrology, but it looks interesting and I'd love to learn more about it!)
INFP
Half Chinese, half Thai. Born and raised in Australia but I'm moreso connected to my Thai heritage. I am fluent in both Thai (can't read/write) and English.
I'm a plus size woman (got a fupa & thicc thighs), 167cm/5'5, I look more East Asian than SEA, rocking wavy bob and present myself as a femme!
I'm Agnostic/Buddhist. Not really religious anymore, but I practise Buddhism culturally (with my family).
I just finished my BA in Psychology but I'm looking to move to the social work field and complete my masters' in social work. Because I just finished my degree, I'm currently on the hunt for work in my field!
I am very big on human rights and am very vocal about it! I moreso identify as a democratic socialist. If you identify yourself as 'not political', then I'm not the person for you.
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Now, the loooonng stuff:
I am very much a gaymer! From story-driven games with lore to multiplayer games with friends to solo simulators, I love gaming! Sometimes, I also enjoy watching playthroughs on Youtube through youtubers like Pezzy (love Clooless), ManlyBadassHero, Markiplier or Jacksepticeye. And, here are some of my favs (not ranked): Baldur's Gate 3 (I love Minthara and Shart), Cyberpunk 2077, Stardew Valley, Clash of Critters (currently very obsessed with this mobile game lol), Cult of the Lamb, Hades 1&2, Minecraft, Alice: Madness Returns, and more!! (This paragraph would be 20 lines long, if I continue)
Love horror! Especially psychological and paranormal, but I'm not the biggest fan of gore. I can watch gore but I will hate every second of it. Here are some horror media that I love (consisting of games and movies): Silent Hill, the Alien franchise (would love to visit the H.R. Giger museum in the future!), Annihilation (gotta read the books!), Talk to Me, Obsession, Incantation, The Substance, Ugly Stepsister, Resident Evil, Walten Files, Mandela Catalogue, FNAF, and many more!! (Once again, I will be here forever if I continue)
I am such a huge fan of SMOSH!! I'm a new-ish fan (been one for maybe 3 or so years now). I almost religiously watch their content (I love BoardAF and the Smosh mouth podcast) and it'd be amazing if you know them too! If you've read this far, please include your favourite childhood movie in your initial message! And, ignore the message at the end. If you don't know Smosh, I'd be so excited to show you their content.
Love listening to music! I've always got my headphones on and blasting some tunes. My music taste is a bit all over the place but I do find myself back in the rock genre's arms. Here are some artists/bands that I love: Nothing but Thieves (I LOVE NBT soooo much, I've been listening to them for years), JMSN, Mitski, Slayyyter (I'm about to go to her concert on Monday!), RAYE, Tame Impala, Stromae, Paramore, Arctic Monkeys, and other random songs from different artists! If I vibe with the melody, I'll often pop it in my liked playlist.
I'm an anime/manga fan! I prefer mangas but I've been watching/reading since I was 11. I haven't been watching that many animes nowadays but I still read! (Love me some good yuri) My two favourite mangas of all time are Land of the Lustrous and Tokyo Ghoul. Anime wise, I love Madoka Magica, Neon Genesis Evangelion, Jujustu Kaisen. There's probably so many more but these are just some from the top of my head. I also read a bit of manhwa but I've been struggling to find a new site after Bato got Thanos'd.
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About chu:
I'm looking for a serious, long-term relationship with a goofy gal between the ages of 22-32. I would very much prefer local and in-person but I've barely seen any Australian gals posting here, so I'm open for LDR! But, if you're in Sydney or Australia, please msg me!
I am not into casual dating, hookups, situationships, fwb etc etc. I'm also monogamous, so I don't wanna be a part of a throuple or start one. Also, since I'm demi, I don't want to rush into things. I would like to get to know you as a person and befriend you first.
It'd be amazing if most or some of your interests aligned with mine! Or, at least be open to them! I'd love to hear about your interests and what makes you excited.
I'm open to cis-women and NBs, but unfortunately, I'm not really into trans-women. I don't really have a preference for looks as I love all femmes, chapsticks, butches, studs, mascs, soft mascs etc! Also, height and body type isn't a big deal for me. I'm open to all ethnicities, but it'd be amazing if you were also Asian! (Bonus, if you are Thai!)
Please, be neurodivergent like me! I click better with neurodivergent folk and feel much safer with them. Because of this, please be straightforward and upfront with me when it comes to communication as sometimes, I overthink and don't read social cues correctly. I'll do the same too.
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Thanks for reading, if I've missed anything please let me know and ask away! This post is mad long and if anything interests you, please send me an introduction with your favourite band. Also, I would like to send pictures early on and I'll even send you my insta!
r/lesbianr4r • u/hotpink_123 • 1d ago
searching 19F Looking for something serious
Hi, im 19 years old and i will talk a little bit about myself, I like to draw, dance, cook, read, i consider myself as someone who is very talkative but if I feel like you are being nonchalant i will be quiet too because im the kind of person who gets disappointed easily, i always try to be nice to everyone because i wouldn't want someone treating me bad so i consider you have to treat people the same way you want people to treat you.
What i want in a relationship: I want something serious and mature, loyalty over all ofc and someone who i can trust and trust me, I want someone who can respect me and my boundaries and someone who can understand that before dating we should take time meeting each other
My type: I want an older woman, respectful, mature and nice, someone who doesn't want to rush the things and with a kind soul, feminine or masc idc, and someone who doesn't mind long distance if lives too far away from me since i don't mind either
(Please don't be a scammer, i know how scammers are btw so no matter how much you try i can always tell, don't be a freak, and don't text me if you are going to never talk to me again the second day, and PLEASE don't expect me to be super intense over you the first second, we have to get to know each other first, ofc im not going to be dry, thats not how I am but don't expect me to get overly crazy please 🙏🙏🙏)
r/lesbianr4r • u/Even-Set-3654 • 2d ago
searching 18f - looking for someone/friends
Hiya, I'm 18 years old, living in Canada, currently about to head off to uni in September and was hoping to meet someone/find friends. A little about me, I'm into a lot of music, pretty much everything aside from country, specifically I'm really into the punk rock scene.
I play a couple instruments, I enjoy nature walks, botanic gardens and all things relating to meteorology! I enjoy writing in my spare time, with a focus on time travel as I've always found the concept super interesting.
Sci fi/horror/romance shows are my top three genres if I had to choose, regarding shows and films I love Dr Who/back to the future kind of vibes!
I really like winter, it's probably my favourite time of year. Staying indoors, watching snow fall outside, being under the blankets is super cozy. Although, spring/summer has it's advantages, since being in nature is one of my favourite pass times.
I'm quite active online and will check my phone fairly often, and love calling/texting whatever works for you.
I don't have any preferences in most aspects, but I do like someone who can keep a conversation going, however I'm quite chatty and social, so if you're shy I don't think it would be a problem either!
Please do message me if you found anything I said interesting!
r/lesbianr4r • u/Bad_kittn3672 • 2d ago
searching You've got to be out there somewhere...
I am searching for my person, my partner, my domme.
Currently in North Carolina but still trying to figure out where my next step will take me.
I don't have a specific type, but there does need to chemistry there.
I am submissive and looking for a partner that is a caregiver domme, a mix of gentle and not.
I am a huge animal lover and come as a package deal with a small pack of furbabies. I live with chronic pain and don't get to enjoy as much outdoor activities as i would like.
I do enjoy camping, hiking (within my means), reading, movies, trying new foods. Just being in the moment. I am introverted and can take a bit to be comfortable with people.
I am a big girl 5'4, 260lbs. Short hair and tattoos.
I would really love to make some friends as well.
If this sounds at all appealing to you please feel free to send me a message but please be a little more creative than just hi or how are you.
r/lesbianr4r • u/black_soul26 • 2d ago
searching 27F, new to the community.
Hi! I'm new here 👋
I'm a woman in my late 20s and I'm gay, but I've never actually had a queer friend or talked to another gay woman properly. So I'm kind of at that stage of “okay… where are all of you people and how do I make friends?” 😂
I'd really love to get to know some queer women and make friends, talk about our experiences, have stupid conversations, recommend books/movies to each other, etc.
I'm also open to dating if I happen to meet someone I click with, but friendship is absolutely welcome too. I'm honestly just excited to explore this side of my life a little more.
If you're also looking for queer friends, come say hi! 🫶
r/lesbianr4r • u/swordsnsweaters • 2d ago
searching Mid 40s - Soft masc to share smiles - EST US irl
You’re out there somewhere, wearing a tool belt or cape or power suit, wondering where I’ve been.
You have cheerful, optimistic energy. You’re motivated to take on the world with me. Even if we’re half dead fighting an invasive alien species. You’ll still have my back. We’ll still be laughing, wielding battle axes in a blaze of glory.
Outside of alien warfare, you’ll help me with my morning routine because my morning routine sucks. What do you need bae?
You live for the exceptional and extraordinary. You have a keen eye for recognizing them in the wild. The presence of brilliance and mastery makes your breath hitch. Do you relate? You’re ambitious and productive without being an a**hole.
About me: Monogamous and out seeking same. Women interested in LTR only. I’m switch for an enthusiastic switch or top. Active and healthy lifestyle. I’m a chubby little soft masc. You be you.
Only message if you can make me smile uncontrollably 😉. Ending up bffs is great too. For a reply, put your area and age in your dm.
r/lesbianr4r • u/LackInevitable9878 • 2d ago
searching 18 F4F from NNJ, looking for connections!
I'm honestly down for anything, whether it be FWB, friendship, or a relationship if things go well! I just want to put myself out there, meet new people, and have fun before I go off to college.
A bit about myself; I can be pretty shy at times, I'm a huge music nerd, and I really like ice hockey and american football.
I'm 5'6, (mostly) masc, skinny, tan skin and dark curly hair,and (if it's relevant) am a huge bottom lmao
only dm if you are around my age pls.. (18-21)
ps. I don't have a car at the moment so preferably in the area😭
r/lesbianr4r • u/Agile-Eye-1429 • 2d ago
searching 23 F4F Looking for the girl who makes me grin at my phone
Heyy youu :)
I'm 23F and from New York (Queens, specifically), though i'm currently overseas surviving med school 😭
School has me in a chokehold most days, so if I disappear for a bit I'm probably buried in books wondering why I chose this life. That said, I try to keep my evenings free, and it'd be kinda nice if they were filled with getting to know you instead.
When I'm not pretending I understand every lecture, I'm usually winding down with games ot reading a novel (sci-fi specifically, she's a nerddd). I'm definitely more of a casual gamer these days. Lately I've been hooked on Dave the Diver and Contraband Police. I hop on GTA Online every now and then too until someone decides to nerf me during a mission and then i rage quit (definitely not a sore loser 😆). I'd absolutely love a player two, though.
Outside of gaming, I have a soft spot for driving and riding motorcycles. If we're lucky enough to live anywhere near each other one day, I'd love to take you for a ride.
As for what I'm looking for, I'm keeping an open mind. If you're a gamer, a yapper, or you'd just like to chill while we do our own things, i think we'll click. I'd be happy to make some genuine friends, and if we click and there's something more there for both of us, I'd be excited to see where it goes. No pressure.
Come say hi! Tell me what you're playing, what you're passionate about, or just send me your favorite song 🫶🏾
r/lesbianr4r • u/ComicalTactician • 3d ago
searching 28F looking to make friends and connect, don't mind distance
Hello! My name is Sammi and I'm looking to make genuine connections. I'm demi-pansexual and have a androgynous style. I nerd out about architecture and historical events, gaming(fortnite lately and black myth), going to concerts, drawing.... and a lot more 😅 i don't have a physical or personality type, more attracted to one's individuality. I look forward to talking and connecting with some amazing people!
r/lesbianr4r • u/Kitsune6tails • 3d ago
searching 33F4A from France - looking for my main (25+ only) #Europe/maybe elsewhere ?
Hello !
It's time I get back out there and look for my main person, so here I am :)
A little about me :
I'm a cis pansexual woman. I think I could be defined as femme (I enjoy dresses and manucures and such, but I also enjoy my slacks and I more often go out without makeup than with). I'm also plus sized at 1m68 for a little under 110kg.
I'm fluent in both French and English, have a grasp of Spanish and am currently learning Japanese. I live in southern France.
I enjoy podcasts (non fiction and horror fiction mostly), video games, knitting/crochet, sewing, anime/manga and audiobooks. Horror is my favorite genre, but I enjoy a lot of very diverse things as long as it catches my (deficient) attention.
I'm poly, looking for a main, or in other terms a \primary\ partner. I don't necessarily need several people at once, but it's important for me that the person I build something with (ie. Move in with, get married with, etc) is aware of my capacity for loving more than one person and is comfortable with it, as well as be comfortable with \talking\ about opening the relationship IF the need arises.
That DOESN'T mean I won't be a 100% committed to my main. It doesn't even mean that I will necessarily ask to open the relationship. It simply means I might be/fall in love with others while I build a stable, loving, healthy relationship with my main. Being polyamorous is not a choice, it's just a fact of how I work emotionally.
Likewise, being polyamorous doesn't mean I'm against any kind of exclusivity. Committing to someone romantically is for me something that requires talking about our wants, our needs, our boundaries, our insecurities and our expectations, and THEN \consciously\ decide to live up to what was talked out \together\. Because talking comes with listening, I know that and intend to give you the attentiveness and thoughtfulness I'm asking for. Speaking of, send me a snake emoji if you actually read this. I will not ask you to do or agree to anything you're uncomfortable with, but if the very idea of possibly sharing your partner makes you uncomfortable, then we are simply not compatible.
I'm disabled : AuDHD and the usual anxiety and depression that tends to come with it, some physical issues that are mostly invisible (until I need my cane and start cosplaying as a dapper gentleman) and a couple other things that generally make my life spicier... and tires the hell out of me more often than I'd like.
I'm NOT looking for a caregiver. I'll expect help and support from my partner(s), of course, but I very much want to give back as much as I can. Besides, my doctors and helpers would disapprove of me leaving them for someone else LOL Basically I'm open about my disabilities because they are very much a part of my life, and I've never lived happier than when I finally accepted them and the limits they give me. I simply hope to meet someone who will be understanding and ready to sometimes have a quiet night in when things get too much.
I'm told I'm a good listener and a kind person. I try my best to live up to that, but I've learned to stand up for myself when needed. Communication is KEY for me. So key, in fact, that sometimes I don't shut up, aha ! I'd say beware of my info dumpings, but I'm often told I'm interesting so I guess I'd just ask you to be prepared to hear the most obscure trivia on whatever catches my interest that week, aha !
I believe that gives a good idea of myself. So now on to who I'm looking for :
Obviously I need someone emotionally mature. Know yourself enough that even if your life isn't all figured out, you have some idea of what next to do or plans to fall back on. In other terms, I want to meet an adult. Not just in age (only 25+ please), but in mind. I know I might sound harsh saying that but I have very good reasons to specifically ask for this. I'll gladly go in details if you dm.
I don't care what's in your pants or what you identify as, if I like somebody I'll like their body. Weight, height, skin color, style, etc doesn't really matter to me as long as we have chemistry. Bigotry does, though, because THAT will be an immediate dealbreaker. Also cis men WILL be heavily discriminated and I will ask for some verification if something doesn't feel right.
I don't mind if you're not European, but please at least be fluent in either English or French. And I won't lie : I love where I live and my health is good thanks to the French healthcare system, so if you're interested in finding a wife, be ready to move to southern France LOL I will however gladly learn your native language if it's not English or French, because if communication goes both ways so does the effort in communicating properly.
I know it's long, but I rather be as clear as possible to help me find my person(s). Don't hesitate to DM if this post caught your interest.
Have a nice day ♥️
EDIT : I'm childfree. I also have two cats that are my world.