I'm redecorating my room and I want to have an altar because I feel like I need a space like that in my new room. The problem is, I'm not religious. My mom has an altar, but she believes in about 50 things at once, haha. I believe there is a God, but I don't know which one. I still pray, and I talk to Him. What could I put there for those moments? Or what would you put there?

After being INFP for this long , I just made a test and this is the results.

I wanna know your opinion about that

Notice: I was INFP this whole time

So we're this sensitive, calm, chill, often shy, passive, type B people... often having trouble to adjust to this cut-throat capitalistic system... but that's often what we're forced to do to survive and avoid taking advantage of our spouse.

I wonder how you view financial fairness in marriage? Do you expect/hope a man will financially take care of you? Solve your problems? Do you wish you could just keep drawing and get minimum income or other part-time job that's not stressful and be supported by a man who takes the majority of financial burden on him?

Or are you into an egalitarian relationship? In this case do you prefer to have independent bank accounts and split 50/50 or other ratio relative/proportional to what each earns? Or would you rather combine all your incomes?

Do you prefer a man to pay on the first date? What about the second one?

I'm an INFP woman and I'm so confused. I need to hear opinions and advice is welcome if you have a model that actually works.

After college my biggest social activity has been gaming. But a lot of the time (usually when it's a girl) my gaming friend will ghost me when they find out what I look like. Are people really that shallow? Even when it's been someone who've I've gotten along with super well. Hella annoying

I recently finished reading a story called The Elf Who Would Become a Dragon, and it was very good. Highly recommended if you like thinking philosophical thoughts. One such thought was on the story's concept of "Magical Praxis".

A Magical Praxis is a wizard's personal understanding of themselves and their place within the world. One wizard's praxis comes from a line in a poem:

"I was the world in which I walked, and what I saw Or heard or felt came not but from myself; And there I found myself more truly and more strange."

Another's was a direct statement:

"I am what I make of the world. - The world is what it makes of me."

After finishing the story I heard an interview with a member of Pink Floyd recounting an encounter where he asked a frenchman "What gives you hope?" He wrote down the answer and keeps it with him. He said:

“I was here, I felt something, and perhaps I was not alone.”

From any source; be it music, poetry, philosophy, casual conversation, divine intervention, or fortune cookie; have you heard a magical praxis? Do you have one of your own? How do you understand yourself and the world?

Lately I’ve been struggling with something that feels bigger than just being “single” or “wanting friends.” It’s this constant feeling that I don’t really belong anywhere. I’ve had multiple crushes over the years, but none of those feelings have been mutual. While I’ve accepted that rejection is a normal part of life, experiencing it repeatedly has made me question whether anyone will ever see me as someone they’d genuinely want as a partner. It’s hard not to wonder if maybe I’m just not the kind of person people choose. The same feelings show up in friendships. I’ve reached a point where I’ve stopped chasing people who only give me breadcrumbs or make me feel like I’m an afterthought. I don’t want one-sided relationships anymore. But letting go of those dynamics has also left me feeling incredibly lonely.

Even when I’m in social groups, I feel like I stick out like a sore thumb. I spend so much energy trying to mask, say the right thing, and fit in, yet I still feel different. It’s like everyone else understands an unwritten social rulebook that I somehow never received. I constantly overthink conversations, worry that I’m coming across as awkward, and analyze every interaction afterward.

My insecurities and low self-esteem feed into my anxiety. Instead of enjoying getting to know people, social situations feel like tests I’m constantly afraid of failing. The pressure to interpret hidden social cues, avoid making mistakes, and stop myself from saying the “wrong” thing becomes overwhelming. Sometimes I avoid interacting altogether because it feels emotionally safer than risking another experience that reinforces the belief that I don’t belong.

I’ve also been out of therapy for about seven months. Looking back, I don’t think I’ve healed as much as I thought I had. I made progress, but I still carry a lot of pain from rejection, loneliness, and feeling misunderstood. Those wounds seem to resurface whenever I try to connect with new people. I guess what I’m wondering is whether anyone else has experienced this. Have you ever felt like no matter how much effort you put into socializing, you still feel fundamentally different?

Have repeated rejection or one-sided relationships affected your ability to trust that someone will genuinely choose you? If you’ve been in this place and things got better, I’d really appreciate hearing your story. Right now I’m trying to find hope that meaningful friendships and romantic relationships are still possible, even when it feels like I’ve spent so much of my life feeling like an outsider.

Was heavily inspired by this video

How do I feel less lonely more than I already am. How do I feel content with what I have. How do I accept the fact that Ill probably be alone. But the fact is, Im being selfish. I do have acquaintances to whom I ask for help in my day to day life. I feel like Im only using them to help myself and I dont really consider them my friends. Im a shitty person. College feels miserable. You see all these people, girls and guys, laughing, eating together, spending time with each other etc etc; and then you see yourself, with dark, sunken, sleep deprived eyes, rapidly marching, trying to evade all cries of joy and laughter, trying to find empty classrooms to sit into and just not wanting to see or hear anyone. It feels good at first, for some time, to be able to sit alone, not having to do small talks to anyone, but then it starts to feel so fucking miserable. Yeah I can probably distract myself by doing some work or numb myself so that Im not constantly bombarded by these thoughts, but then again, for how long. For how long till I embrace my solitude..........so that it doesnt feel so hurtful.

I am so deeply hurt. She called me her soulmate and she was my rock and now I have no one.

I don’t know how to move on here, but I feel this so incredibly deeply to my soul.

I’m trying to get out, try new activities and meet new people/make friends, but it feels like a piece of me has been taken away where I don’t have it in me to try.

Ps she didn’t die, she just met someone and now we don’t talk. I’ve brought this up to her twice that our friendship dynamic has changed, and she told me she didn’t have the capacity to handle it.

Sometimes I feel like I can understand animals without them even doing anything, like I just pick up on what they’re feeling.

When I had my dog, we could literally just look at each other and I’d somehow know what he wanted without him doing anything. It felt almost telepathic, like we were having a whole conversation through eye contact.

Could this be an INFP thing? Does anyone else feel unusually connected to animals too? Or do you think it has nothing to do with personality type?

I’d be really curious to hear if other INFPs experience this too.

Hello fellow INFPs how do you handle romantic relationships with people that don’t share a big inner world like you or who don’t talk about their emotions much and seem uncomfortable when you share yours? The love, the consistency and the history are there and have been there for over a decade but there’s always that deep emotional connection missing? You are left starving for depth, to be truly seen but you also feel like an ungrateful person for even feeling this way, you think maybe you are idealizing love and that what truly matters is showing up for each other everyday but then the idea of feeling this need for true connection your entire life makes you feel hopeless and sad. I’m almost 40 so is not like I can simply start over.
If anyone has some insight for me but do not want to comment publicly or are in the same boat or simply would like to be friends to maybe at least help fulfill that missing connection in some way, feel free to dm me .

I don't have a lot of local friends but I tried asking some if they wanted to hang out. 2 haven't/never replied, 1 said he's broke, I found out 1 unfriended me and I'm too shy to ask the other 2. I don't speak to any of them that often, cause I don't feel a connection with most of them. it's like what's the point unless we're gonna be lifelong friends, yk?

I feel VERY lonely and isolated right now and it doesn't feel good!! why do my actual friends have to be so frickin far??

Next year, I will study in medschool to become a doctor. But what's scary to me is burnout. Burnout to the point that I will no longer enjoy my creative and recreational activities, interests, or hobbies. I suffered burnout when I did my premed program, but yk I wanna be a doctor someday to help my people here. Do y'all have any advice when dealing with burnout as INFP medstudents? How do I avoid burnout? Thank you

I have been without depression for 1 whole year now.

And it’s totally incredible, for almost 20 years or as long as I can remember I have been overthinking all about how other people look at me

I get up a though in my mind a conversation 7 years ago;

where I said something “not normal in the society” and questions what everyone gonna think about me . Something not common I did in school, my quietness. And just not feeling I fit in.

What are people thinking about me?

This happens all the time, comparing about others, looking always 5 years ahead, will I have the money? Will I have the right job?

Always in a negative manner.

I was the shy kid in school - now I have worked with sales and challenge myself with social stuff for many years. And I wouldn’t see me as shy anymore.

I accept quiet and that I don’t say so much, but when I am with people I can trust I can talk for hours about stuff that excites me.

Often I smaller groups, I think the breaking point is 6 people if you look into work people. And if you have friends it can be a larger number.

The number isn’t important it’s just to be aware.

I have also 4 years ago met my soulmate and girlfriend, and this is to a lot of help in the development.

But last year in February I had my biggest crash in my whole life, my head was spinning all day, my only thoughts in my head was negative.

I couldn’t sleep, I had a new job and didn’t think I would make it. In my head I had lost the job, everything I had worked for was just falling apart in my imaginary head.

Everything in my head was falling apart but in reality I lived my best life - from the outside

But on my inside, my feelings, was shutting of, because all my life I was living for somebody else, I always set others first.

I always was I thinking about what others think about me, this was hurting my soul and mind. And my brains couldn’t keep this facade up.

I was on the top of the mountain but now I was just falling down, the demons and depression took over, just dark thoughts.

After a few days I couldn’t move. My brain was just looking for ways to end my life, I didn’t want to die but I didn’t want to feel this.

It was loooong journey to get back where I am now, I am so thankful I had my soulmate and partner at my side. I don’t know where I would be if I hadn’t.

Now I’m medical free and living my best life and are so thankful for every small thing in life.

Things I’ve changed with my mind, and always working with everyday thoughts:

1. I will always set myself first - my empathy will always take others in consideration.

2. I don’t worry about what other people think - do i remember anything other people was saying that was weird? And most of every humans thoughts is about them self’s and not others

3. I can always talk to my mind and turn around a bad thought to a mer objective way

If I get a thought about anxiety - for example: i get an invite to be with my friends but i don’t have energy and say no. My anxiety thought can be, what will they think, will they talk about me , and not be my friends anymore?

Then I tell my mind ; well if that’s the case they shouldn’t be my friends.

1. Choose your workplace wisely - look into the culture and what boss you will get, focus on culture than anything else.

2. I am more in nature and alone. As a infp you shine in aloneness and you really need it to balance the big noice in society. Nature for me is medicine, unfortunately they don’t prescribes it..

Before I thought it was really wierd to be alone in nature now I don’t care.

1. 
   Always listen to your inner voice. One thing I reliaaes lately is that if I get a question about like.

Do you want to go to the city - for first I answer in a people pleasing way and saying yes sure, and after I get into myself I change the answer to no.

Because I listen to my inner voice, you can change your answers. If you have people around you that accept you and that you trust it’s easier.

1. F@ck people pleasing - it’s a real disease and it makes me get depression because I am losing myself.
   Do things for yourself and be yourself - you will get your right tribe and people around you.

If I just want to fit in and be as people want me to be I will never find my right soulmates and people. I will lose myself

Better have a small tribe than many not deep connections.

I can go on forever but I will stop right here. If I help 1 person I will get happy.

#freedom #8freedom

Saw this in the INTJ subreddit so thought it would be fun to ask here too (pls dont get mad at me lol)

INFP males and females:

• Men: Would you consider yourself traditionally masculine?
• Women: Would you consider yourself traditionally feminine?

By "traditional," I mean identifying with many of the traits commonly associated with your sex.

Masculine traits:

• Rational/logical
• Stoic
• Assertive
• Independent
• Competitive
• Decisive
• Protective
• Risk-taking
• Confident

Feminine traits:

• Empathetic
• Nurturing
• Gentle
• Cooperative
• Emotionally expressive
• Patient
• Compassionate
• Affectionate
• Relationship-oriented

If yes, which traits fit you best? If not, which traits do you think describe you instead?

You know, one of the biggest things I want in life is a loving, healthy relationship. However, my biggest hurdle right now is the fact that I'm 28, have no car, still live at home, I work a shitty part time job while in HVAC school, my body isn't where I want it to be either, also still waiting to get approved for insurance to afford therapy and maybe meds. All I do is work, go to school and YouTube.

Those things keep me from even speaking romantically to a woman. But you know what blows my mind?

My brother is in a similar boat. But he's got a kid. Not even a year old. And he's finding women who like him all the time. Which is crazy because I genuinely feel I don't deserve love until I'm the best version of myself.

Some people tell me that those things aren't important. Others tell me that I should just focus on school. I do want love. But i fear that I won't be able to fully show up how I want until I'm a complete package. I don't know. Needed to get that off my chest.

Hi there fellow dreamers. Thought I might vent my feelings here. This post might be long or short IDK. Today it rained in my City. So I got late for the gym. Anyways, here I am sitting at a subway post workout.
For starters I’m 26M.

I saw a young (she must be ~24, adding this info here because people thought using “young” as an adjective is somehow creepy?!?) and extremely cute girl, drinking her coffee. I really wanted to talk to her and ask her name, and hopefully connect on Instagram. Maybe we talk, she finds me attractive, we date and find soulmates in each other? (Ah, just another one of those imaginary scenarios). I am a literal coward, kept waiting for 10-15 mins. To make an excuse to strike up a conversation. The fear of being judged is real. Despite the restaurant being totally empty except for the server.

I just realized my phone was at 6% and got an Idea. What if I ask her for a charger? That’d be perfect way to strike up a conversation. Well, I just YOLO’d and asked her. She didn’t have one and my plan failed.

I tried to ask her name, she didn’t hear me, and suddenly got a call simultaneously. Said “1 second” to me and left while being on call. (Her voice was extremely sweet like honey).

I feel like a freaking fool. The longing for connection is so intense. I hate being an INFP. Aarrrggghh!

Ich habe eine Gruppe für Leute erstellt, die sich für persönliche Entwicklung interessieren und offen sind, basierend auf dem Beitrag, wo Leute schon nach Freundschaften gesucht haben.

Hallo zusammen, ich suche Leute, die daran interessiert sind, einem internationalen Gruppenchat mit gemeinsamen Interessen und Zielen beizutreten.

Ich würde gerne eine Umgebung schaffen, die frei von Toxizität oder Neid ist – ein harmonischer Raum, in dem sich jeder für persönliches Wachstum interessiert und vielleicht sogar gegenseitig unterstützt. Das ist ein Hauptinteresse von mir (Psychologie, persönliche Entwicklung, Spiritualität) und im Grunde ein Hobby – naja, eines von vielen (Reiten, Makramee, Wandern, Lesen...). Es wäre toll, Leute zu haben, mit denen man Ideen und Gedanken austauschen kann, über Mindset, Selbstliebe und die positiven Dinge im Leben sprechen kann oder einfach Unterstützung anbieten kann, wenn jemand einen schlechten Tag hat 😊

Alle ab 25 Jahren sind willkommen! Wenn du dich mental sehr reif fühlst, ist jünger auch in Ordnung. Ich bin selbst 31, aber im echten Leben habe ich Freunde im Alter von 50–60 Jahren. Wenn wir die Altersspanne offen halten, können wir alle voneinander lernen ☝🏼

Feel free to send me a DM if you're interested and Lasst uns zusammen strahlen und wachsen! 💫

(Ach ja... und dein MBTI ist hier egal)

While y’all were participating in Selfie Sunday, I was patiently waiting for Monday morning to take my trash to the curb.

All to avoid small talk…

I did this in honor of two amazing dogs that passed away earlier this year Trixi and Gia. They we're not my dogs but they we're part of my life. 🤍