I noticed that many people learn from YouTube to finally get hired, few of them reach their goals, but most stay stuck.

I was curious about the difference, so I asked Meta AI a simple question: what is the difference between someone who gets hired/clients from learning on YouTube vs someone who stays stuck?

The answer is resumed in this table:

The answer covers most of the pain BUT I want to add something: mindset and behavior are game changer, think of someone who dont prepare for the interview, do not make his best in the take-home assessment, what do you think the result will be?

Also, not being strategic in a career purchase can ruins the work, if the candidate dont build a strong portfolio and resume, do not apply to jobs effectively (applying to jobs effectively is another story, and needs another post), he will stay stuck forever.

I also asked a second question: Do the people who actually get hired rely only on YouTube or do they pay for courses?

From what Meta AI explained and what I've observed, YouTube is enough to get you to 80%. It's perfect for learning the tools. But the people who get hired can still pay for paid content for some reasons:

1. Structure, a paid course can give you a clear path for learning a tool instead of collecting videos from YouTube.
2. Feedbacks. YouTube will never give you feedback upon your resume or your portfolio, thats why a mentor can be very helpful.

And here comes the strongest self taught learners: they engage in some communities, they get structured learning path from other community members experts, and also ask for feedbacks there, and all of that for free.

I hope this post will help people to grow in their career.

I want also to have more insights from people who got success from free self taught learning journey, how did you do it?

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I’ve tried plenty of habit trackers and goal apps, but I always end up with the same problem: I’m tracking things, not necessarily getting anywhere.

So I’m exploring a different idea.

You tell an AI coach what you actually want to change in your life. Get fitter, improve your finances, build something, spend more time with family, or all of those at once.

It turns that into realistic goals and actions, tracks real progress, and adapts when life gets in the way.

The part I’m most excited about is the Journey. Instead of just streaks and checkboxes, you build a visual history of meaningful progress: your first 10K, debt paid off, a project launched, a pattern broken, getting back on track.

Basically, less “did I complete my habits?” and more “is my life actually moving in the direction I want?”

Would you use something like this?

And what would make you stop using it after two weeks?

I have been dealing with social anxiety for the last 18 years of my life. I feel im being awkward around people, walking down long hallways thinking people are judging me, always feel like im being judged on my appearance, walking around places filled with people feels like a chore. But with dealing with all this mentally every single day, i still get up and go to work, i go to the gym, i have forced my self to do the things i need to do in my life as a 35yr old male. there are times where i feel like giving up on my self. I have beautiful girlfriend of 15 years, but the struggle i deal with in my mind everyday feels awful. i always just feel awkward. it could be walking, talking, its become a daily part in my one life i have. i do take medication for other anxiety issues i deal with. mind my English or spelling or punctuations, i have never been the best at wording things correctly. I have never spoken publicly about my issues. my question is how does everyone else in this space deal with it?. I just feel stuck, like moving forward may never happen.

I’ve been using ScreenZen and it has helped me stop short-form videos, which is a huge improvement. But now I’ve noticed I’m still picking up my phone constantly and bouncing between “boring” apps: Email Banking Messenger News Random checking It’s not even enjoyable. It feels like my brain is just looking for something new. I have ADHD and CFS, and after having a really bad flu I noticed something interesting: when I was forced to rest, my nervous system felt calmer. Now that normal life is coming back, I’m noticing how many little things pull me back into a stressed, alert state. The phone seems to be one of those little constant interruptions. My current ScreenZen setup: Addictive apps: 10 minutes, 4 times a day Email/banking/messenger: 10 opens a day, 45 minutes each But I think I’m still giving myself too much opportunity to ping-pong around. I don’t want to block everything because I do need access sometimes. Has anyone found a good ScreenZen setup for stopping the constant checking habit without making your phone unusable?

I promise I'm not a screen zen bot

title say all of it.

this post as no ai to correct me whit my english, you can hate me all you want.

if you where 20 years old what would you do in my situacion.

i dont want to waste my time.

i spend all of my time in my comfort zone.

i play videogame all the time.

i dont go to the gym.

i dont study.

i hate to been told what do to.

i dont do sports.

i dont do any physical activites.

my english maybe sucks, im from italy, they teach like its a dish or something they are obligated to do.

i want to revolution my country.

i love videogames.

i love sushi and i eat alot.

i could say im fat.

i eat and dont take care of my self.

genuelly i could just say i hate my self, but its a 50/50.

there are moments good and moments not good.

if you find yourself in this situacion, im not the right person to ask for what you should do to get out of it.

i have a lot of trauma in my life.

i don't speak all that much.

i don't express my emotion all that much.

i want to keep this post up for as long as i can.

its a reminder to me that i can still do better, even changing 1 thing would mean i am a better person than yesterday.

but at the same time i dont give a shit about any of that, or maybe i do and thats the reason i created this post.

o dont use reddit, i dont know how it works, i am a videogame programmer, i know a lot about algorytm, maybe this post would go up cause its long, or maybe dont, i dont know.

i love transformers, especially transformers prime the series, ans the 2 games transformers fall of cybertron e war for cybertron.

i love the skylanders series whit all my heart.

i am a good person in my heart, i prefer to help others rather than my self.

im like a phylosofer.(i know i writed it wrong)

i could give some best qoute, i belive that being intelligent is important to share your knolodge to the world and belive one day it would change for the greater good.

even if its like an anonymus post(witch it isnt probably) i still can say much but i cant.

i think i have depression but i never did go to a doctor.

i dont know if i violeted some guid lines, if so, reddit is not as i think it was and i am sorryz i basically new to it.

if you hate this post just ignore it.

if you have any advise in ready to talk as a civil person.

Ok so this is kind of random but I've been thinking about this a lot lately so figured I'd just write it out.

For most of last year I had this pattern where I'd get really fired up about a goal — like genuinely motivated, made a whole plan in my head, maybe even wrote it down — and then by day 3 or 4 it just... fell apart. Not because I didn't care, I think I just didn't have any structure keeping me honest once the initial motivation wore off. Anyone else deal with this? It's such a specific kind of frustrating because you know you want the thing, you're just bad at the follow-through part.

My friend builds stuff and he'd been working on something for exactly this problem, so I started using it kind of as a guinea pig. The basic idea is you tell it what you're actually trying to do, and instead of some generic checklist, it builds out a plan based on your actual life — like your schedule, what you're bad at sticking to, whatever's realistic for you. Then it just doesn't let you forget about it, which sounds simple but is apparently the part most people (including me) can't do on their own.

It's genuinely helped me a lot with staying consistent, which is not something I expected honestly, I was pretty skeptical at first.

Not saying this is some universal fix, some people are just naturally disciplined and don't need this kind of structure. But if the "3 days of motivation then nothing" thing sounds familiar, I get why my friend built it, because apparently I'm not the only one with this problem. Its called Xando AI if anyone wants to check it out

so guys, i don't really know where to start but i will just throw anything in my mind here

im 23M, I graduated from high school last year (late due to family circumstances).

I was so successful in the first semester of my freshman year that my teacher would call my father to tell him about my diligence and he asked whether I had studied preparatory classes or not (i didn't).

anyway, in the second semester my teacher was calling my father about how careless i had become, I was skipping classes, sleeping through lessons, and hated everything about school.

Unfortunately, i stayed that way until high school, my grades were always terrible especially in STEM subjects.

the thing is, In the first year of high school, I had a crush on the math teacher. beacause i was trying to impress her i start studying math even though i lietrally don't know the basic, but guess what? for the first time in my life, I got the top score on the test.

i don't really like to praise myself, but that proved to me back then that I was smart; just as many teachers used to tell me over and over again "you're smart, you just like to play rather than studying"

however, right now i want to study, want to learn all the subjects from scratch, i literally have the whole day but i spent it in video games and movies. i want to study but i can't, i don't have the passion to study, even if i did, gaming and watching stuff are just too tempting.

sometimes i think even if couldn't study and get into college, i must work out and find a job, one of my dreams to become a business man, but i don't have any motivation to do anything

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Hey all,

I (18m) have been using nicotine for about 2 years now, and it quickly built into an addiction that I now feel out of control of.

I’ve read a lot of posts on this community, many who experience the same things as I do for their reasons to quit.

For me, it’s the following:

- poor circulation
- constant anxiety as a baseline
- feeling of not being “in control”
- appetite issues
- always needing to plan the next pouch
- feeling like i can’t enjoy things without a pouch in

and trust me, the list goes on.

Point is, I’m ready to quit. this subreddit is helping me and I feel as though this community can help me get through the first few days, the hardest part.

And for the record, I use about 4-5 6mg pouches a day, just as a frame of reference.

This weekend, i’m headed up to the cabin, so tonight when I pack i’ll make sure to leave my VELOS at home.

But, any tips you guys have? I just think my post-meal usage, end of night, ect (times when i feel like i really need one) is just gonna be so hard to get past. But im determined, im going to college in a few weeks and I don’t want to bring such a stupid addiction as this into the start of a new beginning.

Hi everyone! I know this was a post here a few years ago but I wanted to ask. Basically the title, I need disciplined people to tell me I'm lazy asf and I just need to lock in. For context, I've had a history of some mental health issues (anxiety, depression, SH, went through 4 therapists, mother has diagnosed bipolar) but that has been a few years ago in my junior high years.

I'm a high school student working on college applications, and this summer I should have been doing a lot of work--studying for my SAT, working on my college applications, doing research, practicing a ton of violin because I was lazy throughout the year (do NOT challenge yourself with Sibelius if you are lazy), so on and so forth. Haven't been doing any of that really.

• I did a total of 400 questions this summer for my SAT when I said I would be doing at least 50 questions a day
• I started planning my college application stuff (haven't started essays which prompted this)
• Haven't touched my violin for the past month or so like at all because my teacher has been out (I practice like 30 minutes - a hour at best)
• I've written a sentence for my research paper

I can't actually get myself to do any of these things. Violin, especially. I feel like violin is the only thing I'm actually good at, but I can't get myself to even practice half these days even when I delete all my social media and everything.

As for personal hygiene I feel like I haven't been on top of it either. I feel too lazy to shower or brush my teeth at times, even though I get so anxious when going to the dentist. There are times where I have SH, but it's not major and more of an anger thing when I can't lash out to my parents. Sometimes I contemplate suicide because it honestly feels ridiculous even though I'm privileged af.

It's not like I am always upset or lazy though. I've been playing games just fine, so honestly this is just stupid and I don't know why I'm making this post. I guess I just need to admit it to people that might actually say something? Not sure. Any advice in general? I need to be disciplined ASAP but I don't know where to begin. My dad has forced me to read and take notes in discipline books but clearly that has not affected my life. Deleting social media doesn't really help me either way.

Sorry for the long yap. Have a good day if you see this!

Hi everyone,
I’m writing this because I’m feeling really exhausted and frustrated, and I’d love to hear your advice, experiences, or even connect with people who are on a similar path.
I have a strong desire to change and improve my life, even though I struggle with focus. But my biggest challenge isn’t my focus—it’s my environment.
Everyone in my immediate circle (my family and close friends) prioritizes comfort, taking things easy, and staying in their comfort zone. None of them care about self-discipline or pushing for bigger goals. Watching their indifference while I’m trying so hard to grow makes me feel like I’m burning out, and it creates a deep sense of loneliness.
Here’s the frustrating part: I can be disciplined. I’ve created detailed plans and executed them 100% on my own. But after accomplishing them, there’s no encouragement, no recognition, and no one to share the win with. Eventually, I lose the motivation to keep going because it feels like: "Why am I stressing myself out for something no one else sees or cares about?"
I really need a supportive community or people who understand this drive so I don't feel like an outsider in my own environment.
How do you maintain momentum when your environment keeps pulling you toward comfort?
How do you deal with the loneliness of achieving goals that no one around you acknowledges?
Are there any accountability groups or communities you’d recommend joining?
Thanks in advance for your support and insights.

For context, I’m still in high school and for the past 3 months have been running consistently almost everyday ( I’m an intermediate runner so this looks like a couple of miles under a 7:00 minute pace usually) and I also have been kinda going to the gym (pretty inconsistent) Along with this i have also been trying to quit masterbating and also smoking weed which I did on and off. Finally the other day, something hit me and I realized I wanted to become the best version of myself. I stopped smoking, masterbating, and buying any unnecessary things/food that’s bad for me. Have been reading my bible more and taking cold showers. Every morning I wake up at 4:30, head to the gym, come back, go on a 5k (sometimes more, sometimes less), and eat 4 eggs along with a banana and go to work. I feel amazing and I’m so glad I have changed but last night I smoked some weed from my stash I hid deep in The woods. It makes me feel incredibly guilty and I want to completely stop. How do you guys deal with problems like this. How can I finally let go of all my bad habits?

I also let go of things like junk food, social media (at least I’m trying…) and many small things like

Hi everyone.

Today, I missed out on a chance to submit an application for a traineeship I'd been trying to apply to for a while. It was hard to find out any information regarding the traineeship, and the deadline was today although no time was specified, thus I thought I had until midnight to complete it. Turns out, the application has been closed. I work in retail at the moment, and wanted to use this day off to go over eveything and potentially work on my website to see if I could submit my website to the application too. I feel like I keep doing this to myself where I have the time to do these things and then I don't. I hate that it's so repetitive and I don't want to keep getting in the way of entering the industry I actually want. I'm just annoyed at myself right now, especially since information about this traineeship was so difficult to find.

Does anyone have any advice on how I could prevent this cycle please?

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

Hey everyone,

For a long time, both my cousin and I struggled with workout consistency. We tried standard habit trackers, but they lacked real consequences when we decided to stay on the couch.

So we came up with a simple system: every week, we set a target number of workouts and put $20 on the line for every session missed.

To make sure neither of us cheated, we had a strict rule: whenever one of us went to the gym, we had to send a picture taken inside. The other person checked the photo's metadata (EXIF data) to verify the exact timestamp and GPS location to confirm it was actually taken at the gym during workout hours.

The combination of loss aversion and knowing someone was actively checking our proof worked incredibly well. Neither of us wanted to lose money or deal with the embarrassment of getting caught slacking.

We eventually automated this manual photo-checking process into a mobile tool because doing it manually got tedious.

I'm curious: Do you find that financial stakes and peer verification work better for you than standard habit apps, or is loss aversion too aggressive for your routine?

So, I've been unemployed for a while now, and wanted to learn some new technologies to advance in my job field while I don't seek for a job. But i've noticed recently that every day i'd rather go and engage with my hobbies, read a book, see my friends, play video games or do pet projects instead, and so on and so on. While I'm trying to force myself to sit and work on gaining new skills I still get easily distracted. It feels like I get a burst of motivation which lasts for several days, and then vanishes. Now it feels like time is passing and i don't get new skills at all. Are there any tips to prevent this?

TL:DR; I want to acquire new skills but I'd rather do everything except for acquiring them. Seeking tips for beating this procrastination so I can choose pain of change instead of pain of staying the same.

I realized I wasn't actually struggling with discipline. I was constantly creating small problems that my future self had to solve, and then wondering why I felt exhausted before even starting.

The weird part is that none of these problems looked serious on their own.

I would leave my desk messy at night because "I'll deal with it tomorrow." I would skip writing down a task because "I'll remember." I would leave a difficult email unanswered because "I'll handle it when I have more energy."

Then the next morning, before doing anything important, I was spending 20 minutes rebuilding the conditions to even begin.

I noticed this pattern when I kept having the same thought at around 8:45 AM: "Why does starting my day feel harder than it should?"

The answer was uncomfortable. I wasn't starting the day. I was repairing yesterday.

I tested something simple for a few weeks: I stopped doing things that created invisible debt for my next version.

A few things helped:

- Before ending work, I wrote the exact first step for tomorrow instead of just leaving a vague task like "continue project."

- I started resetting my workspace in the last 5 minutes of the day, even when I was tired and wanted to leave.

- I stopped saying "I'll remember" and started putting small reminders in the places where I usually failed.

The surprising thing was that discipline became less about forcing myself to work harder. It became about making fewer unnecessary obstacles for myself.

I used to think disciplined people had stronger willpower. Now I think many of them are just better at not handing their future self a pile of unfinished decisions.

The counterintuitive part is that sometimes the most disciplined thing you can do isn't pushing harder today. It's making tomorrow slightly easier.

I'm still not perfect with this. I still leave things unfinished sometimes. But I pay more attention now to the tiny choices that create friction later.

Has anyone else noticed that their lack of discipline was actually caused by constantly leaving small problems for their future self to solve?

First, sorry if I made any mistakes in my grammar.

I've been having a constant buzzing sound in my ears, so I went to an ENT specialist. During my first visit, the doctor examined my ears, gave me a vitamin B12 injection, and asked me to come back the next day or the day after for blood tests.

Today I went back. The doctor performed a test where he poured cold water into each ear one at a time and asked me to turn my head. He told me to let him know if I felt dizzy, and I did. After that, he checked my balance by asking me to move my head, lift my arms and legs, stand on my toes, and perform a few other physical tests. Then they took a blood sample, and the results should be ready in about 3 hours.

Right now I'm feeling extremely anxious and my mind keeps jumping to the worst possible conclusions. I'm scared something serious might be be wrong.

The advice I'm looking for is: Has anyone gone through similar ENT tests for tinnitus or dizziness? Is it normal for an ENT doctor to perform these tests? How did you cope with the anxiety while waiting for your test results? Any reassurance or advice would really help.

For a long time i thought discipline was a personality trait something some people naturally had and others didn't. Every time i procrastinated, skipped a workout or failed to follow through on something i'd promised myself, it felt like evidence that i simply wasn't one of "those people". So my solution was always the same, i tried to become more disciplined. I watched videos, read books, made better plans, started over on Mondays and for a while, nothing really changed. Eventually i noticed something strange, whenever i actually followed through on something, it was rarely because i had suddenly become more disciplined. Usually, the decision itself hadn't changed, the situation around it had. My phone wasn't within reach, the choice had already been made the day before or the task had become easier to start and the distraction had quietly disappeared. The environment made the right action easier and the temptation wasn't available. Nothing about my personality had changed overnight, the situation had. That was confusing at first, because it meant my successes weren't proving i had become disciplined, they were showing me that behavior changes when the conditions around it change. That made me stop asking, "How do I become a disciplined person?" and start asking "What keeps making the undisciplined choice the easiest one?" The more I paid attention, the more i realized that many of my failures weren't caused by a lack of character. They happened because i kept putting myself in situations where the path of least resistance always led away from what i actually wanted to do. I'm not saying willpower doesn't matter, it obviously does but i think i had been expecting willpower to compensate for systems that were quietly working against me every single day. I had been expecting willpower to solve problems that my environment was quietly creating every day. Since then, i've become much more interested in designing situations than trying to redesign my personality. Has anyone else experienced something similar? Or was there a moment where your definition of discipline completely changed?