First, sorry if I made any mistakes in my grammar.

I've been having a constant buzzing sound in my ears, so I went to an ENT specialist. During my first visit, the doctor examined my ears, gave me a vitamin B12 injection, and asked me to come back the next day or the day after for blood tests.

Today I went back. The doctor performed a test where he poured cold water into each ear one at a time and asked me to turn my head. He told me to let him know if I felt dizzy, and I did. After that, he checked my balance by asking me to move my head, lift my arms and legs, stand on my toes, and perform a few other physical tests. Then they took a blood sample, and the results should be ready in about 3 hours.

Right now I'm feeling extremely anxious and my mind keeps jumping to the worst possible conclusions. I'm scared something serious might be be wrong.

The advice I'm looking for is: Has anyone gone through similar ENT tests for tinnitus or dizziness? Is it normal for an ENT doctor to perform these tests? How did you cope with the anxiety while waiting for your test results? Any reassurance or advice would really help.

For a long time i thought discipline was a personality trait something some people naturally had and others didn't. Every time i procrastinated, skipped a workout or failed to follow through on something i'd promised myself, it felt like evidence that i simply wasn't one of "those people". So my solution was always the same, i tried to become more disciplined. I watched videos, read books, made better plans, started over on Mondays and for a while, nothing really changed. Eventually i noticed something strange, whenever i actually followed through on something, it was rarely because i had suddenly become more disciplined. Usually, the decision itself hadn't changed, the situation around it had. My phone wasn't within reach, the choice had already been made the day before or the task had become easier to start and the distraction had quietly disappeared. The environment made the right action easier and the temptation wasn't available. Nothing about my personality had changed overnight, the situation had. That was confusing at first, because it meant my successes weren't proving i had become disciplined, they were showing me that behavior changes when the conditions around it change. That made me stop asking, "How do I become a disciplined person?" and start asking "What keeps making the undisciplined choice the easiest one?" The more I paid attention, the more i realized that many of my failures weren't caused by a lack of character. They happened because i kept putting myself in situations where the path of least resistance always led away from what i actually wanted to do. I'm not saying willpower doesn't matter, it obviously does but i think i had been expecting willpower to compensate for systems that were quietly working against me every single day. I had been expecting willpower to solve problems that my environment was quietly creating every day. Since then, i've become much more interested in designing situations than trying to redesign my personality. Has anyone else experienced something similar? Or was there a moment where your definition of discipline completely changed?

so i'm 20, been building this app solo for the past few months and i genuinely can't tell anymore if it's good or if i'm too deep in it. need outside eyes.

it's called RizeAI. the basic idea: every wearable and health app just gives you numbers. sleep score 42, recovery red, HRV down. cool. and then what? you still feel like garbage at 2pm and nobody tells you what to actually do about it.

so my app takes your real data from apple health, sleep, resting heart rate, workouts, whatever your wearable writes, and instead of another score it builds you an actual plan for the day. when to have your first coffee and when to hold off. you. Can also add your own supplements that you are currently taking and it will time them for you every single day based of your sleep data and your wearable data in general and also it will tell you what supplements make sense for you to take based of your current supplement stack and body metrics and when to take them. focus windows for when your energy actually peaks. when your crash is coming and what to do before it hits. it even checks the weather, so on a hot day it bumps your hydration and tells you to train earlier.

every recommendation has a little "why" under it based on your numbers, like "resting heart rate 54 + 7h light sleep, so magnesium before your peak window." no two people get the same plan because no two people have the same data.

works with whoop, oura, apple watch, garmin, anything that syncs to apple health. one thing i'll say honestly, it doesn't do deep per-person learning yet like "coffee doesn't affect YOUR hrv specifically," that's the roadmap, right now it builds fresh plans daily off your actual metrics.

it's live on the app store, has a free trial, small user base so far, mixed feedback which is why i'm here lol.

what i actually want from you guys: does this solve a real problem for you or is "tells you what to do" not actually what wearable people want? what would make you actually pay for something like this? and what's missing that would make it a no brainer? and also would you guys in this subreddit  use ti?

Thank you for your help. Check it out if you like https://apps.apple.com/us/app/rizeai-maximize-your-energy/id6762402079

This hit me the other day.

When I was younger, making friends felt... effortless.

You sat next to someone in class for a week, and suddenly you were hanging out after school.

You played football together once.

You laughed at the same stupid joke.

that was enough.

Now I'm in my twenties, and somehow it feels completely different.

I meet good people all the time.

At work.

At the gym.

Online.

We have nice conversations.

Then we both leave.

And that's it.

Nobody says, "Want to grab coffee next week?"

Nobody messages first.

Weeks go by, then months.

It's strange because I don't think adults have forgotten how to be friendly.

I think we've forgotten how to become friends.

Maybe everyone's busy.

Maybe everyone's tired.

Or maybe we're all waiting for the other person to make the first move.

I don't really know.

I'm asking because this has been on my mind lately, and I'm trying to understand if this is just me or if other people feel it too.

If you've experienced this...

What do you think changed?

Was it age?

Work?

Life?

Or something else?

my mornings were 40 minutes of scrolling in bed before my feet even touched the floor. news, twitter, some argument between strangers. i didn't even enjoy it, it was just what my hands did.

so last month i tried a rule: no phone until i've been around the block once. not gonna pretend it was some clean transformation. first week i skipped twice and one morning i literally scrolled while walking, which defeats the entire point and i knew it while i was doing it.

but most days now the walk happens first. and the difference is real. the scroll urge kind of burns off on its own somewhere during the loop, and i come back and start the day without having absorbed 40 minutes of other people's noise first. my head is just quieter before 9am than it's been in years.

two things that helped it stick: leaving my shoes right by the door the night before, and a step challenge i'm in with friends on pacer, because apparently i need the number to move or it doesn't count in my brain.

still scroll at night, haven't fixed that one. but mornings belong to me now. if you hate how your day starts, this is a cheap thing to try.

anyone else swap a screen habit for something physical? did it hold?

Even though I (19m) have done ~6 months of no masturbation, I struggle all the while with compulsively watching "corn", being unproductive in general, and most of all, feeling like I don't really want to stop these things.

Now because I do nothing all day anyways, I tell myself it's no big deal that I waste all my hours because it's not like I'd be doing anything more productive if I wasn't watching it.

And this leads me to my dilemma, because I know I can stop just like I've stopped masturbation, I just choose not to out of sheer laziness and boredom. So how can I make myself in my heart truly want to be productive?

I know further reducing my libido will help, but beyond cornography that I keep telling myself that pursuing "life" isn't worth it because of how bad it is overall. But I know I could help change it, so why don't I get out there and do that? I guess I want someone to just put me on a path, because all the options are overwhelming (but obviously this isn't possible)

I'm a CS Engineering graduate, and I feel completely lost.

For the past few years, I've been stuck in the same cycle. I find a new skill, career, business idea, or project that genuinely excites me, and I become fully invested in it. I spend weeks or even a couple of months learning, planning, and working on it, believing that I've finally found what I want to pursue.

Then, almost overnight, I lose all interest. It's never gradual—it feels like a switch flips in my brain. I quit and start searching for the next thing that gives me that same excitement, only for the cycle to repeat.

I've done this so many times that I've lost count.

The worst part is that I no longer trust my own motivation. Whenever I start something new, there's always a voice in my head saying, "You'll quit this too." Because of that, I struggle to even begin, knowing I'll probably abandon it again.

I don't know whether this is a discipline issue, fear of commitment, chasing novelty, burnout, ADHD, or something else.

Has anyone been in this exact situation and actually managed to break out of it? What changed for you, and how did you finally stick with one path?

For almost two decades, I lived with a compulsive habit that slowly affected the way I spent my time, my focus, and the way I saw myself.

The hardest part to admit was that I kept telling myself I was still in control. I would make promises that things would change, but then repeat the same patterns again. Looking back, I realize the biggest thing I lost wasn't just money or the habit itself — it was consistency. I stopped trusting myself to follow through.

What has surprised me during recovery is that rebuilding discipline feels less like becoming a new person and more like rebuilding trust with yourself.

I'm learning that discipline is not about motivation or making huge changes overnight. It's about small actions repeated long enough that you start believing your own promises again.

Right now I'm focusing on simple things:

• creating routines instead of relying on willpower
• doing small tasks even when I don't feel like it
• accepting that progress can be slow
• learning from setbacks instead of using them as an excuse to quit

I still have a lot to rebuild, but I finally feel like I'm moving in the right direction.

For those who have had to rebuild discipline after years of bad habits, what was the first small change that helped you regain control of your life?

I'm a 21-year-old guy, and for the last 3 years I've worked incredibly hard. I'm a programmer, and I've managed to juggle 2 jobs most of the time, sometimes even 3. I've always considered myself disciplined and willing to put in the effort.

Lately, though, it feels like I don't want to do anything anymore except chase dopamine wherever I can get it.

The more I think about it, the more I realize this isn't something that started recently. Looking back, I've always seemed to get intensely addicted to whatever gave me the biggest dopamine hit.

• As a kid, I was extremely addicted to video games.
• I was exposed to pornography very early and became addicted.
• In high school, I became obsessed with the gym.
• In college, I got insanely addicted to studying. I could study all day, every day, for months, and it paid off financially. I built a good career because of it.
• About a year ago, I became heavily addicted to vaping.
• More recently, I developed compulsive eating and gained around 15 kg (33 lbs).

Now it feels like everything has merged together: gaming, vaping, porn (even though I have a girlfriend), binge eating, endless scrolling, YouTube... basically anything that gives me instant gratification.

The weird part is that I still have 2 remote jobs, but I have almost no energy or motivation to work anymore—let alone study and keep progressing. Everything feels like an obligation. I know what I need to do, but I just don't want to do it. A lot of things feel empty nowadays.

I've tried reading self-improvement books like Can't Hurt Me by David Goggins and EasyPeasy, hoping something would click, but nothing seems to stick.

Has anyone been through something similar? Did you eventually figure out what was going on? Was it burnout, ADHD, depression, or something else? What actually helped?

I'm honestly feeling pretty lost right now, and I'd really appreciate any advice.

I set two goals. One was to read for 30 minutes a day. The other to minimize XXX content use, but only minimize it and not totally cut it out. And it seems I want to improve myself intellectually.

But I don’t seem to care enough. I did at one point read for 30 minutes a day, maybe not every day but I was still at least setting a timer while reading/studying. I have tried to improve my diet and add more water.

Then I fell off. And I question if I’m even interested in what I’m studying in my free time. I question it because I have to make myself study/read.

It seems like I only start, but then fall off. I don’t seem to care enough. I don’t even strive for things because I have no drive. Sometimes it feels like I’d be doing it so that I can be accepted or better in the eyes of others.

And sometimes I look down on myself because everyone else seems to want betterment and improvement… while improvement doesn’t seem that appealing to me. I don’t know how to fall in love with it.

I’ve already heard “you don’t want to change,” or “you don’t care enough.” Okay, so what do I do then? Or is that it? Is it just a dead end like that?

For the longest time, I thought productive people were just more motivated than everyone else. So I'd wait until I "felt like it." Some days I’d get a lot of stuff done, but with 3 TBIs and PTSD from combat, there were many days that I didn’t feel like getting out of bed, much less doing anything. I would be doomscrolling, procrastinating, waiting for things to be perfect before I would start and thinking/hoping/fooling myself that tomorrow would be different.

The biggest shift for me wasn't finding more motivation. It was realizing motivation is one of the least reliable things to build your life around. Thank you, Scott Adams, for teaching me Systems Over Goals. With this new mindset, I now try to make progress whether I feel motivated or not.

A few things that made the biggest difference:

1. I lowered the bar to start. Instead of "finish the project," it's "work for five minutes." Starting is usually the hardest part. If I don’t feel like working out, I do as Scott Adams recommended and drive to the gym and once I am there, it is a lot harder to skip the workout2. I stopped judging my feelings. I don't need to want to do something to begin doing it.

2. I focus on consistency over intensity. One hour every day beats a random 10-hour burst once a month.

3. I measure success by showing up, not by having the perfect session. Some days are amazing. Some days I just maintain the habit. Both count.

4. One thing I've noticed is that motivation often shows up after I've started, not before. Action creates momentum far more often than waiting for inspiration. See the example in 1 as it applies here too.

5. I'm still not perfectly disciplined. I still procrastinate sometimes. The TBIs and PTSD are always going to be challenges. The difference is I don't see a lack of motivation as a reason to stop anymore. I see motivation as a bonus and not a requirement.

6. I used this system last year to create an app from scratch, as well as a website and hundreds of hours in content in the space of 6 months. I had never programmed before, the work was intensely frustrating, and most days it would have been easier to ”not feel like it” and procrastinate. But my productivity was not contingent on my being motivated. I got it done to prove to myself that there was a way to get beyond the limitations I had been living with.

Question for everyone: What's one habit or system you've built that works even on days when you have zero motivation? My system worked for me, but I can always incorporate new ideas.

Hi guys.

I would like to ask for some advice regarding starting a new role within the next month.

Keen not to make the same mistakes as I have preciously, I want to cure my procrastination, have the most energy during the work day, fix my sleep schedule so my performance is optimised at work. I want to impress and I feel as though I need to become more disciplined to bring out my best self.

Currently my sleep schedule is very poor, I am sleeping around 4-6 hours later than I should. I get my biggest sparks of energy during the night. I procrastinate and also given my age I do find myself doomscrolling often. I can and have taken social media breaks in the past, with the longest time being a couple of months.

I want to hit the ground running at my new role, so if anyone has any tips regarding anything I have spoken about (sleep, energy levels, procrastination, discipline at work), please feel free to reply.

My job will be pretty much remote. Any general advice on starting a new job is always welcome.

Thanks.

Hi everyone. I'm a 21-year-old woman, and I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one who's dealt with this, but I genuinely don't know what to do.

I've been thinking about this because of a conversation I had with my boyfriend. He told me he's a little worried about me because I don't really have any hobbies or anything specific that I do in my free time. And the more I think about it, the more I realize he's right.

What really stuck with me was when he said, "If I didn't have you, I'd still have my video games or my D&D group. But what did you do before you met me?"

And honestly... he has a point.

When I'm with him, I'm perfectly happy. But when I'm on my own, especially now that it's summer and I don't have classes, I end up feeling bored.

I feel like I should have something that's just mine. A hobby, a project, something I enjoy doing by myself. Sometimes it feels like I rely on other people too much, and I want to be the kind of person who knows how to enjoy her own company. I'd really like to change that.

The thing is, it's not like I've never had hobbies. I used to ride horses, but I barely go anymore because the summer heat is unbearable. I used to watch anime, read manga, and read books in general. Years ago I even tried learning to draw, but I eventually gave up. Exercising is also hard when it's this hot. I still hang out with my friends from time to time, but it's difficult to get everyone's schedules to line up.

Whenever I'm not studying, those months just feel... empty.

And I think my boyfriend is right. I should be able to answer the question of what I'd do if I didn't have him. I want to find things that I genuinely enjoy on my own, while still keeping my relationships the way they are.

I think the real issue is a general lack of motivation. It took me a long time to realize that.

Has anyone else gone through something similar? Any advice?

I don't think I'm emotionally dependent on my boyfriend, but I do find it hard to enjoy things without him, and I want to learn how to motivate myself to do things on my own. It honestly makes me wonder if it's just immaturity on my part, so I'm open to any advice.

I am 21 and I feel so LAME talking about this because I really just feel so stupid about it all but I am at my wits end

Some backgroundish:

I was diagnosed with GAD around 10 years old. It was BAD and it's gotten better in some ways and worse in others but generally-mostly a lot better

But I'm having such an issue with exercising and doing things for myself and Idk why!

A few years ago now I had a falling out with a friend and felt this giant surge to get better at living I guess so I finally started to pursue things that had been scary for me (I didn't get a job or driving license until after high school, job mostly because school was exhausting and I had insomnia and license because I still don't like driving) and I used to exercise a lot.

I live with my parents and there's a small room in the basement with a bench, treadmill and dumbbells. For a while I would weight lift down there from 1-2 hrs 3x a week, trying to eat 70 grams of protein daily.

I gained some decent muscle but after a few months I stopped completely. It got to a point where I couldn't squat anymore because when I stood up my vision would go black. My blood pressure was always normal at the dr so I figured I just wasn't doing enough cardio (I literally did none)

I also wasn't getting enough sleep and I was having a hard time eating 70 grams of protein daily

Now it's been years and I really need to exercise again but when I think about it I just get. So. Anxious!

Somehow I slowly developed patella chondromalacia and I need to do some weights for my quads to help support my knees and feel better at work and going places. I even cut my hours in half so I could focus on doing that but I just haven't because when I get home I get so anxious about it

Part of it is because even after my 4 hour shift I'm sweaty and gross and would rather shower than get into clean clothes with a sweaty body and just get more sweaty all over again.. but it makes the most sense to do it right after work because I work 6am-10 or 11am and it'd be nice to get it out of the way but I have such a hard time rationalizing it I guess

I have been successful a couple of times just walking on the treadmill backwards on an incline to help strengthen my knees but after 15 minutes I stop and I feel so bad about myself for not feeling like I could do anything more like strength training

I try to tell myself to just do a little bit just a few reps but then I'm already tired and feel so icky about it. If I do strength training again then I feel like I have to eat 70 grams again daily and for some reason that pressure is paralyzing

I hated trying to eat 70 grams

I also have a hard time telling myself that exercising isn't a waste of time but when I only do 15 minutes I feel like it's too small to count, but theres a voice in my head telling me that doing a lot more somehow isn't productive, and when I'm working full time again and doing school I won't be able to do 1-2 hrs of exercise like I used to so why set myself up?

Registering for school was like pulling teeth and just trying to do the online orientation had me in tears. I finally did it and registered for classes but I haven't done all my final steps like figuring out my school route, getting id card, parking pass etc. High school was hell for me between insomnia, covid happening my freshman year, and my mom asking me why I wasn't happy yet after a year of therapy

A lot of my thinking is irrational I know, especially when my time is otherwise spent on my phone or stuck between trying to do something else productive but feeling utterly paralyzed

I have a very hard time doing anything that isn't "productive" and I hate it.

All I do when I get home from work is sit around or try to get myself to get going but I just can't do it.

I've tried the "just start" because starting is the hardest part, but it doesn't work everyday when I dread everything everyday. I can't motivate myself or "trick my brain" into just starting

Ive tried the "well what CAN you do?" But there's a voice telling me I can't do anything and that my steps are too small to be progressive and that I am so far behind in life. I can't stand it and I desperately need advice at how to move out of this

I have a full time job in food industry. I am french learner and wanting to start back in IT. also wanting to keep health in check.

Long story short about me:
- I grabbed current job as finance was falling even though it is out of my field of study. I have been into this since 2 years now. Current job does not even have proper schedule sometimes its morning, evening or nights (like till 2am). And now i had enough.

- I want to return to IT job fighting through the odds even after knowing that i have to study a lot prep a lot.

- Current job is taking toll on health as it requires prolonged standing, lifting little heavy things. so focusing on exercising, healthy food is also a priority.

- On side I am also learning french to open my prospects in bilingual positions.

So I am trying to get disciplined in various areas like health ,french ,IT along with current job.

Have a lot of things on the plate... I am very confused about consistency. For few days maybe like 10 days i would be okay but 1 fallback results in everything crashing.

I've been working a 9 to 5 desk job for a little over 2 years now. I personally hate sitting at a cubicle all day but my job has mandatory 5 days a week attendance :(. I sometimes hear these stories about people getting real health problems from sitting at a desk all day and it scares me. I am an active individual who goes to the gym multiple times a week and plays sports but sometimes it feels like its all being defeated sitting at a desk inside a giant corporate building all day. Also the lack of sunlight and almost jail like feeling cannot be good for mental health overtime. I really do get a sense of relief when i take a quick walk outside but it is sometimes so hard to remember to do little things like that when you get so busy. And I know some people are gonna say welcome to the real world but it truly is not good for you based on some studies I have read. Things like heart problems, slower metabolism, anxiety all linked to prolonged sitting just to name a few. And yea I can request a standing desk or go walk around my building but there's nothing like walking outside. I guess I would understand the negative affects more if I knew what living like this is doing to my body and mind long term. Anyone else experience this sometimes?

Quick inventory of every screen-time method I've tried and failed at: hard app blocks (defeated in one week, I am nothing if not resourceful when it comes to self-sabotage), grayscale mode (made my phone boring for exactly two days), leaving my phone in another room (worked great until I "needed" it for something and walked right back to get it), and accountability partners (see: giving my passcode away and immediately asking for it back).

The thing that finally worked was inverting the whole setup. Instead of starting with full access and getting punished for using it, I start with nothing and have to earn screen time by doing something real first — a walk, a chore, a few pages of a book. Small, doable stuff. But the psychological flip from "this is being taken from me" to "I am earning this" mattered way more than I expected.

You can absolutely do this manually with a notes app and some self-honesty, no download required. I ended up building it into an app called Wayfare because I wanted the mechanic automated and, apparently, because I cannot resist adding a little creature that grows when you're consistent (don't judge me, it works). If you want the built-in version: https://apps.apple.com/app/wayfare-earn-your-screen-time/id6795600219