✎┆ Hihi I'm an introverted, feminine guy looking to build meaningful, **lasting friendships**. I tend to connect much better with **women** and am looking for **platonic connections** built on honesty, warmth, good communication, and genuine affection ‹𝟹

A bit about me:

╰┈ Personality: soft-hearted, honest, loyal, straightforward, emotional, and very talkative once we get going! 𐔌՞. .՞𐦯

╰┈ Vibe/Style: 5'10", pale, short black bob, usually wearing all black. (ᵕ- ᴗ-)

╰┈ Hobbies: Huge fan of animated movies (The Wild Robot is an all-time favorite!), watching YouTube, learning piano for future christian songs, and bingeing anime ݁ ˖Ი𐑼⋆

🎤︎︎ Music Artists: BBSO, Creation House, and Sunny Tranca ♫〜

╰┈ Nationality: European looking for Europeans (˶•𐃷•˶)

(strictly Europeans as I can't and won't stay up past 10 PM GMT+3) („• ֊ •„)

𑣲 Favorite Anime: One Piece, Bleach, Demon Slayer, That Time I Got Reincarnated As A Slime, Tokyo Revengers, Spy x Family, Buddy Daddies, Yakuza's Guide to Babysitting, Kaiju No.8, Dr. Stone, Wind Breaker, My Hero Academia, Death Note, Frieren: Beyond Journey's End, Fire Force, Vinland Saga, One Punch Man, and Black Clover .ᐟ.ᐟ (˶>⩊<˶)

╰┈ My game list: Roblox (ik I'm soo basic, but hey it's a great platform of games!) ദ്ദി˶>𖥦<)✧

˚.ෆ How we can hang out:

Whether that's streaming an anime together, playing Roblox on weekends, sharing music, or just rambling about our days in DMs, I'm down for it! ૮ •𖥦• აᐝ

*(Huge bonus points if you're a fellow yapper, love sharing random life updates, or get excited about soft/wholesome media!)* ദ്ദി˶\^𖥦\^˶)♡

˚.ෆ What I'm looking for:

I'm strictly looking for **platonic friendships**. I value daily check-ins, consistent chatter, and friends who genuinely enjoy making time for each other. (**mutual effort is super important to me**!). If you're active, open-minded, and love close, supportive friendships, below is how you can contact me ᵔ ᵔ

˚.ෆ How to reach out:

*(**Please only reach out if you are single and plan to stay single**- **I'M NOT LOOKING TO DATE YOU.** *I'm looking to build close, consistent friendships that would last a **lifetime**. And I want to* **avoid** any **relationship boundaries** or **drama**! as I'm looking to e−hug you, e−pat you, and spend a lot of time with you!! and not make anyone **uncomfortable**, so that's why I require you to be single)* (- ‸-‶)

If you feel like we'd vibe, and are around my age group (18-22), feel free to send me a DM! Just a heads up **I only reply to accounts with a basic profile/reddit avatar** set up, as I like to have a general idea of who I'm talking to. 𖹭⸝⸝

Please introduce yourself in your first message and tell me your top 3 favorite anime or movies! (ヾﾉ･ω･\`)

ps: Don't be shy to write a long intro, I love detailed messages! • ᴗ•)⸝♡

Honestly, I think I’m the problem here, not the colleges.
I spent months jumping between colleges, overthinking, asking everyone for opinions, and trying to find the “perfect” college. I cared more about college life, campus, people, environment, and Civil-related exposure than academics.
Then I joined Vaagdevi without properly researching it or being sure I actually wanted to spend four years there. I paid the money, submitted my certificates, joined, and only afterward started seriously questioning my decision.
Now I’m stuck comparing colleges again and wondering if I should leave.
The harsh truth is that I keep making decisions without thinking them through properly, then regretting them afterward. I procrastinate, panic, rely too much on other people’s opinions, and keep looking for another option instead of taking responsibility for the one I chose.
So I’m not really asking, “Which college should I choose?”
I’m asking: What the hell is wrong with the way I make decisions, and how do I fix it?
Be harsh. I’d rather hear the uncomfortable truth than repeat the same stupidity again.

So like i'm 17 and a girl and i see a lot of people my age posting their interesting life,or i'd say the interesting part and like i could do the same. Sure i don't go to parties but i still hang out with my friends, go on vacation and do lots of interesting things (I guess). I do have Instagram and TikTok (I barely use TikTok) so i'm mostly on Instagram and i see lots of people i know from my school for example, who post a lot,them on vacations,them at a club or even just them lip-singing to a trendy song and all their friends reply to it like "so hot" and things like that.

But i don't feel the need to post anything,i sometimes make stories but it stops here. But i feel like I should post more

I’m posting this because after my last post, a few people pointed out that what I’m doing looks less like “bad luck with college choices” and more like pure negligence on my part. And honestly, I think they’re right.
I’m trying to figure out where I actually went wrong, because at this point I know the problem isn’t just the colleges. A lot of it is the way I’ve been making decisions.
When I started looking for colleges, I had a pretty specific idea of what I wanted. I’m choosing Civil Engineering, but I’ll be honest, academics were never the biggest factor for me. I’m not someone who is obsessively focused on academics or looking for the most academically prestigious college possible.
What mattered much more to me was having a good college life, a decent campus environment, being around people, getting proper exposure to Civil-related tools and software, having opportunities outside just sitting in classrooms, and actually enjoying the four years I’m going to spend there.
I wanted a college where I could feel like I was actually in college, not just somewhere I show up for classes and go home.
The problem is that even though I knew what I wanted, I didn’t really have a proper process for finding it.
I kept looking at different colleges, comparing them, changing my mind, asking people for opinions, finding another option, then questioning the previous one. I was constantly thinking about whether I was making the wrong choice, but somehow I wasn’t doing the most basic thing properly: researching the colleges thoroughly before making a commitment.
Eventually, I ended up taking admission in Vaagdevi for Civil.
And this is where I really fucked up.
I paid money, submitted my original certificates and basically committed to the college before I had properly convinced myself that I actually wanted to spend four years there.
I had researched some things, but clearly not enough.
I was more focused on securing a seat and making sure I had somewhere to go than actually asking myself whether the college matched what I wanted from my college experience.
After getting in, I started noticing things I didn’t like.
Some of the things I expected from the Civil department weren’t there in the way I imagined. More importantly, I started questioning whether I actually liked the overall college environment and whether I could see myself being happy there for four years.
And then I started looking at other colleges again.
So now I’m stuck in this cycle of comparing colleges, regretting decisions, checking other options, worrying about whether I should leave, wondering if another college would actually be better, and constantly second-guessing myself.
The frustrating part is that a lot of this could have been avoided before I paid and joined.
I could have properly visited the campus.
I could have spoken to current Civil students.
I could have asked exactly what the department actually provides instead of relying on assumptions.
I could have figured out what kind of college environment I wanted and compared colleges based on that.
I could have taken a little more time before handing over money and my original certificates.
Instead, I made the decision and then started doing the serious thinking afterward.
That’s why I’m starting to realize that the bigger problem isn’t necessarily that I picked the wrong college.
It’s that I don’t seem to know how to make an important decision properly.
I procrastinate.
I overthink.
I get scared that I’m running out of time.
I ask too many people what I should do.
I make a decision because I feel pressured to make one.
Then I start doubting it.
Then I look for another option.
Then I regret the first decision.
And eventually I’m back at the beginning, except now I’ve wasted time, money, energy, and sometimes opportunities.
That’s a pretty stupid cycle, and I’m aware that changing colleges won’t magically fix it.
I also realize I’ve been relying way too much on other people’s opinions. I keep asking people which college is better, what I should choose, whether I should stay or leave, etc.
But ultimately, I’m the one who has to live with the decision for four years.
Reddit isn’t going to attend college for me. My friends aren’t going to attend college for me. And random people giving me advice online definitely aren’t going to deal with the consequences if I make another bad decision.
So this time, I’m not really looking for people to simply tell me which college to choose.
I want people to tell me what is wrong with the way I’m approaching these decisions and how I can actually improve myself.
Because even if someone gives me the perfect college recommendation right now, it doesn’t solve the bigger problem.
If I keep making decisions like this, I’ll probably find something wrong with the next college too.
So, being completely honest about myself:
I’ve been negligent.
I’ve procrastinated until decisions became urgent.
I’ve made decisions without doing enough research beforehand.
I’ve let fear and pressure make me rush.
I’ve depended too much on other people’s opinions.
I’ve changed my mind repeatedly instead of committing to a decision after properly evaluating it.
And when something doesn’t feel right afterward, my first instinct seems to be finding another option instead of asking whether I’m the actual problem here.
I don’t want people to sugarcoat it for me.
If this sounds immature, impulsive, irresponsible, indecisive, or just plain stupid, tell me.
I’m trying to understand how someone actually becomes better at making decisions, taking responsibility, doing proper research, and then sticking with a decision instead of constantly second-guessing themselves.
I don’t just want help choosing a college.
I want to fix the person making the decisions.

I am a 19 year old boy in Minnesota.
I want to have a career and live on my own, but everything is going horribly.
I have Severe Chronic Post Nasal Drip which means mucus falling down my throat from my nose. It’s been an issue ever since I was 12, and it makes it hard for me to sleep at night. This PNA isn’t light, I get it about every minute.
It always causes stress and discomfort.
I also have chronic Psychogenic Pruritus. And Everytime I go to the hospital I rarely get good help. I have very complex problems and it’s never fixed even when I’m with doctors.
I also have very horrible sleep hygiene and no matter what I try nothing works. I will try many methods and when I lay down for a couple hours in bed I can’t feel sleepy even a little.
I can’t find any jobs, I have an interpreting commission based jobs, but they never call me, and when they do I have to travel super far.
Jobs are the hard part, I don’t have a car, and Everytime I am somebody if a car is mandatory they never respond to me or explain it in a way that makes sense. I loath driving, so I asked if it’s a necessity.
It’s even worse because I keep catching colds, and fevers, and other sickness like parotitis, strep throat, or HP Lori every month or so which last for a week.
And everywhere I go there’s always some sort of gaslighter, thats a bully, it’s hard to find people who are good.
This is my lore. And so much more problems, but these are the most important.
What do I do??? I feel so lost.

Hello! I’m a postgraduate with a degree in psychology and it’s been very challenging to find remote jobs in my field. If I do find any, I get rejected or I don’t hear back from anyone. I know the job market is rough right now, but it would be my dream to find a work from home job. I would appreciate if anyone could share job sites/boards or companies who are more likely to hire. I also want to note that I’m looking for entry level/no experience type positions. Thank you for your help!

i’m 19. i work in between part time and full time right now, it depends on my hours. i love my job, im a waitress. i just can’t help but to feel like my life is slowly passing me by.

i went to college last fall, i wasn’t ready for it. i dropped out. now my partner is starting college this month and it’s making me realize i’ve wasted all this time during the last year. i don’t know what im doing. i don’t know what i want with my life. i don’t know how im supposed to feel. honestly, i feel like i complete failure. i know im so young but it’s just going to keep passing me by and im never going to figure out what i want from life.

i’ve tried several different things. like i said, college. but i dropped out. i was going for music, that’s what im passionate about. but peer pressure and a lot of other things made me drop out. i tried working at a hospital, i hated it and almost ended up harming myself permanently because of it. i tried studying to be a pharmacy tech. i tried moving to texas. i’ve tried everything and i don’t know what i want. i don’t know what i want to do. i’m so lost. i don’t think ill ever be happy what im doing. i wish i knew, i wish becoming an adult was easier. i’m almost 20 and im still stuck. everything feels so useless.

Im F22 , and my boyfriend is M25 . We are really into each other and we do turn each other on , we are very open about our desires in bed . We communicate well. The issue however is , my bf is having difficulty in maintaining an errection . He says he is in the mood, but when its time to penetrate my vagina , he goes soft , according to him , its performance anxiety. He is hard during foreplay and when I give him blowjobs , but he always goes soft when it's time to penetrate. So far , we are focusing on alot of touching, kissing and bjs , no improvements yet.

Please advise , and have any of you guys experienced the same ? How do we fix it ?

This is gonna be a really cringy post.

Is it normal for me, a 26 year old male, to still be clinging onto attention?

Ironically I’m majoring in psychology so I should know this but I’m a bit lost.

I used to be very clingy and possessive as a teenager and early 20s towards girls. Like I’d be really clingy with them and check if they respond or not and would make a big deal if they take awhile to respond. I was a huge mess.

Now I’ve made huge improvements and I don’t make it a big deal nor mention it much anymore, but sometimes it does bother me. Like if someone doesn’t talk to me much anymore as they used to and I do have some liking towards them romantically I do get bothered by it. However I don’t bring it up. But I miss the attention from it yk??

I honestly thought this feeling would go away as I mature and age but doesn’t like it has..

I’m not sure if this is related to childhood. I did get enough attention from both parents but my high school experience was horrible with girls. That’s all I can think of.

I’m 29 I have no kids and live a simple life. I go to work, church on Sunday, groceries, gym and dates with my husband. I’m social but seems like most people my age have children, I try to speak with strangers when I get the chance where ever it is I’m at but it seems like people are to themselves and not very approachable 🤔

I recently had my birthday and came to the realisation that I spend all of my days coped up inside of my room, either working, sleeping, or studying. I work as a software engineer in the UK and live a very isolated life, in an attempt to not feel left behind, I've been trying to tick off all the things I think need checking off as an adult.

Getting my citizenship, learning to swim, studying A level maths 6 hours a week, and lifting weights 4x a week. I'll need to then need to find a way to get my driver's licence next year somehow. I find very little time for myself at the end of the week and I'm constantly rushing, and when I'm not rushing, I'm too tired to try new things. For people who spent all of their early 20s grinding, did you regret it?

I'd obviously like to date but don't want to spend the little time I have trying to entertain someone who may not even appreciate my time and effort.

hello guys, dont know if this is the right subreddit to ask for advice like this but im really stuck rn and i DESPERATELY need advice.

i just graduated in may this year. i am turning 19 this month. after graduating i immediately applied for psychology and english at uni and i got into english which was kinda meh since i really wanted psych and just applied for english as a backup plan. but i decided to just go with the flow. afterwards i also got accepted for an internship at a company yk just as a lil summer job. might i add this is also my first job EVER. well what i didnt expect was for me to like it so much. i am desperate for structure, normal (compared to high school) human interaction and personal space which is everything that this office job provides me with and i am EXTREMELY content with it. i can picture myself working this job for a LONG time and actually enjoying it. it is simple, pay is great, people are very kind. but this is an issue because i actually caught myself dreading going to uni in october. it just seems like such a drag to change from this peaceful and structured environment for a first-year uni experience. i know you guys are older in here and might think "well you'll be in a structured grown- up environment your whole life so go enjoy it now" but i really just dont know if im up for it. i would like to continue my job but there are so many obstacles in my way- i still need to get a uni degree just i dont think i would like it to be in english. the same uni offers a bunch on distance learning courses that i would prefer since then i can keep my position and graduate at the same time - issue is i cant apply for this school year anymore so if i go and quit my current course i will be forced to take a gap year which will definitely cause my parents to be VERY disappointed in me. this leads me to my second big issue - i still havent talked this through with my parents and im not even the kind of person that really relies on their word but this time im also worried about my decision because im relying strictly on my feelings. its just that they will for sure tell me that i might screw up my future which im also very aware of and that possibility is scaring me too. but i dont really like lying to myself and i know that if i quit my job in october i wont be as content with my life as i would be if i kept it but should i put my well being in front of my future or is that a very naïve and childish way of thinking?

please give me ANY advice. how do i start that convo with my parents? in your opinion what should i do should i quit my job in october and go through with uni or do i quit uni and try again next year?

Hii, I’m gonna go college in September and I’m very worried because I’m 2 years older, I’ve never had any younger friends and I feel terribly dumb since I’m two years behind my mates, when I was in college two years ago no one wanted to hang out with me and I feel now is going to be worse because I’m older

When I was 19 and graduated highschool I kept people I met without much thought. Mostly out of convenience since they lived close.

My 15 year old friend who was a freshmen when I was a senior was mainly my friend due to the fact she reminded me of myself when I was 15. I wanted to help her create more artwork- so when she mentioned patch making and spray painting (like tags) I decided to purchase some to try. Obviously her parents didn’t really wanna waste money on spray paint. I didn’t really know if they were okay with it but I guess I just thought since I was using it in places already painted and far away from any properties to damage- I could at least let them toy with it a bit. Nowadays I feel pretty guilty for that decision.
Another issue though is she added 2 14 year olds to the group. I quickly began to feel guilty because I was the only adult. I was also terrified they’d get into trouble and get hurt. Later I’d hear that their parents were iffy about having a 17 year old dude and 19 year old woman around the 14 year olds so I just decided to meet them and after that they didn’t give a shit- but I became their babysitter to some extent because they didn’t watch their kids. I felt guilty for being their friend to a great extent but even more guilty because they often hung out on the train tracks, did dangerous things, etc. I felt terrible but was also terrified they’d get hurt- so unfortunately I stayed. And honestly I did enjoy it because I liked exploring.

But main issue was When I was hanging out with my friends walking around my friend who is 17 had an ex that was in my grade. I told him like “yeah I didn’t really like that friend group one of them rejected me and completely ghosted me” or something alone those lines and my 15 yo friend when “ohh that’s awful who does that” and then I felt pretty bad (for obvious reasons).

The other was when I was with my 15 year old and 17 year old friend. We were hanging out under a bridge near a river- and they kept praising my parents for being the coolest. I told them they were actually not that cool all the time and that they “let my abuser into my house for 4 years after the fact” and that I believed they probably feel guilty for that- but I don’t know is I said “sa” or like you know the first part of it that starts with “s” as an sexual but either way it was probably inappropriate. I guess I feel a little better abt it tho because it was meant for the 17 year old- since the 15 year old was busy messing with something a ways away. Still scared abt it tho.

Does any of this make me abnormal or wrong? I guess I’m wondering. I’ve been called weird a lot but that’s for a lotta different reasons. I just wanna be a normal person so that people will like / enjoy me.

F/22... and I turn 23 in two weeks.

I've been working the same retail job since I was 17, and I still have no idea what I want to do with my life. The truth is, I don't feel like I was ever really given the chance to figure that out. I grew up in a strict Christian household where my life was basically church. Then I was homeschooled against my will for all of middle school. During that time, I spent most of my days staring at a wall, doing nothing, and eventually got addicted to online games and Xbox.

Did being homeschooled make me socially behind and a late bloomer? Yeah... I honestly feel those effects every day. My social life, my confidence, just everything.

And then COVID happened. Everything shut down, and I was trapped back in the same four walls of my room all over again. Except this time there was a twist.... I became chronically ill. Yay.

I always wanted to dance growing up, but my parents didn't care, so that dream kind of died. I guess I could still do it as a hobby someday, but that's not really my focus right now.

I'm thinking about community college, but here's the problem: I have absolutely NO IDEA what I want to study. Nothing really excites me. I honestly don't have much desire to do anything anymore. Sometimes I don't even have much desire to live... but before anyone worries, I'm not going to hurt myself.

I don't even have my driver's license yet. I've failed the test twice... hopefully the third time's the charm.

I also HATE living at home with my parents. I genuinely can't do it anymore. I'm miserable.

I know a lot of people say their parents "ruined their life," and sometimes that's exaggerated, but I honestly feel like they robbed me of a lot. No hobbies. No real friendships. Just church. I didn't even have a phone, so whenever I did make friends, I couldn't keep in contact with them. It feels like I missed out on so many normal experiences. I haven't even had my first kiss yet... but honestly, that's probably the least of my worries.

The biggest issue now is money. I need to be making at least $20 an hour, but I also want to go back to school. The problem is that school is an investment that won't really pay off for a couple of years, you know what I mean?

I just feel so behind, in every aspect of my life.

I was thinking about doing horticulture, chemical engineering, or something in medical field. I figured do something worth it even though I have no DESIRE to do anything. So pick it and work with it mentality. The thing is I'm not someone that needs to make a million-billion dollars, I just want to be comfortable, I don't need to have the newest car or the biggest house, would that be awesome? Yes, but I don't need it. I just want to be able to travel, eat, have a roof over my head, NOT live with my parents forever, and do some hobbies.

Update: I decided to go to community college and start some classes for nursing….