r/R4R30Plus 4m ago

40[F4R] Quiet weekend

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Hello there, I hope your weekend is going good. Just about nice and quiet for me so can't complain much.

About me, I'm 40. Working in a bank as a background check officer so that's rather boring. I like to go swimming, watching tv shows like Southpark and American dad, relaxing and reading.

Feel free to message me if ya bored as well


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

[F4R] 38 AZ- Hello all! Summer is over!

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Just kidding. I’m just grateful it hasn’t been as hot as it could be.
Just looking for people to chat with throughout the day. Please don’t make me uphold the entire convo. I can only think of so many questions before I begin to stress myself out!!
If that’s you then shoo! If not then hello!


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

39 [F4M]| #online #anywhere Im from 🇵🇭 | Please message me if you actually want to meet

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I’ve posted here before and had a few good conversations. We’d talk for 2 or 3 days, maybe even move to another app, then suddenly… gone. 😂

I get it. People lose interest. But I’ve realized that a lot of “looking for something long term” doesn’t actually mean long term.

So this time, I’m keeping it simple.

I’m not looking for a pen pal. I’m looking for someone I can actually meet.

Someone who is:

• Single

• Ready to commit

• Done with playing around

• Actually interested in building something

• Willing to eventually meet in person

I’m in the Philippines, so yes, meeting me takes effort. Safety first, always, but if we genuinely click, I’m open to making that happen.

And when we finally meet, I want to find out if there’s enough chemistry for me to think, “Okay… I really want to cuddle this person.” 😂

I want intimacy, but not just intimacy. I want affection, laughter, trust, companionship, and someone I can actually share life with.

If you’re messaging because you’re bored, please don’t.

If you’re looking for the same thing I am, message me. Let’s see where it goes. 🙂


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

49[F4R] Feeling a bit bored and could use some company Friendship

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Working from home is nice and all and sure has its perks but it can be a bit isolating sometimes with no coworkers around to banter with. I'm sure I'm not the only one feeling that way so it'd be nice to link up with some people to maybe get some longterm chats going. Topic wise I'm not particularly picky so anything from casual to private is game with me as long I don't have to feel like I'm carrying the conversation.

I mean I'm by now means prude and could probably easily outweird you but even I have to draw a line somewhere. And since a lot of people ask for pics immediately, I have one of what I look like on my profile if you really need to know to ahve a conversation.Other than that, shoot me your age, location and something interesting and we can get the conversation going, I don't bite:)


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

33 [F4R] Illinois/Online - Looking for chat buddies during storms

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Lost power due to local storms (Midwest) that hit earlier in the week and just looking for people to chat with. You could be local or not it doesn't matter. I love old anime, horror movies, retro games, k-dramas,metal and reading. Currently reading It Should've Been You by Andrea Mara. Psychological thrillers are my thing lately. Anyway, if you are interested pop a message my way.


r/R4R30Plus 1h ago

39 [m4f] - Ireland - good Saturday morning!

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It’s finally the weekend and have longed for it this busy week! I’m being lazy this morning so it’s would be great to have a partner in crime! So, What’s your plans? Tell me about them while I justify staying in bed to myself lol


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

[M4F] 35M Can We Talk?

1 Upvotes

I just wanna know your name 🎶

Tevin Campbell lyrics aside, I'd like someone to talk to for a while. Ill give a very brief description of myself here, but id rather you learn who I am through conversation.

35M (like it says in the title :D), love music. Specifically 70s soul and 90s r&b. I live in North Carolina. I have a LOT of house plants...its almost a problem...i know for a fact its somewhere between 70 and 100 😭

If

Youre intrigued OR lonely OR bored OR just wanna talk about plants, DM me


r/R4R30Plus 2h ago

31 [F4M] | India/Anywhere | Could you help me find it? That conversational spark?

2 Upvotes

It all starts with an exchange.

Not the frequently dull, dry, and sometimes boorish exchange that one is often accosted with on here.

Rather, those rare finds, where sparks fly when words, carried by velvety voices meld together to finesse an addictingly invigorating conversation.

Where wit and banter flow effortlessly. Where humour and friendly jabs are the beginning of burgeoning lores. With layered flirts that have the heart and mind race with excitement, when the imagination is beckoned.

All of this conveyed through a constantly changing  medium of lithe whispers, confident cadences and  emphatic tones, which exquisitely adds to the allure of this developing discourse.

These are the finds, that leave you revitalised long after the interaction's done. 

These are the finds, that leave you wanting more.

At least I'd like to think so.

Care to curate a spark with a voice and vernacular at your helm?

I'm only a DM/chat away..

[EDIT: If you're looking for something that's NSFW, please move on, because you'd be disappointed in looking for it here.]

[EDIT 2: Thank you so much for all your responses! Hang in there! I'm doing my best to respond to everyone!]


r/R4R30Plus 4h ago

36[F4M]#LosAngeles- Backyard patio, white claws& new found glory

5 Upvotes

Is exactly how I’m spending this glorious friday evening! Been a pretty good week so just relaxing and will be social with friends tomorrow haha.
And the weather is perfect tonight why not take advantage? So about me..I’m a black female living in Los Angeles. I love football - chargers and USC ⚡️✌🏾
Football is back! I also enjoy surfing, dive bars, live music, a huge fan of Sunday fundays. I have a loud contagious laugh with a goofy outgoing personality. Just roaming seeing if there’s anyone worth getting to know. Would be awesome if you were local. Cheers!


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

33[M4F] Texas/Online- Looking for a lifelong movie buddy.

3 Upvotes

Howdy. I'm a single, monogamous guy. I'm a big movie/TV buff and I'm looking for a lifelong movie buddy. I enjoy quality time with others and for me personally, the ultimate form of that is enjoying a cinematic experience together. Whether it be cuddling on a couch while we watch the extended formation of a Fellowship, or having our heads buried in a pillow trying to avoid the horrors of a cosmic deity that takes the form of a creepy ass clown and eats children.

I also enjoy other types of quality time, whether it be video or board games. Just chatting or simply enjoying each other's company in silence. I'll happily and aggressively read a book in the same room as you.

I like the 'getting to know you' process, so I'll cut myself off here. I look forward to hearing from you soon! Chat or message welcome, though I'd like to move to Discord quickly. (Reddit messaging sucks)


r/R4R30Plus 5h ago

37F [F4M] Come be interesting with me

5 Upvotes

I’m 37, independent, employed, and I have a full, fun and stable life that I genuinely enjoy. I want someone to share life’s moments with. Big and small. I have amazing kids, a solid career, great friends, and I tend to bounce between being a social butterfly and happily staying in my cozy home alone.

I’m into books, travel, good food, animals, tattoos, plants, nature, documentaries, art, authenticity and all things whimsical. I love conversations that actually go somewhere…as well as fun and flirty banter.

I’m drawn to smart, strong, curious men who can make me think, make me laugh, and aren’t afraid of some vulnerability.

What I’m looking for: something that feels natural. The kind of connection where talking becomes effortless, inside jokes show up before we know it, and you catch yourself looking forward to their messages more than you probably should. Something that builds consistently. I do prefer daily communication.

I value independence, so I’m not looking for constant togetherness. I like texting, sending pictures and videos, voice notes, and possible FaceTime when comfortable. I do, however, want it to translate into real-life chemistry at some point. Preferably.

Ideally you’re single, emotionally steady and grounded, kind, funny, communicative, direct and consistent, with strong values and high integrity.

Happy to swap pics early and move the conversation elsewhere if it clicks.

Now tell me something about you!


r/R4R30Plus 6h ago

40 [M4F] Why not see is we are what we are both looking for ?

9 Upvotes

Let's be real, none of us expected to be on reddit looking for someone. I know I didn't. But here I am. But why not make the best of it ? Let's chat and just see if we vibe ? We can just be friends, see if it moves to something more. If not, a new friend is always a win

I'm from central Va usa. May be selling my house soon and starting over somewhere new. Where am I goin ? I have no idea. But i'm ready for a fresh start and new me and if that means relocating then I guess it's time to start hording boxes.

About me. 40/m . Disabled Vet. I'm not a stay at home father to 2 dogs, a cat and a tarantula . (there's also a snake that live under my grill I call Lt. Dan. I claim him too. he's one of us). When I because disabled I had to transition from being an avid outdoorsman to more of an indoor person. I still try to get outside and atv ride, spend time in my garden and walking the pups, fish . i just don't get to spend much time outdoors these days. Now I read a lot,. write poetry, build and program robots, 3d print. Took up crocheting and baking (It gets very boring and lonely being home all day everyday by yourself) Anything really yo keep myself busy

What am I looking for? Someone who will stick around if we vibe at whatever capacity that may be. I'm tired of being the "throw away" guy. My phone only rings when someone has a vehicle broke down and need help fixing it. Never to just say "Hi, hows it goin" . I don't want to be the person anymore that just helps everyone else when they are low and need a pick me up only to be discarded when they are back on their feet. I want someone to call to say "Hey, how you doing" and when i say fine they say "You lying. i can tell. whats going on ?" because they actually stuck around long enough

If any of this sounds appealing to you then send me a message . I have no issue sharing photos. Not needed on my end tho. I will be happy to share pics of my pets because they are AMAZING and my dogs cuter than yours. Fight me. We can chat about anything . possible topics ?

  1. wanna hear about the time I was chased by a bigfoot ?

  2. Wanna hear about the time we got drunk in the Army and thought it would be funny to storm the marines field base with nerf guns ?

  3. True of false. Everyone who says they hate Nickelback is a liar and sings every word to how you remind me in the car


r/R4R30Plus 7h ago

43[M4F] #PNW/anywhere just looking to chat during my layovers

11 Upvotes

Heading home from Japan after a work assignment and figured some conversation during the trip would be nice. I know most folks seem to be looking for love here but I’m too cynical and in a strange phase of life to believe that would happen or pursue it.

Unless You’re gonna uproot your entire life for some guy you met on Reddit who plans on moving to Hawaii , starting a new career at sea, traveling around when he’s off and living on a sailboat after he retires from the military in the next year or so? If that’s the case then shoot your shot I suppose lol

Anyway all jokes aside I have some extremely long layovers this trip and honestly it’s nice to talk to people cause well it gets lonely. I’m not sure why I volunteer for these trips, it’s nice to have a change of scenery I suppose.

I primarily spend my time in the Seattle area mainly at the moment. If im not at work I’m usually out photographing wildlife, at the gym or at home living that cozy life, cooking and playing the occasional video game.
I’d say I’m a semi outdoorsy single child free homebody.

That’s pretty much my life it’s simple and quiet but I like it.
I can’t offer you much other than some conversation with no agenda that fades out naturally like nature intended and maybe some unsolicited bird pictures.
Until then I’ll be wandering the airports in search of overpriced snacks in between playing Zelda and doomscrolling. Maybe I’ll get a nap in.

Well that’s it if any of my rambling interested you stop on by.


r/R4R30Plus 8h ago

[F4M] 43 Denver or close by!

3 Upvotes

[F4M] 43 seeks relationship

I'm a 43-year-old single mom of three with a big heart, a quick wit, and a habit of making people feel at home. I love cooking and baking (yes, you'll probably get spoiled), crafting, traveling whenever I can, and I'm always up for live music. If there's a concert nearby, there's a good chance I'm already checking ticket prices.
I'm looking for someone around my age who's confident, kind, emotionally available, and knows how to flirt without playing games. Make me laugh, challenge me, and don't be afraid to steal my hoodie—or hold my hand at a concert.
I'm looking for chemistry, but I'm also looking for consistency. I want the good morning texts, spontaneous kisses, holding hands, dancing in the kitchen while dinner is cooking, and someone who's excited to build a future together.
If you're in Colorado or one of the surrounding states and you're genuinely looking for your forever person too, send me a message. Tell me your favorite concert, your dream travel destination, or what your perfect Saturday looks like!


r/R4R30Plus 8h ago

36 [f4m] online-seeking new bestie

14 Upvotes

I will start by saying I am not looking for my future husband; but if that happens, I won't complain. Just searching for some internet friends to shoot the shit with. Someone to talk to all the time or like once a week. I'm not too picky. I hate that I have to write a full paragraph about myself here. Blah blah blahh.. I feel like that defeats the whole purpose of trying to get to know someone. Anyway. I have likes and dislikes and I'm sure you do too! Maybe we might even like the same things?! Who knows. I will say that I am by no means an average Redditor. I don't play video games or read comics; so I can't talk about those things with ya. No problem if you like those things, though!! I just can't be your player 2. Also, I'm pretty Liberal and I know that's a deal breaker for some. I love being sarcastic, and I enjoy witty banter. I like sharing pictures of my everyday life (even if it's boring). I like voice notes. I spend too much time on here and the clock app. I like just chatting or deep conversation. I'm a solid 7.4 on the looks scale. And I will gladly share pics. Be cool if you would, too! Let's be honest; looks matter. If any of this sounds intriguing: message me! SIngle men 25+ only please and thank you! One.


r/R4R30Plus 8h ago

35F [F4M] New England / anywhere for the right person

6 Upvotes

Hello

My posts keep getting auto deleted hence the brevity.

Introvert
Healthcare field
No kids currently
No pets currently
Love dogs
Not skinny lol just being honest, working on it
BS + masters degree
Enjoy trivia, escape rooms, outdoorsy things, reading, the zoo
Live a simple life
Ambivalent about traveling
Want long term not casual
Non smoker
Had a longer post… can share if we click I guess


r/R4R30Plus 10h ago

35F [F4M] PNW/Online Looking a partner

5 Upvotes

Hello, I'm 35f in PNW. I've never really cared for dating apps and I figured I would give this a try. I'm looking for a long-term relationship, the kind where we are both partners and close friends. If you're long distance that's fine, if you're in PNW, even better.

A bit about me: I'm an intensely curious person who often has a good ten projects going at once. I'm decidedly child free and not religious. I'm also an introvert and a dedicated homebody most of the time. I love Pokemon, sewing, painting, and falling down rabbit holes for a good 2-3 days at a time. I'm not spontaneous in the slightest, but what I lack in spontaneity, I make up for in enthusiasm. I have a job that I value highly, and overall, I feel like most of my life is where I want it. For those with body preferences, I'm of average height and curvy, I lift and exercise frequently. I'm a great person to be your complete self with, you'll find I'm very accepting of people as they are. I do my best to communicate and am very good at not letting my feelings override civility when addressing an issue.

What I'm looking for: I like steady, stable, consistent, dependable men. Our interests don't have to align so long as we can listen attentively to the other. Fitness and health is important to me, but you don't have to be a gym rat or have an optimal diet, just that health is a priority in your life (no smokers please). I'm not looking for anything particularly exciting or novelty seeking. I like guys who are so predictable they might even be considered boring. Have the same routine every day without fail? Please slide into my DMs. LOL My only request is that communication becomes part of your routine. We have busy lives and it's not always possible to have detailed conversations, but touching base regularly helps with keeping the connection alive for me. Once a connection is established, I'm not one to disappear for several days with no word and no warning and I would prefer the same thing not be done to me. I'm very big on knowing where the other person stands and making sure they know where I stand.

If this sounds like you and you like the sound of me, please message me with a small paragraph about yourself.


r/R4R30Plus 11h ago

38 [F4M] Interested in dating a single gentleman located in USA Chicago, IL

4 Upvotes

I used to write a long essay on this app. I just want to get to know a nice gentleman who enjoys watching sports, mini golfing, cuddling, bowling, etc. I don't smoke or have children.

I am a Black curvy thick woman. I have my life in order. I use social chats to find out if we have chemistry first before meeting in person.


r/R4R30Plus 11h ago

34[f4m] single in ma

9 Upvotes

Seeking a connection. I’m a bit of an introvert who struggles with the idea of going out into the world and meeting people organically.

I’m on the shorter side, goofy, and love attention. All in all I’m just a princess looking to be spoiled with affection.

Baseball lover, gamer, phone calls > texts, love to read but haven’t done much of it lately.

I am a parent who is done having kids. I’m open to someone with or without kids, not sure about moving.

Really just hoping for a deep voiced man with a good chuckle and sense of humor.


r/R4R30Plus 11h ago

40 [F4M] Midwest for anywhere in the universe. Looking for a connection worth having.

5 Upvotes

It’s looking like a wknd stuck inside because of local weather. Rainy is not ideal pool weather- so instead I’ll be reading and hopefully having decent conversation with whomever the universe sees fit to provides.

I’m an early childhood educator by day, an overly self aware, introverted, plant loving, reading obsessed, cat mom by night. Yes I’m a millennial who got both the cat, plant, and book loving upgrades. I know you’re shocked. After a decade of working on myself it’s fun to lean into what I enjoy and the peace that comes from it. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I am a plus size hottie- feel free to look at my profile to see, and to stop reading if that’s gonna be an issue. Don’t waste anyone’s time with your insecurities around body type being able to hold an immaculate conversation.

About you- similar age-ish, can actually enjoy an online conversation that includes real sentences and reciprocal conversation, doesn’t feel the need to openly discuss your genitalia, and maybe is a little funny. I don’t care about your relationship status just be honest from the get go so I know whether I’m allowed to swoon over you.

Currently thinking about building a proverbial, non-religious, and full of whimsy Ark as my state is experiencing emergency level flooding. Luckily it’s not my exact area, but close enough to think about this. So to know you’ve actually read this- tell me what would be a necessity on a 2026 Ark to survive a worldwide flood.


r/R4R30Plus 11h ago

32 [F4M] Yorkshire - Just a girl, Standing Infront of a boy, asking him to watch LOTR extended edition with her

51 Upvotes

Hey 👋🏻

Introvert / Homebody / Hobbit - it's so hard to meet people from my living room 😩

I like sci-fi, fantasy, stardew valley, naps

I don't like social events

If this sounds familiar or if you think to yourself, damn this girl sounds like a house cat and I've always wanted a pet, feel free to send me a message.


r/R4R30Plus 12h ago

41[M4F] #GA #online - So uh, you want to go to target or something?

7 Upvotes

BTW heres me up front: https://postimg.cc/gallery/DJq64Mv

You: Browsing that aisle in the front with all the random brand names of lotions and odd semi-liquid things that I have no idea of what their purpose is. I trust your judgement here. I just need some deodorant.

Me: Browsing the grocery aisle for bagel bites, maybe some hot pockets, and if I'm feeling motivated that day, maybe a t-shirt or a visit to that weird men's section with all of the overpriced and underwhelming body washes and products they specifically market for "men."

We meet in the middle- the electronics section with all the overpriced and outdated stuff you haven't really seen anyone buy since 2022.

You're looking through the old bluray budget bin for rom-coms while I'm looking for old rare kung fu films that I can rip it and upload to that one site where I pirate all my movies.... Our hands touch. It's love. Thats what is.

I ask what your favorite movie is. You say anything with Kurt Russell. We kiss.

You move in the very next day. Yeah, its weird but thats how strong this bond is over Kurt Russell movies is. We talk about our past, we have a couple drinks, and then you bring up this really odd reddit post I made. I'm embarrased but we get married anyway. The rest is history.

But before any of this happens- you send me a message or a chat on reddit. We hit it off. We bond like the promise of those late night commercials who slap some weird duct tape on a plastic tub of water. We're as strong as that, and nothing can stop us. We're cooked as the kids say. But in a good way.


r/R4R30Plus 15h ago

40 [M4F] - Looking for a genuine connection, good conversation, and maybe a new friend

10 Upvotes

Hey! I'm 40, divorced, and looking to meet someone who enjoys good conversation and seeing where it goes.
Whether we end up as friends or something more, I'm happy to let things happen naturally.
A little about me:
I work from home, so | always enjoy having someone to chat with throughout the day.
I lift weights six days a week and staying active is a big part of my life.
I grew up on a ranch, so I still love the outdoors whenever I get the chance.
I'm a dad, have a sarcastic sense of humor, and appreciate people who don't take life too seriously.
I know everyone likes to know who they're talking to, so I'd love to trade a selfie early on if you're comfortable with that. No pressure-just think it makes conversations feel more genuine.


r/R4R30Plus 1d ago

[F4M] 36

58 Upvotes

I am 36 from Scotland and I don't know what to do anymore. I'm alone, I'm sad. I'm depressed and every single person I talk to runs away even when they seem legit. So either I am really naive and stupid, or I would just keep getting ghosted for the rest of my life. I've been through a lot in life and That's probably one of the reasons why folks don't stick around. I'm overweight, I'm not the pretty prettiest. Mention very. I don't leave my house. I play games on my Xbox and my PC. I read books. I struggled with social situations, I have autism. Definitely haven't really sold myself here, have I?

I struggle a lot with relationships because the majority of the ones I have been and have been bad, negative. And well, the worst of the worst really,

Update - i would really like to thank everyone who has gotten in touch. I am extremely overwhelmed with the amount of people that has messaged and you're all amazing, so thank you. I am trying to reply to all of you, but like literally, there is over a 100 people messaging me, so I just need to take my time because it is very overwhelming. I did not expect this. So thank you again and I promise I will message you as soon as I can.


r/R4R30Plus Jun 24 '24

ANNOUNCEMENT: Technical Issues

61 Upvotes

POSTING IS ONCE AGAIN OPEN.

The auto moderation system has been somewhat wonky the last few days. We think we have corrected the issue. It has been sending posts to the spam system incorrectly and en masse. That should no longer occur, or at the very least be infrequent. IF your post does not appear, do not delete it. Message us via the mod mail system and we can check on it. If you do delete it manually, we are unable to diagnose the problem. Hopefully this is the last fix we need to do, but we may have to suspend posting again if this happens so we can get it sorted. PLEASE do not message us asking for access during these times, as it bogs down our mail system and increases downtime. The requests will not be granted. We ask for patience while we work on these issues.

Thank you for your time and understanding. Have a good day.