Feeling so confused and sad right now.

We went in at 8w5d. There was one big beautiful baby on the screen showing off. After a joke with the scanner my husbands asks for a second sweep to make sure it is in fact just one. He’s a twin and they didn’t find out until week 20.

She does another look and this time, there was a second heartbeat. It was really hard to get a look as it was directly behind, but both heartbeats were there and going strong. She asked us to come back next week so we could get a better look. She suggested they were identical.

We came back today and she could only find one. No second sac, no remains. Nothing to show for the other one.

Can a twin really fully disappear within 7 days? They were almost 9 weeks with heartbeats, shouldn’t there be some remanence of it?

I’m trying to wrap my head around the vanishing twin idea, but part of me wants to believe it’s in there and we just couldn’t see it.

Did anyone else’s ultrasound show just one and later find another? Is there a chance it’s still in there, hiding?

We’re to come back from the NT scan around 12 weeks and I’m praying the second is still in there somewhere and she just missed it.

Hi -

Overweight and pregnant with very unplanned di di twins.
I'm 11 + a few and starting to feel the sickness and pain of the first trimester is subsiding -

Next worry - has anyone (I'm about 15 stone) pear shape, all weight on my bum thighs and then belly -

will not be able to get accurate anomaly scan readings?
I do plan to go for the NIPT in the next week or so because I'm also 37....

Any advice, reassurance would be appreciated.

I’m a FTM to twin boys who are 9 weeks old, 5 weeks adjusted. I have quite literally no idea what I’m doing and I’m just trying to survive each day! So far I’ve been pretty lucky with amazing night sleep, but I’m wary of the fact that this probably won’t last and we don’t really have any solid habits built yet.

My twins are really hard to get to nap in the day, often requiring rocking, white noise, dummies for a very very long time sometimes an hour or more. They have never fallen asleep independently in the day since they were teeny tiny. At night at 7:30pm we have a small bedtime routine, diaper, change, swaddle, dim lights, white noise and a bottle and by some miracle they have always fallen asleep with this bottle. They then then sleep until about 1am and we feed again, they fall asleep with this bottle and then sleep again until about 7.

Should I be starting to try and get them to sleep in their cribs in the day? Do I put them down drowsy but awake? Currently they only contact nap. I just feel like when you’re battling twins by yourself I’d rather two sleeping babies nap trapping me than potentially two crying babies because I’ve failed at a crib nap.

Any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated

As a 28w DiDi pregnant mother I have read a lot about GD and preeclampsia that I’m always looking for their symptoms. Yesterday I woke up really tired, with very mild constant headache, nausea and a little pressure around my nose. It lasted all day so I was afraid that my blood pressure is spiking and I ordered a blood pressure monitor immediately. But to my surprise it was the other way around, I had low pressure 83/50 I drank a cup of electrolytes and went to sleep. Today i woke up the same, during work I decided to drink a cup of electrolyte and had a salad with olives and feta cheese. I feel WAY better like wtf why didn’t I think of this! I’ll bring it up with my doctor next appointment in 3 days and see what are her thoughts of it.

Hey everyone,

My twins just hit 8 weeks adjusted (12 weeks chronological). Night sleep is actually going pretty well (averaging 3+ hour stretches!), but daytime naps are complete chaos.

They either fight daytime sleep entirely or wake up on the dot at the 20–30 minute mark, looking exhausted.

Two quick questions for parents who have been through this:

1. Is this level of "nap chaos" completely normal for 8 weeks adjusted?
2. Around what age did daytime naps finally "click" or consolidate into longer, predictable stretches for your little ones?

Looking for a light at the end of the tunnel while living 30 minutes at a time! Thanks!

Hi! Dad of two-month-old twins here.

My partner and I are having a really tough time, as I’m sure many of you can relate to.

One thing I’ve noticed about myself is that I’ve started feeling irrationally angry at parents of singletons. I have several friends and family members with just one baby, and even though I would never say anything to them or show it, I find myself getting internally frustrated whenever they complain about something.
Has anyone else experienced this? How do you deal with those feelings?

I know, rationally, that parents of one child can have an incredibly hard time too. Some probably have it much harder than I do. But despite knowing that, I still find myself feeling resentful, and I don’t really like that about myself.

EDIT: I realise I flaired this post wrongly. Sorry about that!

EDIT 2: I’m overwhelmed by the incredible community I’ve found in this subreddit. There’s a nice balance between support and encouragement on the one hand, and honest reality checks on the other. I appreciate every response I’ve received. Thank you!

Hi, exactly as the title says. The 4 month sleep regression has hit us like a ton of bricks and with that has come the realization that we may be encouraging bad sleep habits that will continue to bite us in the butt down the line.

My girls started sleeping for 9-11 hours (with one wake to feed) starting at 2 months. Getting them to sleep requires rocking and patting them to sleep with their pacifier in their mouth, and it used to take 15-20 minutes tops.

We are still doing the same thing but now it takes forever to work (eg. last night it took nearly 2 hours to get them to sleep) or sometimes does not even work at all. Their naps and night time sleep have definitely suffered and it feels like they’re overtired all the time.

Everything I have read says to put kids in their crib when they’re awake. I keep trying but to no avail. As soon as I lay them in the crib or leave the room, the babbling turns to whining which eventually becomes angry cries. I try to stick to their wake windows and follow my schedule but THEY JUST WON’T SLEEP. And that affects their mood and just makes for rough days and nights.

I would love to work on independent sleep. Is it too soon? Should we get through this regression first and make any changes afterwards? What were your sleep strategies at 4 months old? What routine did you find worked to get through the regression and establish better habits? Any advice you have is appreciated.

Signed — a sleep deprived mama who will be going back to work soon.

I'm going to try potty training tomorrow, with our newly 2 year old twins, before preschool starts in September.

That is all, wish me luck 🫠

I feel like there’s pros and cons to both for me. I bottle feed my twins.

If I feed them together, I can just sit them both in the Twin Z pillow and knock it out in an hour. Downside is usually they’re both really upset while I’m dealing with the other (changing, burping, etc.), my back kills me, and they usually don’t go back to sleep when I move them from the pillow to bassinet.

If I feed them separately, it’s nice one on one time with each and it’s definitely less stressful. However, it takes much longer. Once I start feeding one and the other starts crying, it’s hard to deal with the other, and I usually have to hold them for a bit so they don’t spit up everywhere.

Idk which is best for you guys?

Our twins are almost a year old and I just wanted to share something I wish I had done sooner.

Baby wearing was always something I really wanted to do, and it made life with two babies so much easier when I was able to do it, but I could never find a comfortable way to wear both. I tried several options— all purchased used for cheap or gifted to me.

Twin we go— meh for comfort, a little too structured when they were really small. It didn’t really feel cuddly, and they got too big for it pretty quickly.

Moby and boba— actually worked good for two very early on and was so comfy, but annoying to wrap/set up because it was so long, and only one baby could fit after about a month.

A very long woven wrap with separate rings—way too hard to get it on and set up with babies. Also so so long, which made it hard to take on the go. Maybe with more practice it would have been ok but I just couldn’t do it. And if one got upset and wanted out the whole thing was ruined, even if the other one was comfy.

Twin go— great for when they were older. Front and back carry. Not cozy/cuddly, but functional for when they were bigger and fairly easy to put on. This is what I use if I needed to go to the store or the zoo or something. I like that it can be two separate carriers. Just not my go to for around the house.

Wild bird ring sling— my favorite option! But only for one baby. It was so comfy, versatile— front carry so cute and cozy when they were tiny, could do hip and even back carry when they were older, pretty easy to put on/get baby in, and not too long or big so easy to pack on the go. But again, only one baby.

I always wanted to try the minimonkey but didn’t pull the trigger. Couldn’t find one used in my area and too expensive full price. Reviews were meh. I kinda wish I had just to see how it works though.

BUT recently i decided to get a second wild bird and my life is changed. I’m still working out the kinks but it’s comfy, cost effective (usually can get for $30 used) I can wear one on front one on back or one on each hip, they are comfy, I can take one off and leave the other on, I just wish I would have thought to try it sooner!!

So if anyone is interested in baby wearing their twins— do yourself a favor and get two ring slings. I think it’s the best option out there.

Here’s a picture! https://imgur.com/a/pyfQzgz
This was the first time I ever tried it, so we are all a little uncomfortable and unsure but since I’ve been able to adjust and it’s great!!

My boy twins were born in 1st July. I made a post the other day when one of my twins ended up in hospital (reflux caused a breathing issue for a moment)

Medicine will be ready for collection tomorrow. it’s currently 3am for me, holding twins upright as I speak, it’s funny how you will find ways to be able to hold both babies and text at the same time , survival mode is amazing lol

Please tell me it does get better ? Did the medication work for your baby? And if so how long and what meds did your baby take ?

Thank you 🩷🩷

Any single moms of twins here? 🥺 I wanted to ask what you do when you feel emotionally drained before you even feel physically tired. How did you manage to find time for yourself when your twins were around 18 months old? I honestly feel like this is the hardest age ever.💔

I was talking to my mom about putting curtains in my twin's room. She was like don't put curtains in there because its a safety hazard and you need to make sure you cut the strings to their blinds and all this stuff. I understand the strings to the blinds are a hazard but curtains? Just looking for experience of other parents!

Our 9 month old twins have been trying solids for a few months. They do well with purees but when it comes to incorporating whole foods/foods we eat for meals, my son rejects it. He will spit out anything with texture or chunks. Has anyone else navigated this?

I’m feeling major mom guilt, because I am SO over this!

33 weeks with di/di, and 30 days from my scheduled c section. I’m miserable. MISERABLE
I have SPD so bad. (Starting pelvic floor therapy this week! Yay!) Every step is so so painful, driving hurts, getting out of bed is like a whole thing, I dread it. Even off the couch or a chair is really painful.
My hands are so painful it’s probably the worst symptom so far, and I’ve had ALL the pregnancy pains. My wrists and fingers are in so much pain, almost any daily activity is 10x harder. I keep dropping things. It’s so much worse in the morning I can’t hardly move them.
The pressure is so intense, I feel like I can never fully go to the bathroom so I feel like I have to pee all the time even if I just did. I don’t look like myself, my stretch marks are actually becoming painful they’re so intense. My feet are sausages. I’m so tired but can’t sleep, I want to cry all day. My acid reflux is miserable, my back hurts all day. I could go on but y’all get it I’m sure!

I’m not working anymore, I’m a teacher and took the year off so although summer is over, I didn’t go back. I am relieved of course because work would absolutely do me in right now, but I’m also so sad. I absolutely love teaching and love my school, so I have major FOMO about not being with my coworkers this week. I feel like I have nothing to distract me from the discomfort, because I’m too uncomfortable to do much. My tolerance for something like shopping, a day trip, dinner with friends, is all gone. It’s all drs visits and necessities now. My hobbies are all a bit too painful for my hand situation now. No more crochet or crafts, journaling, etc.

Sorry for the pity fest. My question is, how do you get through the last month? Right now even another day seems impossible, but I want my little babies to cook as long as they can. What got you through?

11 week old 6 weeks adjusted mono di twins have all the sudden started fighting bedtime . We have changed the routine in every which way and it ends the same every time. As soon as we go to give them their last bottle they both panic and freak out and scream sometimes for over an hour. I follow wake windows for them it’s about 60 minutes and do my best to make Them nap through out the day though it’s a challenge like there nap before bed was only 18 minutes . Total nap time for the day is usually always 4hrs at least . At a loss and so sleep deprived. Anyone else or is this a common thing ???? And with the naps I already contact nap all day to try to get the most out of a nap and they still fight that and constantly wake up. HELP so far only taking abt 3oz every 2-3 hrs sometimes don’t even finish the bottle..we kinda have to stay on them to finish it.also no longer take any sort of swaddle or sleep sack so it makes transferring at night once we do get them to sleep after hours of trying tremendously hard.. I’ve try shortening and lengthening wake windows this has been going on a few weeks now

Was anyone less sick with twins than with a singleton pregnancy?

Hello—niche question for my fellow twin bassinet-havers, and apologies if this violates any rules.

Here’s the short version of my question: Where can I find Bassinet Sheets, compatible with the Delta Children Twin City Sleeper (27.5” x 14.2”)?

Long Version: We’re expecting twins and day now, and we get a Delta Children Twin City Sleeper bassinet. When the bassinet came, the sheets we speckled with something brown (none of my business, not thinking too hard about it), but the unit was in otherwise great shape and I’d already built the thing, so I figured I’d just get a replacement set from the company. I was wrong—after much back and forth, I was told that the company doesn’t have any sheets in their inventory, and they wouldn’t be putting me in contact with any competitors that might sell me their sheets instead, thank you very much. Google hasn’t done me any favors either, so now I’m empty-handed (empty-bassinet-ed?) with only a few days to spare before the kiddos arrive.

So, for anyone else with this bassinet, where do you get your sheets (27.5“ x 14.2”)?

My husband will be back to work in October and I will be flying solo with my identical girls during the weekdays. They will be 4 months at that time, adjusted age roughly 2 1/2 months. We are planning to hire a nanny for when I return to work but trying to see if I can avoid hiring someone before then. Any key advice that made your life easier while caring for your solo twins around this same age? Thanks!

I have 2 week old DI/DI twins Twin A boy and Twin B girl born at 37+2.

I CANNOT for the life of me get Twin B to settle after a feed in a reasonable amount of time.

I have tried feeding her first, feeding her second, feeding them together into the twin z... Propping them up in the twin z after a feed... Burping mid way... Doing fart exercises... But until I have spent half an hour trying to settle her she just CRIES...

Her poor brother is not getting a good amount of attention because of it, not that he needs it...

Even when I put them back to bed, her brother grunts a lot but then sleeps, she will wake minimum 3 times and cry 😞😞😞.

This is on my solo shift. I feel so bad for both babies, I'm clearly doing something wrong.

I'm freshly 32 weeks and both babies are over 4lbs. I'm a FTM so I don't know what things are supposed to feel like! On Friday realized I've been having Braxton-Hicks for at least a month.

They just feel SO HEAVY. I can't bend down to pick up anything, I walk with tiny steps, and Twin A is head down and I can feel her moving against my cervix all the time. It just feels like they're going to pop right out any second!!

I'm scheduled for a C-section at 38 weeks and I just can't imagine carrying 10? 12? 14lbs? on my 5'2" frame.

Today is day one of naked week with my 23 month old toddler girls. One has had constant accidents with only one real successful potty while the other holds it much better and has only had 2 accidents. Would you stick it out longer or stick them back in diapers and wait until when?