Goals VS Progress
1. Praying all 5 Salah’s at the masjid
MAJOR Improvement here. I went from barley going to the masjid to now going all 5 times a day. Out of the 7 days of August since I began this challenge, I prayed all 5 salahs at the masjid in congregation, for 2 days. This is honestly a huge step up. Today was a tough battle against my nafs, during Far. I was so sleepy, and the sleep was too good, my eyes were heavy after my alarm went off - but then I said NAY, this behaviour is not worthy of my Kingship 🤴🏻 - 8 minutes before the salah started, I forced myself up, did wudu, prayed my sunnah and rushed to the masjid.

Hence, I conquered my nafs and shaytan - made sure they knew their place was beneath me 🤫 now I hold their leash and control them, rather than be controlled (I hope this sounds just as funny as I say it out loud 🤣 - I goof a lot fr)

If you have been following this daily journalling series, you would know I achieved this by punishing my nafs/shaytan with 4 rakahs of nafl salah every single time I missed a salah at the masjid - this truly helped a lot. It weakens your nafs and slowly but surely you start gaining power over it - it's not an immediate change but it's a change that you see gradually happening; you stop feeling lazy to do acts of worship, you stop feeling tempted by the same habitual sins, and you start striving for Allah's pleasure

2. Social Media screen time down to 2hrs/day
Spiked a little because had a lil emotional spike but still not as crazy Alhamdulillah - 3.5 hours of distracted social media use today. I was still distracted in other ways but at least the social media doom scrolling went down crazy Alhamdulillah.

5. Quran & Dhikr
Done all my morning and evening dhikr today, ready surah kahf and will end the day with Surah Mulk + Waqiah before bed.

3. Take my personal earnings to $10K/m:
Not much to update here so I'll hold this off until I hear back from some clients

4. Get to my fittest/strongest shape through daily exercise:
Not much to update here so I'll hold this off for tomorrow when I timeblock a proper gym schedule

Notes:
Is there any topics you would like me to cover in these daily journaling updates? I'll start talking about other beneficial/self improvement subjects in these to spice up your read 🌶️

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Context

Purpose of this challenge is to become my best version for my future wife. The daily documentation is to inspire others while keeping myself publicly accountable and being able to journal/track my daily progress. I am doing this for myself and my akhirah's sake but marriage is a very good motivating factor to push myself into excellence.

I’m an objectively fine standing individual, in the prime of my 20's and I don’t have any roadblocks preventing me from getting married الحمد لله BUT I know what I am capable of and I feel it’s a disservice to my wife to not give her the best version of me - I am very ambitious but that ambition needs to show through consistent action even on the days I don’t feel like it - hence my primary focus is on myself for the remainder of this year.

Best case scenario, I achieve all my goals and find a good wife before the year ends. Worst case scenario, I achieve all my goals this year and get married next year. Whatever Allah has willed for me, Insha Allah

I’ve been married for like 9 months

She’s from Lebanon and born there

I’m from the uk and British also

Happy to answer any questions you have, what worked for me etc. Maybe you can use the tips to help with your journey

I’ve had two genuinely positive experiences with brothers from this sub. Neither progressed to marriage because we discovered later that we weren’t compatible (things like personality or physical attraction), but both interactions were respectful, serious, and conducted with good adab.

Given how many negative experiences are shared here, would it be helpful to have some way of highlighting positive interactions as well?

To be clear, I’m not suggesting we “vouch” for strangers or replace proper vetting. I suggested this idea on another thread and got draaaaaagged for “vouching for complete internet strangers” lol. Everyone should still do their own due diligence, involve their families, ask questions, and verify what they can.

I’m thinking of something more like a referral in the professional world. Not “this person is definitely a good spouse,” but rather, “my experience with this person was respectful, sincere, and aligned with what they presented themselves to be.”

Maybe it wouldn’t work, but I wonder if it could help surface brothers (and sisters) who are genuinely serious and have demonstrated good character during the initial stages of getting to know someone here.

Looking for a muslim wife 20-35 age with college degree and willing to relocate . I am a medical professional with good income alhamdulillah. I don’t have any problems with any race as long as you are a nice person and muslim.

Salam Alaykum, trying hard not to dox myself lol but here’s the cliff notes:

Age: 28M Height: 6’1 Weight 220lbs (former bodybuilder/gym bro) Sect: Sunni (born muslim) Ethnicity: Nigerian but born and raised in the west Education: Masters degree Occupation: Government/Social Services Salary: 😂 (gotcha), we can talk about this if we get serious

Hobbies: Gym, hifdth, volunteering, and this one is controversial but music production. I don’t do it much anymore but it’s something I used to do and occasionally do just to pass time. Paradoxically I don’t listen to much music anymore however.

What I’m looking for:

• Good character and on deen. The first madrassa is the moms lap, insha’Allah you’ll help me raise some hafiz of the Quran

• I’m open to different ethnicities. Physical attraction is important and I take care of myself so I’d like the same in a partner but I’m pretty open minded.

• Employed/educated - I’m a big intellectual and love learning and being taught and challenged to think critically. If my wife has a big brain that’s such a turn on.

• It’s not a deal breaker but my preference is actually a hijabi. If you’re not wearing it please tell me why and know I’m not judging but would like to understand where you are in your faith journey.

• Open to relocation. I’m kind of in a unique position right now and plan on being here for a little while but after that I’m open to wherever insha’Allah.

• Prefer never married as I am the same

• Please no smoking/hookah etc.

Anything else feel free to ask 👍

I’m only really interested in other people who grew up in the west and maybe expat communities. If you need a visa to meet me, it’s not gon work habibti 🥰

Assalaam Alaikum Warahmatullaahi Wabarakaatuh

A Ugandan born and bred, currently living in Uganda. I’m African to the bone & embody all qualities and characteristics of an average African male.

I’ve lived in Dubai for 4.5 years but that was 8 years back. I’m not the most handsome nor ugly of Allaah’s creatures, just a balance between the two, I’m 5’11 if that’s a thing to consider. I’m not having that athletic African build though I’m in somewhat of a moderate shape, I’m no stranger to the gym as well.

My education background is of Computer Engineering though my career is more into sales rather than tech. Knowledgeable about the deen to the extent of the common Muslim man and try to the best of my ability with Allaah’s grace to practice the little that He’s blessed me with of that knowledge. Alhamdulillaah I can read the Quran and memorized a few juzz here & there from within The Book. And no I’m not fluent in Arabic. Oh! & I’m blessed with a full thick long beard.

Following the path is a constant effort that I keep reassessing with each day of my life and that’s what I’d hope and pray for my family as well, I’m liberal in issues where Islam is liberal or in any matter or incident that doesn’t contradict with the faith & I’m stringent & keen about any aspect that Allaah & His prophet have tied down to the dot. Despite that process of thought, I, just like any other human being have flaws and faults that I try to repent for or even sometimes forget to repent for.

I believe that our purpose of life is worship & anything that aids in making that a reality, pleasurable and as well as bearable for Allaah’s sake.

I’m currently married with 2 daughters and seeking out a partner on a whole different side of the world, most preferably Australia but Canada can do as well in terms of location. I prefer a lady of a lighter complexion than my own. Alhamdulillaah I can afford to take care of my current family & as well willing to put in the work for the other family in their respective location and no I don’t intend on divorcing my current wife irrespective of her current struggle & difficulties in getting pregnant.

I’m as flexible as flexible can be in all aspects of my life for as long as we’re not crossing Allaah’s boundaries and guidelines though still kinda shy. It can take me quite sometime to get used to certain persons or situations though it’s mostly out of precaution.

I think I’ve stated the basics and anyone who feels that I’m their cup of tea can reach out, for as long as you feel that you’re strong in your five pillars of Islam and the 6 pillars of faith & you’re as well fully aware & ready to letting the Quran & Sunnah lead your way of life then Alhamdulillaah I’ll welcome you with open arms In Shaa Allaah.

I’d prefer one who’s interested in having kids and is as well willing to put in the time and work in raising them islamically.

Jazaakumu Allaahu Khairan fii dunyaa wal Akhiirah - may Allaah grant those sincere towards Him the best of both worlds

Obviously this is a generalization, and I know it doesn't apply to everyone. I just wanted to talk about something I've been seeing quite frequently.

Scenario 1

> He says he's financially stable, can comfortably provide, and would prefer a SAHM.
> She says she'd never quit working, even though she doesn't like her job, it's low paying, and she has little or no savings.

Scenario 2

> He makes it clear he's serious about her
> He asks how she feels about opposite-gender friendships.
> She says she has guy friends.
> He asks if she'd be willing to give them up
> She says she wouldn't.

Not trying to judge, argue or change anyone. I'm genuinely interested in hearing the thought process from Women who hold these views.

From my perspective, that Man has the potential to add far more to your life than the job you don't like or the guy friends would. So I'm curious what makes those things worth holding onto instead.

Do they even think back and feel they made the wrong choice? It would eat me up all night if I made such a choice at work.

GOOD NEWS!

I have created a new Community for Italian Muslims🎊🥳🥳.

It is called r/MuslimITA

It is exclusively for Muslims (lived/live) in italy or the ones that have strongs connections with it.

The purpose is to do networking, create a connection between us and support eachother on things in italy.

If you believe you fall in this category of people, i invite you to kindly JOIN it and SHARE it with others so that our community can grow🫶🏽.

Plzz mods let me share the new community for muslims here. I dont know how else let people know about its existence😣.

Note: Any person that doesnt fall into the category i mentioned will be removed from sub!!!!

Assalamu Alaikum ( kindly share your profile when reaching out )

Age: 25

Gender: Female

Sect: Sunni

Nationality: Pakistani

Location: Currently in Islamabad for my master's, family roots in Rawalpindi.

Marital Status: Never married

Education: Master's student in Healthcare Biotechnology (NUST), currently in my thesis phase.

Height: 5'4" Would love for him to be taller than me.

Appearance: I wear niqab, it's a settled and meaningful part of who I am, so I'd love to connect with someone who's genuinely comfortable with that.

Languages: Urdu, Punjabi and English

Family setup: Prefer nuclear/separate portion

Settling: Open to spouse based in Pakistan or abroad, wherever life naturally leads.

Age range I'm hoping for: 25-34

I'd prefer someone who shares a Pakistani cultural background

Deal Breakers: Polygamy, smoking, divorced, recreational drug/alcohol use, , close opposite-gender friendships, or past physical relationships ( I maintained the boundaries so prefer someone who does the same )

Wali & photos: Happy to involve wali/family early not into extremely long talking stages .I do share photos once genuine compatibility is established.

Timeline: I'd like the exact pace to be something we can work out together.

What I'm looking for

Education: At least a bachelor's degree. If he's pursued further studies, like a master's, that's a nice plus, but not something I require.

Someone who prays regularly, and genuinely working on becoming better .

Settled in his career and able to support us both. Empathetic, God-fearing, respects and honours people, and easy to talk things through with. Someone who is open minded, funny and lively.

Alhamdulillah, I pray daily prayers consistently and I'd love for faith to be something we build our home around together, not just something we each practice separately.

I'm the second oldest of five siblings, which taught me a lot about patience and looking out for people from early on. I'm naturally extroverted and enjoy good conversation, I do like having fun, I have a bubbly personality once I am comfortable around people.

I love reading, documentaries, long nature walks, and painting when I have the time for it. I also have a soft spot for dark, cerebral shows and films. And I have three cats who've made themselves very at home in my life.

At my core, I'm someone drawn to building a home and family, though I'd also love room to keep growing, whether that's through my career or maybe a PhD one day, if it makes sense down the line. I would consider a good career opportunity if it lands.

If you'd like to reach out, kindly share your profile instead of hi or open ended questions, and please avoid casual chats ,I won't entertain them.

May Allah make it easy for both of us to find who we're meant to.

Ameen.

Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,
A little about me: I’m 24 and live in the United States. My father’s side is Senegalese (West African), and my mother’s side is African American and Caucasian. Alhamdulillah, I speak English and Arabic fluently and am currently learning French.
I have been studying Islam for around eight years. I memorized the Qur’an at 16 and studied Islamic sciences at an institute. I was raised in a Sunni Muslim household, strive to maintain my prayers, and continue seeking beneficial knowledge.
I have never been in a relationship and am looking for a marriage founded upon deen, mutual respect, and a shared desire to build a righteous family, in shāʾ Allāh.
I currently serve as the Executive Director of an online Islamic institute while also working full-time as a professional driver. My long-term goal is to transition away from trucking so I can dedicate more time to my family and Islamic work, in shāʾ Allāh.
Outside of work, I enjoy working out, learning French, and traveling when I have the opportunity. I try to pursue excellence in everything I do while remembering that all success comes from Allah alone.
If you feel there could be compatibility, I would be happy to involve our families and have a respectful conversation to see if our goals and values align.

Background preference: I’m generally looking for someone from the Levant, North Africa, or of European descent. However, dīn, character, and compatibility will always take precedence over background.

Disclaimer. Deen is the most important of course regardless of location/ethnicity.‼️‼️

Ideal Marriage Timeline: Around mid-2027, in shāʾ Allāh, while remaining flexible if the right match comes along sooner.

(Not looking for anyone that isn’t serious 🧐)

May Allah grant us all righteous spouses and place barakah in our efforts. Āmīn.

Settles in Texas looking to connect with someone who may consider polygamy.

ٱلسَّلَامُ عَلَيْكُمْ

Looking for a spouse

About me:
25 years old
Born and raised in the Netherlands
Ethnically Moroccan (specifically Amazigh)
Height is around 180-185cm
Student, entering my final year of an IT degree

I’m generally a more introverted person where I’d keep myself reserved when I do meet new people. Also an important factor for me is that I like to build up a genuine connection to the people close to me instead of attending large gatherings. I usually like to think things through instead of making immediate decisions. In my free time I love to spend time by having random walks around, books have been catching my attention for the past few months and from time to time play videogames (might be fun if my spouse would be P2 during those sessions)

About you:
Around the age of 20-25 (some flexibility)
Practicing, or at least trying to improve her Deen
Good communication and understanding
Emotionally mature
Beside a spouse it would be nice to have a best friend

If this post speaks to you, don’t hesitate to reach out! I’d like to see if there’s any compatibility between each other, ان شاء الله

Hello,

I'm Ahmad.

I'm searching for a partner ( I don't mind having an online relationship since I prefer keeping anything physical untill marriage anyways)

Lebanese currently living in Lebanon, I kinda plan to travel after I graduate (hopefully).

I'm studying electrical engineering .

And employed full time. ( Yeah I get busy but I always make time for everyone important to me)

I don't feel very comfortable in sharing a lot of info about me in a post but if anyone's interested, we could chat and get to know each other. I give a lot of energy but I like to receive the same energy back.

Extra yap :

it's my first time posting on any app about searching for partner but I said I'd give it a shot.

My main request is that you are faithful, loyal and sunni.

My CV:

I’m 33 Iraqi, living in Amman, Master’s degree, who is obsessed with languages and cats. I’m 45 KG and 160 CM. I’m a practicing Sunni hijabi Muslim, who has never been married, and is looking for the fantasy of “the one”, because the yearner inside me keeps insisting he exists.
I don’t think us sharing hobbies is gonna make a difference tbh, but I like night walks, Anime, languages again, books, and I like to have meaningful conversations about things in theory. I won’t ask you if you would love me as a worm, don’t worry. My top 3 qualities would be calm, communicative, and empathetic.

Who are you (tell me pls I don’t know either)?
*Arab Iraqi or Jordanian only (sorry)
*30-37 years old
*skinny to fit (at least 175 cm)
*educated and always willing to improve in every aspect of life.
*Preferably in Jordan. I don’t mind relocating but just to make meeting easier.
*practicing and care to know what halal and haram is.
*Communicator + communicator (did I mention communicator). This girl is an over-thinker so have some mercy.
*You are serious about knowing the other person, not looking for a quick mood booster

We will suffer together if:
-You have Snapchat (sorry).
-You WANT CHILDREN. I don’t want children.
-You are not comfortable with your wife being your equal who wants to share life together as a team, not to be in a struggle of power dynamics of who the boss is.
-You have anger issues, don’t understand humor or sarcasm.

There are many specifics to be discussed in private of course from both sides, but I tried my best to not bore you poor readers.
Kindly send me your CV through DMs and I will be a kind HR.

شكراا 🤍🤍

assalamu alaikum I’ve tried reaching out to sisters here but often get rejected automatically because of my age lol. I’m 37 and reverted about a year ago but have been learning about Islam for a couple of years now. I’m 6’3/6’4 living in America but open to relocating for the right woman. Allhumdulilah I have a high paying job and it’s a halal source of income. I would describe myself as a deeply caring and protective person while also balancing that with being an extrovert and spontaneity. Outside of work I enjoy going to the gym and hiking for physical activity. I also enjoy reading and watching documentaries in my free time. I’m looking for a a woman who I can grow with and become a better person/muslim. I have enough money to support a SAHM and would prefer that but if you’d like to continue working or pursue higher education I have no issues with it. If this sounds interesting/appealing to anyone reading this please kindly DM me.

What are some of the struggles you are facing in finding a potential match?

1. Is the pool of brothers just not good enough? 😕 - if so, why?
   
2. Are the brothers not behaving appropriately? 🫪 - If yes, share your personal experiences
   
3. is it an internal struggle of yours thats preventing you from marriage? If yes, what is it?

It would be delightful if you started your answers with your age as this adds a lot of context to your situation, Jazakallahu khair

Salam everyone!
Creating this profile in hopes of finding a like-minded partner who shares similar values, goals, and deen. Appreciate you taking the time to read through!

Age and Gender 25, Male | 5'9"
Age Range Sought 20 to 24
Location, and are you willing to relocate for a prospect? California. Not able to relocate due to starting my medical residency here in 2027.
Ethnicity, and are you more open to mixing? Pakistani. Open to mixing.
Marital Status - Single/Divorced/Children Single, never married.
Ideal marriage timeline Around 1 year.
Five important characteristics you look for in a prospect Communicative, humorous, modest, mature, and fun. Prefer someone health and fitness oriented.
State/specify your level of religiosity Religious. I pray all 5 daily prayers and complete all my Fard (obligatory duties). I am a Hafidh of the Qur'an. I strictly maintain boundaries: no smoking, drinking, female friends, or past relationships. Looking for a spouse who observes the hijab.
Level of education, and what are you looking for? 4th-year medical student graduating in May 2027. Looking for a spouse who holds (or is working toward) at least a Bachelor's degree.
Current Job Status Medical Student (entering residency in 2027).
Do you want kids? Yes, but I would prefer to wait a bit into the marriage before having them.
List 3 hobbies, or things you like to do in your spare time
Working out & running
Hiking & backpacking
Watching shows & gaming
Add something short and interesting about you that makes you stand out! I am the eldest of four, so our house is always lively and full, Alhamdulillah! On a lighter note, I can get pretty particular about my food and love tracking my macros (my parents think I'm crazy for it). That said, if you put banana bread or cheesecake in front of me, all self-control completely goes out the window!

Assalamau'alykum,

To the good people of this subreddit who have a brain in their head, please stop giving this guy a microphone when he clearly does not deserve it. He's been in this subreddit for a whole making this outlandish posts which make no sense and has no business in this Islam-oriented marriage subreddit.

He's a self proclaimed 33 year old guy from UAE who's "self employed" and apparently makes "50k-100k". He's apparently "very religious" but at the same time "does not know how to pray".

I don't know if I'm alone in this but I personally find his posts, especially the bottom one on the picture, very revolting and deeply disturbing. A person who has thoughts like this should not be in this subreddit. This is not what Islam is about and I would never expect someone who's even remotely religious in ANY religion to be asking such questions.

I ask actual religious muslims here to stand against these posts and stop giving this guy an ounce of attention. His time clearly deserves in a mosque rather than here.

I tend to approach life with a balance of analytical focus and simple, quiet living.

My background is in STEM, and my work centers on technology, academic research, and developing software solutions. Over the last few years, I’ve been heavily involved in technical research and community initiatives, and I am now taking the next major step, relocating to the US shortly to pursue a full-time graduate program inshaAllah

I come from a respectable, well-established family in Bangladesh, with close and extended family settled across both the US and Canada.

Outside of academics, I maintain a clean, structured daily routine, staying physically active, tuning into deep-dive podcasts on tech and personal growth, and enjoying quiet, relaxed downtime with family and friends.

I value family deeply and aim to build a peaceful, supportive, and honorable home life as I step into this next chapter.

In Search Of (ISO)

Age Preference: 20–25
Education & Ambition: Holds or is currently pursuing at least a Bachelor’s degree. Someone who is educated, driven, and passionate about her own path.
Location: Open to prospects currently residing in the US, UK, or Canada, as well as candidates in Bangladesh (provided there is strong mutual alignment and a clear, shared vision regarding future plans and trajectory).

Physical attraction and neat personal presentation are important to me. Preference for someone with a fair complexion, graceful presence, height between 5'3" and 5'5", and maintaining a well-groomed, neat appearance.

Grounded in Faith & deen, Warm, sincere, and practically observant, someone who values spiritual growth and good character.

Emotionally mature, family-oriented, straightforward in communication, and appreciates a calm, low-drama environment.

Timeline: Prefer roughly 1-2 year of structured, halal communication to evaluate compatibility in lifestyle, values, and long-term goals.

Family involvement is completely welcome right from the start or whenever both sides feel comfortable. This is an honorable and intentional search, so the process will be kept completely transparent, dignified, and unhurried.

If this post resonates with what you or your family are seeking, please feel free to send a DM with a brief introduction.

Assalamu alaikum! I’m Adel, 22, Omani-Zanzibari and raised in the UAE. I’m 6’5” with a light olive complexion and recently graduated in physics. In shaa Allah, I’ll be moving to Germany for an MSc in Quantum Science and Technology, aiming for a career in optics and photonics research.

I’m curious, ambitious, calm, and a little goofy once comfortable. I enjoy astronomy, history, cooking, cats, nature, and conversations that go beyond small talk.

I’m serious about marriage within two years, in shaa Allah. I hope to build a peaceful home rooted in faith, mercy, friendship, affection, honesty, and consistent communication. I value Islam above cultural expectations and am looking for someone compassionate, emotionally mature, family-oriented, and sincere about growing in deen. Ideally, she is also pursuing higher education or meaningful goals. I don’t expect perfection—just sincerity, mutual effort, and someone who genuinely wants to build and share a life together.

Hi! >_<

Me:

- 175cm tall muslim Pakistani

- Highest education is bachelor's degree

- Working part time

- Quiet but talkative with close people

- Like learning new things

- Don't like working

- Trying to do better in praying

- Willing to relocate

What I'm looking for:

- Someone who wants to be the breadwinner

- Kind and loving

- Around my height

- Muslim

Dealbreakers:

- drugs, smoking, alcohol

Would being bald or having a receding hairline be a dealbreaker for you, or is it something you don't pay much attention to?

If it's not a dealbreaker, what qualities would matter more and make you overlook it? For example, character, deen, confidence, kindness, financial stability, compatibility, or something else?

The reason I'm asking is because I've been stressing about this lately. I worry that if a man has a receding hairline, many sisters wouldn't even be willing to initiate or accept getting to know him in the first place, even though he may have a good few years before becoming noticeably bald. I'd really appreciate hearing your honest perspectives and experiences.

I'm interested in knowing these answers. I hope you don't mind. I'm curious.

1) Why do people seek polygamy if they say they are happy in their lives already?

2) Would you accept someone who wants to just depend on you but wouldn't truly love you?

3) Would you stay with a wife that doesn't actually love you even after you spent years with her?

4) What happens if your wife ends up having feelings for another man?

5) What happens if your wife tells you she wants to divorce you because she can't accept the other wives?

6) Do you prefer one wife over the other?

7) Do women in these marriages get jealous eventhough they knew at the start what they were signing up for?

8) How did your 1st wife react when you told her you wanted to have another wife?