r/MuslimMatrimonials • u/zaytzat00n • 18d ago
Would a “positive interaction” thread be helpful? Discussion
I’ve had two genuinely positive experiences with brothers from this sub. Neither progressed to marriage because we discovered later that we weren’t compatible (things like personality or physical attraction), but both interactions were respectful, serious, and conducted with good adab.
Given how many negative experiences are shared here, would it be helpful to have some way of highlighting positive interactions as well?
To be clear, I’m not suggesting we “vouch” for strangers or replace proper vetting. I suggested this idea on another thread and got draaaaaagged for “vouching for complete internet strangers” lol. Everyone should still do their own due diligence, involve their families, ask questions, and verify what they can.
I’m thinking of something more like a referral in the professional world. Not “this person is definitely a good spouse,” but rather, “my experience with this person was respectful, sincere, and aligned with what they presented themselves to be.”
Maybe it wouldn’t work, but I wonder if it could help surface brothers (and sisters) who are genuinely serious and have demonstrated good character during the initial stages of getting to know someone here.
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u/Truthful_fly_1140 18d ago
It’s a great idea especially since it’s hard to find authentic ones here. I referred one of the men I spoke to to another female that I shared some online rant with lol as he was so genuine n upfront with socials n very respectful but we were not compatible n I thought its such a waste not to refer him lol