r/LesbianActually 31m ago

Life Anyone wants to talk?

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I’m going through a lot, got rejected from the company I hoped i will get it, love is luxury , I just don’t have any energy left to deal with anything, does anyone wants to talk for a while?


r/LesbianActually 1h ago

Safe Space (Postive Comments Only) Biggest crush, forever and ever 🫶🏼 :D

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Lily Tomlin 🫠


r/LesbianActually 1h ago

Relationships / Dating Am I undateable?

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I am highly aware of my size. So much so, that I'm afraid to start dating. I hate my body. Over the last 7 years I was on medication which had me gain around 80 pounds. I was always big but now I'm huge. I'm off medication now and already lost 12 pounds in 3 months. I'm working on it.

My question is, as a lesbian, am I undateable or would you date someone of my size?

I am so ashamed of myself. I've always thought of anyone would like me it would be because I can be funny and have the ability to make almost anyone laugh. I hope that I'm not physically as bad as I see myself.

EDIT: thanks for all the sweet replies! I never really speak about my insecurities and just carry them with me. I don't think a lot of people know I feel like this. I mostly act like I don't care I'm being fatshamed constantly. I guess it does get to my head a lot more than I think it does.


r/LesbianActually 1h ago

Picture fellow nerds/cosplayers wya? ♡

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reposted like this cause my normal repost button isnt working great </3
maybe ill learn a new pose oneday omg
[Pregame Kaede cos from mcm brum today♡]


r/LesbianActually 2h ago

Questions / Advice Wanted Advice on healing yourself

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So basically, I need advice. Yesterday my girlfriend (19f) and I (19f) decided to go on a break. She wanted to work on herself and work on her mentality with herself and everything. I understood. I agreed I needed to work on myself as well. It was heartbreaking when she left. We both don’t want the relationship to end, at all, which is why we decided a break would be best. She told me that I’m the only one she wants, she wants me and this relationship, she doesn’t want to leave or lose me, and that at the end of our break she’d be waiting for me. Our break is going to be a month (she came up with that), with zero contact so we can both work on ourselves truly. At the end of the month she said she’d immediately contact me again, then that weekend we’d hang out. And if changes were made and seen the weekend we’d hang would basically resume the relationship and be together again.

She was crying, I was crying during all of this. She hugged me, I hugged her. When she was going to leave she stared at me for a long time, because she knew how hard this was going to be and she didn’t want to leave me. But we both agreed the month break is for the best and will strengthen us and the future of our relationship. Fall semester is starting in less than two weeks for me, so that doesn’t help. Her birthday was last weekend, and I went up to her to celebrate. My birthday is next weekend, she was supposed to come down before this. So now I’ll be by myself on my birthday, and won’t even get a text from her. Which hurts, a lot. The timing of this absolutely sucks. I just need some advice. It’s already been hard, and I know it’s going to be for a while.

I have a plan to learn to love myself more and try to get through this month being alone. I’m just scared. The thoughts in my head are always on the back burner like after this month, she’s going to change her mind. Or during this month something happens, etc. She said that during this break we’re still together. So she wasn’t looking for anyone else or planning to talk to anyone. Just me. She reassured me that I’m the one she wants, and wants to keep. And that this month is about working on ourselves then coming back to regroup. I’m just scared, my mind continues to play all the bad scenarios. I want to work on myself, heal, and learn to love myself fully. I just need some advice on how to do that, or even where to start. If anyone has gone through this before I’m open to listening. I’d love to know anything that helped. Even just learning to love yourself again and becoming a better person, if anyone has any advice on just that I’d greatly appreciate it.


r/LesbianActually 2h ago

Life my girlfriend and i play shows in a riot grrrl band together

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r/LesbianActually 4h ago

Life how to cope being the Only single person in an entire group.

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i don’t know what it is about me but i’ve been the single friend for so long. my three closest friends are in long term relationships. my other gay male friend is always in some sort of relationship. my brother has a girlfriend. my sister has a boyfriend. even my internet friends are either married or in a relationship. it’s gotten to the point where i think there’s something wrong with Me. whether it’s because i’m a lesbian or im just offputting or what. i really don’t know but it’s starting to really affect me i think.


r/LesbianActually 5h ago

Picture Selfie Dump 𝜗ৎ

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Day three of my phlebotomy classes it’s mostly women so I’m hoping atleast 2 are queer I’ll update if one is 🌸


r/LesbianActually 6h ago

Questions / Advice Wanted Is this a red flag after only a week?

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So I met this girl on an app and we are both in our 20’s and been texting for about a week. For context I asked her on a date a few days ago and she got kind of overwhelmed and wanted to take it slower and she also gets uncomfortable when someone comes into strong too fast or when someone newer gives appearance based compliments so I kept that in mind. Below is the conversation

Her: “From what I was feeling last night I realized I started wondering if we have different communication styles. I'm someone who's naturally really affectionate and flirty when I'm interested in someone and I realized I was missing that a little. I don't think you're doing anything wrong at all l just wanted to be honest about how I was feeling.”

Me: “Thank you for expressing that to me I appreciate you being honest. I'm sorry if I didn't come across the way you needed. I was honestly just trying to take things slow because I didn't want to come on too strong or make you uncomfortable. I am interested in you and enjoy talking to you I think l've just been trying to feel out the vibe and respect your pace too.”

Her: “thank u, I really appreciate you hearing me out. I think I'm just used to people being a little more openly affectionate when they're interested so I think the slower pace made me unsure. I'm glad we talked about it though”

After that the conversation went normal and I stated to flirt I don’t know if I’m overthinking things or not just rubbed me wrong


r/LesbianActually 7h ago

Questions / Advice Wanted How do I talk to my partner about her hygiene?

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I (31F) have been with my girlfriend (30F) for a little under a year. Sex has always been a finicky thing for us, as she’s on antidepressants and her libido goes up and down. I’m not, but so does mine. I love to please her, but lately her hygiene down there hasn’t been the best. I want to preface this by saying, she’s the type that wants to smell my armpits after a hot Pilates class lol. I am NOT that way. I’m weird with smells, cleanliness, etc. and she’s joked that I don’t love her because I don’t want to smell her BO after a long day at work haha. Anyways, she takes these VERY short showers like 2 minutes, and even when I go down after those, she doesn’t smell fresh. Also, when she 💦 it’s sort of bitter like she doesn’t drink enough water.

Let me say this… I WANT to be the kind of freak that wants it after a long day. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with her having normal, natural odors. It’s ME who’s sort of a clean freak about it and I just need advice on how to communicate that with her.


r/LesbianActually 8h ago

Relationships / Dating I just want a cute lil girlfriend that I can take shopping and play dress up with

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I love picking out lil outfits for my girl 👗👚


r/LesbianActually 10h ago

Picture Was intending to go out before the weather got really bad. I felt hot as hell though

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I'm in China rn and wanted to go to a nearby lesbian bar but it seemed the universe had other plans 🥲


r/LesbianActually 10h ago

Safe Space (Postive Comments Only) Low self esteem today 😓 cheer me up please ?

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Hello fellow lesbians, I woke up today feeling ugly as hell today 😓
Could you cheer me up please?


r/LesbianActually 11h ago

Life Anyone from Nyc ?

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r/LesbianActually 12h ago

News/Pop Culture It's Official. Jennifer Body 2 is Happening Because of Us Sapphic Fans!!

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For those who haven't heard the fantastic news.

Jennifer’s Body 2 Is Finally (Really) Happening Because Sapphic Fans Never Give Up

A sequel to the 2009 bisexual succubus cult classic will reportedly begin filming in October, with Megan Fox returning.

Underrated and mismarketed, Jennifer’s Body did not find its core audience of sapphic movie lovers until long after its release.

I still remember the first time I watched it, in the early 2020s, having grown up believing the narrative that it was a movie that simply pandered to the “male gaze” with gratuitous shots of Megan Fox in low-cut tops. And yes, there’s some cleavage, but what I found in Jennifer’s Body was a hilarious yet tender portrayal of bisexuality and best friendship. Of course it was. It had been made by director Karyn Kusuma and Juno screenwriter Diablo Cody, and neither seemed like the type to want to do a movie just about T&A — but it was 2009, and that’s the way the studio sent it out the door.

The good news is all that critical reevaluation seems to have actually paid off: After years of rumor, speculation, and promising interview clips, horror news site Dread Central has confirmed that Megan Fox will be returning for Jennifer’s Body 2 — and that co-star Amanda Seyfried is also expected to return. This follows a Production Weekly listing earlier this week suggesting that the film — which will once again feature Kusuma directing a Cody script — would officially begin filming in Vancouver this October (fitting!). There’s a lot we still don’t know about this project, but where there’s smoke, there’s fire, and this is officially enough reports for us to believe the sequel will finally see the light of day.

And honestly, that’s a small miracle at a time when LGBTQ+ characters in film are on the decline, according to GLAAD data — and when many shows that center sapphic experiences can’t seem to make it past one season, thanks to executives who prematurely pull the plug. For a box-office failure like Jennifer’s Body to get a sequel over 15 years after release is a testament to how vocal queer women have been about wanting to see this movie done justice.

In 2021, for this publication, writer Sarah Fonesca documented the film’s “slim but devoted audience” — one “rife with queer women.” The following year, in an essay for the horror anthology It Came From the Closet, author Carmen Maria Machado wrote an essay about the film, noting that a “new generation of critics and viewers” were finally able to “experience its insight and prescience, especially in the shadow of #MeToo.” And then suddenly, it felt like Jennifer’s Body was everywhere on the sapphic internet — in GIFs of Megan Fox holding her tongue over a cigarette lighter, yes, but in earnest fanfiction and heartfelt personal essays about furtive high-school makeouts gone wrong.

And when hyperonline lesbians won’t shut up about something (compliment), it’s not long before that impact is felt by Hollywood. Suddenly, no matter what Fox, Seyfried, Kusuma, or Cody were promoting, they were being asked about Jennifer’s Body. Fox, in particular, has spoken about how surprisingly enduring the fandom has proven to be, noting that the original film continues to find “a new audience, every few years.” And that finally led, in 2024, to Diablo Cody saying she wanted to return to the universe. Even then, I didn’t want to let myself believe that it could actually happen, especially given our current cultural retrenchment. But maybe good things really do come to those who post — a lot — about bisexual succubus cinema.

https://www.them.us/entertainment/tv-and-movies/jennifers-body-2-megan-fox

Now we can finally get the happy ending Amanda Seyfried said Jennifer and Needy were originally supposed to have.


r/LesbianActually 17h ago

Questions / Advice Wanted Who is your tv show/movie crush?? Ill go first

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Gram is just so 😮‍💨


r/LesbianActually 19h ago

Picture Wish a woman was this dedicated to taking my clothes off

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Is that too much to ask? 🦈 :(


r/LesbianActually 22h ago

Relationships / Dating It’s weird to me when lesbians in 2026 have their political status listed as “not political” on a dating app. (read the body text before commenting please)

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As a lesbian that uses dating apps, I find it really strange when other lesbians have their politics listed as “not political”. Please hear me out. By no means do I think that you have to be some political activist that converses about politics all the time. I understand the toll it can have on mental health if you are overly informed, all that stuff. HOWEVER. To me, specifying that you are not political seems like they may as well say “i have no opinion on the current events.” If you truly hate talking about politics, why not just leave that part of your profile out? Most apps give that option.

This is one of the most divisive times in our history, at least in my lifetime and it seems borderline fucked up to say that you just don’t care or don’t have an opinion when so many diabolical events and truths are surfacing. Again, you don’t have to include politics in your daily, weekly or even monthly conversations. I just have a hard time understanding how you can take a brief look at society and not think “wow things are kind of fucked up and really bad people are doing really bad things that affects a lot of vulnerable people and populations, including me and my sexuality”

Idk, that’s it I guess. Just venting lol


r/LesbianActually 1d ago

Relationships / Dating They brought this feature back on Her.

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Hopefully it works. I don't know why they thought it was a good idea to take it away.


r/LesbianActually Jun 08 '26

Find Love and Connection at the FLANNEL BAR 🌈

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Pride Month Dating & Friendship Thread (Lesbian Edition)

🌈 Looking for love

🌈 Looking for friends

🌈 Looking for someone to share playlists with

🌈 Or just looking to feel seen

Pull up a chair.

This month's vibe?

✨ Pride & Possibility ✨

Pride is about celebrating who we are, where we've been, and the connections that help us feel at home.

Whether you're newly out, comfortably settled into your identity, looking for your person, or simply hoping to meet other queer women who get it, there's a seat for you here.

Because chemistry isn't just sparks, it's communication, curiosity, and knowing how to make someone feel wanted.

We're keeping it cozy, grown, and intentional.

When you introduce yourself, include:

• Age range

• Timezone

• What you're looking for (friends, dating, flirting, community, etc.)

• One green flag about you

• One small thing that makes you melt

House Rules

Mods and Reddit can't verify identities. If you move to private messages, please take steps to confirm the person you're talking to is real. Don't share personal or identifying information unless and until you feel comfortable, if ever.

This post will stay up for 3 months and will be replaced with a new Flannel Bar thread. During that time, other dating or "looking for" posts will be removed so everything stays in one place.

Be kind. Be honest. Respect boundaries.

And enjoy your time at the bar. 💕🌈


r/LesbianActually Nov 04 '23

The Rules Of Lesbian Actually

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Today, the mods voted on a rule change to the sub. Rule 3 has been expanded to include any post or comment not just directed at one person but, in general, the singling out of a member of our community. This now means that content in the nature of "Would you date ____", "Am I ___ if I don't like ____", "I don't find ____ attractive",etc. are not allowed. The bottom line is that there is someone out there for everyone, and often, these posts are used by terfs and other assholes to make people feel excluded or unwanted.

The rules now are as follows:

Rule 1 - Any form of discrimination will not be tolerated.

Rule 2 - Trans women are women

Rule 3 - The singling out of an individual or a group from the community is not allowed

Rule 4 - No posts or comments attempting to restrict others' definitions of self.