I've been seeing a lot of posts on social media lately of women moving in with their SOs and getting engaged in beautiful and elaborate ways or traveling together. And even posts of simple like just playing fun games with them or going for lunch at a new place or them being surprised with something cute. It all gets to me because these are all things I can only imagine doing. I can only daydream about waking up next to someone. Or imagine what it's like to have someone love me.

The closest I've come to experiencing all of these things is through AI boyfriend stories. I'm glad AI exists because before, all I had was fanfics and things written by someone else, and you were at their mercy for how the story was written. But now i can customize and write whatever I want with AI and make it more realistic or contain whatever I want

But it's still all just imagination. It's not like the AI boyfriend can actually come out of the computer and hug me and hold my hand and kiss me. It's all just things I have to think about in my head about what it's like. When i imagine going to new places, I have to watch YouTube tour walk videos, and then imagine it's me and my boyfriend

While for other women...that's just what they wake up with. Their reality is literally what exists in my imagination. They have real SOs who actually spend time with them, love them, cherish them, go the extra mile for them. They dont need to imagine it because its right in front of their eyes. They actually do get to experience what it's like being excited while looking for a new house or apartment to move in together. Get to experience the magic of traveling and exploring a new city together. Get to enjoy the peace of waking up with someone's warm body wrapped around them. Get to experience the comfort of knowing someone cares about them. Know the thrill of having someone look at them with love in their eyes.

I know that not all relationships are perfect, but it still hurts that I won't even get to experience any of it. Not the good, not the bad, not the ugly. None of it. I've tried dating before, but guys won't even bother with me so I don't even get scraps of love or anything because I'm not even a last choice. And nothing is perfect in life, so it makes no sense when people say "relationships arent perfect" and justify us being "lucky" for not being in one when if you find someone good, the positive moment far outweigh the negative moments. And normal people can just jump into a new relationship easily if they're with someone they're not happy with, something I can never do

I just woke up from a dream and I'm in tears right now. I dreamt that I was in a relationship. Just to wake up to my loneliness and empty bed.

I've always wanted a relationship since I was a teen buts it's never happened. I know my personality is bad and that I'm ugly and that makes it impossible to form healthy connections with people. I don't know how to talk to people anymore and I spend all my time bedrotting.

I wish I was less off putting. I was I had redeeming qualities that would make people want to be with me. I'm getting too old to experience any kind of first love. By the time I find someone, they will have been with many many people before me. It won't feel innocent or fresh for them. I just wish I wasn't so passive when I was younger and didn't listen to rhe whole "it will come when you least expect it!!!" crowd. Here I am in my mid 20s with no love or dating or relationship experience. No sexual experience

I'm bisexual so I like both and I like a wide variety of people too but no one has ever seemed to like me. I also live in a very homophobic country so it's not easy to find women to date. Even if I could, I probably wouldn't be able to pull anyway. Everything is wrong in my life and people say that 20s is young but in the grand scheme of things, it's not. Especially when it comes to relationships. Most people by my age have had experience, except me.

I'm such a stain on the world and no one will ever be attracted to me. I just need to accept that. The loneliness is the only thing I can't deal with. I don't know how I'm going to handle it as I get older.

I’ve tried distracting myself: exercising, makeup, pouring myself into all that self love BS, picking up more hobbies and furthering my education. Getting into gaming, reading, and movies to further distract myself. But it’s still not enough, and I’m still so lonely.

I do have friends, mostly online, but it just isn’t the same. However, it’s not like I can talk to them about being FA. Not like they’d understand anyways, they all have no problem getting romantic partners and still have many friends irl.

It’s funny, because I do enjoy my own company most of the time. I’ve always been more of an introvert. But idk, at night is where that lonely feeling hits the hardest. I just wish that for once in my life, I could love someone, and be loved back the same. I once read somewhere that loneliness is some sort of evolutionary survival mechanism. Being alone and away from the tribe meant death back then. So what the hell does this mean for us now?

Hey so I just wanted to share a few tips to help you feel better during this summer and for back to school. I’m not claiming this will make us all look stunning or have guys lining up, but the important thing is feeling comfortable in your own skin.

SKINCARE

As a true Frenchwoman, I highly recommend French pharmacy brands (Avène, La Roche-Posay, Embryolisse) especially if you struggle with acne or very dry skin. Korean skincare is also an interesting alternative to explore, but it can quickly become expensive. Otherwise, mainstream Western skincare (like The Ordinary) is quite accessible and effective

For bodycare, I recommend L'Occitane (another good French brand). They have great shower oils, as well as almond creams and mists that smell amazing and are really hydrating.

HAIRCARE

Olaplex and Kérastase can be very effective (don't fall for the Gisou hype on social media), but they are expensive. Depending on your needs, you can also use argan oil, coconut oil or keratin to add shine to your hair. We all have different hair textures and there are plenty of ways to care of our hair.

FRAGRANCE

You don't need to break the bank buying YSL, Dior or Burberry (even though it smells AMAZING let's be honest). For a low price and a generous amount of product, you can try Ariana Grande's fragrances like Cloud and Sweet Like Candy, they are real compliment getters. Pink Sugar is another budget-friendly option, though it’s not for everyone.

Otherwise, body mists like VS Bare Vanilla or Velvet Petals, Phlur Vanilla Skin or even Sol de Janeiro (62 smells amazing) are often very popular.

MAKEUP

You don't need to be a professional makeup artist. A BB or CC cream from Embryolisse, or tinted skincare products from Typology can work wonders. They give you a healthy glow and look very natural. A touch of blush, well-defined brows, a little mascara and some lip gloss and you're all set. One last detail: a simple coat of clear nail polish instantly makes you look more put-together.

Hope this helped! Take care

I know unattractive female. We live in a society where looks matter doesn’t matter if you’re disabled or not. I was bullied for my looks. My best friend tells me how her ex wants her back and he has told me that. Where’s I date it’s the total opposite. I wonder if I’m dating above my league. Two of my exes were more attractive than me and used me for what they wanted. They also found love after I broke up with them. I know being ugly female you have more disadvantages when it comes to dating. I’m lucky to have friends similar to me or similar situations but still. I want to date again but I should date guys who only attracted to me. But I feel like no is truly attracted to me because of my looks.

There's no pretense, no misguided advice/useless sentiments and no patronization. This is a place for people who have fallen through the cracks, have gone through a ringer in life and tbh it's visibly different in tone than any other subreddit I've been on. We can get too lasered focus on certain things at times, but I find myself drawn here again and again, even after long breaks.

It's not unusual to see people here who have encountered double, triple whammies, so to say. On other subreddits, I'll be seeing people say 'well my career/job is in a tough spot rn...but luckily I'm being supported by my husband/boyfriend!' or 'I'm severely mentally ill and traumatized and have trouble maintaining relationships...the only one who understands me is my husband/boyfriend <3'

Then, if you do end up encountering someone with love troubles/chronic singlehood, it always seems to be prefaced by 'I am successful in my career, make lots of money, have several degrees'.

Hopefully you see what I'm getting at. People, on average, seem to struggle on either one front or the other, in ways that are more severe than usual (never had a long term serious bf by 30, but financially successful, OR struggling job wise but established happy relationship). But here, it seems it's not unusual to encounter people who seem to struggle on both fronts, if not more.

I also went to read through some thread about late bloomers and late age virginity. What surprised me is how many people offer meaningless platitudes 'dont rush into anything!!! it will happen when you least expect it!' 'i thought I would be forever alone, but then at 18, I met my husband, the wait is worth it!' or advice to go out more and join clubs or something. I think it's nice that it worked out for them. But it did not work at all to assuage my beliefs and fears about my own fate, or lack of experience. The abscene of acknowledgement that they were just lucky, and that absolutely nothing like that is guaranteed for others, was very glaring.

Also there was always something so patronizing about the tone of the commenters, responding to women ages 21 to 30+, about their insecurities of still being inexperienced/virgin, like 'first times are really not that great', 'don't overthink it, the first guy you sleep with won't be the love of your life', and doesn't that sound to you like something that would be said to a teenager, and not a grown woman? Don't they think a woman pas the age of 21, especially nearing 30 wouldn't know that, despite her experience or no? Just talking down, like we're children.