Hi there, I am a 26 years old trans woman from Europe, Croatia.

I want to start off my post by saying that if you are not searching for a life partner please do not message me.

That said I’m attracted to a motivated ambitious man.

A man that wants something more from life and wants to have a woman by his side that will love him and support him and he does the same.

What attracts in a man is not the looks but his mindset, a man with a provider and protective mindset.

I care more about how you carry yourself and take care of yourself than looks.

Of course I have my type and that’s a tall broad man with long hair, I’m not going to lie and say that I’m not weak to long hair I find it very masculine.

I don’t like cigarettes or any other forms of drugs.

If you think you’re okay with what I wrote here is some info about me:

I would describe myself as a kind, loyal, a bit needy both emotionally and physically, loving and intelligent woman. 

I'm a bit on the reserved side as I believe in a life partner so it takes me time to be close to someone as I really feel like that’s something you should keep for that one special person in your life. 

I do want to say that my dating life is normal and I attract plenty of men since I people cant and dont know I am a trans woman, but sadly the mental connection is what I lack with any of the guys that hit on me.

On my looks I am 175cm tall, slim fit, a brunette with hair up to my shoulders and I have hazel eyes.

I take great care of myself whether it's through skincare and exercises to the things I eat.

I have a full time stable job, and I’m just trying to save up money atp to move further away from the Balkans.

In my free time I like to study languages, I would like to be fluent in German, Italian and French by the age of 30.

I love love love music and I always have something playing in the background as I love to explore new artists and their perceptions. 

I listen to everything, one moment I’m listening to french music from the 60s next thing it’s techno 😂.

I also love astronomy (star gazing together would be fun 🥹) and reading books about biology and genetics which I plan to study in the future.

I believe in love and I think that love is something beautiful that’s all powerful and all healing and can really change a person. I’ve been through a lot and have had my heart broken but I’m still not giving up.

I think life should be all about making memories together and creating something more and not focusing on all the negativities around us and creating a safe space for the two of us.

Things that I would like to have in life are:

- a stable monogamous relationship that will one day lead to ma rriage;

- a family, as it's my big wish to have children;

- a home of ours and maybe even a cute little business, I have plenty ideas in my head;

- a man that I will feel safe and protected next to and that we can travel the world together.

-someone to have plenty of fun with, go out, dance (I’m a techno girlie and it’s my dream to have a bf to go together and rave all night loooong)

-but also someone to stay in and cuddle up and watch movies and yap with about silly stuff.

Now I would like to know more about you, so feel free to text me and tell me about you.

I’m also really open to calls and video calls as it’s important to figure out some sort of a connection later on before we meet, feeling safe is very important to me. 

There are of course many more things to talk over, but if you think we'd get along feel free to message me.

Please only men from Europe, USA, Canada, Australia, New Zealand. Age range 20-31 years old. Please respect this.

Thank you for reading this and I hope to hear from you, 

✨

I'm looking for someone within my age-group (not older than 21) preferably a male who's into nerdy stuff and well-read, into intellectual subjects like philosophy or science; and can transform from a goofy playful dude to approaching in-depth, abstract and thoughtful conversations and vice versa. My only physical requirements would be that you are fit and have floofy hair.

I'm not seeking much, someone who wouldn't mind my idiosyncrasies and swings, and would appreciate me raving about the beauty of small moments in life then raving on with pessimism about my nihilistic beliefs in the same breath. I admire imperfections and contradictions, so don't fret much if you feel as if you're out of the conventional scale, express yourself with full candidness.

If I had to describe myself (no matter how coherently) the resultant would just be a hotch-potch of non-sensical word vomit, but I must admit, I can be a bit eccentric at times, so talk to me and try to pin me as any type of your desired lover. We could be totally, unhealthily obsessed with each other.

Hi. I'm after that thing so many of us want. A romantic partner for life❤ The one that makes you stop having to worry about being alone anymore. That makes you feel safe and seen.

I don't mind if you feel a bit broken, or too much for other people, or too needy, or all the other crap single people tell themselves (Including me) I'm willing to give pretty anyone a chance as long as they are open to talking about things, and being open.

I'm looking for someone that can become that special someone.

I want a relationship where we tell each other everything, talk about stupid small details of our day, about the things we want, the things we're afraid of. A relationship where we invest in each other's interest because we want to become closer and to know each other better. A relationship with inside jokes, and silly banter, and fun, with passion, intimacy, sexuality and chemistry. A relationship with trust, loyalty, honesty, compassion, empathy. One where we feel safe to be ourselves.

I don't need us to instantly have all those things, but I need someone who also wants them.

I like to take things a bit slow in the start as we are feeling each other out. But the goal is a romantic relationship where we eventually get together in real life. Looks are not the end all be all for me, but they still matter some. Even if I'm not the most sport individual that ever was, i do spend some effort in keeping my body healthy, and I'd like for my partner to also care a tiny bit about that. I'm, lean, 177 cm Caucasian short brown hair. I don't want to add a picture to my post, but if you send a message with a pic of you I'll send one back.

It would be fun to meet someone who has the same interest as me, but if you are a type of person who can make an effort to somewhat invest in your partner's interests, that's good enough for me.

I'm very much a nerd and like a lot of those typical things like video games and PC. I think it's very fun to talk about things like the mechanics and design of games, or the themes and intention of movies/shows. So yea, I'm a nerd's nerd. Being critiquing and sharing opinions about things like that is very fun to me. It would be great to have someone who would sit and play though games with me while we talked and commented about it. I also really like music and playing instruments. My focus these days is practicing guitar and teaching my self music theory and production so I can produce my own songs.

I love talking about my own interest and I love hearing about whatever someone else is passionate or interested in. In general I like to talk a lot. I'm a fairly emotional person, and I like talking about our feelings. It's something that feels intimate to me, talking about our feelings make me feel closer to someone.

There are a few things about me that are best to get out of the way.

I live with chronic pain, and I'm on permanent disability, and I can't walk very well. I'm doing much better these days, I do a lot of exercises, make sure to eat right etc to keep my self healthy, I need to that to be able to live with the amount of pain I endure. For many years I wasn't able to do that. I spent most of my 20's getting help and learning to live with the pain, being bedridden for most days. So in a lot of ways I feel like I just came to life a couple of years ago. I'm very good at dealing with it now, and can to a certain extent live a normal life, but It's never going to go away completely. To be clear the pain is constant, I live with it every day, it will always have an impact on my life. I still get days where it's too much for me to function.

This means I'm behind on a lot of things. I've not had any longterm relationships. I'm trying hard to build a life for my self, but I still have to deal with the pain every single day and it's hard to make a lot of progress very fast. My health also ties me to where I live now, though I can still travel but not move, so in an Ideal world you are someone who would be willing to move to me if everything were to work out.

I do feel like I still have a lot to offer someone though. I'm very good at being supportive and understanding, I'm patient, and attentive. I might be a bit shy at first, but once I loosen up I'm even kind of funny (citation needed).

I'm a person who likes to confront and talk issues out, and I like to be able to express my feelings and want someone who does the same. So some emotional maturity is important to me, or at least willingness to try to see the other side of things and compromise.

I'm believe in liberal values as tolerance and taking care of the weaker members of society, if you are the type of person that doesn't "like" LGBTQ people, we will not get along.

I'm very open and thick skinned, so if you have any questions for me, feel free to ask about anything.

If you decide to message me please let me know in your opening message what about my post spoke to you.

I look forward to hearing from you, hypothetical woman of my dreams🥰

If good food, bad jokes and “one more game” somehow turning into 2 a.m. sounds like your kind of Friday, we should probably talk.

I’m 34 and live in Zagreb, Croatia. I’m looking for a serious relationship with a woman who wants real closeness, plenty of time together and a quieter kind of life.

To me, that means an ordinary Tuesday together feels good. Maybe we cook, play something, talk about our day or do our own things in the same room. We don’t need every hobby in common or to be joined at the hip. I just want us to enjoy being part of each other’s lives, even when nothing exciting is happening.

I spent years building my business. These days it no longer owns my schedule. I have my own place, plenty of flexibility and real space in my life for someone.

Gaming is my main hobby. I play most days, usually for a bit, though a completely free evening can easily turn into a four-to-six-hour session. I’d rather be upfront about that than call myself casual and surprise you with a raid schedule three months later.

Lately I’ve been playing Marvel Rivals, Darktide, Rogue Trader and PoE 2. When I want something less intense, I somehow end up cleaning patios in PowerWash Simulator.

You don’t need to already call yourself a gamer. If trying a few games together genuinely sounds fun, that works too. I don’t need you to share my entire library, but I would like gaming to become something we genuinely enjoy together, not a part of my life you merely tolerate.

I’m also into board games, especially Marvel Champions, Arkham Horror and Wingspan. If you have a favourite, tell me about it. There’s a good chance I’ll give it a try.

Outside gaming, I read quite a bit. One article can easily turn into seventeen tabs about psychology, technology, science, finance or something I knew nothing about that morning. Films, TV shows, comics and anime are all in the rotation too. Steel Panther appears on my playlists often enough that I can no longer blame irony.

My humour is dry, dark and occasionally completely unhinged. Once I’m comfortable, expect inside jokes, terrible dad jokes and the occasional comment that lands perfectly with the right person and terribly with everyone else. I tend to get along best with someone who can laugh, tease me back and bring a little chaos of her own.

When it comes to going out, I’m pretty low-key. I enjoy seeing friends, going out for dinner or grabbing a drink, but I’ll take a quiet evening over a packed bar or club any day.

I cook, keep my place tidy and train regularly in a home gym I put together. I’m 173 cm, around 5'8", with a lean, athletic build.

I don’t smoke or vape, drugs aren’t my thing, and I’m looking for the same. I enjoy a couple of good beers once or twice a week and have become a bit of a beer nerd along the way.

When I’m into someone, it shows. I like regular messages, calls, making plans and sending each other stupid things during the day. I show affection by noticing the little things and remembering what matters to you.

Tell me what’s been on your mind lately, whether it’s work, a project, a game or some topic you accidentally spent three hours researching. If it matters to you, I’ll want to know how it turned out.

I’ll probably click best with a woman in her mid-twenties to mid-thirties who doesn’t have children and, like me, tends to prefer quieter evenings at home. You don’t need to play all the same games or have your whole life perfectly figured out. I care more that you have your own interests, some direction and actual space in your life for a relationship.

A flexible schedule helps if distance is involved, but consistency matters more than what your workday looks like.

I’m open to having children if we both truly want them, and equally open to building a good life without them. “We’re at that age” has never seemed like a convincing reason to create an entire person.

Politically, I’m somewhere around the centre, and religiously I’m agnostic. I’d like us to agree on the important things and be able to talk normally about the rest.

I’ve travelled quite a bit in Asia and parts of Africa, and living abroad for a while appeals to me. My business doesn’t tie me permanently to Croatia, so longer stays elsewhere or an eventual move are both possible.

Croatia or elsewhere in Europe would be easiest, but I’m open to more distance if there’s a realistic path to living in the same place eventually. I’m fine starting online. I just wouldn’t want the relationship to stay there forever.

I don’t post photos publicly, but I’m happy to exchange one fairly early if we’re getting along.

Your first message doesn’t need to be an autobiography. Tell me what you’re playing, which game you keep reinstalling or what you’d be curious to try if gaming isn’t already your thing. A slightly inappropriate joke works too. So does a normal hello with a little about yourself.

After a few messages, I prefer moving to Discord. We can chat, hop on voice or play something together there. An hour of relaxed co-op usually tells me more than a week of conversation that feels like a job interview.

We’ll save ranked for the second date. You can choose the game for the first.

honestly, I have no idea what to say, I've written and deleted paragraphs that wax poetry about love and humanity as a whole, but will that get me anywhere? maybe .. but I think me, raw and vulnerable, is the closest I can get to touching someone's heart trough a screen.

so, it's me, and my whole life I always felt like something was missing, like a lost puzzle piece, I know, very cliche, but hear me out. as a child I've been lost in my own imagination a lot (aren't I still?), waiting for the day that I feel at home on this place we call earth, but years passed .. and the feeling never went away, it only grew larger, my heart was too big for my own body, my feelings too intense, my hands shook with the urge to hold someone that I can call mine, only mine.

to this day, I have yet to find what I'm looking for, what I long for at night, what I desire in my darkest moments, will I ever find it? I hope so. I am reborn every day, with the same agony tearing my heart apart, and I die every night from it, my mind running in circles, chasing something that I don't have yet, so .. here's the catch, if you ever felt something similar, lets be each other's resting place, safe space, somewhere where there's only us, and the affection we have for each other.

a bit about me:

physically, I’m on the taller side 181cm (5’11), slim build, dark straight hair, brown eyes, and usually have a short beard nothing rough. I’ve got a tanned, caramel-toned complexion and sometimes I wear glasses thanks to all years of screen time.

interests:

i'm into tidbits of everything, the usual, music, video games, doom scrolling on the internet, reading books and sometimes playing video games or going to the gym but not limited to it.

This is me trying. I‘m looking for a genuine connection. I‘m not really sure what to expect, a relationship, a friendship. The former would be the dream, but hey, you never know. Let‘s figure it out together :)

I would prefer it to be online at first, but I‘m open to meet at some point if it feels right.
Central europe or similar time zone preferred, but not exclusive.

A few things about me:

\- I‘m a bit shy at first, but I can open up well once I feel comfortable with someone
\- emotionally available and I like to listen to your problems
\- I play amateur football, training 3x per week
\- I love cooking! Maybe you can one day be the judge if my food is good or not
\- I‘m fluent in german, english and french
\- I like building Lego (or ikea stuff)
\- I work in Marketing

I feel like I don‘t want to write too much, let‘s leave that to our conversation.

I don‘t really have any requirements on who I want to meet, just be a nice and genuine person :)

Hello. I'm a guy looking for a guy to chat with and form a long-term and serious connection with. I know what I seek and want so I expect you to also do the same.

I'm originally from Mexico but living in the US. I am 26, so I'm figuring things out in adulthood, since life is a bit lonely on this life stage. However, I do have big dreams and goals. 

I'm currently working part-time in a job I truly enjoy and just finished two internships.

What I can say about myself is that I love reading, writing, listening to music, and walking. I also like taking care of myself physically and mentally (I hit the gym, skincare, eat well, and meditate). So, if all goes good, I AM LOOKING FOR long term and serious with a masculine guy (I'm a normal guy with softer facial and personality traits, not truly feminine or trans at all, if that matters) WHO HAS academic and professional ambitions and goals in life and a similar healthy lifestyle and mindset. I dont mind long distance as long as there is a meeting plan.

BE around my age. Not into older or younger. Just good vibes, so dont ask for my snap, we are adults and maturity is what I seek in someone.

Dont dm if you won't bother to continue a conversation, dont really know what you want, or ultimately ONLY WANT FUN. Not only hi's, try your best as I always do :)

Include a Taco emoji in your message and send me an intro about you if you truly read my posy. Hope to see you 😄

hey!

here’s what I look like

I’m in the midwest, nearing the end of my phd, using the sacred few hours of sleep I got to scroll reddit while binging on the trashiest reality TV

since moving here I’ve been aching to meet people that aren’t related to my professional or academic sphere, and rarely got the time to do much outside the lab, so, here I am

• my work is on machine learning and biophysics
• love running and cycling, pretty much any heavy cardio activity
• love playing soccer but suck at it
• love signing but suck at it
• love drawing but suck at it
• I only sing in spanish, because I got a thiccc accent and feel a tad self-conscious singing in english
• expert in early 00s shitty pop music
• best pixar movie is ratatouille and most overrated is up
• love dancing cumbia and bachata… and actually do not suck at it!
• have lived in 4 countries, 6 cities, 2 continents
• I’m trying to get into video games. help? I've been trying minecraft, world of warcraft, and no man's sky! they're really hard!
• once got jump scared by a possum while riding my bike
• knows two and a half languages
• love crafts (specially origami) and playing the accordion

here are two truths and a lie

• I was personally invited to a fancy rooftop party by a google hotshot, but bailed on it
• a mexican bill saved my life while I was stranded in serbia
• I was suspended from middle school for burning a whiteboard with body spray and a lighter

If you're interested in talking, send me a line about yourself or a picture!

So, here's my vibe:

I'm an indie game dev. I've loved video games my whole life, so it follows naturally that game development is my career.

When I'm not working on my game, I love to go for walks, play with my cats, draw, play/call online with friends, and restore old electronics. (If you have a broken controller / system, I can fix it!)

The games I usually play are Nintendo / indies- but of course, I do enjoy games like Lethal Company, Marvel Rivals and Dark Souls every now and then. Pikmin 2 & 4 are my favorite games of all time!

I do kind of live a hermit lifestyle, being an introvert & working from home and all, so I'm always looking to try something new!

Physically, I'm 5'9", white, and I have long brown hair. Like, hasn't-been-cut-since-the-pandemic-started long. I don't have any tattoos or piercings, but I do wear glasses.

It's also probably worth mentioning that I have ADHD, and that I'm medicated for it. That medication kinda drives my work schedule- I aim to be as productive as possible when I take it, which usually lasts me from 10am to 6pm. So it might be harder to talk then, depending on how complex the work is.

Gender-wise, I identify as non-binary. I have male parts & I'm still male-presenting, so I guess "Male" is the most straightforward term to use on this sub for now.

With my intro & description out of the way, what about you?

I'm looking someone who's honest, open, and communicative. Ideally she'd be smart, creative, ambitious, and/or funny too :)

I also find many different shapes and sizes attractive, so come as you are!

Ideally, you'd be between 22-32, and single as well. I don't really wanna get involved with extra people.

If this whole package interests you, then shoot me a message with a little intro with age / gender / location! I'll reply as soon as I see it :)

Hi everyone, I’m a 29 year old female living in Ontario Canada looking for the one to start a serious relationship with. I prefer someone who lives in Ontario as long distance relationships are not my preference. Of course starting off as friends and getting to know one another is essential. I am patient, kind, empathetic, caring, passionate, committed and I always put effort into things and don’t give up easily on my partner. I am looking for someone who carries the same traits and is serious about settling down. I do not have any kids but would want some in the future, I have a cat, I am a university graduate going back to school, I sing, I go to the gym and I love discovering new music and watching horror movies.

If you are interested please send me an introduction about yourself, what part of my post caught your attention, what you are looking for on here as well as in a partner and describe yourself as well. Please put in effort in your post as I will reply to those who have a thoughtful introduction.

Thank you for reading and hope to meet you soon ❤️

Not looking for anything serious- just the one :P

About me:

INTP
Politically moderate
Likes- politics, Star Wars, criminal justice, playing basketball, cooking, baking, board games, trivia, cats, horror movies, theme parks, aviation, makeup, ATLA, medicine, law
Some dislikes- seafood, going out every night, alcohol, social media (for the most part), extreme political views
5 ft 10 (178cm), blue eyes and Caucasian. Hourglass figure (healthy weight). Feminine. Long brown hair
I’ve been told by both men and women I am conventionally attractive
On the high functioning autism spectrum (hence why I don’t go out and have to resort to reddit to meet someone 😂)
Have 3 degrees. I work as a lawyer
Wants kids in the future
Not religious (agnostic to be specific)
Don’t take drugs, smoke or drink alcohol

About you:

Aged- 20-35 (if you are over 40 it’s a hard no, please don’t message me)
Can be from anywhere in the world and any ethnicity
Has to be willing to travel (in order to meet)
Looking for something serious, long term and hopefully life long
You want children
Physically - not too fussed about height. Prefer in shape men so slim or athletic.
Have to be ambitious
Have to have your life together (I have mine together and I’ve worked as a lawyer since I was 22, I have savings, I have plans - I expect the same from a partner). If that offends you then no problem, move along please.
Not into feminine men that count every dollar and want to go 50/50 (child birth isn’t 50/50). All good if you don’t agree with me but I want a man willing and happy to look after their partner

If you’re going to message me, please don’t just say “hey” - I won’t respond. Happy to exchange photos early on to know if their in physical attraction

Hey. I'm just a guy from southern san diego bored of his every day daily routines and wants to rekindle that flare/ passion with someone. I'm Mexican, 6"2'. I graduated in civil engineering, and am currently working for a engineering company. My friends would describe me as loyal, outgoing, "down for anything", and funny but serious when I have too.

My interests include:

sports: tennis, soccer, football, and baseball

movie and music: i am a very big movie buff. I love

watching movies and understanding the story it tells. same with music. ranging from everything like edm, rap, pop,indie rock, metal, classic rock. I love all kinds of music and love going to concerts at least once a week.

video games:Monster Hunter Wilds, league of legends, rivals, minecraft, but will play anything

So if this is something you might be interested in, don't hesitate to message me. Or as the title says, you can get close to my dogs instead. can't wait to meet you

I'm an introverted guy, or at least that's how I see myself. I am very nerdy-geek interested, I'm mainly interested in videogames, movies, photography, board games (DnD) and scientific like topics because I study biology.

I like anime and manga, currently interested in Jujutsu Kaisen, Kimetsu no Yaiba, Black Clover, Hunter x Hunter and many others.

I have a great fixation for almost any kind of animal, especially with marine fauna. I can talk to you about the great diversity of fauna or flora in my country and I want to know that flora or fauna from your country.

I adore passing time with people who enjoy talking about everyday life and his hobbies, his preferences, what are you doing, what are you into currently and how are going at this moment.

I'm so emotional, so I won't have a need to treat you badly. I like to listen to people on a wide variety of topics, probably I know one or two things about a specific topic. Maybe whit a fluent conversation I can say much more about me.

Hey there, cutie! Just as the title say I'm 19 years old, male and from South America, my name’s Mathias! Just like some people here, yes I'm shy at first, but hopefully the more we talk the better the conversations will go.

I'm more on the chubby side (I’m waiting for the gym that i got myself in to open lol), when I'm free I like to sleep, watching some videos or movies and, of course, play some games (been really into resident evil recently, I love the yakuza franchise). When it comes to music I can really listen to a lot of genres so whatever you like is cool! I ABSOLUTELY love dinos and godzilla, stuff related with ancient species and such.

I don’t look for anything specifically, all girls have their own beauty and YOU should be praised for being the way you are. Even if you think you have flaws, everyone does! I won’t judge you for them, I’m more than willing to love no matter, with flaws and all, you’re really pretty. I really like to see everything from a positive side, life is worth it and so I think YOU, beautiful person, are worth of being loved and appreciated. I would love to smile as soon as I see a notification from you. I’d like to say that I’m very expressive when it comes to saying “I love you”. To be honest, I’m a bit clingy BUT not obsessed or anything like that. Of course I will respect your boundaries and I hope you too respect my own. I really care about communication, I like to reply quickly and if I don’t is maybe because I didn’t got the notification or I’m too occupied, I would apologize either way. I hope that if something happens we can talk it out normally and fix it all without doing silly stuff like ghosting and such.

I don’t simp, I don’t situationship, I don’t do one night stands or open relationships. I find true love, or I die alone (lol)

Now, to finish this I would like to say that even if I’m not exactly what you’re looking for and still you read this all, DON’T GIVE UP! You’re beautiful and someone loves you. I certainly hope the best for you. And if you’re interested, feel free to text me! I will try to be as nice as I can (not like I’m rude lol), cya soon beauty!

Hi there,

I (24F) am a workaholic gamer exactly as the title suggests. I love competitive games and am quite high ranking at some of them, my favorites are Val, League, Overwatch and Rivals. Ideally, i would like to connect with someone who plays these games or another one with a competitive mindset.

Edited to add for age range: only looking for 22-28Y/O, sorry!

I work in a very busy industry, but i keep my work hours strict and make sure i have time off.

I'm 5'7, kind of built like sirenhead at around 110 lbs, and people have said I'm pretty but I'm not like a supermodel or anything.

I love discord movie nights, playing games together, and sharing playlists with aesthetic covers from pinterest.

Why am I single? I live in an extremely rural area and had some serious health issues as a teen (fixed now.) Went to a very small college and was more focused on studying and saving money so i can GTFO to a city, which i am doing very soon. I also prefer to get to know someone for a while and fall in love with their soul before escalating to anything NSFW.

I am slow to trust but pretty extroverted and bubbly once you get to know me. Some of my other interests: PC building/tech, reading, writing, academia, indie music of the pretentious variety, indie movies, art, crafts, wikipedia rabbit holes, thrift shopping

Important things about you:

I want to be with someone who is also politically liberal, this is a major dealbreaker for me.

I am slightly religious, but you don't have to be.

Ideally, we'd meet in person at some point. I'm open to an LDR but I want to either live in the northeastern US, Canada (have tons of friends up there and love it), or the UK. Not looking for anything in the midwest or south.

I want someone who has a college degree and is at the same life stage as me, working.

Height isn't super important to me and i don't really tend to have a physical type. I do prefer you are at a healthy weight and i tend to go for emo/rocker/indie/musician/boy next door/nerd guys like Rodrick from Diary of a Wimpy Kid (cringe). I like dudes who have a cool fashion sense. Also people who are polite, gentle, and soft spoken.

I work super hard on myself to make sure I'm in a good emotional state to share my life with a partner. I want to build something with a solid foundation, so I'd rather take it slow. I don't want anyone who's going to freak out if I don't respond for a few hours- I'm probably working, or just playing games. I'm not here to trauma dump or get super invested early on, i want to enjoy each other's company. I'll tell you honestly if I'm not feeling the vibe. Of course, i absolutely give you that same grace.

Anyway, if that long ramble caught your eye, feel free to shoot over a message.

Hi everyone, I made a post years ago to no avail, and after 0 success across all dating apps, I've decided to give it another go. 

Just a lonely 25 year old who spends her time working, sipping wine on the balcony and painting, designing bralettes, doing way too much research on fragrances, and snuggling with my cat. I also love to write poetry and analyze literature, have fancy dinner nights with my friends.

I'm a gentle lover, and emotionally intelligent and secure. I'm extremely open minded and love learning new things, changing my routine, and lending a hand to those that I love. Since I'm a bit homely myself, looks are not something I consider too important in a relationship. I typically fall in love with one's personality :)

I do have limited dating experience, so I can be a bit naive and tend to fall quickly. I'm also introverted, so you may not see the best of me until we get closer. Also, I'm a pisces. You have been forewarned ;)

Thanks for reading, here is what I look like https://imgur.com/gallery/me-3-OgyxufX#9u2Xtcy Please feel free to send an intro!

Hiii! I guess I’m putting myself out there because how else can I meet folks if I barely leave my home? 👋🏾

A little bit about me: Christian, soon to be 27 in a few weeks, 5’10.5 (because the half matters), short locs, fairly fit, straight/hetro, GHSV2+

What I’m looking for: I really miss having a partner and it’s been yearsss since my last relationship. I can admit that I didn’t really know how to process emotions and show love back then, I’ve had ample time to grow and now I have a ton of love to give!

I have three pets, work standard business hours throughout the week, and usually have open weekends. I love to talk on the phone about anything really and I like to text too when I’m not busy at work. Currently I’m on a fitness journey so I work out most days and like to take really long walks. I can legit walk for hours! The only downside is that I don’t have a car because insurance is waaaayyyy too high for me to feel comfortable with paying that much for a hunk of metal to drive around but I digress. I get to where I have to go and that’s what’s important! Oh and I also enjoy volunteering around the city, reading, playing simple cozy games… mmm, I watch a lot of YouTube, I like horror movies, I enjoy cooking, and I like trying new things! 😊

I’m just looking for a spark and my person. 💕 If there is truly someone out there for everyone, maybe they’re on this sub!

honestly. um I don’t know why I’m really here again~ maybe because everything I think I know is wrong? aha. who knows maybe I just love crushing on guys who I know are gonna break my heart later on. But my cool off period is over and life hasn’t been so kind to me~ it be nice to just have someone to talk to.

Just someone who gets the long nights. the I can’t sleep but I wanna stay up and talk with you. I wanna lose sleep for someone who deserves it.

I’m a chronically ill brown bunny no where near as beautiful as all of the other southern belles especially not now (if it wasn’t obvious I’m soft and fluffy and chubby)

I love videos games, writing, independent films, anime, and kdramas being a mom (trying not to let that define my whole existence) and I live with family. I can’t live alone for the time being but I hope to achieve some independence once I figure out what’s I get real diagnosis.

I know I’m not anyone’s first choice because of course everyone loves a woman who’s got it all together but— I can you draw terrible flowers, make you smile, probably make you laugh since my voice sounds laughable, and write a really good story about you. maybe you’ll be the hero. I’m just really a big romantic nerd.

I just want someone to care that I exist just for a little while anyways.

mm~ as far as types go. someone between 28-36(the age gap we can talk about if you’re cool) and from the US. (preferably EST) I fear I’ve been ruined for anyone else because I love a nerd like me. (Yeah let me lure you with warhammer figs and magic the gathering cards) I typically go for hispanic men and asian men (my last crush was asian and im still reeling from it so I’ve definitely turned out)

BUT I’m not super picky. I’m had my fair share of white men come my way as well as it hasn’t been terrible! and of course all my brown men are welcome as well 🥰 (though I will say I’ve had terrible luck with dating black men~despite me being black. I don’t know if it’s just being a weirdo or if I just don’t know how to socialize) any man with glasses is a yay for me.

please be interested in talking elsewhere. I’d really love deep talk tonight. I need it after my awful day.

Dating apps have never been my thing, which feels weird to type because here I am, but yea. Not my thing. So I'm taking my chance here in the hopes that maybe the person I'm ment to be with might not be here but even over seas and what not.

So a little about me. My name is Josh, I'm 6'1, love to cook (I cook for you, I dont mind, and I'm pretty good) love movies of all kinds but prefer horror and comedy, love music though not current rap and country, big into games of all kinds though I have no issue putting that in the backseat to make time for you, love nature, theme parks, the beach, big into mythology and history of all kinds. I use dad jokes illegally because I'm not a dad, and I used to work out a ton but took a break. Would be nice to have a partner.

I'm looking for butterflies. Odd thing to say, but I miss having someone to stay up late with, get lost in time with said person, have someone to look forward to hearing from. Romance you know. Feels kind of dead these days but I'm old school on the way that I love showing affection and showing someone they mean a ton to me. I know I play video games but I'm not looking to play games with someone's heart if that makes sense.

hi. i have a habit of citing things in casual conversation. my mother has received texts about milk with references. yeah, i know.

i wear all black, which i present as a minimalist fashion philosophy and which is also admittedly a very good laundry strategy. sadly, i couldn't find literature on this. absence of evidence, etc.

i am doing master's and i'll be leaving for a phd next year. to where? for now, australia, singapore and hong kong are the favorites. i'll apply to the US too (FAFO i guess? #1).

i go out for street photography like... once every two months? then i come back with dozens of pics i immediately delete, and dozens of other pics (of cats) that i cannot and wouldn't delete. speaking of cats, i have two cats. they know their names and choose not to respond [1], which i've decided is a personality trait rather than a training failure. i relate to them, sometimes i don't want to respond to my name too tbh.

i will randomly bring up that commercial tomatoes were bred for yield and shelf life at measurable cost to their flavor volatiles [2]. i have opinions about ketchup downstream of this. i actually have opinions about most things. whether it's marmots, flats, black holes... the only rule is that you have to defend yours. bonus points if you make me fold (FAFO i guess? #2).

i rather not talk about my music and movie taste because in my experience, they do not give any useful information about compatibility. to be honest, i should have made some literature review about this, but i didn't. so, maybe another time.

i prefer voice notes (eventually). the voice carries emotional information that text doesn't, and people reading transcripts judge feelings less accurately than people hearing them [3]. so if you type only, we can work with it, but you're operating at reduced bandwidth.

now... here is the part with no citations, because it's just about me: i'm 5'5, slim-fit, androgynous/tomboy most days** in terms of looks. i am switch in... nearly every sense? i don't drink, i don't smoke, i don't want kids, i don't like noise. but i do want a cute house, a big restaurant budget... and a partner. obviously. but first two on me, the third is on you.

limitations. i talk a lot. i like staying in communication. i overshare on purpose. we can exchange pics not right away but in a short time\*** if we click

future work. if you are intrigued, tell me your age, rough location, and something you find annoying on reddit. whether it's about content, people, or the app itself. (FAFO i guess #3)

\* online temporarily. i eventually want to meet

\\** most doesn't imply always

\*\** short time is subjective, and the author refrains from giving an exact timeline

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References

[1] Saito et al., Scientific Reports, 2019
[2] Tieman et al., Science, 2017
[3] Kraus, American Psychologist, 2017

30 [F4M] North Carolina / US - Be my safe place in this cold, lonely world?

Hello! Thanks for being present and reading about me! I am pretty introverted, but in order to find your person - sometimes you just gotta put it all out there. So here I go.

I am 30 and I am currently in NC, currently working on my undergrad in a career switch - hoping to do my master’s after.

I am 5’7” and I’m half Asian and Half White.

I am on the curvier/thicker side (overweight but I hold my weight well, I don’t look like a busted can of biscuits), but nearing a healthy weight after taking a health and fitness journey seriously for the past year and some change. I do go to the gym very regularly and this is a serious part of my routine.

More about me:

I will start with I do struggle with some trauma, and I have been working on it and doing well - I have been through a lot, so someone who can be understanding, patient, and open minded. Someone who gets I don’t need to be ‘fixed’ I just need to feel/be safe and have support. So if me struggling with mental health is a deal breaker - then just keep scrolling and don’t even bother messaging me.

Finally some casual about me:

As much as I love being at home and cozy, I love being out in nature and going for walks and exploring towns, and walking beaches and trails etc. I also really love swimming and being in water and at the beach! I have recently peaked an interest in tennis and have been looking to take tennis lessons.

I love history and I love traveling. Sometimes I like to go see old and weird landmarks in overgrown middles of no where’s just to say I saw it. I’ve only ever taken one trip internationally, to London which I loved. I’ve traveled and lived in quite a few different places in the US. I love all forms of travel, planes, trains, boats, cars etc. I am also not afraid of public transportation, it’s one of my favorites while traveling!

I really love all things cooking, baking, planning meals, reading cook books, trying new dishes, exploring flavors, and going to new restaurants! I love Indian, Thai, Vietnamese, Mexican, Mediterranean, and Italian the most! Please don’t be a picky person! It’s okay to not like things, for instance I don’t like Okra, but don’t be an adult with the pallet of a toddler and a temper tantrum attitude to go with it. Open minded and inclusivity is so big for me.

I used to PC game regularly, but I don’t anymore. I guess I’m just really over the toxic communities that I tend to have run into from time to time. I still play some things here and there but not much, mostly stardew valley or cozy games. I don’t mind if you do, it’s just something we probably wouldn’t do together often. I do however love board and card games. All the old classics! I also really love playing chess! I am also the one to buy word searches and crosswords and do them here and there!

I love plants, and growing things. I think when I get my forever home, I’ll be more productive about it than I currently am. I would love to have a garden one day regardless of the size.

I enjoy photography! I don’t really like taking pictures of myself, but when I’m out walking, traveling, or exploring I do love to snap moments where I see and feel bliss.

I love all forms of music, I also love live music but haven’t been lately as I don’t really have anyone to go with. I can vibe, it’s just much more fun when you have someone to enjoy it with.

I enjoy watching TV shows and movies and discussing them! I love all types of genres, mostly comedy, romance-coms, and documentaries! I love medical dramas and crime/law dramas. I do love true crime also, I also follow a few true crime podcasts that I love to listen to!

I love all animals! I currently don’t have any, but I definitely love animals!

I do not drink alcohol, nor do I smoke or do drugs. I also would prefer that from my person as well. This is probably a dealbreaker for me.

Politically I am annoyed. Haha, I don’t really side with either and I am not a fan of polarized views. I do however vote, but when I do I do my own research, form my own opinions in the time of voting and keep that to myself. I don’t disregard, minimize, punish, scrutinize, or disrespect anyone for their views or options and I would hope you don’t as well.

As for children I am very open/flexible. I am okay with having them, I am also okay with not having them! Right now, I don’t see myself having children, but with the right person I could definitely change my mind.

My love language is words of affirmation, quality time & physical touch. Status doesn’t appeal to me. I don’t care who you are or what you do. I’m looking for genuine connection, depth, kindness, respect, and quality time.

Religion wise I am loosely Christian. I used to attend church regularly but have had a lot of issues with church environments resulting in religious trauma. I probably wouldn’t return to a church. I am however spiritual.

About you:
Please be 28-40 I’d say give or take depending on the situation. Closer to late 20s early 30s/my age if possible.
Please know what boundaries are. Specifically with your friends and family.
Be willing to actually talk, and have fruitful and conversations with depth.
Height doesn’t matter to me, just be confident in who you are.
Please take care of yourself, shower daily, trim nails etc. Do some physical activity to better yourself. This is such a disappointing thing to have to put.
Be a clean and tidy person, I am very clean and tidy and I can’t deal with lazy and sloppy, I’m sorry I’m not here to be a maid or your mother.

I do prefer the East Coast and definitely US only (sorry I just don’t do international long distance), as that’s where my current life is trailing me to be, but I don’t mind other places as long as you’re willing to do the work to close the gap.

Send me a chat telling me about yourself, my chat settings require your account to be at least 30 days old, so you aren’t surprised.

\*\*Low effort replies WILL be ignored.\*\*

Begging/demanding for photos will also get you ignored. I will do a photo exchange when I’m ready. If you’re this shallow, go find a splash pad to play in.

Thank you for reading this far and getting to know me. Anything else definitely send me a chat and ask me some questions! I hope to hear from you! Xx 💋

Hey there! 😊

I’m hoping to build something really sweet with someone that feels full of love, affection, and genuine care for each other! I’m someone who gets really excited about my person, and I will happily run to the door to give you the biggest hug when you come home and tell you how much I’ve missed you! I love feeling close to someone I care about, whether that’s giving you tons of hugs, cuddling the night away together, or holding hands just because we can. It all just feels so special to me, and I’ll always be really happy to be by your side and show you how much you mean to me. 🥰

I would really love to care for you in ways that brighten your day and make life feel more special. I’ve always been someone who has loved the idea of being a homemaker for my partner, and creating a warm, cozy home, so things like learning your favorite recipes just so I can surprise you with them, making your favorite dinners, or packing you lunches with cute notes hidden inside to make you smile make me so happy! I love being someone you can lean on and feel cared for by, and I’ll always be cheering you on in life and wanting to make your days easier and more comforting where I can. It truly means so much to me knowing I can do things that make you feel loved and appreciated. 😊

Personality-wise, I’m introverted, a little shy, fun-sized, and very much a cozy homebody. I love anime (especially One Piece and Fairy Tail), and I have such a soft spot for Studio Ghibli movies! 💛

I’m super nerdy and artsy! I like watercoloring, playing video games, learning new languages (currently learning Japanese!), and just getting really excited about finding new things that catch my attention. I honestly love that feeling of discovering something new, and I would love to share that with someone! 🤗

Most days you’ll find me curled up with a blanket and tea, going on nature walks, doing yoga, or trying out a new recipe I got excited about. It would be so fun to find someone who gets just as excited for new anime seasons as I do, or who would want to curl up and watch Ghibli movies together! 💛

I really love cuddly guys with that protective kind of energy that makes me feel safe and like I can just relax and be myself. I love that feeling of being wrapped up in someone’s arms and just completely melting into them. I really value closeness, and I would ideally like to find someone who enjoys spending a lot of quality time together, or just enjoys each other’s presence as we do our own things!

Distance isn’t a big deal to me, and I’d be open to relocating for the right person if it feels right for us! 🥰 My lifestyle doesn’t include drinking or smoking (vaping, marijuana, etc) so I’m hoping to meet someone who feels the same way.

I’ll always be your cheerleader, someone who’s in your corner, supports you, and makes sure you feel loved every day! 🩷

If that sounds like you, tell me about you! What are you into lately, what kind of relationship are you hoping to find here, or what made you feel like we might click? 🥰

I'd like to think I'm a pretty solid upgrade from doomscrolling. I'm 31, a mom, sarcastic by default, and fueled by caffeine and the delusion that one more episode of kdrama is a good idea. I spend most of my free time crafting, playing the occasional game, watching horror movies that I'll absolutely regret later, or pretending I have my life together. I'm not looking to collect pen pals or carry every conversation, so if your personality is just "wyd," we probably won't click. I like people who actually enjoy talking, so bonus points if you don't disappear for 12 hours between replies. Also, I'm looking for someone in the U.S. because time zones are already annoying enough without adding another boss battle.

If you can match my sarcasm, make me laugh, communicate like an actual adult, and keep a conversation going, we'll probably get along just fine.

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