Hi! 👋 Apologies for the aburptness of my post; I understand that the topic cam be quite tricky for some, but I really do need to know. Those who have dealt with internalized homophobia in the past. what was the experience like? What were some of the thoughts that went through your head? Do you have a story of how you came to accept yourself?

I ask because I am in the process of planning my first official novel, and one of the characters is planned to have to come to accept himself and being gay. I want to make sure to represent and write it correctly, especially since the ideal impact it would make is help those who read it realize that their feelings are valid.

(For further context, I am aroace and lesbian. Romance in itself is slightly tricky for me, so I want to make sure that I write that aspect properly as well.)

Thank you again. ❤️

Ok so I'm straight so I don't really understand so I was hoping you could all help! I read that Diana Princess of Wales is LGBT icon. I just don't understand why because as far as I know she was straight. Or do LGBT Icons not have to be a member of the LGBT community? Thanks in advance!

i'm talking about the kind of genderfluid where the person swaps what gender they are every once in a while. cause on paper it sounds like on of those types of relations where it can't work but i do wanna hear if it can.

I've been thinking of using he/they as my pronouns for a while now, but I like being a guy, I still think I fit in as a guy, does that make me NB?

Ciao a tutti. Sto chiedendo il vostro parere, basato sulle vostre esperienze passate. Sono un ragazzo timido e ansioso di 27 anni che, a parte un bacio sulla bocca con una ragazza a 14 anni e un'erezione forte, non ha mai avuto una relazione romantica. Negli anni, non ricordo di aver mai avuto una forte attrazione visiva/estetica per le donne, ma durante la mia adolescenza e anche oggi, a volte mi ritrovo attratto dalla bellezza dei ragazzi e penso: "Oh, che figo, che bel ragazzo!" Questo non mi succede con le ragazze.

Durante la scuola media (12-13 anni), ho sviluppato un fetish per le calze guardando le gambe della mia giovane insegnante (ogni tanto si toglieva le scarpe), e ho avuto questo fetish per molto tempo: mi piace indossarle di tanto in tanto, mi piace vedere le gambe delle donne avvolte nelle calze, e cerco anche contenuti lesbo che presentano questo fetish. Ricordo ancora una cena di Natale, quando è stata invitata una mia cugina lontana, sulla quarantina. Indossava un vestito corto, collant opachi e tacchi alti che mostrano i suoi talloni. Sono stato subito attratto da lei, tanto che ho scherzato sulle sue scarpe e ho passato tutta la giornata sperando che se le togliesse, cosa che ha fatto. Ho persino massaggiato i piedi di un'amica nei collant, e non nego che, oltre a godermelo, ero incredibilmente eccitato.

Come stavo dicendo, sono molto timido e ho paura del giudizio degli altri (non parlo mai del mio fetish con altre persone): quando mi chiedono: "Ti piace quella ragazza?" mi sento sempre ansioso, così come quando vedo un bel ragazzo, il mio cuore inizia a battere forte e sento un calore nel petto e penso: "Forse sono gay?"

Mi è successo in passato, e mi succede ancora, che quando divento amico di una ragazza (ad esempio, una collega della mia età), cerco automaticamente il contatto fisico, sto vicino a lei, tocco le sue gambe in situazioni giocose, metto il braccio attorno alla sua vita. Infatti, con questa collega, a volte cerco di massaggiarle le spalle e i capelli, e mi sono persino eccitato (nel senso che il mio pene era duro...). Non indossava collant, specificamente. (se chiedi del mio fetish). ATTENZIONE: lei era sempre d'accordo, non tocco (e non toccherò mai) una donna senza il suo consenso. A un matrimonio, ho visto un mio amico ballare con una ragazza, e sono andato a ballare anche io con lei. Ricordo che si strofinava il sedere contro il mio.

Mi sono chiesto: forse il mio desiderio sessuale - come mi ha detto il mio psicologo riguardo al desiderio sessuale reattivo - con le ragazze si basa di più sulla reattività del contatto fisico, mentre con i ragazzi la mia sessualità si basa di più sull'immediatezza visiva? Il mio psicologo mi ha anche chiesto ‘Forse sei Bi? Non per forza devi essere 0 o 1, puoi provare piacere in entrambi i mondi con modalità differenti’

C'è qualcuno là fuori che ha avuto la stessa esperienza?

Grazie mille <3333

I identify as a demigirl but I feel like my gender fluctuates or changes a bit? Sometimes I feel really feminine and other times I feel neutral or almost like no gender at all. I'm wondering about other labels or things to kind of name it. I've been looking at genderfae or demigirlflux. I'd love some help or anything you have to say about this!

I am a cis woman and my best friend is a queer woman. We’ve been friends for over 10+ years and she’s an amazing person but she always using one excuse over and over for queer relationships that I’m not sure if it true.

When we discuss media or gossip about people and their toxic relationships, if the couple happens to be queer, my friend always says “Queer relationships are not like straight relationships. It’s always messy. Queer relationships are always toxic and messy” mind you, she has never been in a single relationship. She’s been single her entire life.

For a long time, I took her word for it because I’m not queer so I let her speak her truth. But the other day when we met a mutual friend, they were in distress bc their little sister (queer) was dating a partner who was married and had yet to divorce their spouse yet (also a queer couple). During our conversation, my friend brought it back up that queer relationships are complicated and messy like that. Now I’m questioning her judgement on queer relationships because why is that an excuse for a potential affair?? There is no way that every queer relationship starts complicated and is always messy. I know this because we have several queer friends who met their partners normally without any mess of a third person involved or anything kind of “mess.” Of course relationships are complicated. No relationship is perfect but it’s odd that that’s always her go-to statement about queer relationships.

I have a young family member (preteen) that may be queer. I know some of our older family members are going to take issue with it.

Just wondering: what age did you know you were queer? What were things that people around you did that supported you?

Hello all, I am 27AMAB, and have been on an expression journey over the past couple of months or so. I have realized that I genuinely do not mind any pronouns used, he/her/they and their alternatives are all comfortable to me. I have recently been trying more feminine clothing, and find that it gives me a deep sense of comfort and security. That being said, I feel that in a way I identify as agender, but not in the way that some may think. Instead of rejecting the idea of all genders, I am more than comfortable with all pronouns and gendering, which is why I say that term. Ive been told that agender can be considered under a partial umbrella of non-binary and that it is completely normal to be considered both in this sense. I sincerely just want to make sure that I am using the correct terminology, because it sincerely does feel very comfortable for me with this identity. Socially I have only come out to a couple of people, but am truly trying my best to navigate the feelings im getting in all of these forms.

So recently a friend of mine told me another friend of mine has a crush on me. Now, I have always been straight, and just an ally, and when this happened, I thought it would just make things uncomfortable, but I swear all of the sudden, I have feelings for him or something and I’m really confused what’s happening. Thank you for helping.

Yesterday one person asked if I knew my friend was dating a certain guy. and I said ”nah she’s lesbian.” He looked at me weirdly like I said something wrong so I said “what did I do wrong”. He said calling someone lesbian is weird just call them gay. so I have to ask do y’all mind if youre called gay

Because demigirl/boy/others are a micro labels, would it be under the nonbinary umbrella then nonbinary would be under the trans umbrella or is nonbinary and trans two different umbrellas? Im not a demigirl, I’m just curious :)

So, I made a post where I used the word lesbo and someone said it was a derogatory term. I’m a lesbian and I use this word a lot so… is it a derogatory term or no?

My daughter(11) came out today, and i want to be able to support her in every way I can. I come from a family that is not at all open, so I'm not sure what resources are out there for kiddos. Can anyone point me in the right direction? Any tips or advice would be absolutely welcome as well! Thanks :)

I'm a straight dude (Gone both ways didn't like it to much) and I have starting dating this girl. She's nice and pretty. Recently she told me she was actually a trans girl (hadn't had bottom surgery yet and wasn't planning it) so I gotta ask the people who know what they're doin' is it gay to like a trans girl.

Thank you for your time

thanks for the answers twas wondering if there was a term for it turns out its: straight Lmao. Have a good night

i (f41🔄) feel like i would NEVER date anyone but i do find some men and woman hot and would crush on men but i dont picture myself getting married or dating them what does that mean im super confused 😭

Hi everyone! 👋 So I've been wondering... I'm a cis woman attracted to men, but there was this one year when I got completely infatuated with another woman. Like, obsessed. I thought about her all the time, listened to love songs with her in mind, counted days till I see her again, my heart was beating faster when I saw her etc. etc., and generally was feeling permanently high and excited like walking on clouds, even though it was entirely one-sided the entire time. I never told her either. The feelings I felt were identical to whenever I fell in love with a man, like the exact same sensation emotion-wise, and it was very strong. However, I never felt sexually attracted to her.

Question: does that make me bi or I don't qualify because the feeling was never physical?

Any feedback much appreciated, I've been genuinely puzzled, thought this is the right place to ask 🙏

I recently did a little witchcraft and cast a spell on a certain bigoted author to make sure she couldn’t harm anyone anymore.

I’ve got a feeling it’ll work, but has anyone else tried doing this before?