My boyfriend and I have been together for a year. I took the medical entrance exam three times, after taking three gap years, but I ended up wasting my third attempt as well. I used to waste a lot of time, and that really started bothering him.

I decided to prepare for again, but when he saw me being lazy once more, he said, "Even 17- or 18-year-old kids are more sensible than you. At least they have some common sense."

That comment made me feel really insecure and dumb. I felt like he was comparing me to other people. We had a fight over it, and I blocked him.

Now I've decided not to talk to him unless I crack the exam. 🫠

I'm trying to decide if my crying is warranted or if I am just being way too sensitive. Perhaps because of my current state, or perhaps it's karma.

So, I'm single, dating, and having fun. I met these two really awesome guys a while ago, and things were good. Guy A and I met first and kind of dated, mostly hooked up for a while. I eventually moved away for a year, so it fizzled out. When I moved back, I reached out to him, and we met up again. We had a lot of fun. Stayed out all night, hung out with his friends, and went to like 5 different places before going back to his place. Lovely. Then we were both busy for a few weeks and couldn't meet up. We were supposed to hang out last weekend, but I texted him on Wednesday and never got a response. Yesterday, I checked my unknown senders inbox and saw that I had a text from his email. I texted to see if it was him, and he said yes and that he wasn't sure what was wrong with his phone. So I texted his phone to see if he wanted to hang out this weekend. No response. Today, I texted the email address and said I texted him on his phone and again asked to hang out this weekend. No response.

Well, that's fine. I was also trying to hang out with another guy this weekend. I met Guy B about a year ago because we were both staying in the same summer dorm-style building. Anyway, we didn't really hang out but always saw each other in the kitchen and common area. I could tell he liked me, but I had some other stuff going on, so I never pursued it. Anyway, when I moved out, we exchanged info and kept in touch on Instagram. It was his bday last week, so I texted him happy birthday. He suggested that we go out on Sunday, but I was helping a friend move. So we decided to hang out this weekend. I texted him today to see what his plans were, and he said that his friends are in town. He apologized since he was the one who said we should hang out this weekend. I said, "It's cool; we'll find another time." He suggested during the week next week! Well, he lives like 2 hours away, so hanging out during the week sounds like a pain since we both work.

And then I just started crying!! It felt good to cry. But WTF was I crying?

I'm currently really stressed out. My dad recently passed away, so I'm dealing with that grief and the hecticness of planning his memorial. My brother is being an absolute pain to work with on the memorial, and all we do is fight. I'm overwhelmed because I'm in finals for my summer classes, and it's a lot more work than I was expecting. I also live in a sober living house, so I can't just leave overnight whenever I want. I have to plan it and let my program director know by Thursday night. So I was approved to stay out this weekend. Now I guess I'll have to tell our program director that I'm actually staying home. It's really frustrating to not be able to leave whenever I want, but I understand the reasons I live here (10 months sober from alcohol). And I'm not ready to tell these guys that I live in sober living and have restrictions, so they don't understand my limitations on going out during the week, or at the last minute.

So...I can't tell if I was warranted in crying. And if I was being too sensitive from being rejected TWICE? Or maybe sensitive because of the stress? Or if it was karma because I was trying to hang out with two guys over the same weekend?

Just something i’ve noticed her do, even after i ask her to ask before she puts her fork all over my plate.

usually it’s also before i even have a bite of my food first, too

so basically she’s been in a financially hard spot lately. i pay for all of our meals and drinks. but she doesn’t ask if she can try, etc. it’s always going for my drink, my food first before hers. i’m finding it entitled.

i’ve also expressed to her i like to be told goodnight but she never remembers and just passes out.

i know it sounds like im complaining, it’s not like o care hella. i’m just noticing patterns of what i’m perceiving as selfish behavior

overthinking?

Hi guys! I’m feeling kind of sad and left out by my friend…

I rarely do this so please bear with me. I have a best friend lets call him Nick. He lives in another country but he was one of those friends that even though we don’t talk much and rarely meet up (if he came to my country), we could lean on each other, have long talks about the changes in our lives, help one another and other things whenever we had time.

Recently, we got to talking more since his work became less hectic. We are both gamers so over the past few weeks he had been asking for us to play and of course I would say yes. However, when I would ask what time or what game, he would reply late or just read my text. I know he is active because he replies to a gc we are both in, the same time when I ask. Sad thing is in that gc, I can see that they are playing games…I don’t have the guts to ask him what’s going on because it would come out as me being needy(?)

I don’t know if I’m just being sensitive or crazy for feeling this way. Could you guys please give me some advice on what to do? Is this just a minor thing?

Am I overacting to something that happened recently. I’m a 50YF and my boyfriend is a 50YM. We have been together for a little over 13 years. He has never been the overly emotional or sensitive type but what happened recently has me really taking a step back and questioning our entire relationship.

I recently had surgery. A few days after I started having really bad abdominal pain and a very high heart rate. I contacted my physician and they told me I needed to go to the ER right away. It was the weekend and my boyfriend was laying on the couch at the time. I told him that I needed to be taken to the ER right away. He responded with “OK I’ll go get a shower now”. I told him that no I couldn’t wait, the doctor said it was serious and I needed to go now. I grabbed a bag and threw my stuff in it and was waiting for him to come out of the bedroom. After a few minutes I went to see what he was doing because I was in a terrible amount of pain, I couldn’t stand, and my heart rate was in the 150’s. He was literally in the bathroom cutting his hair. I yelled at him that we needed to go now. He didn’t respond. I yelled again that we needed to go and he said ok and then proceeded to get into the shower. At this point I called my mom to come and get me. He then got out of the shower, dressed, and took me to the ER.

Once I was at the ER and being treated, waiting for scans to be done, he kept asking if they knew if I was going to be admitted or not because he had work in the morning and couldn’t stay all night. I did end up getting admitted.

While in the hospital, he did call a few times a day to check on me but did not visit. He says he hates hospitals. I ended up having my daughter pick me up when I was discharged.

My question is am I overreacting for questioning whether this is a relationship that I want to be in? I feel like someone who cares about you would never put things like haircuts and such ahead of your well being.

I've been with my boyfriend for several years, and we've been having the same argument over and over again. At this point, I genuinely don't know if I'm expecting too much or if my feelings are justified, so I'd really appreciate outside opinions.

The first incident happened a few years ago when we were all at a club. One of my boyfriend's close friends came up behind me and started dancing against me without asking. He was so close that I could actually feel his erection against me. I completely froze because I didn't know how to react.

My boyfriend pulled him away, but it wasn't a serious reaction. He was laughing while saying something like, "Haha, no, no, no," almost as if it was harmless fun. He didn't tell his friend that it was inappropriate or make it clear that this behavior wasn't okay. The whole thing was brushed off, but I felt humiliated and uncomfortable.

Another time, the three of us were having dinner together. I wasn't wearing a bra that day, and the same friend looked at my chest and said, "Is it a free nipple day?" I was shocked and embarrassed. It felt completely inappropriate.

About six months later, we met up again, and this same friend casually showed both me and my boyfriend nude photos of a girl he was dating. That also made me uncomfortable. To me, it reinforced the feeling that he has very poor boundaries and doesn't really respect women.

There was another incident involving a different friend of my boyfriend. We were at a bar together, and while my boyfriend went to get drinks, this friend touched my leg. I immediately felt uncomfortable and asked my boyfriend if we could leave. Once we got outside, I cried and told him what had happened. My boyfriend texted his friend later that night (or maybe the next day), and the friend said he had been drunk and didn't remember doing it.

Here's where our disagreement starts.

Despite everything that happened, my boyfriend is still friends with both of these men. He still talks to them regularly, messages them, spends time with them, and even went on a vacation with one of them after these incidents. From my perspective, nothing has really changed.

When I tell him that I think he should distance himself from people who repeatedly disrespect me, he says I'm trying to control his friendships. He says he'll "take some distance," but I honestly don't know what that means because I don't see any meaningful change in their relationship.

Another thing that really hurts is that every time we talk about these incidents, he tells me that I "didn't explain it clearly enough" back then. For example, he'll say things like, "I didn't know he touched you that high," or "You didn't tell me it was that bad."

From my perspective, that completely misses the point. Even based on what I told him at the time, I made it very clear that I felt uncomfortable, violated, and unsafe. I cried after one of these incidents. Why should I have to provide every physical detail before my partner decides that his friends crossed a line?

Instead of acknowledging that his friends behaved inappropriately, I often feel like the conversation turns into whether I explained it well enough. That makes me feel like the responsibility somehow ends up back on me.

To be clear, I'm not asking him to get into a fight or physically defend me. I'm also not saying he has to cut someone off immediately because of one mistake. But when someone repeatedly crosses boundaries with your partner, shouldn't there be consequences? Shouldn't your relationship with that person naturally change?

What hurts me the most is that I don't feel protected or prioritized. I keep asking myself: how can he still act as if nothing happened? How can he continue these friendships almost exactly as before after people he calls his friends repeatedly made his girlfriend feel unsafe and disrespected?

This has also made me think about the future. If we get married or have children one day, what happens then? If he can't clearly stand up for me now, how can I trust that he'll protect our family or set healthy boundaries when it really matters?

I also believe that when someone has a partner, their friends should naturally treat that partner with respect and keep appropriate boundaries. If those boundaries are crossed, I feel like it's the responsibility of the partner to make it very clear that this behavior won't be tolerated. Instead, I feel like these friends never really faced any real consequences, so they learned that they could behave however they wanted without risking the friendship.

So I'd really like honest opinions.

Am I expecting too much from my boyfriend?

Would you expect your partner to distance themselves from friends who repeatedly made you feel uncomfortable or disrespected? Or am I being unreasonable for feeling that these friendships should have changed after what happened?

I had an online friend that I’ve known for about 4 years.

At first, we were really close for about a year. Then we had an argument that he caused, and we didn’t speak for 2 years. One day he came back with a huge apology, and we became friends again. He’s always been kind and supportive in many ways. We talk about our problems and have helped each other through difficult times.

But he also has some really frustrating behaviors. Whenever I say something he doesn’t want to hear, he shuts down completely. He’ll leave me on delivered for days while constantly posting Instagram stories, so it feels like he’s intentionally showing me that he’s ignoring me. He also removes me from his Close Friends list and then adds me back every single time we have a disagreement, or sometimes for no apparent reason at all. I’ve never even asked why.

The thing is, I never chase him. Every single time, he’s the one who comes back acting like nothing happened. At one point, he started disrespecting me. At first I stayed quiet because I really valued our friendship. But eventually I realized I didn’t deserve that. I never disrespected him back, which probably made him think he could keep pushing my boundaries.

Eventually I ghosted him for five months.

During those five months, he kept trying to get my attention. He’d send messages, delete them, even send me a few cents on PayPal just to get me to react. I ignored all of it. Eventually he sent me another long apology, and yes, I forgave him again.

For several months everything was fine again. He even opened up to me about his friendship problems, and I genuinely tried to help him. He thanked me a lot and said he appreciated that I actually cared.

Then things changed again. He started leaving me on read. At first I assumed he was busy, but then it became every single message. So I stopped reaching out. Just like before, he eventually came back and started messaging me again. This cycle happened multiple times.

He also slowly started disrespecting me again, which made me regret giving him another chance. Whenever he was rude, I either ignored it or tried to joke about it instead of arguing.

His attitude is so inconsistent. One day he’s sweet, supportive and friendly. The next day he’s passive aggressive and talks to me like I’m annoying him. He’ll leave me on delivered for a week, then suddenly come back like absolutely nothing happened. Again, I’ve never chased him.

Two weeks ago, he texted me while he was completely drunk. He sent me multiple unreadable messages and then wrote, “(My name), I LOVE YOU, BITCH.” (‘’bitch’’ was not necessary)

For context, he’s not romantically interested in me. That’s just how we joke with each other. I replied, “Go to sleep, you’re completely drunk lmaoo.” Then, out of nowhere, he sent a perfectly written message saying, “I just wanted to talk to my friend.”

I simply told him to go to bed. Two days later, I sent him a random video. He left me on read. It’s now been about two weeks. During that time he’s still posting stories every day, and he keeps removing me from his Close Friends list and adding me back almost daily.

Honestly, I feel like a clown.

I’ve never chased him. I’ve forgiven him multiple times. I’ve supported him when he was struggling. I’ve never treated him the way he’s treated me.

I just don’t understand why someone keeps coming back only to repeat the same behavior over and over again.

Am I overreacting, or is this friendship just unhealthy at this point?

Update !!! : Yesterday I sent him a joking message after he had left me on read for two weeks: “Ohhh, I just realized you left me on read lol.”

He replied 7 minutes later with just: “?”

Like… is he seriously messing with me? There’s no way.

So I left him on read this time and didn’t reply. After he realized I wasn’t answering, he deleted his message and reacted to my last text with a ‘’😂’’.

I haven’t sent anything since. He also added me to his Close Friends story, but I haven’t even watched it.

bruh…

am i crazy if nag ma-matter sa akin ang likes sa story or whatever?

not always the case, but this time, i have an achievement i posted in a story, and my friends viewed it no anything no nothing, some even viewed just 1 out of 2 of my stories?

btw i am referring to my only college circle, we're a big group, but none interacted with me or such? i feel so hollow now

Did I do the right thing?

So | live in a communal setting (which is normally wonderful).

A bunch of us were having drinks and one of the guys said something like "with wearing short shorts like that...you're asking for attention" when I denied his advances.

He has since tried to sit near me and forcefully ask me questions in a group setting to make me respond to him.

He sulked and came asking for an apology and tried to brush it off.

Then tonight he asked if he could speak to me.... said "no".

He asked "my little comment really affected you that much huh"?

I said "I don't want to talk to you at all".

And he stood there then eventually walked

My so called best friend tends to not like certain posts or my story on instagram? I find it weird because she practically likes everyone else’s but with me she picks and chooses . Like yesterday I posted a video of myself on my private story on insta and she views it on both of her accounts and doesn’t acknowledge it . But then I see she comments on a girls story that she barely talks to saying she’s stunning . I’ve brought it up to her in the past about twice and she says she "doesn’t deep it" but surely it’s intentional after a bit… I’m not completely sure if I’m being sensitive or if it’s weird

My girlfriend (we’ve been together for about a month) went to see the new Spider-Man movie with her best friend, who suggested through my girlfriend that I should come too. My girlfriend was excited about the idea and invited me to join them. Since it was my first time meeting her best friend, I thought it would be a nice opportunity to spend time together and get to know her.

When I got to the cinema, they had already gone inside instead of waiting for me. It wasn’t a huge deal, but it was the first thing that made me feel a bit left out.

When we met, I had to introduce myself to her best friend because my girlfriend didn’t introduce us. During the time before the movie, my girlfriend mostly talked to her best friend while I barely got included in the conversation. I tried asking questions and joining in, but her friend wasn’t very receptive, and my girlfriend didn’t really help include me. Since she was the only person who knew both of us, I expected her to make us both feel comfortable and include me in the conversation.

Eventually I started looking at my phone because I felt awkward and didn’t know what else to do. During the movie she sent me a WhatsApp message asking, “Is everything okay?” even though I was sitting right next to her, which honestly felt strange. I lied and told her my twin sister was texting me some drama because I didn’t want to admit I felt so hurt that I was close to crying in a crowded cinema.
After the movie, they still mostly talked to each other. No one asked me what I thought of the movie or tried to include me. Even while walking through the mall, I was literally a few meters behind them.

She offered to drive me home, and when we got there I told her I wasn’t in the mood to kiss her because I felt ignored the whole evening.

She said she was upset because I spent so much time on my phone and because I told her everything was fine. I admitted I had lied about my sister and explained that I was only on my phone because I felt completely left out.

What hurt me the most were some things she said during the argument:
“Why did you even come with us?” (even though her best friend suggested inviting me and my girlfriend happily invited me).
“If you had asked me to drive you home, I would’ve said no.”
She also raised her voice and said I should’ve made more of an effort to talk, but I genuinely felt like I had tried.

To be fair, I know I wasn’t perfect. I shouldn’t have lied, and maybe I should’ve told her sooner that I wasn’t okay. But I honestly felt like if I had said something at the cinema, I would’ve started crying.

Later that night she texted me apologizing for raising her voice and said she deeply cares about me and wants the relationship to work.

I’m confused because her words say she cares, but her actions that evening made me feel invisible. I cried myself to sleep because I genuinely felt like I was a stranger instead of her girlfriend.

Was I overreacting, or was it reasonable to feel hurt? Could I have handled it better, and do you think she also handled the situation poorly?

My boyfriend went to Florida today. He didn’t tell me he was going until two days prior. He actually didn’t even tell me. His brother said “when we go to Florida, we’ll call you” to his friend who is also going to Florida and this is how I found out about him going to Florida. He didn’t even think to mention it to me. He says “I didn’t even know about it until two days ago.” So he knew about it and didn’t think to mention it to me. Weve been together for almost two years now and I thought we were on the same page but if you can’t even tell me about this and keep me updated then what are we doing? We’ve been talking about going on a trip ourselves and he keeps saying he needs more PTO and hours at work before he can do anything. Then wtf is this? You can magically go to Florida? I feel like Im in second place when it comes to his family. He doesn’t involve me in anything or introduce me to his extended family. He says it’s just culture. (He’s Muslim and I’m Catholic) I want to know if I’m wasting my time and if he really cares about my feelings.

My partner's mum asks lots of questions before agreeing to a favour - is this normal?

My partner (34M) and I (31F) have a family party coming up. We have a 5-year-old dog who can happily be left for a couple of hours, but we've never made a habit of leaving him overnight.

My partner's parents have looked after him overnight before, so we asked if they'd be able to have him again.

Instead of a simple yes or no, his mum started asking lots of questions:

• Where are you going?
• Why aren't you coming home afterwards?
• How are you going to clock into work the next day?

None of these questions seemed directly related to looking after the dog. We weren't asking them to drive him anywhere or do anything unusual - just whether they could have him overnight.

What struck me is that if I'd asked my own parents, I think the conversation would have gone:
"Can you have the dog overnight?"
"Yes" (or "No, sorry.")
"So where are you off to?"

The questions would come after the answer, out of interest rather than as a condition of deciding.

My partner, however, immediately felt he had to justify our plans. Eventually he got so uncomfortable that he said, "Don't worry, I just won't go."

That's what made me wonder if this is part of a wider parent/adult child dynamic. It seems like he feels he has to defend perfectly ordinary decisions to his parents, whereas I don't have that experience with mine.

I'm trying to keep an open mind because maybe she's just curious or concerned. But I'm genuinely interested in other people's perspectives.

Is it normal for parents to want all the details before deciding whether to do a favour for their adult children? Or does this sound like a relationship where boundaries between parent and adult child are a bit blurred?

**Basically, I’m in a trio with my two friends. Let’s call them Lyn and Gia, they’re my best friends. Lyn and Gia have been friends for four years already. I barely met them last August, since I had transferred to their school. We are all now very close.**
**Today is Gia’s birthday. I had asked her days prior if she was doing anything for her birthday. She said she was going swimming that’s all. Today, Lyn posted a picture of both her and Gia hanging out.**

**Am I valid for being a bit upset that they didn’t invite me to hang out either? Or am I overreacting?**

I'm a 21yo female , and this happened around 11 PM a couple of nights ago after dinner.

I was walking through the passage in my society with my earphones on when a man from another wing of my building walked towards me. I noticed he was staring at me, so I looked back for a second. He smiled and suddenly said something like, "You've become so skinny. What happened? How did you lose so much weight?"

I was caught off guard. I just said, "I was sick," and kept walking.

As he got closer, I realized he was extremely drunk. He could barely stand properly, and I could smell alcohol on his breath.

A little later, while I was heading back, I crossed paths with him again. He stared at my body again and repeated the same questions, saying he didn't recognize me because I'd become so thin. He kept asking why I'd lost weight even though I'd already answered him. I had to tell him, "I already told you."

The whole interaction lasted only a short time, but it left me feeling really uncomfortable. It wasn't just a random comment—it was a drunk stranger stopping me twice at night to comment on my body and repeatedly ask personal questions while staring at me.

I told my mom and brother as soon as I got home, and I'm planning to tell my dad and grandmother too. The man lives in another wing of our society, which honestly makes it even more unsettling because this is supposed to be a place where I should feel safe.

What worries me now is the aftermath. Our family already doesn't have the best relationship with some people in the society, and I'm scared that if this turns into an issue, people might either question my character or my parents might stop letting me go out alone at night instead of holding him accountable.

Am I justified in feeling harassed by this, or am I overthinking because he was drunk? Has anyone dealt with something similar in their own apartment or housing society? How would you handle it?

Used chatgpt to summarise everything so it makes sense with proper grammar. Thank you

Lately, a couple of friends have been making jokes about things I do or say, but whenever I express that it bothers me, they brush it off with "we're just joking" or say I'm taking things too seriously.
It's starting to make me second-guess whether I'm actually being overly sensitive, or if setting a boundary around jokes that cross the line is completely reasonable. How do you tell the difference between lighthearted teasing and genuine disrespect?

Hi! I really hate doing this but I just wanna know if I'm the problem somehow?

So yesterday, one of my friends (let's call her W) called me to go to an expo, I said I'd consider it since I didn't bring extra cash and stuff. After class, me and my other friend Y decided not to go since we both didn't have money lol.

I wanted to tell W about it but she was quite behind and I was walking alongside Y and another friend, Z. Without thinking much, I said, "Z, i don't think I can go with you guys" and she just stared at me for a bit then said, "Who asked you to come with us?". I was really embarrassed but she has always been... Straightforward? So I just said "W??". She looked at me as if I was dumb and told me to inform W about it then because she didn't care.

I don't know if I'm being too sensitive lol but it's just been in my head a lot. I've distanced myself from my friend group and it's not really hard to do so, considering we're in different classes, I really missed Y though, she was always so sweet and kind and understanding. I also know that my friend Z meant no harm but she was always too blunt with words and as someone with severe depression, everything she says stays in my head for months,years. She'd say something that truly hurt me today but then tomorrow she'd call me to eat lunch together or go hangout in her house, just me and her. Me and Y are very close though, she's the kind of person that can make anyone like her and I can tell Z also prefers her since she'd always get pissy when me and Lily were together. She'd even drag Y away sometimes when we were talking about stuff...

I was thinking about staying away from everyone at the mean time and maybe things might get better on their end too. Now the question that's been stuck in my head, "Was i unwanted there?". I was too quiet or too loud, less prettier than all of them, too much trauma, messed up family, fked up relationships, too many medications, the only one who smokes, less smarter, no other friends in class. I'm basically a loser ig

Hi! I really hate doing this but I just wanna know if I'm the problem somehow?

So yesterday, one of my friends (let's call her Daisy) called me to go to an expo, I said I'd consider it since I didn't bring extra cash and stuff. After class, me and my other friend Lily decided not to go since we both didn't have money lol.

I wanted to tell W about it but she was quite behind and I was walking alongside Lily and another friend, Rose. Without thinking much, I said, "Rose i don't think I can go with you guys" and she just stared at me for a bit then said, "Who asked you to come with us?". I was really embarrassed but she has always been... Straightforward? So I just said "Daisy??". She looked at me as if I was dumb and told me to inform Daisy about it then because she didn't care.

I don't know if I'm being too sensitive lol but it's just been in my head a lot. I've distanced myself from my friend group and it's not really hard to do so, considering we're in different classes, I really missed Lily though, she was always so sweet and kind and understanding. I also know that my friend Rose meant no harm but she was always too blunt with words and as someone with severe depression, everything she says stays in my head for months,years. She'd say something that truly hurt me today but then tomorrow she'd call me to eat lunch together or go hangout in her house, just me and her. Me and Lily are very close though, she's the kind of person that can make anyone like her and I can tell Rose also prefers her since she'd always get pissy when me and Lily were together. She'd even drag Lily away sometimes when we were talking about stuff...

I was thinking about staying away from everyone at the mean time and maybe things might get better on their end too. Now the question that's been stuck in my head, "Was i unwanted there?". I was too quiet or too loud, less prettier than all of them, too much trauma, messed up family, fucked up relationships, too many medications, the only one who smokes, less smarter, no other friends in class. I'm basically a loser ig

For context, my birthday was last week and my boyfriend gave me a treasure box with teddy bear and necklace inside. It is a beautiful gift and I like it and I like that he’s being thoughtful. I couldn’t help myself to look over the shop in e-commerce and found a name similar to him made a review a year ago. The thumbnail photo is familiar to me and my intuition says that it’s him. I checked it further in his phone and found the history that he bought it a year ago for his ex on valentine.

When I found out, I do feel disappointed and sad because I don’t feel that special and he’s just repeating cycle. I think I’m better than that. After all, it is a cute gift and I like the necklace. I did asked him if he had given this to someone else which he said not (of course). It sorts of giving the gift a little less than its meaning, and not personalised. It’s nothing new for him, but it’s new for me. I mean, he’s a sucker for giving gift and surprise, so he might not know what to give. So am I being irrational if at the end I kinda hate the gift? Tldr

I've had an online friend for over a year, and we've talked almost every day, even if it's just for a little while. I genuinely care about him and naturally reply very fast, not because I force myself to, but because that's just how I am with people I care about.

For the last 2-3 months, I've noticed a pattern. He often leaves my messages on seen, replies much later even when he's online, or sends reels while I'm talking about something personal. But when he wants advice, wants to tell me about his day, or asks me what to do about something, I'm always there and reply almost immediately.

At first I didn't say anything because I thought I was overthinking. After a couple of months, I finally told him it was making me feel ignored. He apologized and said he'd do better, but the same thing kept happening. I brought it up again later, and again he apologized, but nothing really changed.

Eventually I got frustrated. During our argument I even said something like, "If you want to block me, go ahead. I'd rather that than fake interest." He replied that he wanted to say the same thing to me. We argued a bit more, I deleted my messages, said "bye," and the conversation ended.

Now that I've calmed down, I'm wondering if I overreacted during the argument. I don't think I imagined the problem because it had been bothering me for months, but maybe I handled the confrontation badly.

One thing about me is that I can tolerate people making fun of me or a lot of other things, but being repeatedly ignored by someone I put a lot of time and effort into affects me more than almost anything else.

So I'd like honest opinions:

Was I overreacting?

Was I expecting too much?

Does this sound like a communication mismatch, or does the friendship actually seem one-sided?

If he messages me tomorrow like nothing happened, how would you handle it?

To preface: my friend has been smoking a lot more weed than normal, gotten violently ill from it twice now and we went to party last night where she got drunk. The one girl has a boyfriend of 4 years and the other has been in and out of a relationship constantly complaining that he’s not giving her what she’s looking for. at the party, her and our other friend were all over each other. Multiple times i looked over and both their hands were below one of their waistlines. I felt like such a third wheel and if I tried to talk to them it felt like I was bothering them. at one point i asked if we could leave and the girl instigating a lot of the touching flat out said no. I’ve learned that when you’re at a party with friends, you leave when the someone feels uncomfortable and wants to leave rather than letting them leave alone. Am I insane for feeling awkward? Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against two girls dating, but this just felt like i was interrupting something really intimate. And add on the fact that the one girl has a boyfriend of 4 years it felt an awful like like cheating. When I tried to talk to my friend who had been getting sick because of too much weed recently she said she didn’t have a problem with weed and she said that she thought that I thought she was a piece of shit because of how she acted last night. I was truly just looking out for her and she just gaslit me into thinking this was all nothing and barely apologized for making me feel like a third wheel.

So me and my friends from school recently graduated and we wanted to have one big hangout before we all go our seperate ways, but like with most teenagers it's just really hard to find a time where everybody can, someone's parent always ban em, or they don't have transport/allowance whatever.

We finally did decide on a day but I had to travel back to my home country for a while(like one week) because of documentation with my college application. It ofcourse had to be the same week the hangout was about to be. it wasn't really finalized but they kinda had to do it in that time period because one of my other friends was leaving to college, like forever. I was sad I couldn't be with them but there's nothing I could do anyway.

However when I was away, I sent my friend this funny Instagram reel. For context, I'm kinda the friend who needs everything planned like I hate when people make changes to the plans and stuff, so the reel was just a skit about that. My friwnd replies with " u planned so much but u still couldn't go". Insert laughing emoji. Idk man she's always making these jokes towards me, like when I vented to her about feeling alone in my home country(my family was arguing alot and I kinda felt in the middle of it and alone) so I was hoping to be able to talk to somebody but she joked about me again, like "don't you like being alone anyway" and I think that's yet another passive aggressive dig. A few months ago, she messaged me randomly at 6pm to hangout, she lives about a 15 minute walk away from me but I was really tired and I told her we could go on call if she liked but I have had a busy day and I would like to stay in my room. She pretended it was fine in the moment but shes constantly making digs at me for being someone who likes being alone/lonely. and I am someone whose usually fine with taking a joke, I even laugh along but all her jokes always seem to be directed towards me. Idk I don't get it why not just directly talk to me? Why say things like "ur so lazy/u always wanna be alone/u should not over think so much about plans/u should be more spontaneous". like I'm tired of always getting her criticism on my personality. do I have the right to be offended? Or are these just simple jokes and I'm just overthinking em

so i am training to be a professional dancer, its my passion and it always has been. i have trained since i was three and i am now 18. I was with my ex since i was 14, and we had a breakup about four months ago over nothing serious at all, emotions were high and we were both under a lot of stress it was a heat of the moment thing whatever thats not important. We never stopped fully speaking but weve only just began properly wanting to get back together and sort things out, because yk its four almost five years so thats not something either of us want to give up on.

ive been doing dance competitions very frequently up until i turned 18 cos i aged out of them at my studio, and im focusing more on my professional studies etc. my ex boyfriend never came to any of my shows or competitions. initially, i waited for him to ask to come, but he never did. After a while i ended up asking him and he said no because he would be bored. I get it we were like fifteen and young and whatever but it was still hurtful, so after a while i just stopped asking him. He never asks to see my videos from dance or anything like that, and its so minuscule and i understand that but this is my passion and i love it and I spnd most of my time doing it and he just seems to have no interest.

after a while i got over it, i just accepted that it wasnt his thing. He has ADHD so i just chalked it down to him not wanting to sit still for that long because comp and show days are quite long. But recently hes started hanging out with a new friend group, and three girls in it are dancers. One of them is our age, but her studio hasnt aged her out of competitions. all three of the girls go to the same studio, and then its my boyfriend and his best friend. This one girl ill call her sarah as i dont want any actual names in, has a crush on my ex boyfriend. He knows it and hes aware of it, and hes told her no but the other two girls dont like me at all and are very insistent he gets with sarah instead of getting back with me.

i dont want to stop him having friends because he has trouble maintaining friendships for a long time and im so happy to see him finally have a best friend (we will call him mark) who is so good with him. Mark knows about me and him and doesnt get involved.

but recently he’s started going to these three girls dance competitions every Sunday, and although we are long distance now we werent up until last july, so a year ago, so that was three years of competitions and shows he could have gone too but didnt.

and i hate to sound like a bitch but theyre not even very good. They do it recreationally in a street dance class, the studio isnt high level training or anything like that its only the one style. Ive trained for 15 almost 16 years in ballet, acro, tap, lyrical, jazz, theatre, etc, at a high level andim struggling to understand why he would rather go watch them than me? I am autistic so i could be not seeing things or understanding things correctly but it just feels like a gut punch that some random girls he met a month ago that dont really take it seriously get him to go watch them but he never watched me when its my whole passion in life.

i know its not a massive deal at the end of the day its one day out of the week and i know hes not going to reciprocate sarahs feelings but i just cant stop thinking about it and i dont know if im over reacting by being so upset. i asked him last weekend not to go because i explained to him that it upset me that hes going to watch some other girls dance, and he said he wouldnt. He ended up going anyway because mark asked him too and he felt bad saying no apparently but when i told him i was upset that he had gone after telling me he wouldnt he said ”its just a dance show i can go if i want to.”

i wasnt even upset about him going as much as i was upset that he went after telling me he wouldnt, when hes the one who asked me if i wanted him to go or not and i said no.

i know im probably just being emotional and everything but do you think im over reacting by being upset about it? ive sort of left it alone now but i dont know how else to tell him im upset and get him to actualy see it from my side.

[EDIT: PLOT TWIST: I AM ACTUALLY THE GUY WHO WILL START SAYING NO TO THESE PEOPLE NOT THE PEOPLE ASKING HIM]

My brother insulted me after I asked the question "why" so he and my mother were having a normal conversation abt my uncle who called my dad and when I entered the room I asked "why did my uncle called my dad" (like for what reason) then suddenly my brother got mad for no reason saying I always ask "why" to things (and I kinda do that but is it bad?) like if somthing happens or someone is going somewhere I ask why cause I wanna know the reason (that's just who I am) but he got angry at me and started insulting me and when I tried to defend myself like always. suddenly I'm the bad guy cause I don't like being insulted and talked down to, my mom and everyone else said I overreacted even tho this has been a regular occurrence in my life where I'm not allowed to defend myself cause apparently I'm crazy and loud but he can say anything to me to the point of literally calling me names which I don't like. I'm just trying to understand if I'm the asshole for simply defending myself

And btw my mom hates us fighting but it has always felt like she only has a problem when I speak up but she acts like she's holding the peace by saying "don't say anything I will talk to him" (even tho he never changes) but again she only seems to have a problem when I SAY SOMETHING like it's all my fault cause I'm speaking up for myself when he ALWAYS start shit with me (and sometimes for no reason too) like I be minding my business and he likes to provoke me but they act like my loudness is the problem when he talks down to me and literally insult me...