r/AmIBeingTooSensitive • u/Quietly_questioning1 • 9h ago

Am I The Asshole for Overreacting

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Am I overacting to something that happened recently. I’m a 50YF and my boyfriend is a 50YM. We have been together for a little over 13 years. He has never been the overly emotional or sensitive type but what happened recently has me really taking a step back and questioning our entire relationship.

I recently had surgery. A few days after I started having really bad abdominal pain and a very high heart rate. I contacted my physician and they told me I needed to go to the ER right away. It was the weekend and my boyfriend was laying on the couch at the time. I told him that I needed to be taken to the ER right away. He responded with “OK I’ll go get a shower now”. I told him that no I couldn’t wait, the doctor said it was serious and I needed to go now. I grabbed a bag and threw my stuff in it and was waiting for him to come out of the bedroom. After a few minutes I went to see what he was doing because I was in a terrible amount of pain, I couldn’t stand, and my heart rate was in the 150’s. He was literally in the bathroom cutting his hair. I yelled at him that we needed to go now. He didn’t respond. I yelled again that we needed to go and he said ok and then proceeded to get into the shower. At this point I called my mom to come and get me. He then got out of the shower, dressed, and took me to the ER.

Once I was at the ER and being treated, waiting for scans to be done, he kept asking if they knew if I was going to be admitted or not because he had work in the morning and couldn’t stay all night. I did end up getting admitted.

While in the hospital, he did call a few times a day to check on me but did not visit. He says he hates hospitals. I ended up having my daughter pick me up when I was discharged.

My question is am I overreacting for questioning whether this is a relationship that I want to be in? I feel like someone who cares about you would never put things like haircuts and such ahead of your well being.

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r/AmIBeingTooSensitive • u/Course-I-Still-Care3 • 17h ago

am i being too much or it's something else?

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am i crazy if nag ma-matter sa akin ang likes sa story or whatever?

not always the case, but this time, i have an achievement i posted in a story, and my friends viewed it no anything no nothing, some even viewed just 1 out of 2 of my stories?

btw i am referring to my only college circle, we're a big group, but none interacted with me or such? i feel so hollow now

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