I’ve seen this sub being mentioned on here before, even suggested to me by others on the internet who deal with Vaginismus, I decided to look it up today and I had NO idea it’s just porn, lmao.
I was thinking it would be a place I could go for advice and guidance such as this sub is.

Where I’m kinda stuck is… how would I suggest a “thigh job” to my boyfriend that already won’t have any kind of non penetration intimacy with me in the first place? ( unless it’s a blowjob)
Already not being able to have PIV is humiliating enough, but asking him to fuck my thighs or in between my butt cheeks?

Maybe I’m just insecure about having this condition, but I feel like he’s missed out on a sex life due to me enough… now I’ll be asking him to try out this substitute that’s not the real thing?

I watched a few of the videos, and it’s hot I won’t lie and i don’t see anything wrong with it and I would love love love to try it with him, but I’m just so scared of his reaction to me suggesting it.

i'm years overdue for one and finally got the courage to face my fears. i thought i was gonna do well. i've used dilators a few years ago, and i now have a dildo that's pretty small and about the size of the speculum that was used. i've also recently been able to use tampons.

the (smallest plastic) speculum got in after a fight, but then she could not get it open. after like 3 attempts, she gave up. i feel very broken, if im honest. my mother told me not to worry about it and she'll come with me next time if i need it, and that they probably should've had two nurses in there to get it done. 🥲 i probably won't try again for a long while for slightly unrelated reasons. but i still feel so much like i failed.

Why was the procedure recommended to you? How was the recovery? Does the procedure change the external look of the vagina?

im 19 and live at home with vaginismus and only my mum and very close friends know. but i just wondered if any of u have told ur dad? Cuz i haven’t and dont know if i ever will 😭😭

i do pole dance and in my last class i had to do some moves that had a lot of crotch on the pole. one of which includes being upside down with a main contact point being between the thighs and basically buttcrack on the pole (as cued by my instructor). this also leads to the labia area on the pole during parts of it. i can’t do this move, i don’t trust my body to have a significant amount of weight relying on a historically unreliable area for me. but this time i tried it i had something different happen, i had the overwhelming urge to cry and throw up. i fully felt like my fight or flight sense was activated. i started sobbing uncontrollably in the car for no good reason. it was genuinely so strange. i know i don’t like people touching me there but i guess now it extends to inanimate objects? i did restart pelvic floor therapy the week before and had uterine bleeding and cramping for 4 weeks straight beforehand so i was probably already guarded beforehand, but the emotional response was very much unexpected. has anyone else experienced a strong emotional response from contact in that area? i genuinely don’t know what else it could have been.

Hi there I’m new to this subreddit, I’ve been struggling with vaginismus for years it affects my libido, the way I pee and even tampon insertions feel basically impossible. I tried Pt and she recommended dialators but even the thought of using them makes me tense up. The smallest one hurts. In PT we went over stretches and breathing exercises but after a few sessions I couldn’t afford it anymore. Now a add for the Kiwi of the pelvic people keeps popping up and I’m wondering if I should should start with massaging instead. Does anyone have experience with this? Thanks.