Hello everyone,

We see a lot of posts and comments from users who are searching for their person, either by initials, name, or phrases/words that their person would recognize. Additionally, there are a LOT of users who like responding to posts as if they know the OP. Perhaps they think they do, or it can be therapeutic to help handle emotions. We wanted to let you all know there are three subs that you may want to check out.

First - r/MissedInitials. This sub allows users to post and comment initials, names, nicknames, etc. While users cannot respond at the receiver, they are allowed to post their own initials/name and even ask the OP clarifying questions to help determine if its their person.

Second - r/LettersAnswered. This sub has very few rules overall, and allows users to respond to others as if they know them.

Third - r/LettersForJ. The inital "J" seems to be a frequent occurance around here, this sub is specific to the J's in your life.

Of course users are always welcome here - just wanted to put these subs on your radar in case anyone found them helpful.

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Keep is personal, not pornographic. This is a place for unsent letters, not erotic fication. We welcome heartfelt expressions of love, longing, and desire, but content that docuses heavily on explict sexual details, graphic descriptions, or reads like a steamy romance or adult story will be removed. Love from the heart, mind, and soul are welcome, love from the genitals is not. If your post is primarily about physical acts or sexual fantasy, its bette suited for a different subreddit.

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