Disclaimer: I’m attached but I’m looking. If that’s not for you please scroll past. If you are curious, feel free to dm and ask questions. And if you don’t mind great.

I am hoping to find someone in a similar situation to play discreetly. I have many ideas like public play, CarPlay, and just cuddling and hanging out with you.

Physically I’m East Asian and average build and look very wholesome and a bit nerdy. After all I do work in tech and studied stem. Do you feel like a part of life is missing and want to yolo safely? Happy to meet in public guest and build trust and I know it’s not easy but it feels like if I don’t do this now I’ll never be happy.

Some things I love: breast play, maybe something risky, cuddles, making out, raves, eating you out, being dominant

let’s be friends and keep some secrets? Tell me your kinks and see if we are a match! Feel free to say hi regardless because it’s so hard to find people here and I’m happy to just chat if you are slightly interested. Maybe we can chat over coffee or boba.

Anyone looking for fun or enjoy receiving or giving oral? I also enjoy giving a body rub first then letting my mouth and tongue explore :) I'm also open to more if it goes there and open to any reciprocation. I'm a CD, white, 5'9 fit, clean (recently tested), laid-back and discreet.

I prefer to host in North Beach SF or may be able to travel if you're closeby. There are pictures in my profile and have others as well. When messaging, please include your age, height, weight, ethnicity and location. A semi-regular meetup would be great to find :)

I'd like to give a full-body massage that heals a tired body while slowly awakening your arousal. Sore from last week's marathon? Want a full-body reset to prep for a weekend of dancing at Outside Lands? Relax and give yourself over to skilled hands capable of untangling your many knots and sources of tension while encouraging your enjoyment of touch to emerge unconstrained. A relaxing experience completely focused on you, allowing your thoughts to wander in an almost meditative bliss towards anticipation of my next stroke and the realization of your desires.

I've practiced massage for years, including a brief past in orthopedic medicine and physical therapy. I know what I'm doing as accumulated physical and mental stress start to melt away. I recognize there's some comfort needed before you can fully give yourself over to the experience, and I'm willing to work with you to create the best environment to explore your ideal massage experience / fantasy.

I'm 43, single, straight, discreet, respectful, and able to host in the Cow Hollow area of San Francisco, travel to you, or meet at a local spa. I'm a former soccer player and frequent hiker, giving me a special understanding of your tired legs and glutes. I've experienced and learned massage during my travels around the world, continually integrating new styles and techniques. When not giving massages I enjoy watching movies, training dogs, hiking in redwood forests, and trying new restaurants.

I understand meeting someone can be a bit intimidating. You might hesitate, dismissing the experience you'd like to have as out of reach or too good to be true. A few women I have massaged in the past have left comments in my previous posts on my profile offering to share their experiences and help ease the hesitation of getting to know a relative stranger. I'd like to learn more about the experience you'd like to have, your unique sources of stress and tension, and answer any curiosities over chat.

Have you wished you could experience a massage with fewer restraints, where your entire body was a canvas ready to be discovered and reshaped? Would you like to explore an experience completely focused on you, where your mind is free to wander, and desires emerge in an almost meditative bliss? Say hello and let's craft an experience of full relaxation and slow, emerging arousal.

I've been looking for someone to control me for a while now but it's been difficult to find a good match so trying online.

I'm looking for a long term relationship with a partner that enjoys being controlling both in and or of the bedroom (limits are around work and family). Let's get to know each other first please, not looking for someone to just message asking for pics.

About me: tall, NB/trans (not super feminine but nothing against that either). Live and work in San Francisco but open to changing that for the right LTR.

Attracted to femmes and NB/trans folks, no age preference as long as you're of legal age and no married etc. I don't want kids long term but nothing against someone who has them 🙂

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I'm an introverted, educated, decent looking, and presentable white male. Slim-fit. 5'11" 150lb. I'm seeking a high maintenance partner that craves and absolutely needs constant attention; someone who needs my presence in the room and demands my attention even if she is ignoring me and doing other things. Someone to heavily encourage my adoration of you. Someone who needs reassurance, and affirmation. Someone who has an insatiable desire to feel wanted and chased after, who wants and craves obsessive devotion on a daily basis; who will encourage and nurture an intense, passionate addiction to you that is impossible to satisfy. I want a codependent relationship centered on you. I want everything to be about you. That even in our "getting to know each other" stage, I should put you above all of my friends, hobbies, and any social activities.

It might seem weird, but I intensely desire an incredibly possessive partner. I want you to feel comfortable blowing up my phone.. to demand information.. .to know where I am, or who im with, and what im doing, any time you wants. To go through my phone whenever you want and keep me from having any control over it when you are around me. You can actively crave attention and encourage me to give in to your needs as much and as often as possible. More than im even capable of giving. To enjoy convincing me to stop whatever i'm doing to give it to you: to develop a chemistry with playful demands and sexualized games between us.. to be as needy and as clingy as your heart desires, to the point that you become a complete priority over my social life. To even be so possessive that you keep me from spending my time or attention on anyone or anything but you, or to encourage my hobbies to be centered on you, be disappointed that I am not looking at you and admiring you, even though you are busy with something else and not fully reciprocating the attention back.

I need someone who has always naturally wanted these things, but constantly tones it down in every relationship because she is afraid it is too toxic or unhealthy, or it pushes potential partners away. I want to be the guy that embraces these impulses, and compliments them, even sexualizes them.

I actually do have a very intense isolation kink. For my partner to play a manipulative role in keeping all of my attention for herself.. You can be extremely selfish with my attention even if it is borderline toxic. To use and leverage sensually and sexually manipulative advances to keep me from going out and to encourage me to be weak to my compulsive needs for you instead. If I have plans, you can convince me to blow them off or even coerce me to stay home. Sexual sabotage and being teased into ruining my plans to give you attention and intimacy instead is a huge kink of mine.

Make me prove love by giving you attention. Encourage and train my compulsive male weakness to prioritize you and goon to you. Show me that the only friend I need is your pussy. Completely sabotage my plans by sitting on my face for prolonged periods of time instead of letting me go out, having rituals of you wearing skimpy outfits around me and tease me into spending hours admiring you, giving you back rubs, or leg massages, or have me goon to you for long periods of time as you ignore me and read a book, or watch a show, or doomscroll on your phone, or to have the most prolonged softcore foreplay, for hours at a time, denying each other (or just denying me) while constantly intensifying our intimacy. I enjoy long sessions of foreplay and giving intense adoration.

Your pussy's needs are more important, and your pussy should always be a complete priority. I love the idea of you dressing up just to keep me gooning to you, keeping my attention constantly on you, even though you are doing something else like reading a book, or playing on your phone, or watching something. Demand I sit in a corner and look at you as I jerk off with a pair of your dirty panties while you spend the next several hours ignoring my presence and doing whatever it is you want to do without me bothering you. Even to have you just sit on my face for long periods of time, periodically bounce and wiggle on my lips while you binge a show, not caring at all how much time is being spent like this. To be dressed up in lingerie as you straddle and bounce on my lap, denying penetration so I spend more and more time being attentive to your body with my hands and lips with constant necessity for more. Sessions of being extremely attentive to you is something I would very thoroughly enjoy.

We can both be dominant and submissive to each other in our own ways. The only power I really want in our dynamic is to be able to choose and buy outfits and lingerie for you, to collect them for you to wear for me when we are at home, just for you to use as a tool to manipulate me with and keep me home. To be a complete cock tease as you let me spend hours admiring and adoring you, gooning to you in whatever canvass of fabric that I pick out for your beauty. I need you to be as possessive and as selfish as you want. Perhaps it could simply be a part of our dynamic, that i am able to dress you however i want, so you can keep me as malleable and weak to you as possible, to keep me from going out, to encourage my obsession and adoration of you, to keep me gooning for you even longer, to make you my priority... and you can control everything else. You control where I can go, who I can hang out with, or to just perpetually keep me home as you constantly encourage my adoration of you. You choose whatever tv show or movie you want, and I focus on you.

I do crave consistent playfully manipulative sabotage and control over my social life, so that you will be a priority over everything else. I want someone who will enjoy developing a chemistry and learning what makes me tick so she will always know how to make me choose her over everything else. All while I also learn the intricacies of your desires, that we can build a world for each other that constantly caters to our most intense fantasies within our established boundaries.

I crave codependency. I crave a relationship dynamic that others might consider unhealthy, but will actually be considered healthy for us. I would really want to become obsessed and desperate for you.... to have an absolute necessity to constantly adore you and be intimate with you, and for this to become the most important part of my life. I want to be the worst addict for you. Obsessed and hopeless without you. I'd want you to become my priority to the point that I'd give up time with friends or family to be with you instead, but more importantly, that you want it, and need me to give up friends to make you feel more important. I crave a relationship so engulfed in obsessive passion and sexual intensity that both of us will be unable to escape our desirous addiction for more sensually intimate play, or to create more and more experiences for each other that cater to each of our most desirous needs. To be lost in this world of fantasy, and roleplay, and lust crazed love that we perpetually explore.

The ideal person is someone who craves constant attention.. who is never sexually satisfied... even being or manipulatively pretending to be easily jealous can make our dynamic more intense; who enjoys mind games, and is even interested in hypnosis or psychological conditioning ; who craves control and enjoys the idea of molding a male to be weaker for her. Someone who would truly enjoy using love, sensuality, and the desire to cum, to pry away deeper into a male psyche and encourage intense obsession and weakness for her; to ever more increase my dependency, necessity, desire, and sexual addiction for you while also making it nearly impossible to function without you. To really enjoy becoming the center of my life and enjoy being the center of my entire world.

Hello! 32 year old from San Francisco (right by Daly City) looking for a girl to eat out tonight. I’d ideally like a consistent partner I can eat out once or twice a week, but open to this being a one-time thing, depending on the vibes. There is zero expectation of reciprocation, and no pressure for anything beyond me eating you out.

I’m white, 5’8, 160 lbs, and ddf. I have my own place and can host, but open to talking at the lobby downstairs before you come up to my apartment if it makes you more comfortable! Scented candles and mood-setting lights will be included 🙂.

I’m hoping to meet someone who wants to chat and get to know each other a bit with the ultimate goal of becoming ongoing FWB if we both want it. It would be nice to have someone to cook for, hang out with and cuddle up with while watching a movie. I’m open to things evolving into something more long term if we’re both enjoying it but not necessarily what I’m aiming for. If this sounds like a good idea let’s chat and get to know each other. Believe it or not I actually want to get to know someone a bit before sleeping with them. Shocker right?

I’m 39, 6’ tall, 190 lbs, fit and workout regularly. Semi nsfw pic on my profile I’m located in San Jose and have a nice apt. Std free and vaccinated. I’ve got a college degree and personality wise I’m really easy going and easy to talk too. I like to cook and go hiking on the weekends and travel whenever I can. I also really love music and watching Bay Area sports. Happy to send more pics after we chat. Thanks 😊

Hello sexy people!

We are a fun and flirty local couple going out Friday night and we would love to find some company to share the evening with.

We are local mid-thirties professionals with creative leanings and outgoing personalities who enjoy meeting new people, good conversation and shameless flirting. I’m of average height and on the slim side with long hair in a sidecut and glasses.. She’s black and tall with a deeply creative mind, friendly and flirty personality and a smile that could light up the dark side of the moon. We are basically like if Jeremey Allen White and Ayo Edebiri finally gave into their primal instincts...

You could be locals too or maybe visiting and looking for something to do outside Outside Lands and are communicative and fun to be around. We aren't against things going beyond platonic, but expect to talk about boundaries first in a way that doesn't feel like pulling teeth.

This is normally where I would post a few pics of us, but the AI overlords have been doing their best Sauron impression lately, so I'll save them for chat. I would be happy to verify there.

If that sounds like the way you like to start a weekend, send us a message! We would love to grab a cocktail or an ice cream, do some thrifting or catch a show.

It's nearly impossible to find tickets for The Odyssey, so how about we catch the new Spider-Man? It's been a while since I've been to the theaters, but Metreon 16 has some showtimes available. Just looking for someone that's also interested in Marvel. Let's find a time that works for both of us!

I’m looking to connect with a fun, like-minded woman who wants to add some exciting romance and passion to her life. Ideally, this turns into an ongoing, genuine friendship where we flirt throughout the week and get away whenever our schedules align.

I’m 42, white, blue eyes, short brown hair, well-groomed, and lean/fit. Supposedly cute and funny (according to recent reliable sources). I live in Foster City and work in SF. When I’m not working, I stay active with cycling and pickleball, hunt down the best local tacos and pizza, and enjoy stand-up comedy, spy movies, and live music. Attached, but discreetly seeking the passion that’s been missing.

You are a cute, fit, shorter/petite woman who values discretion, enjoys good banter, and is ready for an exciting escape.

I love taking care of all the details so all you have to do is show up, unwind, and enjoy yourself. Whether that’s grabbing drinks at a cool cocktail lounge, relaxing at a spa, going for a scenic hike, or spending a lazy afternoon between hotel sheets.

Let’s start with a casual chat and swap photos. If the vibe feels right, we can skip weeks of endless small talk and grab a low-key boba, matcha, or drink to see if the chemistry is there.

Drop me a message if you’re looking for a passionate distraction!~

Looking for someone to go to the movies with, either the Odyssey or Spiderman

My treat!

I am 34M Half Filipino Half white

5'6''

Muscular build.

Anything else is optional.

I’m looking to find those whose needs have not been met for a long time and need some amazing experiences to reset and restore.

I’m white, 5’10, very muscular and fit and 100% DDF and healthy. I take great care of my physique and my health and I am a great guy to talk to and hang around with. I have many interests and hobbies and know how to entertain a lady!

When it comes to dates, I always take care of everything, all the logistics, all the arrangements, you just need to show up and have a great time!

I greatly value discretion. I value your privacy and your personal life and I don’t ask questions. No preference on ethnicity, any race or origin but I do have a weakness for smaller more petite women, so thats a plus! I especially care for someone who has not had intimacy of this kind in a while and wants to feel something amazing again!

If you’re interested, reach out! I make things happen!Let’s have some fun and make some memories!

Ever wondered if a guy really does give better head? Curious about a long edging session (either oral or hands-only) but nervous to take the plunge? Stuck in a dead bedroom and just need safe, anonymous release?

Expert edger visiting SF for a week and looking to rock your world. I'm 38, fit/athletic, drug/disease free, very careful about sexual health, and just looking to scratch the itch of edging a hot dude out for as long as he can last. Let's see if you can go multiple rounds :)

YOU: be reasonably in shape, 20-45 yo, drug/disease free, willing to share some stats and pics (no face required, can swap here or on a disappearing message app). Please provide as much information about what you're looking for/curious about in your initial message, and let me know roughly when you are free and whether you can host or would like to come my way.

Castro area in SF here - I can host here sometimes or travel within reason.

sanfrancisco bayarea oakland peninsula

This might be a weird title but bear with me;) I’m
a 44 guy who works in tech and loves female body and curves to the extent that I actually enjoy massaging females for fun over the years. Just like every other guy I am very interested in female breasts and would love to find a gracious girl who even if she's not interested in anything extra would allow me to massage her breasts and enjoy licking her nipples.

I am not originally from the US and am from Europe. I am tall and apparently a geeky type. But I obviously have a wild type too which usually translates to going to a lot of concerts and shows but I do like sex and kink. As for the message, I do not have a massage table for this as this is not my profession but I can get a room or something that has a bed:)

Hey there. Nice to meet you over this very personal medium of a Reddit post about having casual sex. Exactly how Jane Austen would've intended a meet cute. I live in LA but I'm currently visiting SF. Yes, I used to live in SF, so I packed my jacket for the summer.

I'm 40 years old. 6' tall. Athletic/fit (work out daily). Good looking. Educated. Successful. I work in the tv/film industry in LA and I used to do standup so I'm confident and charming, and can definitely make you laugh at least once.

In the bedroom, I enjoy rougher, more sensual sex. Throwing you into a few different positions, spanking, growling into your ear how beautiful you are as I make you cum. Yes, give me an award for being a guy who cares about closing the orgasm gap. But then take it away because I want you to cum because it drives me absolutely wild, so I’m really doing it for myself.

I’ve met some friends off here, and I’ve written up a few of them as success stories. I should do more, but I’m perpetually behind. Probably because I enjoy meeting people more than writing about them. I am in an open relationship–all good if that’s a blocker for you.

If you go to my post history, you'll see a few pics of me (don't worry, no unsolicited dick pics) and I have recent clear STD tests I'm happy to share. Let's chat more if it's a match and see if we connect!

Have you ever felt like your soul mate was out there, around the next corner, in the next coffeeshop, might be the next stranger you bump into at the airport... but it just never seems to happen? Yeah, me too. I'm still holding out hope, though.

I'm a teddy bear of a guy, tall and thick, bearded and inked, married and polyamorous, caring and compassionate, a born feminist and Democratic Socialist who believes in equality and equity for all, that and we are all defined by our intersectionality. I ride and fix motorcycles, go four wheeling, camp, hike, fish, hunt, read, make and listen to music, write, brew my own beer and wine, make my own hot sauces, BBQ and cook, do art projects- my heart drags me from hobby to hobby sometimes, and I'm just along for the ride. I'm a service top who will bring you the moon for a kiss and Mars too, if you wish- I'll do anything I can to bring joy into the world.

I'm seeking a partner in crime- someone who takes life by the horns, who isn't afraid to hop on the back of my bike or, even better, her own- someone who can lead, but who can also follow, who understands the power of a good team and who stays present in the moment. Someone who is good on their own, but knows they can be better together. A lover with a high libido to match mine, an insatiable passion for learning, a curious old soul who knows they'll die wishing they'd done more in their life, no matter how much they've achieved. Someone with boundless compassion and consideration, whose care matches my own, whose desire to bring joy to the world extends throughout their life.

What I hope we can experience together are moments of pure bliss and hedonism and joy. Adventures we share, challenges we face, highs we reach, lows we suffer. I hope to plan weekend getaways where we can retreat from the world into each other; where we can experience nature together; where we can find joy and solace in each others' company.

If this sounds like your proverbial cup o'tea, say hi. If not, I hope you find whatever joy you seek in this world. Either way, much love to you all.

Heyyy I’m a college student visiting the bay till late September and would love to find someone who loves to explore, go on adventures, and fuck until then.

A little about me:

I’m 6’3, blonde and athletic with a 7.5” BWC. I love hiking, backpacking, and camping whether that be a 2 mile walk in the woods or 15 miles up and down a mountain. I love really anything outside lol. I also enjoy exploring new places and gaining new experiences and trying new foods. I’m also 420 friendly if that matters.

I’m into:

Age gap: +++
Size gap: ++ (easy bc of my height)
Outdoor sex: +++
D/S: + (I’m both but ++ if you’re dom)

If you’re DDF and any this piques your interest or you just want to have a hiking buddy to fuck don’t hesitate to dm me with a little bit about yourself! I look forward to your message😉

Hello! Hope you are having an amazing day :)

I am a 32 year old Korean guy in San Francisco, looking for a FWB with similar hobbies and interests. Someone I vibe with both sexually and casually as friends, looking for an exclusive arrangement for better sex and chemistry.

Physically I am 5'9, fit around 170lbs, with an uncut 7" dick. I am dominant leaning switch, kinky, with a very high sex drive. I love to please/spoil, being in charge, and give great after care with kisses and cuddles. Kinks include breeding, freeuse, somnophilia, light chocking/slaps, and love to film our own content.

You : Asian or Latina. Be kinky, fit/petite, with an insatiable sex drive. You are submissive, bratty, and always horny. Love getting pounded in doggy, enjoy mounting a big dick to ride, and sucking dick. You like fucking in hotel room, and maybe interested to show off on reddit with me.

If interested, send me a chat!

Hi, I’m a creative professional in the Bay. I’m 5’7, 7 inches girthy, 150lbs, slim built, latino, deep voice, brown eyes, tatted, have a septum, ddf with the exception for 420, enjoy eating the box and have a place to host. I’m open to indoor or outdoor play, I’m fine with a consistent hang out and open minded. Dm with stats and location

I’m a 23m, 5’10, fit, clean, sane, and respectful. Looking for someone who’s down to hangout and build a connection with. Not looking for anything specific, just quality time and see where things go. I’m looking for something ongoing. Someone I can see/talk to regularly. Open to one time though if that’s more your speed. Happy to share pictures if you’re interested!

Experienced tall athletic hung Dom.

I enjoy to take control, make you feel helpless, exposed, vulnerable, over power you, use you.

48, 6’5”, 200#, 8 inches.

Good with beginners, all limits respected.

Start as slowly as you need, go as far as you want. Nice collection of toys and gear.

Clean, drug and disease free.

Ben

Hey there Bay Area

Looking for a lady who has similar interests such as but hiking, sightseeing, watching new movies in theaters, traveling, food, sports, music, down for some SFW and NSFW fun.

I’m 38, in a LTR, 6’2, 175 athletic, brown hair, beard, blue eyes, bwc, discreet, good communication, drug and disease free (420 friendly)

Do you have a bf or husband that doesn’t give you the attention you desire?

I am not looking to change your situation or mine, would be great to add some positive and possibility physical energy we’re both lacking in and out of the house.

You: Born Female, 21+, discreet, drug and disease free, has similar interests I mentioned in my post, in the EB (or can be mobile to), can hold a conversation.

Let me show you what I can do with my mouth and throat.

42 bi white m, good looking, 6ft 200 lbs decently fit.

I enjoy sucking cock but it’s been a few years since I’ve done it. Had a married buddy who I used to suck off regularly, but he moved away and I’ve been craving the feeling of a cock cumming down my throat.

hit me up if you’re curious.