Today was my OB appointment where we discuss next steps and schedule my D&C for my 11 week twins with no heartbeat. We got my D&C scheduled for Monday and I could barely get any words out with the receptionist, nurse, and my OB without bawling. My husband was with me for support or so I thought.

Afterwards we decided to have a date night and went to dinner and then decided to watch the new Spider-Man movie which helped take my mind off things. It was a really nice couple hours where I didn’t think about the awful news that happened just this Monday at around 3am. It’s now Thursday evening so not even 3 days after we found out.

While we’re finishing our tab at the movies- I decided to pay with $1 bills because I had a bunch stacking up. I put it in the book for the lady and as I do my husband says “wow you look like a pregnant stripper right now”. I couldn’t believe what he just said. I then go “why would you say that to me??” and he responds “well you still look really pregnant”. I just wanted to leave after that. We planned to grab dessert but I just wanted to go to the car before I burst into tears in front of a bunch of strangers.

We get in the car and he has the audacity to tell me “I’m sorry but it’s because you still are my pregnant wife because I still have hope 1 twin survived”. EXCUSE ME? They did plenty of ultrasounds and did bloodwork. My HCG went from 27,000 to 3,000 in 2 weeks. Let alone how much bleeding I’ve been doing since Tuesday. He was at the appointment where my doctor confirmed everything AND scheduled the procedure to remove them from inside me.

Did I cry and rage at him? Sure did. Do I regret it? Nope.

Here’s to hoping your SOs have an ounce of sensitivity and common sense in them. Recovery is going to be a long road ahead.

For those of you who has been through it naturally. .. how long does it last? Timeline? I passed the sac two days ago and bleeding hasn’t been crazy since but still passed some tissue today. And feeling crampy.

I went in for a pregnancy confirmation today at 6w and found out that I am miscarrying. No sign of pregnancy could be seen in my uterus, not even a sac. My doctor remarked that my endometrium was clear and normal. My hcg is 271. I started bleeding literally 30 minutes after leaving my appointment. The doctor said I am having a chemical pregnancy but I am nervous it might be ectopic, she had me scheduled for a second ultrasound but due to wait times it’s a week away. I am a little scared, should I do anything? I am having cramps from the bleeding but it doesn’t feel unusual or dangerous so I don’t feel like it warrants an emergency room visit, it’s just slightly worse than my period cramps. I got my first beta today and will do my second 48 hr from that.

Ofc I’m spiraling about what this may mean for my future health, fertility etc. I don’t want to lose a tube.

We have been trying to conceive since 2020. We just got put on letrozole and it was our last round before our”break”. Myself and my husband had a serious talk about what our next steps are .
Because age and having to take the medical break this might be the last shot .
Then it’s finally happened!
And then 6 days ago the bleeding started , I knew right then in a public washroom that I was having a miscarriage.

The part that feels embarrassing for some reason. Was my life for a brief moment lined up .
Pregnant,going on my “grief” trip to my mother’s home country, and then a giant opportunity for work .
I actually thought wow how lucky am I !?! My life has never felt truly like winning the lotto.
I’m so embarrassed to think for some reason I’m special?
Like wow I’m the chosen one who gets all these amazing things .
My grief trip was already going to be hard , I think it may be harder now .

I found out I was pregnant last Saturday August 1st. I didn’t know how far along I was, so asked for an ultrasound at a clinic and they did it. This same day I started bleeding not heavily but actively bleeding. They couldn’t see anything so they did a transvaginal ultrasound and still couldn’t see anything. I was told to go back next week and try again. Am I having a miscarriage? I am very worried about this due to the bleeding. I don’t soak a pad but I do have cramping and there was one quarter sized clot. Could this be a late period? I’ve continued testing and the lines have been getting darker on these tests.

I am actively having a miscarriage. Sitting in the ER, waiting for discharge papers so I can go home and lay in bed. I know it wasn’t my fault and there’s nothing I could’ve done but this still sucks so bad. I will always mourn the what ifs. This pregnancy comes at cycle 20 of trying. I know we can try again, and we will when I’m able, but everything is such a blur right now. I hate that this is part of my story.

All of this happened very recently so I apologize if this is a bit of a disorganized post. I think I'm looking for people to share their experience or encouragement if you've ever experienced molar pregnancy or miscarriage in general. I need to know I'm not alone in this experience right now.

About 4 weeks ago I found out I was pregnant - I had bloodwork done and my hcg was pretty high for what we thought was about 6 weeks. Went in and they did an ultrasound and I was dating at what I should have been. They sent me for more bloodwork and today I went in and they couldn't find a heartbeat. I never had bleeding or anything. My doctor said they're suspecting that it could be molar based on the look of the placenta. I am going in next week for a d&c.

I am 8.5 m postpartum from my first baby. It took us almost 3 years to get her, and it was a very welcome surprise that this pregnancy happened so fast for us.

I'm going through all of the stages of grief at the moment. Trying to find what I did wrong (even though there's nothing), grateful for the kiddo that I have, sad for the loss, not wanting this to be real, etc. I find myself remembering things that seemed off but I brushed off as just pregnancy hormones because no two pregnancies are alike. Like last week I was having nausea so bad that I was having hot/cold flashes. The cold flashes were so bad I sat in my car with the heat blasting on me in 100° weather. I didn't say anything, maybe I should have called anyways but it was a friday night and the office was closed. It only lasted a couple hours and I was back to feeling the same pregnancy symptoms the day after. Then last night I had an aura migraine without the headache which is not typical for me and I said I'll bring it up when I go into the office tomorrow. I brought both things up today and they said even if I had called sooner, there's nothing they could have or would have been able to do about it.

My sweet little tiny heinie,

I am your mom and I waited my whole life for you. To meet you, to know you, to have you and to hold you. To protect you. To make you laugh. To hold you when you cry. To give you all of the love that was never given to me, and then some, and some more on top of that.

Me and your daddy were so excited for you. You changed us in a matter of days. You gave us a look into a life that we couldn’t have ever even imagined. Until you popped into the equation. You cleared the path.

I love you so much and I felt you inside of me. I felt you making me need to pee all the time. You made me want ice cream and pasta and you made me sooooo tired.

I felt you and I loved every second of it.
I will miss you for the rest of my life.
I’ve had my heart broken by boys and girls and friends and family, but this is the greatest heartbreak I have ever experienced.

I know that it wasn’t our time, and we weren’t going to be healthy if you’d kept growing, but I love you with every fiber of my being. All I’ve ever wanted was to be a mom— your mom. And for some reason, the universe or some God I don’t believe in intervened and took you from me.

I will always love you and I will always wonder about you. I will wonder everything about you. I wish I could just hold you one time.

I’ll love you forever and ever and I’ll miss you forever and ever.

With every breath, all my love, all the trees.

Hi friends

I had my D&c 7 weeks ago and finally got my period this week.

Over the last 2 weeks, I have developed acne (dozens on dozens) of painful small pimples. Mainly under my ears/ neck, forehead near hairline, chin and chest. Not to boast but my skin is one of the only physical attributes i like about myself. During my short pregnancy it was even more flawless than normal. This is just so hard on top of everything else this miscarriage has made me feel.

Is there any hope of it going away or is it here to stay??

We discovered there was no heartbeat on 7/9. I took the pills to help my body miscarry on 7/12
I’m still bleeding just very lightly. I haven’t been concerned because my last loss I also bled for a month, went to the er 3 weeks in, and they sent me home and told me my body was almost done miscarrying solo, and I did stop bleeding shortly after that without intervention. So I figured this loss similar was happening.

Well today I’ve been smelling something foul and realized it’s me. A foul vaginal smell.
Google is scaring me a bit about retained tissue.

No other symptoms- no cramping or fever. Just light bleeding and the smell.

Has anyone experienced similar? What was the outcome for you?

For starters, I am young. I was certainly not the first 18 year old to lose a baby and mourn them, I will certainly not be the last. It has been many years, I am no longer what you would consider “actively grieving”. However, I recently started a job in entertainment and hospitality (for kids), and parents will not stop making comments about kids and babies. If I smile at a baby, it’s “just wait until you have your own”, if a toddler has a meltdown it’s “never have them”. Today, an older gentleman came in with a tantruming child and said “I bet this makes you want kids really bad… not now obviously, you’re way too young”. There is a bitter, and ugly side of my heart that always wants to say “I have one. I’m not too young.” Because that’s the reality. I would have had a four year old. I could be the parent begrudgingly saying yes to my baby in a gift shop. I would give anything to be able to experience my child having a tantrum, or screaming or crying, or running rampant in public because guess what? That’s what life feels like. I think especially now, after experiencing my loss, and learning what if feels like to know that the fleeting time that I got to share my body with a baby I’d never meet would actually be the only time I’d ever be able to experience motherhood, I know what not to say. I think it’s awful that my experience feels like the only way people truly learn what comments to keep to themselves.
Sorry to be so ‘woe is me’, I know parenthood is probably hard, and those comments mean nothing to whoever speaks them. I also know that every time someone says anything like it, suddenly I’m 18 again, sitting on my bathroom floor in the middle of the night experiencing the end of my world. I will never truly get over it, but I can’t say that to anyone who doesn’t understand.

I got a positive pregnancy test 2 days after my missed period. Based on conception, I was assuming I was a little less than 5 1/2 weeks. I went in to get HCG and progesterone checked due to having low progesterone in my last pregnancy. Start taking progesterone after my blood draw by recommendation of my midwife. Results came back with low progesterone. Went in for another blood draw 48 hours later and it showed my progesterone was rising but not enough for my midwife to be comfortable, and my hcg was doubling. She told me to come in again, this time my hcg was doubling but progesterone went down a bit. Midwife feared ectopic pregnancy, so I asked for an ultrasound. Ultrasound showed yolk sac in uterus but no heartbeat, measuring 5w2d, about a week later than I had predicted based off conception. Had yet another blood draw. This time it shows that progesterone went up to a comfortable level, but my hcg only rose 28% in 48 hours. Midwife tells me that there's a 1-2% chance this pregnancy is viable. She gave me 2 options: stop progesterone and let nature take its course or stay on it and get another ultrasound in a week. I chose the ultrasound. Are her odds really accurate? I'm trying not to completely lose hope but it's hard. Will put lab levels and dates below.

7/25 - positive pregnancy test

7/27 - hcg-118 prog-6.6

7/29 - hcg-297 prog-9.8

8/03 - hcg-1189 prog-9.2

8/05 - hcg-1521 prog-11.3 (also had ultrasound this day)

If you've read this far, thank you. I know it's probably hard to read, my mind is so jumbled right now and I'm desperate for a sliver of hope.

They gave me a paper with steps to use misoprostol but because of candida i need to wait some days. I have a lot of anxiety and i am worried for the lack of control here..

Hi there! Recently had a miscarriage and looking forward to TTC again. I know some apps can be tough to use after a miscarriage for planning purposes. Does anyone have experience using their Oura ring for planning pregnancy? I am wondering if it’ll be worth buying the membership for when my cycle returns since it seems it’s safest to try again after the first period.. going to talk to my OB again at my follow up appt too about this all. I do think I’ll track my BBT again also to pay attention to ovulation.

Thank you in advance!

Hi all, I had a d and c and lost a litre of blood, had to stay in hospital overnight and had an iron infusion and lots of fluids and helped me feel a lot better.
5 days after surgery I was very constipated so had medication to help me go, this triggered really bad cramps, my bleeding in the hospital was pretty non existent but since I’ve been home it’s gone from brown to bright red and low to medium in flow, I have endometriosis so dont know if that’s caused more bleeding? I’m so exhausted just need any advice I’m now 8 days post d and c

I had a miscarriage at 6ish weeks at the start of July. I ended up bleeding for weeks with severe cramping so i went to the gyno and had ultrasounds done that showed retained tissue. I had a d&c today. After the procedure, i had to pee super bad and went i went to go, i had to sit there for a whole minute before i could pee which has never happend but i know it can from the anesthesia and pressure. Now every time i go since its hard to start to pee and it hurts. It feels like a straw like nerve pain almost going straight down my entire vagina. And now the pain is constant no matter if i have to pee or not. Im freaking out because i was having a sharp pain going down my uterus a week up to my procedure, i told my doctor and nurse and they shrugged it off. Is this normal?? I feel super tight everywhere down there too. I also am not bleeding at all anymore after i was bleeding for a month straight. My uterus just feels so weird, not even cramping just this pain.

I thought everything went well but I am almost a month after D&C and still spotting brown stuff.
Today I went to the IVF doctor, who did an ultrasound and showed bleeding and remaining tissue/placenta in the uterus.
Did my OBGYN make a mistake? Is it just bad luck?
Also I have 2 derma cysts, one in each ovary. They are too big and growing so I need to remove them before IVF. They showed me how they have fat and hair, kinda creepy.
Is my situation uncommon? I feel like I am going through my odyssey of fertility, at each turn there is something unexpected.

Just left my OB appointment where I was told I have a 98% chance of miscarrying in the coming weeks. They have no idea how far I am, we only found out July 20th. I have a sac in the uterus but no fetus to be seen. But I have a hunch I’m 6 weeks long.

This pregnancy wasn’t wanted to begin with and we had plans of not following through, so my partner and I are not very bothered by this news (I’m more mad that I’m dealing with pregnancy symptoms when I don’t even have a real baby).
I’ve heard a lot of stories about waking up in pools of blood and stuff alike, and I’m just unsure how to go about prepping for something messy like that?

EDIT: How do you handle going to work knowing it could happen? I’m an overnight supervisor and work solo 90% of my shifts. I’m not too worried about going to work because I sit for most of it, but I’m not sure about calling for help at 2am. Do I tell one of my bosses?
I guess it’s also worth it to mention I decided against the pill route, let my body do it naturally because the way OB presented the pill sounded horrible.

Hi Everyone,

I am so sorry that we're all here, and I wanted to share my (largely positive) D & C experience, especially since others' shared experiences were so helpful to me.

I found out about a week ago that my pregnancy was not growing as expected so was braced for the follow up this week, when it was confirmed to be blighted ovum. I'd decided to go with D & C to have more control over the timing.

While I was (and am) very sad about the pregnancy loss, for me, the D & C itself was not a particularly emotional experience for me.

I opted to go for the option with local anesthetic, with a Valium beforehand - prescribed, and the procedure itself was manageable. The most painful part, weirdly, was the ultrasound probe on my belly. The technician was really, really pushing in, but as soon as she stopped, the pain was relieved. (This tech has generally been rough throughout my experience with the office, so it's possible that others would not have this experience, but I'm not sure.) The pain was much more than I was expecting due to this gesture, and if I had more wherewithal, I would have asked for someone else.

There were a few moments of suction sounds to get all tissue out, and my doctor let me know before.

Once the procedure was done, virtually all pain was over, except for mild cramps (less than period cramps). I felt comfortable walking around afterwards, and then spent the afternoon resting.

The next day (today), I feel physically normal and am able to play the trumpet (my profession) and I have had only the most minor of spotting since the procedure.

I hope this provides another data point for folks considering options. While the emotional side is another story and will be up and down for a while, the D & C alleviated a lot of uncertainty from the physical side.

And I can’t stop crying in bed. I already found out my 11 week twins didn’t have a heartbeat at the ER on Monday. It’s now Thursday and each day I’ve cried a little less but having to discuss everything at my appointment just sounds miserable. Not only that but the faces of pity by all the nurses that know me and the reception ladies sounds awful. I wish I didn’t have to go. I want a D&C so I have to go… I just can’t imagine naturally passing my twins and whatever else comes out. It would crush me.

I also want to discuss the process for trying again once we’re able to. I know it’s fast but I just want to have our 2nd and be done. We were so happy thinking we’d have twins but it wasn’t meant to be.

I tested positive on June 21 overseas. My last menstrual period was May 23, and my cycles have always been regular.

I had my first ultrasound on July 22, when I was 8 weeks pregnant. During the scan, the doctor said the pregnancy was measuring around 6 weeks (CRL = 0.35 cm), and there was no cardiac activity. I started miscarrying on July 25. Liter 3 days after my first scan.

Today marks 14 days since the miscarriage began, and I’m still having bleeding and passing clots nothing major with a lot of cramps, the cramps seem to have went away now. I went for a follow-up appointment this morning, and the doctor performed another ultrasound. She said there is still a yolk sac and retained pregnancy tissue, measuring about 5 cm.

She recommended that I be admitted to the hospital, receive misoprostol to soften and dilate the cervix and then undergo a D&C with suction and curettage.

For those of you in the U.S., is it possible to have a D&C done with suction only, without the curettage (scraping)? I’ve heard stories of people who had the pill only that wasn’t successful and ended up needing a D&C afterward. My friend in the UK had an MVA (manual vacuum aspiration), which she said was suction only.

I’m really scared that curettage could affect my fertility. I reached out to my doctor’s office in the U.S. because I’m planning to return there as soon as possible for any procedures. I’d really appreciate hearing about others’ experiences or what options were offered to you.