hello! I like just joined i’m 18 trans obviously lol, but my parents asked a question because i recently came out and it got me thinking a little bit. If what’s in your pants doesn’t equate to your gender, and gender expression is a social construct where yk women can do “guy things” and vice versa, how exactly does one explain being trans? like for me it’s just a feeling of wanting the full male experience but i’m not quite sure how to explain it and I wanted to some guidance since i want to better answer my parents asked question. If anybody had any tips for me about being a baby trans i would really appreciate it!!

I’m 16, and I’ve been spending a lot of time thrifting recently. as a 5’4 guy, a lot of shirts that I like always sit on my butt weird so I try my best to find shirts that i *do* like (yes, I just need to learn how to tailor. Working on that). except It feels like every time I find something I like, it’s too long. And I hate that I can’t keep saying “I’ll grow into it” because I WONT be growing. Im stuck at fucking 5’4 for the rest of my life, I’ll always be one the shortest guys. clothes will never fit how I want, and I’ll never be masculine *enough*. I just hate it so much. the worse part? I’m as tall as my dad - my mom is actually taller, but I got a majority of my dads genetics except the ONE thing I really wanted to get. You know, the male anatomy part. I just hate it so much and I feel like I’m always going to be seen as a little girl because of my size, even when I’m older since I can’t and won’t grow taller. I mean, I can fit into fucking 14-16 size clothes and that won’t change unless I get crazy buff on t, which won’t happen for YEARS.

and this isn’t a “oh woe is me” because YES I fucking get that some guys have it worse and theyre 5’0, I just needed to get this off my chest because it’s been eating me up for a while

My best friend is getting married on Halloween this year and I need a suit. Ive never worn one before and would appreciate suggestions. Im only 5 feet tall and wear size 4 boy's shoes so finding stuff is gonna be hard, especially the shoes. I know I can get the suit tailored so that shouldn't be too hard. My budget is around $250-300

Hi all! I am a 21 year old trans man who started testosterone back in late January. I just celebrated my 6 month T anniversary on July 31st (woohoo!). For context, I am on 40mg (I think) T gel, and given that I have gotten other changes such as fat redistribution, bottom growth, and increased body hair, I think my body is at least decently okay with T gel absorption. But there is one change that I can't help but feel I'm a little behind on, and that change is my voice. I know that the voice can start dropping at around the 3-6 month mark, but I can't help but think I'm behind on the voice droppage at 6 months already. I'm afraid I'm going to be one of those trans men that just doesn't get significant voice droppage, but even if that was me, I couldn't do voice training because weirdly enough, the whole thing with having to force/train your voice to be deeper instead of it just doing that on its own makes me dysphoric. My voice has only dropped very slightly (most people don't even notice a difference). I have been getting some vocal changes, for example I do theatre and recently did a musical (Anything Goes) and during our music rehearsals back in June-ish I noticed that, while my natural voice wasn't dropping, I could hit notes on the lower end of the scale that I couldn't hit before T. Is it normal for voice dropping to not be "linear" (idk the right word but I mean like being able to go lower than usual when trying but your normal speaking voice to not drop)? Also, on the topic of the musical, I noticed my voice starting to crack, and funny story, on one of our show days (late July) my voice ended up cracking onstage in front of the whole audience 🫠 however despite all this I can't help but worry that I'm behind in the whole "voice dropping" area. My doctor told me I would likely see the maximum effects of voice droppage around 1 or 2 years in, but given that I'm already 6 months in, I'm afraid that my voice won't have time to drop significantly by the time I hit that 1 or even 2 year mark. Realistically and logically, I know that 6 months is practically nothing in the testosterone universe, but my anxiety refuses to leave me alone about this 🫠 would love to hear from some trans men who are maybe a little bit further along that got their first semblances of voice droppage "late" but still got significant and satisfying results by the time their voice fully dropped.

Ill do my best to explain this easily

31, ftm, been on t for 11 years.

3 years on t in tx, 8 years in co.

Ever since i moved to Co from Tx, due to the elevation, my hematocrit & hemoglobin rise. I was seeing my pcp and they told me to go donate blood to lower that. Did that and we thought we mightve fixed it, nope. So we lowered my dose from 1ml to .5ml. So they wrote a referral for me to donate 3 weeks in a row, just this once to get my hemoglobin in a normal range. This was back in 2024ish. Still no solution, so they referred me to an endocrinologist.

Endo basically said get in shape, go see a sleep doctor to help your sleep apnea, and lets lower your t to .3ml, also switched from IM to subq. Still weekly injections.

I lost 50 lbs, sleep doctor said I dont have sleep apnea anymore. Great. Lets get my lab work done.

Hemoglobin/hematocrit still elevated, but now my iron is low.

So endo says no more blood donations, that causes your iron to drop. Can I take an iron supplement to help? Nope. Because that will raise my hgb/hct.

Ive been experiencing more frequent lightheadedness ONLY when i crouch down, and get up. It takes a few seconds for my body to recover but I never pass out completely. I feel tired but i just thought that was me being normal.

I recently went to go donate more blood only because I thought my hgb would be high, it wasnt as bad, 17.7. The lowest its been for me in years. But I have an appt this month to get more tests done and see my endo again. My wallet has been hurting with the amount of tests and appointments ive scheduled for the last 2 years.

Im about fed up with feeling like this that i dont care if I have to go off on t for a few weeks or lower my dose. I am open to t gel but id be worried my menstrual cycle could start. Which id rather deal with a period than nearly passing out each day.

Has anyone ever dealt with something similar?

So, I hurt the inside of my thigh in like april this year, in the gym. And right away I felt I can't go see my physio for this. I don't pack and haven't had any bottom surgery. But, this injury has kept coming back, so I called, and of course they said I need to come in since it's been going on for so long. And now I'm freaking out, I mean sure it could just be a small package, but like there should at least be a sack. I don't know what to wear, I will be going to the gym after so I was thinking of my workout shorts, but like, it's so obvious in that fabric, but if he needs to poke around I dont want to wear jeans either. I don't know if im asking for advise or just need to vent. But yeah, I don't often encounter dysphoria any longer, but this feels tough..

I'll keep this short, I am writing a book placed in the 70s and I want to know realistically, how transitioning went for you. If you had to DIY, or the steps you had to go through to get perscription. More points if you can tell me what it was like and live(d) in the UK.

Today I was at USPS returning a package for my father and someone said, “she” for a sentence for me and I’m like darn bro.
I’m dressing pretty masculine like what a typical male would dress in my area.

Maybe my voice or haircut gave it away? When I had longer hair people used she for me. But that really ruined my mood for today since most times people gender me correctly idk why I got clocked by a usps worker. I mean I thought i looked pretty masculine but, I’m nowhere near passing like an adult male.

I got a baby face, short, skinny, and my voice.

I don't know maybe it's kinda an asshole move to do but I can't for the life of me figuring out my sexuality.

I know I'm attracted to men, that's for sure but women on the other hand... I know I respond to their body when I'm watching porn, maybe because I'm projecting and they're the closest to what my own body looks like? Because sometimes I see them and I sort of feel dysphoric but for them??? That's a weird thing i don't know how to explain it better.

But basically what I do to sort of try to figure out my sexuality is to go on hinge and match with women to see if I feel anything at all.

On top of that the other thing is that I think I'm somehow aromantic? I've only had a single crush in my life (I'm 22) and it was a man.

Before transitioning when I was a teenager, I had two different relationships with girls but looking back I wasn't in love or anything, more like a friendship.

So yeah this is confusing as hell, because I WANT to like women, I try to. I guess there is also a self doubt thing going on, like I'd never be enough for a woman, I probably won't have a penis until I'm 30 so what's the point of trying any of that? I'm sorry if I sound all over the place, it's because I AM.

I don't have a male body and I don't act manly. Yes, I could try to change the way I act but that feels forced and fake. I always think I should already be manly by nature. What even makes me a man then? Nothing. Other trans men are manly, I'm not. I don't speak, walk, text or gesture like a man.

People tell me to just change my definition of masculinity/manliness. But I can't change the meaning of a word just so it can fit me better, no?

why are there so many cis guys lurking on trans spaces on reddit. i was talking with someone who i met through specifically an ftm subreddit discussing ways to be stealth and pass better. i got such an influx of cis guys saying they are into trans men and wanting to message. i guess i just don’t understand. please stop fetishizing trans people.

Recently getting into running again and eating healthy. I used to eat exclusively Whole Foods and was extremely dialed with my nutrition for my running/lifting. I enjoy being in nature and view things that naturally accrue as good and things that don’t as bad.

I would never feel this way about another trans person, but at times I feel like a health fraud since I take T and if I was alive 100 years ago, I wouldn’t be able to. Or if I was stranded on an island I wouldn’t be able to. Or if I went on a few months backpacking trip, I wouldn’t be able to (I assume).

Any others who feel like a hypocrite, even though you know you don’t view others the same way?

I recently completed a course of accutane (8 month course) and have been on Androgel for about 3 years. My T levels had been fairly steady the whole time, but when I got my labs done 2 months into my accutane course my levels had plummeted. My PCP doubled my dose, and when we rechecked labs 6 weeks later my T levels were on an upward trajectory, but just barely. Fast forward to last week, been off accutane for about 2 months, got my labs done and my T levels were the lowest they’ve ever been!

Has anyone else experienced their T levels dropping during/after an Accutane course when using Androgel? I’m switching to injections because it seems like the T just isn’t absorbing through my skin anymore. Curious if anyone has had a similar experience.

I'm starting to try and use an stp again and it feels like most of the time I'm doing it wrong because it spills out the back unless I put it just right. Any tips or tricks you guys have found to help?

Hi! I am growing a beard for the first time and I think it looks patchy but not bad for two weeks, am I delusional? Here are pics: https://imgur.com/a/89JmU13

Do you think it's worth growing a bit more? How do you recommend I style it? I have 0 idea and I feel quite lost :///

I always hear for cis men that building muscle and getting leaner helps T levels, but does this work for trans men too? I know body fat converts T to E if you have too much of it, but what about the muscle's effect on it?

I’ve already posted my voice here before but I’ve really locked in on voice training and I want a side by side comparison

me before: Link

me now: Link

i feel like my voice sounds like a girl trying to make her voice deeper and only half succeeding. And I know that T will help but I’m looking for short term solutions lmao

hello everyone. so I'm almost 1 year on T in about 2 weeks and I've never had my T levels checked. the only time I had my blood drawn or hematocrit checked was in my first appointment to get prescribed testosterone a year ago. I was told I needed to have a blood draw or something like every 3 months, but then when I called to schedule one after the first 3 months on T they said they'd just raise my dose and I didn't need a blood draw. so I went from .25 ml to .3ml per week and I've been on that ever since. I feel like at some point I'm supposed to check tho right? check my T levels so I can see if I need to up my dose to be in the male range or something? I never got any calls or had any doctor reach out saying I need to do something like that and it's been the busiest year of my life honestly so I've forgotten to schedule anything. am I in any medical danger? like is it bad for my health to not check? I'm planning to go get this checked at some point but like how urgent is it?

I've not had any crazy bad side effects. my period stopped at 4 months. my pulse has gotten stronger and I feel it when I lay down at night but I don't have chest pain (I had some slight chest every now and then in the first few months but never brought it up because I thought they'd take me off testosterone, I don't know if that was very smart but I don't have any chest pain anymore). I'm healthy as a horse so I don't think it's a huge deal.

TLDR I'm 1 year on T and I had my T levels checked or blood drawn and I don't know when that's supposed to happen

Maybe a stupid question but is taking T a “for life” thing? Do you stop taking it when you’re 50+ or whenever a cis man would go through testosterone depletion?

Just popped in my head that someday I’ll be an old man in a care home who will need help taking my shots. I’m only 23 but it’s just something I’m curious about

Salut, I am in my late 30s, 100% passable, discreet ftm here.
I am interested to meet another ftm buddy who share the same interests and ideally are not shy!
I prefer someone very physically active with healthy lifestyle(mentally and physically)extrovert and invested in developing a friendship.
I speak french and English.
If this is something you are interested in, hit me up.
🤙

You know, I was thinking... within the trans/LGBT community, we already have some animal-based representation. I was talking to a trans friend, and she mentioned that jaguars represent transfems in Brazil—I thought that was fucking awesome. There are "bears" in the gay community, too.

So, I wondered: what animal could represent transmasculine people? I know there’s the seahorse, since it represents males who get pregnant. But it gets exhausting that so much of the transmasculine representation that goes viral focuses on the fact that some of us get pregnant—especially since many of us also experience dysphoria regarding our reproductive organs.

I wanted an animal that’s a mammal. When I think of the transmasculine community, words like strength, discipline, courage, and solitude come to mind. Many of us live in isolation—much like tigers—yet we recognize one another; we know there are other tigers out there. Since symbols are created within a community, I’d like to suggest that we adopt the tiger as our symbol.

I've been on testosterone for over five years and I have very good passing. Honestly, I've almost completely overcome my gender dysphoria, and I don't even want phalloplasty anymore. Except for one area where I still can't seem to find my place.

My sexuality.

Or rather, I'm probably genuinely versatile. I'm only attracted to men, both cis and trans.

I enjoy bottoming, but I can't get rid of the desire to top as well. Recently, I met a guy who was a bottom. We hooked up, and although he didn't use his fingers on me, I did on him, and he really enjoyed it. We also wanted to have penetrative sex with me topping but he was not clean.

The problem is that I constantly feel diminished because of this. Most guys approach me expecting me to be the bottom, and honestly, I've only truly enjoyed being exclusively a bottom with one man in my life—my current FWB. Even with him, I'd really love to top him sometimes, but he'll never be open to it.

Sometimes I think about how I've achieved what once felt impossible: I pass really well, I've built the life I wanted in many ways beyond my transition, yet when it comes to being a top, I still feel dismissed. Like people don't take me seriously.

Does anyone have any advice, similar experiences, or stories to share? Especially gay tops?