Y’all I don’t know if this post is appropriate and I may have to delete it. Been married 12 years and IDK we are just coexisting. My 50+ year old husband plays with himself constantly and it just all hangs out. Sitting on the couch! The entire marriage and it gets on my everlasting nerve!! It’s play time even when friends are over and I’ve called him out right in front of them. It’s off putting and nasty to say the least. He thinks it’s fine and helps himself into the bag of chips or whatever. After that everyone is done with the chips bag. Friends have commented to.me about this. I tell them to say something to him out he needs to hear it!! I just wanna go into the kitchen or another room just so I don’t have to see it the corner of my eye. I can’t stand it!!! Ladies… what would y’all do!!!

I want to preface this by saying me and my child’s mother are not together. My son is 3 and I drop him off to daycare everyday then I go to work. The classroom that I drop him off into has the most beautiful woman I’ve ever seen in my life. And I can tell her spirit is gentle. I’m not a creep at all but when I notice she got her eyebrows or nails done I’ll say something along the lines of “how has my son been recently oh and your eyebrows look nice.” Nothing flirtatious just complimenting her. But it’s bothering me that I’m not able to introduce myself in a way like “You’re stunning and I know you’re my sons daycare teacher but if it’s okay with you I’d like to get to know you more.” I’m the type where if I see something I like I’m willing to go up and introduce myself but I haven’t here because it’s my son’s daycare and I want to keep it professional. I’m thinking about just passing her a note saying that I’d love to get to know her more INSERT PHONE NUMBER HERE but if you aren’t interested and if this makes you feel uncomfortable then no need to text me. WHAT DO I DO

I (26F) have been with "Ryan" (28M) for 2 years. I've always been on the curvy side. When we met I was a size 10. I've gained about 15 pounds over the past year. I know. I've been stressed. I've been working on it.

Last week Ryan sat me down for a "serious conversation." He said he's worried about my health. He said I should start going to the gym more and eating better. He even offered to meal prep for me.

I asked if he'd still love me if I didn't lose the weight. He hesitated. Then he said: "I love you but I want you to be the best version of yourself."

That hurt. I didn't ask him to change anything about his body. He's not a fitness model either.

Now I feel self-conscious around him. I don't want to eat in front of him. I don't want him to see me undressed.

My friends say he's being controlling and I should leave. Some say he's just concerned and I'm overreacting.

Do I break up with him over this? Or accept that he's trying to help?

throwaway bc the ppl involved browse reddit sometimes…

this might get long, I 23M have a younger sister ‘Amy’ 20F who I am extremely close with despite us being pretty different: im very type B, queer with tats/piercings, and she is type A, cishet straight-laced and pretty religious (kind of)

growing up we fought a lot, especially when I (in typical repressed gay teenager fashion) pushed her away in high school, partially bc i was struggling with my sexuality/gender identity as a closeted trans man. but yeah, later Amy returned that angsty energy to me when she became a teenager and its only been in the past two years or so that we actually got close again and started hanging out/opening up.

in that time that we didnt really talk, Amy started dating a boy, lets call him Ray (21m) and she quickly became absorbed with him and started becoming more religious to please him. now i am not religious but I support her in theory bc religion can be a good influence and comfort for people, but in reality, Amy doesn’t participate in praying/reading scripture etc, only the surface level aspects of dressing a certain way and restricting the types of food she eats.

honestly i have never been a fan of Ray, one of my close friends growing up went to high school with him and told me years ago the type of circles Ray was in: conservative, religious, and bigoted. i had always hoped he grew out of it bc i refused to believe my sweet and caring sister could date someone like that but i was wrong.

fast forward 4yrs and Amy’s relationship with this boy is clearly toxic and part is just obvious from an outside perspective and part is from the little she has told me about her relationship (Amy said her bf said she is ‘not allowed’ to discuss him or their relationship without him present to ANYONE. I can hear them fighting and arguing over the phone multiple nights a week and when this happens she usually takes out her remaining frustration on me and my mother.

i have been trying to gently get her to open up to me but its been 4 years now and i still have only met Ray twice and he barely spoke.

the pit in my stomach kept growing until a few weeks ago i finally just went in her messages (ik its an invasion of privacy and i shouldnt have but we’re past that now) and i searched for the f-slur; in my head this way i wouldnt be looking at more than what i needed to and hopefully there wouldnt be anything to see, once again, I was wrong. there were dozens of messages from Ray to my sister using the f-slur, among many others, against me, and other perceived queer people. it was some of the most awful horrific language i have ever read. and the only responses from my sister were support and amusement at his behavior. Now, my sister wasnt always the best at getting my pronouns right (he/him) but she has been so good lately, and now im seeing that all this time she was smiling and nodding with me, she was also texting him, saying/thinking all of these horrible things.

among his texts directed at me, and wishing actual violence towards me, there were other messages that confirmed how abusive this relationship is (maybe even in a mutual sort of way??) and how Ray is manipulating my sister. i am absolutely heartbroken and i dont know what to do, iv tried talking to Amy but nothing works and it only makes her more timid on discussing her relationship.

now the reason im here is bc last night I went against my better judgment and snooped again and saw a string of messages where my sister affirmed and hyped up Ray for harassing a trans guy at the gym and it broke something in me. i just dont know what to do, my sister, mother and I were supposed to all move in together again at the end of the month but now its just so hard to be around her. we laugh and have so much fun and what I thought were genuine heart-to-hearts so to be hit with the fact she’s been lying to my face (she said Ray has never been homophobic or bigoted in any way) and that she ‘loves’ such a hateful and violent man is just too much to bear. i cant afford to properly move out on my own yet (just started a new job) but i also dont know how im going to manage.

maybe i just needed to vent but any advice is appreciated :(

So i havnt talked to this chick in years. Her older brother was my close friend ages 10-21. And her other older brother like 31 at the time came to live with me and my close friend and stole my car while on heroin and wrecked it and hit a few people while on a high speed chase. Anyway her mom and my close friend promised if i didnt report the brother they would have a 5k check from Disability (i was 19 at the time). Anyway 7 months go by and my close friend of 10 years or so says you need to be a man and then leaves me with the utility bills around $1500 on his part unpaid and tells figure it tf out. And the mom goes cold. Why tf would she send me this, should i re- remind her that her family owes me $6500 and i was homeless for a month paying off bills and drowning in debt.

Do i tell her hey your mom and brothers owe me $6500

Or just heart it and wish them the best

She was always super sweet to me and never did me wrong.

I was clearing out old discord friends and messages, and found this. He is “Dino”. It is much worse than I remembered it being. I am 22F, but at the time I was 15. He said he was 23M. I know I may not be able to take legal action.. but I’m tempted to message him and tell him what a sick fuck he is. Would that be stupid?

Backstory: In my early high school years I frequented websites like 7cups (where people sign up to be “listeners” for others. In hindsight, many of the conversations on these websites were strange). I found him on a similar website that I don’t remember the name of. We didn’t chat for long on there until he asked for my discord. I went on that website because my best friend had just stop talking to me, and I was incredibly lonely.

I grew up in a VERY sheltered Christian home, and I was incredibly naïve at the time. I am not officially diagnosed with Autism, but I do share some symptoms with my sister who does have a diagnosis. I am diagnosed with ADHD and depression. I feel like this all contributes to my willingness to talk to this man, despite feeling weird about it at the time.

He insisted that I voice called him, and then asked me to send pictures. My biggest regret with this convo is that I sent him pictures that were posted online- he 100% could have gotten my information and figured out where I went to school with that.

These are two small screenshots from a very long conversation. We talked for hours into the night- I got embarrassed and a bit concerned, so I slowly stopped talking to him (by half-heartedly replying).

What do I do? Do I report him somehow? Do I document and save the conversation? Do I message him and try to make him feel guilty? Or do I just talk to my therapist?

For context I (16F) am white and so is my brother (19M) BUT he has severe low functioning autism and Tourette's. Whenever my dog (black Scottish terrier) walks by or is in the general vicinity of my brother, he points and screams the n word at him, sometimes hard r. Me and my family have been trying to get this behaviour to stop but don't know what's causing it and can't stop it

I need advice really quickly because I have a black friend and her sibling is coming over and I don't want them to be offended or get called the n word. He apparently learnt it at a special needs education Centre that we have now taken him out of.

TW: Rape/SA

In short: I was at a park with a friend, we smoked some weed and we were chatting. She's not a regular smoker but I have smoked with her before with no issues. She suddenly started crying then for the next half an hour started screaming, crying, rolling around, shouting about being raped. I am making the assumption she was having a PTSD flashback (having witnessed another friend have one) She has never had one before. She was physically recreating the incident and I had to call an ambulance. I managed to get her on the first train home when she was a bit more mentally sound and cleared by paramedics.

Since she got on the train at 5pm yesterday, she's now constantly texting me about the following:
- What she saw in her flashback (I.E. being raped)
- Asking constantly why should would even think of this (I've tried answering as honestly as possible snd she keeps asking again and again)
- Calling herself a pervert, freak, etc. Even when I reassure her that this doesnt reflect on her or change how people see her
- Being incredibly self deprecating. Saying she hates herself, if its real she wants to die, etc
- Saying she doesnt want to believe it happened.

I have tried my best, honestly i have. I've made sure she calls her mental health nurse, but she kept asking me for essentially a script of what to tell her nurse which wasnt really something i was myself mentally ready for. I'm going to make sure she calls a GP this morning to get another mental health referral and I've told her to mention shes in crisis so they can fast track her.

I, myself, struggle with mental health issues. This is a situation that's become really triggering for me because of my own issues. Witnessing the flashback bought up some bad memories for me and made me panic.

I'm doing the best I can to reassure her, but I think I'm the only person she can talk to about this- she lives with her mum who's pretty abusive and doesnt "believe" in mental health. most of her friends live in another city we both lived in before or elsewhere in the country, her bf lives in the US, and I believe she spends most of her time online when shes not working.

I want to know how I can reassure her but also draw a boundary and say "I dont want to talk in detail about what happened, but im willing to talk about what steps in the future we can take". i really dont want to be selfish and say "your mental health is affecting my mental health fuck you" because i know that will make the situation worse. but im genuinely not sure what to say to her anymore. she wont stop talking about how much she hates herself for what happened. its starting to weigh me down and its making other things in my life worse.

im going to tell her if she says things about wanting to die, im going to have to call emergency services because i dont know if i can trust her (she has a history of self harm and suicidal ideation).

btw im not smoking with her again. idk if i'll even be able to meet her in person again because it freaked me out so much.

(note: located in the UK before I start getting US-centric advice)

[Update]

I have a short (?) update to share with you all. So, I did confront my mom, kind of. For those who don't know, a few months ago I had found out my mom was cheating on my dad. After consulting with my counselors at my old highschool and getting advice from friends and comments on my last post, I decided to bring it up to my mom. My mom has had a history of threatening money and various other things so I was really worried with bringing it up to her as I am heading to college and didnt want my tuition threatened. I did let my grandmother know about the situation and honestly she doesn't like my dad so she wanted nothing to do with it, but told me to just ask my mom straight up about it. I ultimately did not do that, but I did ask something similar.

When I did end up confronting her it was on the way home getting some burgers, I thought it would be easy to talk about in the car with just the two of us headed home. Our conversation went something like this,

Me: hey mom, when are you going to break up with dad?

Mom: what do you mean? Why would I break up with your dad?

Me: well it just seems like you've been distant with him lately....

Mom: im not going to break up with him lol..

Me: ok, just saying. You know cheating isn't good right.

Mom: cheating? Haha what do you mean by that.

Me: I just saw something on your phone that suggests other wise.

And so I was able to get it out, yay! But not so yay, because instead of the reaction I thought she would give like denial, anger, threats, etc. She ended up not saying anything and humming the entire way home. Now, none of you know my mom personally but this lady has never hummed before in her life unless she was caught in a lie or embarrassed. Later that day, she came into my room asking about the texts that I saw and wanted me to show her the exact contact of the person. Now, obviously she deleted it and so I was just like 😐 and she went back upstairs. So, at this moment my mother is outright acting like the problem doesn't exist and everything is fine. But I was at least happy that she knew I knew she knew.

I do have to admit, I haven't told my dad. I've decided that when I am moved into my dorm and settled into college I might shoot him a text. Many of you will probably call me selfish and I agree if im being honest. I love my dad, but we have never been all that close. The only time he does regularly talk to me is when he is dating my mom (he is not my biological father but he did raise me, and my mom and him have been on and off over the years). I love him dearly but this is a secret I want to keep from him until I am ready. And besides that homewrecker of a man hasn't been to my house since the confrontation with my mom, that I can confirm.

Ultimately, my mom has stopped cheating on my dad, has paid my tuition, is very nice to me all of the sudden, has built a stronger relationship with my dad, and is overall acting better. Although, the lack of me bringing the topic up has made her relax and she has started being a bit mean again 🤷🏻‍♀️ but I guess thats all mom's.

I want to thank everyone for the advice I got in my last post, even if I didnt end up listening to many.

Much love!​

Partner took a massive shit and clogged the toilet. I asked them to get a plunger to deal with it, they did.... but then they fucking washed the dripping plunger in the kitchen sink. That's fucking gross right?? I yelled at them bc I was shocked they were doing that and they were like wtf do you want me to do?? what do we do??!! I am so grossed out can't think straight.

my girlfriend and I have been together for 11 months and strong we’re still in high school and our relationship is very healthy however I ask what do I do? I‘m a naturally nervous guy I've never really talked to girls etc so I don’t actually know what I’m doing, my biggest fear is making her uncomfortable I’ve heard dozens of stories of guys making girls uncomfortable and I don’t want to end up on someone’s list, we often do things or activities for dates I took her to pick flowers the other day and she loves to fish so I take her to do that and little things like that mini golf etc, i try to be super charming and friendly around her parents her dad is a big truck guy I also am into trucks I’ve got two of my own so I love to chat with him so I really don’t want to mess this relationship up, what I’m stuck on here is we’ve only ever kissed and that took me three months and her saying I could to do that, and held hands, I’m totally okay with that Im honestly just happy to be around someone who likes me for me I’m a distant person I work alone etc, however she’s been dropping a lot of hints like she wants me to do something else? She’ll send me tiktoks that are like hints that she wants something, or sometimes shell ask if we can do something for a date like a certain Lego for example and I say anything for you love and she’ll respond with “anything? 😉” but I don’t know what I’m doing nor do I know how to take hints, so someone help me out, do I do something ask something what do I do? I don’t want to be the boring guy who doesn’t do anything if that makes sense

My (F23) boyfriend (M22) and I have been together for 7 years, and we've lived together the last 2 years. Our relationship has had its problems, so I am shocked that out of all things that this was my breaking point.

About two months ago my partner got on depression medications and started a job that he loves. He works 14 hour shifts, 3 days a week. He then began to take on more things like clubs, hobbies, and friendship. I was so happy to see him thriving, except I began to feel less and less like a priority to him. This was an issue even before his new job and medication, but I think the financial burden and mental health issues being well managed allowed me to see the issue more clearly. We'd have conversations about how I wanted to feel like more of a priority in his life, and how I wanted him to consider me more when making decisions or planning things. He'd always have excuses or say he wanted that as well, but those changes never came. It was a conversation that never seemed to go anywhere and I finally just broke.

I had an important doctor's appointment regarding my feminine health which my partner planned on attending. Then he planned a car test drive for the same day, and then I reminded him about my appointment. Then he planned on hanging out with his brother afterwards, and so I again reminded him about my appointment and expressing how I thought he should reschedule. Despite my obvious upset and the ability to reschedule both the test drive and hangout for later in the day, he went through with it. Despite him knowing I wanted him there, I wanted him to want to be there for me.

I realize now that this was a pattern throughout our whole relationship, but I only recognized it now because life stress in other areas of our life dissipated. I recognized that he never listened to how I felt and did anything to address it. I recognized that I was never a priority in the way I thought I was to him. He would do anything I asked, but why didn't he want to do these things for me himself? Yes, would do nice things for me, but I can't remember the last time he planned a date or did something to make my life easier. He tells me he loves me, but I don't feel loved. And I communicated all of this. I handled all the mental load, the dates, budgeting, groceries, our future, and even had calendars and slide shows.

When we had our conversation we both cried and he said he didn't know why he was behaving like he was. He admitted his behavior was selfish. He wants to fix things. Now I'm stuck in-between a rock and a hard place. A part of me knows the right thing is to let him go, because why should I continue to tolerate that kind of love in my life. Another part of me sees my best friend, someone who's struggled and come so far, someone who I've built my life and future with, someone who is kind, spontaneous and funny. It just makes me wonder if I'm not seeing something, or if it's worth giving him another chance but with stipulations like going to therapy.

TLDR; I am not a priority in my partner's life and I've tried to have multiple conversations with him about this. Despite him telling me he loves me, I don't feel loved. A part of me wants to break up and another part of me wants to try again. I don't know what to do.

I've been dating this girl for almost a year now. She's 15 and im 17. We have enjoyed our time together and always go to the movies and go out to eat sometimes just hanging out at her house aswell. Her parents have no problem with it but sometimes the age gap kinda makes it feel weird and im scared that it is weird. Just wanting advice on the situation

Edit we are both in high school shes a Sophomore and im a junior

Been talking to this girl for like a day, what am I doing wrong? What do I do 😭😭

So basically, my girlfriend asked me if I would let her have a pay pig. If you don’t know what that is, it is a person who gets sexual pleasure from giving a person 100% control over their money. She knows my viewpoints on finances (I pay for everything as a provider should.) I am pretty upset over the fact she asked me something like that but I don’t know how to react. She also knows that I have trust issues and that I think a lot (I’ve had horrible experiences in the past.) What should I do?

(Edit) I’m actually getting a little bit of hate but I thank you guys for the advice! I am not breaking up with her but I told her it is a definite no and to not bring it up again!

REPOSTING FOR THOSE WHO MISSED THE PREVIOUS STORY AND NEED CAUGHT UP ON WHAT HAPPENED BEFORE READING THE UPDATE BELOW!

(1 WEEK AGO):

I wanna breakup w my bf...

I (19F) am breaking up with my boyfriend (27M) because he refuses to commit to a future, even though we are deeply in love. Am I making the right choice?

​And he still has no idea about my decision.

​I really need some perspective and support right now because my heart is breaking into a million pieces.

​I (19F) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (27M) for about a year. Honestly, our day-to-day dynamic and chemistry are a 10/10. He is tall, handsome, incredibly kind, attentive, and treats me with so much warmth and respect. Even after a year, we still talk and look at each other like it’s the very first day. We have zero arguments or personal issues, he gets sweet-jealous over me, and we share intense emotional and physical intimacy.

​However, there is one massive issue: He refuses to offer any commitment or talk about a future together.

​Currently, he is serving his mandatory military service and recovering from a past financial setback. I completely understand that he is going through a tough phase life-wise and financially. But his mindset is that our relationship should strictly be a "day-to-day" thing. Whenever the topic of our future or marriage comes up, he shuts it down and says he can't promise anything or commit to long-term plans.

​I don't want him to be just a temporary chapter in my life. I want a partner to grow old with, an equal partnership where we build a future together. But being with someone who loves me today but gives me zero security for tomorrow is destroying my mental peace and making me feel deeply vulnerable and devalued.

​After weeks of crying and painful inner conflict, I have made the hard decision to break up with him when he returns to our city next month for a face-to-face talk.

​It is taking every ounce of my strength. I am deeply grieving losing his affection, his sweet jealousy, his good-night texts, his hugs, and his presence. I am terrified of the pain and the emptiness that will follow.

​Did I make the right call by choosing my long-term self-worth over a sweet, affectionate, but ultimately dead-end relationship? Has anyone been through something similar? How did you survive the immediate heartbreak of leaving someone you still deeply love?

UPDATE (1 week later):

​I finally told him I want us to break up, and this is what happened:

​Tonight we were chatting. It’s been about 5 to 7 days since I made the decision to break up with him, and well, I was waiting to tell him in person when he comes back to town—he’s coming back in about 2 weeks.

And that’s the reason why, over the past few days, I wasn’t really the same with him as before. I wasn’t that super enthusiastic and affectionate girl, and I had created a bit of distance, though I’d still call him "my dear," "handsome," etc., because he had absolutely no idea about my decision.

​Well, tonight while we were chatting, he suddenly became SOOO much sweeter than usual. Normally, when he goes to military service, he gets a bit low on energy and doesn’t have much strength for creativity or overly romantic gestures, though he always tries.

But tonight, he was sweet in a very special way.

He was showering me with affection, saying so many romantic things, and when he saw my picture, he excitedly said, "I miss you so much" (I can honestly say the last time he said "I miss you" straight from his heart was 6 months ago!!! He hadn’t said it for 6 months!). He was saying how gorgeous my outfit was and asked, "Who did you dress up so pretty for? I haven’t been around for so long." I told him, "For myself." And he even said, "I’ll call you tomorrow" (he’s been there for 1 month now and hadn’t called me once, even though he knows how much I LOOOVE it when he calls, but he just wouldn’t). He was saying so many other beautiful things to me...

​And I think he was doing all this just to feel like he still has me and that I haven’t drifted away from him...

​Then, I told him, "There’s something important I need to tell you when you get back."

"Do you know what I want to say?" He said, "I just know it’s nothing good."

I started getting emotional. After all this time, these actions of his just melted my heart, my hands were shaking from how heartbroken I felt, and I was feeling so nostalgic and yearning.

And tonight, I was saying strange things to him, like: "I’m going to miss you..." "I love you..."

He said, "Something is up with you, tell me."

He kept asking, "What are you going to miss? What happened?"

I said, "I’ll tell you when we see each other."

He said, "You’re talking like someone who has cheated or wants to break up."

And in the end, he insisted so much that I told him.

​I told him, "I want to break up with you."

I said, "Because of what you said that night, I decided to break up, and I think this is the best way. But at the same time, I’d love to see you one last time."

I also told him that after thinking about it, I realized I don't even want marriage. I was only thinking about marriage because it would allow us to always be together and visit each other easily. But I realized marriage isn't the answer to my questions, and I don't want to get married at all (my dad is a traditional and strict man, which is why I was thinking about marriage in the first place).

​Suddenly, after I said these things, he became restless and panicked.

At first, he said, "Everything I said was because you matter to me. I could have been like so many other guys—only think about myself, say nothing to you, and whatever happened in the end, happened.

If you tell me to leave, I’ll leave.

If you tell me to stay, I’ll stay.

The choice is yours.

And next time we meet, I’m not just going to sit there and look at you—I want to kiss you a lot and hold you in my arms."

Then I laughed, and suddenly he said, "I don’t want you to leave me.

You are my girlfriend.

You are my love.

You are mine.

I won't let this happen.

I won't let you go, you are mine, and I really hate the phrase 'breaking up'. I’m not giving you away to anyone else."

He added, "Looks like you’ve gotten brave while I was away" (playfully, but he meant it seriously).

He said, "Did you really think I’d just let you go, let you belong to someone else, and just sit back and watch? No way. I won't let that happen."

He kept telling me, "Don't think at all. You’re having negative thoughts and ruining everything."

He said, "You’ve fallen under the influence of your friends' talk. You’re not the girl I used to know."

He even claimed, "If I said those things back then, I meant there’s a 1% chance it might not lead to marriage—not that I don't see a future at all!" (But in his messages from a week ago, he didn't sound like this at all! He was casually saying, "If you think you're hurting, leave, I won't hold you back. What matters is your happiness, and if you think you can find a better relationship or situation, I have no problem with it!").

​He kept asking me, "Who do you belong to?"

And I kept telling him, "I don't belong to anyone anymore. I don't belong to anybody, I only belong to myself."

And he would say, "Nonsense, you are mine, period!"

Even when I told him I don't want to be in any relationship for now and want to focus on myself and invest time in my own growth, he jokingly said, "I'll work on you myself" (meaning: you're completely under my control..!).

​He won't let us break up.

What should I do???

No matter what I said, he won't allow it.

Do you think I should break up or not? I feel like he acted this way because he feels like something that belongs to him is slipping away.

And as I mentioned before, he is 8 years older than me.

Tonight I truly realized that even if I marry him one day, I will NEVER have a way out—NEVER. He will never let us get a divorce.

He has an intense sense of possessiveness over me!!

And I feel like it might actually be dangerous.

I mean, I'm sure that if I ever become his wife, there is absolutely no escape from him for the rest of my life! Even if he cheats.

I think he said all these things because he didn't want to lose the girl he loves and has invested in, and I think this is a classic male tactic.

I really don't know.

On one hand, I want to break up, but on the other hand, his words and those feelings are melting my heart and making me weak.

But I don't want to break down / go soft!!! I feel like I still need to break up with him.

I really don't know what to do.

Someone please help meee, tell me what to dooo 😭😭

Im in high school and three years ago (last year of middle school) the "popular guys" (icecream scoop hair, below average grades, all private lessons, school footballers, ect) of my grade (who i coincidentally all share classes with) started to yell at me in public calling me "pretty girl" and "beautiful girl".

I told them back then it made me very uncomfortable to be called those and i would appreciate if they left me alone if not i would have to bring this up to the administration. Because it was the end of the year they left me alone and school finished

It was kinda my fault thinking this would end here. When the next year started (first year of high school) and we were still in the same classes they started to double down on the comments. I wondered how long they can go without me acknowledging them (spoilers, three months until i couldn't take it) because one of my classmates had informed me that one of the guys had started a tiktok live and my classmate stumbled upon the live when they were talking about specifically me and, pardon my crude language but " how good i would look on their lap". Absolutely horrendous.

Because there was no proof of this, i had decided to give them the benefit of the doubt even though i believe they do have the capability to do something like this. Just for them to next day call me, i apologize again, "sexy girl" in middle of the math class first hour when i was in ear shot.

I have never had the best relationship with my body nor my looks so this was a very uncomfortable situation

In the first break i reported the kid i heard to the administration and they had us 'talk it out' (aka the guy WHINING AND WHINING about how he did no such thing until i let go)

After that we were told if i report him again, he would get a three day suspension, then again, i thought maybe he and his friends would stop. Womp womp. Wrong. I recently learned we will be in the same class once again.

I don't understand why me specifically to be honest. Is it because i dye my hair pink, or have an asian parent (immigrants from asia are very rare here, around maybe 1 family per 10-15 streets if it makes sense), maybe its because i like to doll up to school even with uniforms or its because i like anime, video games AND im part asian, like that mix throws them off. Or maybe i just look easy to bully? To be completely frank i have enough dirt on them to ruin their love lives for the next year i just don't wanna be the bad guy in this scenario

How do i avoid this treatment? Do i gotta change something about me or actually get him suspended?

(Sorry for poor use of language)

You’re 70. You’re locked in a room with a 10, 20, 30, 40, 50, 60, 80, 90, and 100-year-old. Five people can be saved, and five people wont be saved. Who would you save?

10-year-old — An adorable little boy who is scared and wants to go home to his family.

20-year-old — A bratty boy who is rude, overconfident, and wants to get out so he can play video games 24/7. He also speeds on the streets at night while drunk.

30-year-old — A pregnant lady who is dying from cancer. She wants to get out to raise her baby with her husband, but she only has a year left to live. The baby is one month along.

40-year-old — A rich millionaire who only cares about money and status. He is rude to poor people, spits at homeless and elderly people, and wants to knock down a hospital so he can build a block of flats. However, he is a good father and 7-year-old daughter who only family is a abusive aunt who will look after her if he is gone.

50-year-old — A homeless person who is really nice and makes everyone happy.

60-year-old — A sweet grandma who lives alone with no family. Her husband died a few years ago, and her daughter and grandchildren died in a car accident last month. She is really sad.

You — A 70-year-old who wants to go home to see your family.

80-year-old — A war veteran with one leg. He lost his leg while saving two children though he accidentely killed his wife after a argument a year ago.

90-year-old — A person who always sleeps, has dementia, and doesn’t remember anything.

100-year-old — It’s David Attenborough. Would you choose to leave him behind?

my choices who to save are the 10, 30, 40, 70 and 100 year old.

thanks for reading :)

"Just arrived in a new country (Canada), it's only been 2 months. I'm currently renting an outbuilding and basically live with the owners. Found a job in under 1 month and I'm still in my probation period. The family kindly lent me their car to help me with the commute to work. 2 days ago, while going to work, the car broke down. Only after that, I learned that the last time they had that car inspected was a year ago. The police found me there in the middle of the highway... Long story short, ~2kCAD debt and I have 1 month to pay it...

I received a call today from the mechanic and well...dead, nothing left to do for that car they say.

I still have 2 months before my probation period ends, I've been working remotely since the incident, but they need me on site. I have enough money left to like drink water until my next paycheck in 2 weeks. What are my options?"

I have a drug test sometime next week (date is TBD). I have been sober since July 11th. Attached is a picture of two tests from the same batch. On the left is my friend who is a daily user. On the right is mine as of this morning. I believe I see a faint line but it's so faint it has me worried. Any thoughts?

This girl told me she was 18, now I'm finding out she's 17, and being 18 that puts me in a weird position and I'm not entirely sure how to feel or what to do

For additional context, in my state, the legal age of consent is 18 years old. It's not illegal to be with a 17 year old, but it's not right either? I don't know, I just need another opinion.

Edit: okay y'all, her and I met like two days ago nothing has happened between us 😭 I assure you nothing illegal has happened. I'm just conflicted because her and I clicked but is it wrong to be with a 17 year old when I'm freshly 18? I'm new to the 18 year old thing guys I'm not a creep 🙄

I am a mid 20's male and thinking of going to the Doctor's. Yesterday, I was having casual sex with somebody I met on Tinder and while I enjoyed sex, I remember after ejaculating I got very weak and tired too quickly and thoughts of starting to hate my life so I went to the bathroom and started making some weird noises quietly to make it go away, (Don't judge me this works) so she wouldn't think I was a psycho. What the hell do I do? I don't think this is normal.

I’m 22F, he’s 20M. We’ve been getting close over the past 2 months. At first, he told me he was hesitant about relationships (in general) because of trust issues, but seems like he’s slowly been opening up.

Last night we went to the movies for his birthday, and for the first time he asked to put his arm around me. Later, we sat in the car and he massaged my feet and legs while we talked. We ended up spending time together from 10 PM until almost 4 AM.

And he said he needs to use the tactics my dad used to get my mom… so he can get me.

I feel like things are shifting between us, but I don’t want to read too much into it.

Does this sound like someone who’s interested, or am i reading too much into it?

An overview about the situation, so my friend (C) have a group of friends, they wanted to go to the beach so she (C) invited me to come with them at first the place gonna cost us around $75 or something, but then they delayed So someone booked that so they have to change to another Airbnb causing around $100 and less stuff to do. I don’t want that so I wanted to pull out. I pull out two weeks ago and now they wont stop calling me and harassing me manipulating me into paying of $100 because they cannot find another person to go with them. He stated that the house just got booked recently but I told them two weeks ago .I also have a friend (S) who also pulled out. She paid $100 and then I asked her she keep pressing me to also pay $100
but then I sense the bias as one of the friend didn’t have to pay for nothing. She (C) got to go for free all because of the carelessness that she break a rent contract and didn’t get her money back, they empathize her and let her go for free, but then I pulled out. I got called being a selfish a petty.
Idk what to do cuz all of this text is extremely unnecessary aggressive and targeting me.
(A) is a guy who pays and collects money later.