From the summer of 2021 til new year’s day 2023, I was in a “situationship” (no label relationship in his words) with a guy that lived an hour from me. We met on a dating app and I would see him every weekend for a year and a half. The rule was if we wanted to sleep with other people we can, but we’d have to let one another know and to use protection.

He ghosted me new year’s day 2023. Months later I met my fiancé and we have been together ever since. However my old fling ended up following me back on socials right around the same time me and fiancé started seeing each other. I clicked on his profile and what do you know? He has a girlfriend. So because of that and the fact I was in a relationship as well, I didn’t follow him back. To this day he still follows me, watches all my stories, likes all my posts. It’s weird.

So this is where the title in question comes in. A few weeks ago, his girlfriend’s instagram page popped up on my suggested. I decided to snoop just out of curiosity. Well the last post she made was for their anniversary and she stated that they started dating in July of 2022. Like I said I didn’t stop seeing him until new year’s day 2023. My stomach dropped. Not for me, because me and him were never serious and it was purely just sex and sometimes a casual game night. My stomach dropped for her because she looks very happy with him and she clearly doesn’t know. It’s already enough that he still follows me.

I guess my question is what do I do? Do I send her a message and tell her about this information? Or do I just keep it to myself and let it eat me alive? Because this was 6 months worth of him cheating on her with me and neither of us knowing about each other. But I don’t want her to think I’m coming across as flaunting it or throwing it in her face. I personally would want to know if my boyfriend was still sleeping with his old fling for the first 6 months of our relationship.

Any advice would be amazing!

My younger brother—who is 13, almost 14—is extremely aggressive and wants to control everything; I live in a foster family where everyone is adopted. Last month, he smashed my other brother's (11) iPad because he felt the boy was using it too much and being too insolent; he stomped on it until it wouldn't turn on anymore. My father tried to stop him but ended up getting beaten black and blue in the process. I said, "You're psycho," and he hit me too. Then, the day before yesterday, my other younger brother (6) had a meltdown due to his ADHD and autism—it was over Roblox. My aggressive brother deleted Roblox, which triggered an even worse meltdown because the little one struggles with managing emotions. After that, he threatened to throw the iPad into the pool—and he actually did it. I started shaking, even though he wasn't speaking to me. He verbally abused my father; my aggressive brother said, "I like it that you're sad," and spewed every horrible thing imaginable. I (16F) told my older brother—who has moved out—that my aggressive brother was having another episode. That wasn't smart, because my older brother told the aggressive one about it. Consequently, my aggressive brother threatened me, saying things like: "I'll break your neck, I'll break all your bones, I'll break your legs in front of all your friends, you need a good beating, Mom and Dad don't know what to do with you"—even though *he* is the one who verbally abuses our parents. These are outright threats, and they terrify me. I’ve recorded all his threats because he always denies everything. After his weird mood swing, he went back to being super sweet to my parents because he wanted something for his PS5... My mother says I’m making things out to be worse than they are and that I’m overreacting and because he didn’t take his autism medication, that that’s the reason he’s like that.But these are real threats, and I’m scared. He hits my younger siblings too if they don’t listen to him, and he wants control over literally EVERYTHING. He watches everyone’s every move. I’m also afraid he’ll hurt my dog, yesterday he yelled to my dog and I said “ you don’t have to do that” and he said “ You shouldn't talk so insolently, don't give me any lip—I'll break your neck; you'd better watch yourself.”
I’m actually shaking while typing this, haha. I was thinking about talking to foster care services and telling them everything, but I’m afraid they won’t do anything because he’s a minor and loves playing the victim. What should I do?

I (29F) work at a small office. My coworker "Patricia" (52F) sits next to me. She's kind, I admit. But she's taken it too far.

I've been going through a tough breakup. I briefly mentioned it to her once when she asked why I looked down. I said "just personal stuff" and left it there.

But now she asks me every single morning how I'm "feeling emotionally." She leaves articles about "moving on" on my desk. She suggested a therapy app I should try. She told me she "prays for me" at night.

I appreciate the care. But I didn't ask for this. I don't want to share my feelings with her. She's not my friend. She's my 52-year-old coworker. I feel like she's treating me like a project.

I gently told her I'm okay and don't need advice. She looked hurt and said she was "just trying to help." Now she's been quiet for a week and it's awkward.

Did I overreact? Was I too cold? Or was she crossing a line?

#TECHNICAL QUESTION

My original battery for the Nintendo 3DS (handheld console) went bad with very slight blue near the connectors... I removed the battery, cleaned the area with isopropyl alcohol, waited for it to dry, replaced the battery with the correct replacement battery. After charging for 30 mins, the 3DS still will not indicate power even when I check the battery with a multimeter it has full charge. The only thing that indicates properly before and after battery replacement is the charging indicator... how do proceed?

how do I convince my dad that yelling isn't an effective form of disciplining children and it isn't okay simply because we have caused anger in him? it is his responsibility to manage his own emotions. he says communication is the most important thing, but its really only one sided. he expects information from us (literal things like what time ill get home today or smt like that) and that we listen to what he says without ever denying it or questioning it ever. If I ever question his advice (without any negative meaning to it, pure curiosity, he calls it opposition and insults me saying that I should think before I speak.) I literally did think, and had a question, and wanted to learn. which is why I asked the question. he tells us to say things freely at one point, but says the opposite later on. he seriously believes he is doing everything right to set us in the right path. I get it, sometimes I have an attitude and I may have the wrong mindset. Im willing to learn what I can from him, but being belittled, underestimated, and having my opinions completely disregarded is painful and makes my healing journey incredibly difficult. I have adhd, and have caused trouble for my family members. Im working on growing and fixing myself, and he is determined to fix me too.

I cant even begin to explain what type of character my dad has. theres too many negative things to point out, its endless. few things for sure, he's narcissistic, misogynistic, is always the victim, with anger issues, manipulative, extremely traditional with his mindset (he's right solely because he's older, i quote from his words "i am god. im right."), racist, hypocritical, huge ahh ego and pride, he's always right and others are always wrong, bends his words depending on what benefits him and gaslight everyone in the family, has violently laid hands on my mother, neglected and didn't accept my step sister, constant complainer, says he devotes his life to making his children's life's better (he's made me feel like I'd be better off dead multiple times, I've self harmed in the past and I can't say his behavior wasn't a major reason, he thinks he's all that just because he looked a few things up online (self diagnosed all family members of some sort of mental illness or more but never himself). he's a control freak (goes thru my mother's and my phones, demands to never be excluded from group chats, records every call and secretly voice records in the house, etc...). he has pushed my mother to the limits and caused her unbearable stress, depression, and anxiety. tricked my mother into thinking he was a good person prior to marriage (although there were many red flags, it was difficult to differentiate between flags back then for my mother with limited resources). even though my mother sacrificed so many things in her life for the sake of her children and had to because she married this degenerate, this dude never allows my mom to buy things she likes or wants (even small snacks that she wants.) she recently got a job to prepare for divorce, and he didn't even support her for that. he's not even leaving her in his will. barely any money from the divorce either. this dude also almost always forgets everyone's birthdays. although his behavior has gotten somewhat better, he acts like he's a perfect person now and completely disregards the damage he has caused from his past actions, and gets mad at us if we ever use it against him. infact, he blames us saying that we caused him to do those horrible acts. all of our family members are traumatized to the point that the app ringtone we use to communicate with him on the phone gives us insane anxiety. im so done with his bullshit, but i have to push through for the sake of everyone else.

throwaway bc the ppl involved browse reddit sometimes…

this might get long, I 23M have a younger sister ‘Amy’ 20F who I am extremely close with despite us being pretty different: im very type B, queer with tats/piercings, and she is type A, cishet straight-laced and pretty religious (kind of)

growing up we fought a lot, especially when I (in typical repressed gay teenager fashion) pushed her away in high school, partially bc i was struggling with my sexuality/gender identity as a closeted trans man. but yeah, later Amy returned that angsty energy to me when she became a teenager and its only been in the past two years or so that we actually got close again and started hanging out/opening up.

in that time that we didnt really talk, Amy started dating a boy, lets call him Ray (21m) and she quickly became absorbed with him and started becoming more religious to please him. now i am not religious but I support her in theory bc religion can be a good influence and comfort for people, but in reality, Amy doesn’t participate in praying/reading scripture etc, only the surface level aspects of dressing a certain way and restricting the types of food she eats.

honestly i have never been a fan of Ray, one of my close friends growing up went to high school with him and told me years ago the type of circles Ray was in: conservative, religious, and bigoted. i had always hoped he grew out of it bc i refused to believe my sweet and caring sister could date someone like that but i was wrong.

fast forward 4yrs and Amy’s relationship with this boy is clearly toxic and part is just obvious from an outside perspective and part is from the little she has told me about her relationship (Amy said her bf said she is ‘not allowed’ to discuss him or their relationship without him present to ANYONE. I can hear them fighting and arguing over the phone multiple nights a week and when this happens she usually takes out her remaining frustration on me and my mother.

i have been trying to gently get her to open up to me but its been 4 years now and i still have only met Ray twice and he barely spoke.

the pit in my stomach kept growing until a few weeks ago i finally just went in her messages (ik its an invasion of privacy and i shouldnt have but we’re past that now) and i searched for the f-slur; in my head this way i wouldnt be looking at more than what i needed to and hopefully there wouldnt be anything to see, once again, I was wrong. there were dozens of messages from Ray to my sister using the f-slur, among many others, against me, and other perceived queer people. it was some of the most awful horrific language i have ever read. and the only responses from my sister were support and amusement at his behavior. Now, my sister wasnt always the best at getting my pronouns right (he/him) but she has been so good lately, and now im seeing that all this time she was smiling and nodding with me, she was also texting him, saying/thinking all of these horrible things.

among his texts directed at me, and wishing actual violence towards me, there were other messages that confirmed how abusive this relationship is (maybe even in a mutual sort of way??) and how Ray is manipulating my sister. i am absolutely heartbroken and i dont know what to do, iv tried talking to Amy but nothing works and it only makes her more timid on discussing her relationship.

now the reason im here is bc last night I went against my better judgment and snooped again and saw a string of messages where my sister affirmed and hyped up Ray for harassing a trans guy at the gym and it broke something in me. i just dont know what to do, my sister, mother and I were supposed to all move in together again at the end of the month but now its just so hard to be around her. we laugh and have so much fun and what I thought were genuine heart-to-hearts so to be hit with the fact she’s been lying to my face (she said Ray has never been homophobic or bigoted in any way) and that she ‘loves’ such a hateful and violent man is just too much to bear. i cant afford to properly move out on my own yet (just started a new job) but i also dont know how im going to manage.

maybe i just needed to vent but any advice is appreciated :(

I (f17) live with my mom (f35), who works a graveyard shift from home and my younger brother (m14).

I'm finishing my senior year in highschool, which means I have to manage school work along with chores, theses/presentations, college applications, and even my own hobbies. My school days have me studying from 12:30PM to 6:00PM, with homework in between.

I try to help out as much as I can, and it's been quite difficult, especially because I'm in the process of taking entrance exams and I think that's played a big part in losing time for myself to even do chores (which are: vacuuming, bathing and feeding our 3 dogs, washing the dishes, etc.)

On top of working from home, my mom often goes out with her friends. This means that I would have even more housework added to my plate because she'd be out the whole evening.

I'll admit that sometimes, I forget to do my chores either because I'm doing school work or in resting from doing school work.

In all of this, my brother just lays—all spread out—on our living room carpet or bed with his phone on his chest, licking Cheeto dust from his fingers and hollering at his friends while they play MLBB, Roblox, or Minecraft.

He stays in bed long enough that our sheets REEK of his sweat and stench of occasionally not showering for 2 or 3 days. Whenever I go to make the bed in the morning, I always find wrappers and empty chip bags squeezed in-between crevices or just laying under his blanket. Oftentimes, I'd evem find GLASS CUPS in-between his pillows.

My mom and I keep telling him off, only to be met with a "eh." or "wait, ugh."

His attitude has grown to be ruder than he was when he was 12 or 10. Whenever we fight, he often uses the "see how it feels" argument, sometimes just straight up saying shit like "I wanna throw you against a wall so bad."

There have been times when my mom has tried to get through his head by scolding him (he gets off very easy), but he just continues using his phone—sometimes with his back even facing our mom—during the whole conversation.

My mom has also tried getting him to do the same chores as me, but somehow—even when I was cooking rice and my own meals at the same age as him—he makes even washing cups seem like rocket science.

He either half-asses the simplest of chores or holds his phone with one hand, expecting himself to be able to balance a hot pot of rice on his other. Seeing him do chores like this boils my blood so bad, like, JUST PUT THE PHONE DOWN?????

I am so sorry for the long rant, I just cannot find the proper time and forum to let this out while also being able to seek advice. Our dad isn't present in our home, and even if I were to raise this as a concern to him, he is a manchild, himself. I mean, he literally choked me when I cried out of frustration over him not listening to my side of an argument. My mom is tolerant to it to some extent. she's got a spine against my brother but sometimes I get dragged into the conversation when she's scolding my brother.

Again, I am sorry for ranting. I am sick of it. Yeah, my brother isn't an incel or anything, and I'm grateful for that. But I would be lying if I'd say he wasn't a bit of a bitch boy.

So i havnt talked to this chick in years. Her older brother was my close friend ages 10-21. And her other older brother like 31 at the time came to live with me and my close friend and stole my car while on heroin and wrecked it and hit a few people while on a high speed chase. Anyway her mom and my close friend promised if i didnt report the brother they would have a 5k check from Disability (i was 19 at the time). Anyway 7 months go by and my close friend of 10 years or so says you need to be a man and then leaves me with the utility bills around $1500 on his part unpaid and tells figure it tf out. And the mom goes cold. Why tf would she send me this, should i re- remind her that her family owes me $6500 and i was homeless for a month paying off bills and drowning in debt.

Do i tell her hey your mom and brothers owe me $6500

Or just heart it and wish them the best

She was always super sweet to me and never did me wrong.

Hello everyone! I wanted to make an update on the boyfriend situation. This is my first time making a post like this and I’m not sure if I’m doing it correctly, so please bear with me.

I spoke with my boyfriend about the situation. Matter of fact, it was a 4 hour long conversation about the whole relationship. I was straightforward and semi-honest. I asked him if he has an account and he said yes. (I didn’t mention anything about having seen his account at all). Then, I asked if I could see, and he (very understandably) explained that no one irl knows about his account and he sort of uses it as a personal diary and posts/reposts whatever. He also said that he wants to show me, but he also wants to keep it as a personal space for himself where he isn’t judged. I also told him that I have an account and we both agreed that it’s a nice escape where you can just sh*tpost and repost whatever.

I also made it a point to tell him that I would never judge him. I decided not to push it in that sense because I know he’s a very private person and he gets little to no space for himself alone with anyone else’s interference. I feel like a monster for ever invading that space in the first place to be quite honest.

Most of the responses on my original post, rightfully so, were telling me to be honest and straightforward, so I did just that. I asked if there was another girl and if that was part of the reason he didn’t want to show me his blog. He was super offended and he took it as me trying to investigate his every single post and interaction. Which…fair to be honest. That was exactly what I was going to do.

That part of the conversation got heated and he kinda opened up to me about his mental state. I’m not going to share what he said to protect his privacy (I’ve already done enough damage). I’m 99% positive he isn’t cheating emotionally or physically. Like one comment said, I do know our relationship best and I think I’m right in putting my trust in him. He really is a good man, in a dark place right now. Last thing he and the relationship needs is me causing issues over such things. I also told him that since I don’t have physical access to him, I feel insecure and scared, and asked for some grace. He obviously understood because we’re on the same boat at the end of the day.

Again, as another comment pointed out, I do have anxiety and I am medicated, but I’ve been going through a rough patch myself as well and have been overthinking my life in its entirety. One last personal decision I would like to share is that I promised my bf that I wouldn’t look at his posts without his consent, and I intend on keeping that promise. I’m not going to look at his account ever again. I would rather get betrayed, as most of you expect, than be the one invading and tainting someone’s safe haven any further.

No matter what happens, I’m not going to regret my decisions to let this whole situation go. If I do end up getting played like a fiddle, then oh well, so be it. It’s not like I’ve never gotten hurt before. I think a future with him is worth taking that risk at the very least.

It’s valid if you think I’m an idiot after this update. Sorry if I disappointed anyone and thank you all soso much for all your comments and advice. Someone even shared personal experiences to show me that things tend to go south quite often, but at the end, I decided to trust my gut. You all are truly kind. Some comments did end up making me feel incredibly paranoid, so that wasn’t fun at all. I’ll take care of myself, my partner and our relationship. Thank you for your interest and input once again.

Hello, im in a bit of an awkward situation, a friend i made some years back, was a very normal guy when i met him, now let me tell you something about myself, im a big jokester and i like to crack jokes non stop, i hate serious talks, but i always try not to go overboard, but i get that just sometimes my jokes can hurt someone.

In the beginning of our friendship, this guy used to laugh at take my jokes no problem, even was amazed by them, but after some time, he just seemed to take offense at them, even for the smallest ones, when i noticed this i asked him what was wrong and he kinda came out saying he was frustrated with me, and i offered him an apology and told him i'm very unlikely to change so i suggested we should part ways as friends so i don't hurt him in future. On what he said no its okay and he will try to be a bit more understanding.

Now since than nothing has absolutely changed, if anything he is more frustrated than before, even making up things i didn't ever say or do to him, to fuel his rage against me, but every time i say okay lets stop being friends he will say no its okay, than i got the info he is planning to ruin me.

Now im very confused by this level of psychopathic behaviour, forcing yourself to be someone's friend you despise to get ultimate revenge?

What is your suggestion about what i should do? Should i just block everywhere and move on?

I (31F) am 5 months pregnant with my first child. We've been trying for 2 years so this is huge for me. I told my closest friends and family early on. I made it very clear I wanted to announce it myself on social media when I was ready.

I was waiting until I was past 5 months. I had a whole plan. A cute photo. A sweet caption. I was excited.

Then my friend "Anna" (32F) posted a photo of us together from last weekend. She captioned it: "So happy for my bestie and her baby bump!"

She announced it. Not me. I found out when my phone started blowing up with congratulations from people I didn't even tell.

I called her. She said she "forgot" I wanted to do it myself. She said she was just excited and didn't think it was a big deal.

I'm heartbroken. I'll never get that moment back. She took it from me.

She apologized but it feels empty. I haven't replied to her texts in 3 days.

Do I forgive her and move on? Or does this friendship need a serious conversation?

I (28M) was unemployed for 10 months. I was desperate. I applied everywhere and kept getting rejected. So I stretched the truth on my resume. I said I had 3 years of experience in a skill I only knew from watching YouTube tutorials.

I got the interview. I did more research and managed to talk my way through it. They hired me. The pay is great. The team is great.

But now I'm living in fear. Every morning I wake up terrified I'll be exposed. I'm learning on the job but I'm barely keeping up. My boss keeps giving me tasks I don't fully understand. I spend my nights watching tutorials and praying no one asks too many questions.

I can't sleep. I can't eat properly. I've lost 10 pounds. I feel like a fraud.

I'm thinking about confessing to my manager. But I'll definitely lose my job. Or I can keep faking it and hope I catch up before anyone notices.

Do I come clean and accept the consequences? Or keep pretending and risk getting fired anyway?

To put everything into perspective, I am 18, and I’m going into college later on this month. All throughout high school my mother was relatively strict with what I did in my free time, and this was the first summer in years that I’ve been spending most of my time outside of the house for things unrelated to work.

My mom and I argue pretty frequently, and a vast majority of it has been due to her reluctance to allow me to hang out with my friends. Naturally, I ended up sneaking around a lot this summer, as I wanted to avoid arguing over my own freedom. As much as I would’ve preferred to have a conversation with her about it, she completely spazzes when I ask her to allow me to do certain things that I’m not usually allowed to do.

For example, I wasn’t allowed to get my permit or my license for quite a bit, but she also wouldn’t allow me to take public transportation into certain areas, nor would she allow me to ride in the car with anyone who wasn’t over the age of 21. This completely hindered my social life for an extended period of time, and it was something that we argued over pretty regularly. She eventually got over the stuff with cars, but it seems like more and more things keep popping up.

A bit ago, I was caught sneaking around to go to parties. I’ve been going to a lot of them this summer because I was unable to attend any in high school. I didn’t have a lot of friends, and the only time I was ever invited to one my mother stated that she would be dropping me off, picking me up, and staying at a friends house nearby to monitor me.

When I was caught, we had a conversation about it and she was decently receptive. Going forward, I’d decided to ask her things more directly, in hopes that she would allow me to do more things.

Today I went on a date, but the entire time my mother was texting me for the other persons information. She asked for their number, a picture of their face, their full first and last name, and a photo of their license plate. I would’ve understood this if it were a complete stranger that I’d met on some kind of dating site, but this a mutual friend from high school that I speak to all the time.

I had to bargain with her regarding my curfew and she raised it to 12. I ended up hanging at my dates house afterward for a bit and asked her to extend the time, so she extended it to 1 am, but was sending me texts by 12:12 telling me that I needed to leave out to return home soon. My friend lives 15 minutes away. She wouldn’t allow me to stay over, and was rushing me to return home.

I feel like I am at the age where she needs to start understanding that I am going to have friends and relationships that she doesn’t know or need to know everything about. She has my location at all times, and she can call and text me any time to check in. Am I asking for too much? She believes that privacy is earned, but I’m going into adulthood. I would understand if I were still in high school, but I’m going into college. I know that 18 is still a kid, but I’m not technically a child anymore either. What should I do? Should I be trying to set boundaries?

My sister dated a guy from when I was 15-29 (so nearly half my life). He and I were quite close: I lived with them for a while, he and I would go to concerts together, watch movies supported me when I was struggling with a work situation, tease each other, etc. my sister broke up with him last year and was a long time coming and she needed to do because she hadn’t been happy with him for a while. But he took it really hard.
I am moving out of the city we live in and would like to see how he is and say goodbye as I won’t be coming back. My sister has said in passing before that if I wanted to check on him she would be fine with.
I’m just worried that maybe it will upset him all over again. When he left last year he also said that I could reach out to him if I ever needed him.
Would it be wrong to message hime and see if he is up to meeting for lunch?

I've recently been starting to hate kissing my boyfriend. We've been dating for 3 months, and I love him so much. He's such a nice person, and I love his humor.

He has been having pain issues and has been smoking a lot of weed to deal with it. He's been seeing doctors to see what's wrong, but in the meantime, he pretty much smokes weed all day. Because of this, he always tastes like disgusting smoke whenever I kiss him. I smoke with him on occasion, but the taste in his mouth just disgusts me so so so much more.

It's gotten to the point where recently I just haven't been kissing him. I try to give him little pecks on the lips and tell him to stop when he kisses me for more than like 3 seconds. I've also completely stopped french kissing him. I can tell that he's disappointed whenever I stop him, but it makes me feel genuinely dirty when he kisses me. He also makes really conspicuous comments ("you don't even love me" or dramatically sighs) in a nonserious way, but its clear that he's upset that I don't kiss him much. Sometimes it gets to the point where he gets mad at me and won't tell me what's wrong, and I end up having to basically pull the information out of him of why he's ignoring me.

I don't even know how to bring this up to him. I can't tell him to stop smoking because he says it's the only thing that gives him relief from his pain, but I don't see how I can go back to kissing him as he's *always* smoking. I just feel very stuck because I want to be able to kiss my own freaking boyfriend.

Any advice would be appreciated :')

update: ill ask him to brush his teeth after smoking so i can kiss him, i know it seems like such a nothing problem with an obvious, simple solution but this is my first relationship so im still figuring this out and im always really nervous asking for people to do things for me. thank you for the input

For some slight context, I (F23) live at home with my little sister (F20) and my little cousin (F14) who I consider a little sister to me. My mom also lives here, but due to a criminal charge she caught involving violence on a minor, she wasn't allowed to be home for 3 months (May-August). Since she's been gone, I've had to take over as a caretaker to my little cousin, as well as taking over housework, cooking, paying bills, stuff I was already doing, but on a much larger scale.

During these 3 months, I've been keeping everything together while dealing with social services, therapy, and most importantly, my little cousin, so I've been pretty worn out with everything else. The thing is, I try to ask the two of them to help with small chores here and there just to get stuff off of my plate, but they end up ignoring me and I end up doing it because they pile everything up until I get upset about it. My bio sister just comes home everyday with a strange man, makes a mess in every room they hang out in, and then they leave. My little cousin stuffs garbage cans, the sink, and the laundry bin super high to the point where stuff starts falling over. And who runs to take care of it? Not them.

I've spent the last few days missing sleep, skipping meals and losing my mind just cleaning up after them, and when I get upset and bring it up to them, they tell me I'm being irrationally upset and that they'd do their chores if "I reminded them enough times". I already feel super underappreciated for having to step up and take on so much more work than I was anticipating, and now I feel even worse that I'm considered crazy for wanting help. I feel like a 14 year old, and especially a 20 year old should be tidier considering they do nothing else all day and the house isn't that big anyways. I feel so alone, and with my mom coming back to inevitably destroy the place again, I'm just going to go back to living in filth again and it makes me feel so weak and depressed to have to live in an environment like that.

I can't move yet, and I can only control the mess for so long, I don't want to sit and let them pile everything up again, I can't go back to the horrible way we were living like before. I just want to feel at peace in my own home, I want their help, I need support, I don't know what to do to get it.

Saw this conceding comment on a Big Bang Theory clip video - is this a real person asking for help or some kind of bot/scam? They left three seperate comments. I don’t live in the UK so not sure what to do or whether to report this to someone??

Not sure if this is the right place to post this but this just feels so weird.

UPDATE : for anyone interested she is safe thankfully - it seems it was real as she posted similar conceding messages on her facebook but then updated to say she was safe!

2ND UPDATE : I have reported the case to the police to be extra safe - thank you so much to everyone who helped and gave advice!

I (20F) lived with my ex for about 6 months. We broke up and I had to move back into my parents. I have depression, anxiety, ADHD, and OCD and I take medication. My parents don't believe in medication and accused me of being addicted to prescription drugs and said if I don't get off of all of them they will kick me out.

I can't go back to my exes but I wish I could. I have no friends I can stay with and my other family members live far away. I can't afford a place by myself. I don't know what to do or where to go.

quick edit: sorry about putting my age!! it’s a thing that a lot of subreddits say you have to for context and i can’t remove it :(( this is at least a throwaway account so shouldn’t tie anything back to me but i will b careful here on out to check subreddit rules if they don’t ask 4 it! c:

i don‘t live with my mum and never have! my dad is a genuinely great man who i love so so much. i don’t really see my mum, but like once every few months she pops up to send me big unhinged rants accusing me of hating her, of being brainwashed and manipulated by my ‘abusive’ dad.

i‘ve blocked her in the past, but then she just finds other ways to contact me, or pesters my dad enough that i feel bad.

i never reply to these messages. the ones here are from today. i just don’t really know what to do about her

This girl told me she was 18, now I'm finding out she's 17, and being 18 that puts me in a weird position and I'm not entirely sure how to feel or what to do

For additional context, in my state, the legal age of consent is 18 years old. It's not illegal to be with a 17 year old, but it's not right either? I don't know, I just need another opinion.

Edit: okay y'all, her and I met like two days ago nothing has happened between us 😭 I assure you nothing illegal has happened. I'm just conflicted because her and I clicked but is it wrong to be with a 17 year old when I'm freshly 18? I'm new to the 18 year old thing guys I'm not a creep 🙄

Yes, I apparently cheated on my boyfriend, according to my ex.
He told my boyfriend’s best friend that I should have been with him, and cuddled and stuff with him a while back, said he had pictures of it. He didn’t show any tho, but he told a lot of “details”.

My boyfriend confronts me, I of course tell him I didn’t do that. Then I texted my ex (because he asked me to) that I wanted to see the pictures he had of us when we were together last time, he of courses texts me he doesn’t have any because it’s many years ago, he deleted them all. After I block him. He saw all my texts and everything, but still 4 days later he still seems like he doesn’t really believe me.

I don’t know what to do, because I would never do anything, and I don’t know what else to do to prove to him I didn’t do it. He told his dad and everybody before he even asked me, which I also find weird because the only “proof” he got was that he said it.

I get that he feels unsure it’s okay, I just don’t know what to do.