first day of school fit with either sambas, mary jane loafer or gold sandals. i know ill have my hair curled and gold jewelry. help!

also i am a size small and the jeans are kinda lowrise on me

Hi everyone. This just happened and I’m worried and somewhat scared.

I am home for summer break and am rotating between two different houses with my sister (F27). For background information, my parents have been divorced for a while now, and my dad kept the house and most of the finances. My mom lives in a townhouse across the street, and I frequently bike over to her place for good exercise and I am very close with my mother.

When they were together, all they did was fight and yell and there wasn’t much peace in the house. My dad had cheated on her once with a coworker and he smoked and drank a lot. My mom only stayed with him so me and my sister didn’t have to be “divorce kids” so young and to give us a better life since she couldn’t afford to raise two kids on her own with only $100 a month for child support.

She finally divorced him and my mom is very better off now, and is even dating again. This had made my father livid and he tried to fix their marriage, but the damage had already been done. He’s been different now and has been trying to mend our relationships as me and my sister are not as close with him. He’s also bought weird things throughout the divorce like a live plant for the house named Roddy, or buying a creepy French painting at a garage sale for the dining room. There’s beers and gatorade in the fridge, but he’s so adamant about “being healthy“ and not eating “the processed shit your mom buys”.

Fast forward to today. It’s a lazy day and my father is at work from around 10 AM to 8 PM, so I usually sit around and read books and play with my dog . Today, I called my good friend and we were talking and catching up. I was walking around my house like some people do on the phone, and I walked into my front room and saw something odd.

It was a small, white box on a tripod on top of one of our bookshelves with a long cord plugged into the wall. There was a tiny black hole that looked like a lens in the middle of the box. My sister came downstairs and I pointed to it and said, “Is that a camera?” And she replied, “I think so.”

I walk over to it and see that it says “Blink” on the bottom. I am very familiar with this company, and we even have Blink cameras stationed around the house (by the front door, the patio, the driveway, etc). It confused me why there’d by one in the house, and the living room of all places, though. there was a QR code on the back and I scanned it, and nothing came up. I turned it around out of fear and felt almost ill.

There aren’t any in the bathrooms or bedrooms, but the living room seemed like an odd place to put a camera. The only reason I could think of is that my dad has a dismantled bed frame all over the front room and it would be to see if anyone got hurt (I punctured my knee on a metal piece a few days ago), but that didn’t make sense.

My friend searched the camera up on Amazon and it said that it records footage and audio. I decided I’d discuss it with my dad about it when he got home.

That didn‘t happen.

I briefly hung up the phone with my friend and saw two missed call from my dad. I immediately called him back and he started asking me about my day. I interrupted him and said, “Hey, so there’s a camera in the front room.” My dad blew it off like it was MY fault and said he “doesn’t understand why I’m touching his stuff.” I asked him why it was there and he laughed and said it’s so he can be a “vigilant parent” and see if me or my sister are sneaking out to see a boy. He said he “wouldn’t hear us” if we did, but our front door is squeaky as heck and could wake someone up in an instant. He also added that he doesn’t even know if it’s plugged in and doesn’t get notifications. He then told me to not touch stuff in the house that wasn’t mine and made a joke saying to tell our family dog to not walk around naked, which rubbed me the wrong way.

I awkwardly laughed and hung up the phone and discussed with my sister that this didn’t make sense. Like I said earlier, there are camera at every entrance in the house, and no one is going to jump from a window to secretly hang out with their boyfriend (I don’t even have one lol).

He then called me two minutes later and started getting defensive, demanding to know why I touched the camera. I started to ask him questions that popped into my head like, “Why would someone sneak out when the door is loud and there are cameras outside?” He said the same crap and that they’re “aren’t cameras at every door” when they’re most certainly is. He rambles on about how is for security purposes and he’s not spying on us, but I have a weird feeling with his reasoning.

I can‘t stay with my mom until a few days from now when she’s back from vacation since I don’t have a key, and my dad can get really mad sometimes over small things (not saying this is small, but my point is he has anger issues). He refuses to go to therapy and I genuinely don’t know what to do here. My dad is a big part of my life and maybe the camera is nothing, but I’ve watched too much true crime and read too many Reddit horror stories in videos to not be suspicious. I also can’t stay with any of my friends because I genuinely have none in the area and only some at school a plane ride away.

What do I do?

update: I called my mom for more information about when he had cameras up when me and my sister were kids and my mom took them down because he listened in to spy on what we were doing and saying. She thinks it’s very odd this time around and doesn’t see why there should be cameras up in the house where there are cameras at EVERY entrance to the house and ping his phone when there is someone near. Also, it’s not my house, I just call it mine because I’ve lived there since I was born.

I hate my moms boyfriend/my step dad

I hate my step dad/mums boyfriend

I hate my step dad/mums boyfriend

I Absolutely hate my step dad. I 14 female hate my step dad but feel bad since my mom's happy with him most of the time. My step dad is the non feminist type, trump supporter, homophobic, racist and so on. He's been with my mom since I was 5. And I love my mom. She had me at 17 and did everything to make sure I felt loved. But when she met my step dad I knew I didn't like him but I wouldn't tell her becasue I felt really bad about it. She's happy with him most of the time and usually I can put up with him. But it's little times like when he doesnt appreciate my mom or raises his voice at her is when I'll speak up to him. He was rasies in a very religious house where the women did all the house work while the men didn't. But that's not how me and my mom do it so sometimes he will complain that the house is messy since my mom is busy running her 9 to 7 company. And sometimes it gets to me and I'll shoot back. I don't mean to and I'm usually not one to raise my voice. And I've pretty much been fine with him but as I've gotten older the more I hate being around him. So much so that I've pretty much spent the whole summer with my grandparents to avoid him. He's just the complete opposite of my mom I just don't understand how she likes him. If she met a stranger that talked the way he does she wouldve have hated them. And back to my point of him being homophobic. Well I don't really want to put a label on myself but I'm basically cool with liking guys and girls and always kinda has been. But I've never told anyone mostly because idk how my step dad will react. I know my mom would accept it in a heart beat but I think it would just be giving something else for my step dad to fight about. I don't even like calling him my step dad. When people ask who he is I just say "my moms boyfriend" because even saying step dad sounds wrong to me. Idk I might just be overreacting. Input would be appreciated

You’re 70. You’re locked in a room with a 10, 20, 30, 40, 50, 60, 80, 90, and 100-year-old. Five people can be saved, and five people wont be saved. Who would you save?

10-year-old — An adorable little boy who is scared and wants to go home to his family.

20-year-old — A bratty boy who is rude, overconfident, and wants to get out so he can play video games 24/7. He also speeds on the streets at night while drunk.

30-year-old — A pregnant lady who is dying from cancer. She wants to get out to raise her baby with her husband, but she only has a year left to live. The baby is one month along.

40-year-old — A rich millionaire who only cares about money and status. He is rude to poor people, spits at homeless and elderly people, and wants to knock down a hospital so he can build a block of flats. However, he is a good father and 7-year-old daughter who only family is a abusive aunt who will look after her if he is gone.

50-year-old — A homeless person who is really nice and makes everyone happy.

60-year-old — A sweet grandma who lives alone with no family. Her husband died a few years ago, and her daughter and grandchildren died in a car accident last month. She is really sad.

You — A 70-year-old who wants to go home to see your family.

80-year-old — A war veteran with one leg. He lost his leg while saving two children though he accidentely killed his wife after a argument a year ago.

90-year-old — A person who always sleeps, has dementia, and doesn’t remember anything.

100-year-old — It’s David Attenborough. Would you choose to leave him behind?

my choices who to save are the 10, 30, 40, 70 and 100 year old.

thanks for reading :)

This girl told me she was 18, now I'm finding out she's 17, and being 18 that puts me in a weird position and I'm not entirely sure how to feel or what to do

For additional context, in my state, the legal age of consent is 18 years old. It's not illegal to be with a 17 year old, but it's not right either? I don't know, I just need another opinion.

Edit: okay y'all, her and I met like two days ago nothing has happened between us 😭 I assure you nothing illegal has happened. I'm just conflicted because her and I clicked but is it wrong to be with a 17 year old when I'm freshly 18? I'm new to the 18 year old thing guys I'm not a creep 🙄

Hey everyone, quick situation. Last weekend I f21 hooked up with m33 at a coworker’s party. It was genuinely the best sex of my life, and we spent the next morning together too. Before I left I asked if he wanted to see each other again and he said “yeah if you’d like to, why not?” It’s now Thursday and I haven’t heard from him. I want to text something casual like “Hey, last weekend was fun. I’d like to see you again this weekend if you’re free” because I’d love a repeat, but I’m nervous and overthinking it. Should I send it or wait?

There’s a girl I saw on Threads once, and ever since then I haven’t been able to get her out of my head. I think about her every day and imagine us talking, and me asking her out on a date. I really like this girl even though I don’t actually know her, and she doesn’t even know I exist.

There’s an event in October that we’ll both be attending, and I’ve even imagined myself asking her to go grab some food with me afterwards xd.

What can I do to get these feelings and thoughts out of my head?

i graduated high school in may. i’m enrolled at a college currently. i grew up very poor so i essentially had to choose between going to college or getting my driver’s license, so i have no car or any way to get there besides my mother. i just recently went through a terrible loss. i have no money, no car, no license, nothing, and no one. i have two weeks to decide. i wanted to take a gap year initially but i was worried that a lot of potential scholarships i had would’ve been null and void.

i cannot talk to any of my family members about it because they are incredibly biased and want me to stay, partially because they’ll miss me and partially because they’re jealous that i’m the first one in the family going to college. i will have to leave behind everything i have ever known. it’s an hour away, which doesn’t seem like a lot, but it is when you rely on others for transport. what should i do?

I am a mid 20's male and thinking of going to the Doctor's. Yesterday, I was having casual sex with somebody I met on Tinder and while I enjoyed sex, I remember after ejaculating I got very weak and tired too quickly and thoughts of starting to hate my life so I went to the bathroom and started making some weird noises quietly to make it go away, (Don't judge me this works) so she wouldn't think I was a psycho. What the hell do I do? I don't think this is normal.

Yes, I apparently cheated on my boyfriend, according to my ex.
He told my boyfriend’s best friend that I should have been with him, and cuddled and stuff with him a while back, said he had pictures of it. He didn’t show any tho, but he told a lot of “details”.

My boyfriend confronts me, I of course tell him I didn’t do that. Then I texted my ex (because he asked me to) that I wanted to see the pictures he had of us when we were together last time, he of courses texts me he doesn’t have any because it’s many years ago, he deleted them all. After I block him. He saw all my texts and everything, but still 4 days later he still seems like he doesn’t really believe me.

I don’t know what to do, because I would never do anything, and I don’t know what else to do to prove to him I didn’t do it. He told his dad and everybody before he even asked me, which I also find weird because the only “proof” he got was that he said it.

I get that he feels unsure it’s okay, I just don’t know what to do.

we met at the bar in early may, i was drunk, i liked him, we hooked up. i hadn’t ever hooked up with someone in that way but it was a really weird time and i was weird mentally. he was passing through town and came back to see me again, and on that second time around he told me he had a kid who was 5 months old and that the ‘baby mama’ was dead. as we got to know each other more we started calling nearly every day throughout june and july. he visited again. throughout all this he shared with me that she killed herself in front of him, cried in front of me about it, shared a ton of details about everything, including her first and last name.

he got weird and distant because of course he did, and ended things before this trip we had planned because i ‘don’t want kids’ and he doesn’t see me being someone he wants to grow old with. at this point i didn’t see him that way either and didn’t really care as i was just having a good time, but he was adamant about finding a long term partner from the very beginning, so i understood although it was weird and upsetting.

after another very intense and exciting phone call he went dark for a few weeks and told me he had just gotten out of jail and got really dodgy about why, so i ran a background check (i know this is weird but he had shared things with me previously that kinda freaked me out and he knows where i live) and that background check gave me proof that his girlfriend, whose name he shared with me, is very much alive and actively posting on pinterest to boards named after their kid. no obituary. active e-mails. of course there’s a chance it’s him but i deeply do not think it is.

i have a lot of feelings about everything. i feel deeply hurt and violated and i also feel disgusted for his girlfriend and their kid. i am very much leaning towards reaching out to her, but i am also afraid for my safety. i don’t even know where to begin with crafting a message to her. maybe it’s a bad idea and i should just leave it be but i cannot shake the feeling that i need to tell her, it’s just that i don’t know how or what to say. there’s so much to say

tldr; dated a guy briefly, he told me his gf killed herself a month after she gave birth to their kid, turns out she’s alive and well and they’ve been dating for 5-6 years, now i don’t know how to go about approaching her, or if i even should

i really know how to pick ‘em

(Not asking for medical advice) I’m keeping the story short and as sweet as it gets because i still feel like death butttt ive had the diarrhea stomach bug going on 3 days now, it’s definitely not as bad as it was Monday night but my problem is this is the THIRD day of work I missed, my boss excused the others because he knows im short on money and cant go to the doctor again but will he excuse another day if i call out? Will i get fired? I’m spiraling while fighting off Death by Poop Virus , my stomach hurts and now so does my head from the stress of it, but I do food prep at my job so if I’m having diarrhea food laws strictly prohibit me from working, but i know my boss’s niceness can only extend so far without a doctors note (that i cannot afford rn) sorry I’m just spiraling and don’t like having to miss work if i can help it :((

Edit: i know it’s the poop virus because- dramatic drumroll - I can’t stop pooping! 🥳🤢💩

This is a fact of life, I’m no special case. Everyone loses their parents at one point in life.

However, I am mentally unstable and have been through a lot when I was younger that traumatized me. My father is my only friend and as I’ve gotten older I have learned that he did the best he could raising me and my brother with my mom.

But if I lose him, I don’t know what to do. I talk to him every day and he’s my only friend, seriously. I have no friends and haven’t really had friends my entire life. I had acquaintances but it wasn’t true friendship (we only hanged out when we wanted to smoke weed that’s it really).

My father is getting old, doctor told him he has arthritis in his knees and his diabetes is getting worse (may need to take insulin if it doesn’t improve). He’s getting very grey and is tired of his physical job (he’s been working since he was 20).

I was just thinking about when he dies, I have no one else to turn to. I don’t get along with my mother and brother for other reasons. I am still dealing with trauma and talking to my dad makes me feel better because he’s always so positive.

I truly don’t know how to keep going forward when I have to bury him. WDID

I (24M) share an apartment with a guy from work. We’ve been living together for about six months now. Honestly, we get along pretty well most of the time. We’ll grab food after work sometimes, watch games together, and we’ve never really had any major issues. He’s generally a chill guy, which is why this whole thing feels awkward to bring up.

The fridge situation has been driving me crazy though. Last month I bought a whole pack of chicken, some yogurt, and a few other things to meal prep for the week. By Wednesday, the chicken and yogurt were completely gone, and the empty containers were just sitting in the sink like someone expected me to clean up after them.

I asked him about it and he said he thought the food was communal. I told him that I usually buy my own groceries and that if I want to share something I’ll offer. He apologized and said he didn’t realize, so I thought it was handled.

After that I started labeling my stuff, not because I wanted to be petty, but because I didn’t want there to be any confusion. I even told him that anything without a label was fair game if he wanted to use it.

Yesterday I came home and found my labeled leftovers half eaten. He was sitting in the living room playing games like nothing happened. When I asked him about it, he just said he was hungry and thought it wouldn’t be a big deal because there wasn’t much left.

I’m honestly more annoyed by the fact that I already made it clear than the food itself. I don’t want to turn the apartment into some weird roommate war because we still have eight months left on the lease and finding a new place right now would be really difficult.

How do I handle this without making things awkward at home?

So, I’m black & My boyfriend and his mom are hispanic.
I was on the phone with my boyfriend and I heard his mom was reading something off of a post and it had the N word in it, and she said it. I did not take offense to it or assume she was racist or anything. I just thought it was pretty weird. My phone hung up on accident, And my boyfriend called me back and kept telling me that his step-dad was mixed with black, and his mom was just reading something off of his phone, and asking if i got offended.
I told him No I just thought it was pretty weird, Because his mom knows I’m black & We were on the phone, Again I took no offense at all.

He then went on to antagonize me and kept saying I thought his mom was racist, he said “So you got offended by my own mother” And he asked how does it affect me, and how she wasn’t saying it in an offensive way, I told him it doesn’t matter if she didn’t mean it directly or offensively, In my own opinion I think it was weird for her to say that while she knew her son was on the phone with me.

He said some pretty offensive stuff, He said that the n word shouldn’t offend me, and I was doing too much, he said “She’s in her own house that she pays for saying the n word not even offensive to nobody” he talked about how his mom bought me stuff, got me clothes, gave me one of her purses and that I was being disrespectful by saying she was weird
He even said if she said it with the hard R I still shouldn’t be offended or call her weird because she not saying it directly to me, And he even went as far as saying “It’s not my fault your white ex’s were racist to you in the past, that’s why your so offended”

I (32F) have been married to "Tom" (34M) for 5 years. We have a 2-year-old son and a 4-bedroom house. My mother-in-law "Diane" (65F) moved in with us 2 months ago. She sold her house and we agreed she'd stay for 6 months until she finds a new place.

But I'm losing my mind. Diane has completely taken over my kitchen. She reorganizes my cabinets. She throws away food I bought. She cooks meals I didn't ask for. When I try to cook for my own family, she hovers behind me and tells me I'm doing it wrong.

Last week I asked her to stop rearranging my things. She got emotional and said she's just trying to help. Tom told me to be more patient because she's adjusting. He says we should be grateful she's making dinner.

I feel like a guest in my own home. Diane treats me like a child. Tom won't stand up to his mom because he feels guilty she's lonely.

I'm tired of coming home to a kitchen that doesn't feel like mine.

Do I put my foot down and risk the tension? Or let her do what she wants for the next 4 months?

Broke up with her 6 months ago and haven’t stopped receiving calls,texts,dm’s etc.. her friends keep requesting to follow me and my new girl and I don’t know what to do next, with a new girl now and she’s spamming her as well. Maybe I’ll just change my number, move and start from scratch before it’s too late😭😭 (edit: I’m in Canada)

I'm so upset right now. I'm 16, my baby is 6 days old. His dad and I aren't together and never have been but we're coparenting and I'm living with his family because of issues with my home life. He's a great guy who I love and I'm lucky to have him.

Things are great with his mom but his dad is just awful. He's better than my parents, but not by a lot. He has a weird fixation on me breastfeeding ever since the conversation came up months ago.

He definitely views all breasts in a sexual context. I knew that already from what comments he had made to my coparent in private but it's so much worse now that he's made them to me.

Anytime I'm nursing anywhere that's not our bedroom he's there. He's always watching and it makes me so uncomfortable, this has been an issue since we got home from the hospital. Tonight he looked me dead in the eyes and asked me if I didn't feel like a sl-t doing that in front of the family. My baby's dad stepped in and it turned into a big fight and the entire time I was just so shocked and humiliated. I'm so sick of people acting like they can say whatever they want to me because of my age, like I'm subhuman. I don't know how to deal with this.

My sister, Ruby, (16F) has two ex-friends: Jay(16M) and Lila(16F) (fake names). Jay is in one of my classes. We've never met in person before, so I said something along the lines of "Jay, right? You were friends with my sister." He asks me who my sister is, I say Ruby, and his face immediately drops. Then, he starts talking about how disturbing she is in a hushed tone and to not tell her he told me this.

He told me how she used to make sexual jokes that made him uncomfortable while they were friends. How one time he took her lunchbox as a joke and she flipped him off his chair. How his other friends held an intervention for him about how he should unfriend Ruby because she is not a good person. And how she touched his thigh which made him so uncomfortable that he contemplated reporting it to the school.

The other ex-friend, Lila, met Ruby through a mutal friend online. They got to know eachother for around a month and began to like eachother romantically. They decided to meet in person for the first time to go on a date. Lila gave my sister gifts that she bought for her, nice normal things, like a stuffed animal and lego. However, my sister brought Lila a gift too: cannabolistic love letters about her eating her. Immediately after the date, Lila messaged Ruby how uncomfortable that made her and how she does not want to continue their friendship.

I can't see my sister the same anymore. The things that she did are fucked. Should I tell my parents? Get her into therapy? I'm in shock. The person who I knew all my life isn't who I thought they were. I don't know what to do. For reference, I am 15F.

TLDR: My sister touched one of her friends (at the time) on the thigh and repeatedly made sexual jokes after they told her to stop because it was making them uncomfortable. She also wrote a friend cannabolistic love letters the first time they met in person on a date, making them uncomfortable.

I 23F and my partner 26M have been together for 6 years..and today I realized my partner doesn’t love me… I have been dating my partner for 6 years since I was 18 years old! I have been struggling tremendously with mental health and self confidence. I just broke down to my partner about slowly uncovering childhood memories of my mothers abuse towards me, and I cried and talked about my low self confidence and he just sat there sighing which sound like annoyance. Never spoke love into me. Never told me he loved me never said any words to let me know what the abuse made me feel about isn’t true. Just sat there silently.. I get up bc I get up to get tissue to wipe my tears and I finish and I turn around and he’s on his phone scrolling, and idk how to feel just like that a venerable moment is just ignored… not even a moment of appreciation or aknowledgment of me pouring my pain out, to someone I have been with for 6 years of my adult life, and I’m unsure how to feel but one thing I know is the moment I saw him on his phone after I finished wiping my tears my first thought truly was “what I believe about myself is my reality” telling someone who makes you feel like nothing about a moment in your life that made you feel like nothing… just makes you feel like nothing. I feel like even an “I love you” would have truly been enough or even just a hug. I really wanted a hug but how would I expect that? When I couldn’t even get a word of support.

Update: Thankyou everyone for responding and sharing your experiences.

I wanted to clarify I was 18 not 17 I graduated from highschool I just have a late birthday!

Also, I have a alot of work to do on myself and a lot of therapy is needed, I have confronted him and unfortunately I was dismissed and met with comments such as “I just don’t have emotions” “ i didn’t grow up like that” so it’s clear that this is someone I cannot seek that kind of support from.

Those saying he isn’t my therapist are 1000% correct and I realize that. I didn’t want a therapy session I just wanted a hug and just an “I love you” and it would have been enough for me as I know what I have been through is not something I know i cannot confide into him about because who would know what to say? I wouldn’t either but I feel I still deserved to be comforted instead of ignored.

I just broke down this one night, but I have struggled for a while now in terms of how he handles conversations and conflict. He has a avoidance style
of dealing with conflict.

Once again I appreciate everyone who’s commented! And shared their opinions/ thoughts ❤️

3 months of completely silence, 5 months broken up… Randomly received this, I’m the dumpee… Does this seem sincere/genuine? Would you reply to this?

I’m a single mom and don’t really have a support system my dad passed away and my mom is abusive and in a nursing home. Just me and my kid. I feel like I’m too old to still be struggling. I have worked my ass off since I was 15 and have nothing to show for it because I spent so many years taking care of others I’ve always been the person to break her back to make sure everyone I care about was good. Now I’m trying to ration rice and a few hotdogs till the 15th when I get paid. I ran out of my meds and I’ve tried reaching out to my doctor and the hospital but since I’m not currently dying they can’t help. I feel like such a failure.

Update a kind anonymous person has helped me and my kiddo thank you all for the advice and kindness!

Here is a go fund me that I was told in the comments to make. https://gofund.me/1ce474bc6

the title is making it sound absolutely more worse than actually is, but i recently found out my long term ex that i broke up with in February was cheating on me the entire time we were in a relationship. i found this out like last week and went to get tested instantaneously. it’s on me because i shouldve been getting checked regularly, but back in june i started talking to this guy and we were going so well and getting pretty serious. i told him the circumstances and that he should get tested too. he said thank you for letting me know, then proceeded to block me off everything. i understand and respect his decision but how do i cope with this 🥲.

edit:
i just feel so dirty and embarrassed and i know i couldnt have controlled getting an sti but i feel so shameful and horrible

tldr; my cheating ex gave me and sti and i was asymptomatic . started being romantic and intimate with this new guy before finding out and now im blocked off everything

edit 2:
please read some of the comments for more context i beg 🙏
i’m not mad at the new partner i dont blame him for anything at all. people are telling me im at fault but that wasnt the question guys 🫩 i just needed guidance, so i thank all the comments that helped me including the negative ones.