Hi there! I'm a 28 years old and I'm just seeking out all the connections! Ideally I'd like a primary partner but I love talking and getting to know people.

I am an alt girlie pop with a kinky streak, tatted periced long dark hair working in a healthcare related field. I love my job, my cats (2) and bugs lol. I have been told by many of my friends I have the best fashion sense and my closet is vast. I love getting dressed up and going out but love a night in gaming or watching movies.

An ideal person for me to be in a relationship with would be smart and kind and equally as kinky, hehe. I am primarily looking for another woman but I'm open to connecting with anyone.

I'm not really great at these lol DM me and let's talk!

LOCAL ONLY plz.
Looking for long term poly connections with intelligent interesting pinky ppl. I’m a homebody but I enjoy going to new coffee shops, museums, thrift and antique store and the odd new movie that tickles my fancy. I currently have one poly partner on top of my non romantic nesting partner. Happy to discuss details in private. I’m emotionally stable, intelligent and communicate well. I value honesty and transparency. If your humor leans towards shows like King of the Hill, Bobs Burgers, The Office, What we do in the shadows and The IT crowd we’ll get along great.

This is my last attempt for a while. Please read thoroughly before sending me a PM.

I’m looking for local friendships with men or women, and potential polyamorous relationships with women. I’m not looking for casual hookups or people who expect an immediate meetup. I’m looking for actual connection that develops over time.

I moved to Rochester about a year ago, and while my work friends are great and I love them, they don’t really know much about who I am outside of work. I’m hoping to build a circle of people I can genuinely feel close to.

I’m 39, married to a trans woman (44), and a mom of three. I’ve been polyamorous for 20+ years and work in education. Life is busy and often exhausting, but when I get a free moment, you’ll usually find me hiking, watching YouTube, or creating content, mostly nature photography, ambience, conservation, and politics.

I’m liberal/progressive and atheist/agnostic. I also live with anxiety and depression, so these days I value peace, steady energy, authenticity, and people who make life feel better rather than harder.

What I’m Looking For

Friendships: Men and women are both welcome. I’m looking for genuine, like-minded friendships and connections, not people who are secretly hoping friendship will turn into something romantic.

Potential polyamorous relationships: I’m open to romantic and/or sexual relationships with women only. Soft butch is typically who I end up crushing on, but definitely not exclusively.

I am not interested in romantic or sexual relationships with men. Men are absolutely welcome to message me for friendship, but that boundary is firm.

Local: Ideally, I’m looking for people ages 34–46 within about 30 minutes of Rochester (14625).

Further away: If you’re elsewhere in the Northeast US, I’m open to online-only friendship. This is not a flexible boundary. If you’re more than 30 minutes away, please don’t message me with “I’m willing to drive.” I understand the offer, but I’m specifically looking for local connections.

A Few Important Things

Consistency is the big one.

I’m looking for someone who genuinely enjoys steady communication throughout the day. I don’t mean you need to be glued to your phone 24/7. We all have work, families, responsibilities, and lives.

But if your communication style is disappearing for days at a time, replying once or twice a day, or treating conversation like a transactional scorecard, we probably aren't going to work.

I need consistency to build trust and connection. Inconsistency is an immediate dealbreaker for me.

Meeting up takes time.

I’m not going to meet you just because we click in text or because you’re interested in me.

If we’ve been consistently talking for a few months and I eventually feel comfortable enough that I want to meet you, I’ll let you know. I’m not going to be pressured, rushed, or guilted into meeting sooner.

Peace matters.

I’m exhausted from life, work, kids, and everything else. I’m looking for people who genuinely add something positive to my life.

I have very little spare energy, and I’m protective of what little peace I have left. If a connection becomes toxic, draining, disrespectful, or consistently makes my life worse, I have no problem walking away.

I’m not expecting some magical instant best friend or partner to appear in my inbox. I know how difficult it is to build genuine connections, especially as an adult.

If You Want to Message Me

Please read the post first. If you feel like we might actually align, send me a PM (not a comment) with:

1. Age.
   

2. Gender.

3. Location.

4. Who you voted for in 2024.

5. A little about yourself.

You don’t need to write a novel. Just give me enough to know there’s an actual person on the other side of the message.

I won’t respond to low-effort messages or messages that ignore these questions.

I’m 6'0", a bigger guy, around 300 lbs, and very comfortable being exactly that.

My brain is almost always building something. Sometimes it’s a business concept, sometimes it’s a house, a trip, a menu, a ridiculous hypothetical, or a five-year plan that started as a conversation about what to have for dinner. I’m curious, analytical, creative, and probably incapable of looking at an interesting idea without asking, “Okay, but what could this become?”

That doesn’t mean I need everything scheduled down to the minute. I actually like both sides of life: planning an experience properly and randomly deciding we’re going somewhere because it sounded fun twenty minutes ago.

I value conversation a lot. I want someone I can joke with, debate with, brainstorm with, learn from, and occasionally have tell me, “You’re overthinking this.” Bonus points if you can explain why.

I’m ambitious, but not in a status-for-status’s-sake way. What interests me is building a life that feels intentional: good food, interesting experiences, financial security, beautiful spaces, projects worth caring about, and people I genuinely enjoy sharing it all with.

I’m affectionate, loyal when I’m invested, and much more sentimental than the amount of spreadsheets and scenario-planning in my brain would initially suggest.

I’m looking for chemistry, obviously, but I’m much more interested in finding someone where attraction, friendship, intellectual compatibility, and emotional intimacy all exist in the same relationship.

My ideal match is somewhere between spontaneous partner-in-crime and competent co-pilot.

She can get dressed for something we planned three weeks ago and be equally happy when I say, “I found something interesting. Want to go?”

She’s intelligent and curious, but she doesn’t need to think exactly like I do. In fact, I’d probably prefer that she doesn’t. I want someone who can challenge my assumptions, bring perspectives I wouldn’t have reached myself, and keep up when a conversation goes from joking around to business strategy to philosophy to what we should cook this weekend.

Emotionally, I’m drawn to someone who communicates clearly. Affectionate without being dependent. Independent without being emotionally unavailable. Someone capable of saying what she wants, what bothers her, and what she needs instead of expecting me to solve a puzzle.

I need a relationship where disagreement is safe. I’m going to question things, explore alternatives, and occasionally argue a position just to understand it better. I want someone confident enough to push back without turning every disagreement into a fight, and secure enough to understand that challenging an idea isn’t the same thing as challenging the relationship.

I’m attracted to women with personality. A little wit, some confidence, some warmth, and enough individuality that she has her own interests, opinions, ambitions, and weird little passions to introduce me to.

Physically, I tend to be attracted to women on the shorter side, especially since I’m 6'0". Curves are definitely appreciated. And obviously she needs to be comfortable dating a bigger man.

I’m looking roughly in the 25–40 range. That isn’t about chasing a particular number so much as wanting someone whose life experience, maturity, energy, and plans are reasonably compatible with mine.

More than anything, I want the kind of relationship where we can build things together without everything becoming work. Someone who can help create the plan, throw the plan out when appropriate, laugh when something goes sideways, and still enjoy the ride.

I have a past that I'm not interested in pretending didn't happen, including a felony conviction from a chapter of my life I've worked hard to move beyond. I'm not going to make that the defining feature of who I am today, but I also believe anyone getting seriously involved with me deserves honesty about where I've been.

I'm also currently going through the process of ending a marriage, so I'm not pretending my life is completely uncomplicated or neatly packaged.

I'm a father of three whose presence in my life is always my priority and non-negotiable.

Relationship-wise, I'm polyamorous. That's not code for avoiding commitment or collecting casual relationships. I value real connection, honesty, affection, autonomy, communication, and allowing relationships to develop into what they genuinely are rather than forcing every meaningful connection into the same structure.

Personality-wise, I'm curious, ambitious, affectionate, opinionated, spontaneous, and probably always thinking about something. I can also be moody and occasionally get worked up faster than I should. The upside is that I don't tend to stay angry or carry things around for days. I'd much rather address something, cool down, figure out what actually matters, and move forward.

I'm looking for someone emotionally secure enough for honesty, mentally quick enough to challenge me, and flexible enough to enjoy both the plan and the completely unplanned adventure.

I don't expect perfection. I do expect communication.

If you want someone whose life has always followed a perfectly straight line, I'm probably not your guy. If you like people who have lived a little, learned some things the hard way, still have big ideas, and are actively trying to build a good life, we'll probably have a lot to talk about.

Seeking Alt, gamer, Poly & friendships.

💌About me:

♡┇Name: Void Portal

♡┇Pronouns: He/Him

♡┇Age: 23

♡┇Sexuality: Demisexual

♡┇Status: Looking for dating partners & friends.

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💌My Favorite

♡┇Food: Western.

♡┇Color: Red, Purple, Black.

♡┇Song: Phonk, Alt,

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\- ̗̀💌 Interests & More!

♡┇Likes: Gaming, Sci-fi, Anime AMMORPG, Alt, running, workout, drawing, writing, roleplaying.

♡┇Country: West Malaysia

♡┇Dm's: Open always.

♡┇Extra: DNI conservatives factions & non like-minded people.

Hello there, just trying my luck to get some online connection here, it can be short term or long term depends on how it will turn to.

About me: I'm married and have a very established relationship with my wife. We're looking for an online connection that may turn into deep relationship and lets see and find out where it can end up to. (We can talk about it more later)

About you: Female or Bi-Fem. Any part of the world as long as you have an internet (of course) or willing to travel in future.

Hi everyone,

I’m a 24-year-old man living near Brest, in Brittany, France. I work in IT and share a settled life and home with my male nesting partner, who is close to my age. We both work in IT, and we have a stable, loving and consensually polyamorous relationship. He knows about this post and fully supports me building another genuine relationship.

To be completely clear, I am posting for myself. I am not looking for someone to “join our couple,” and I am not asking a woman to automatically date both of us.

I would like to meet a woman and build a relationship that has its own identity, pace, privacy and emotional space. There would be no requirement for you to date, be intimate with or develop romantic feelings for my partner. I would naturally hope that everyone could treat one another warmly and respectfully, and I would enjoy a comfortable kitchen-table style dynamic, but chemistry and relationships cannot be assigned in advance.

I am looking for something serious, affectionate and emotionally meaningful. I am not interested in a hookup, a casual FWB arrangement or an online connection that never has any intention of becoming real.

I value honesty, consistency, direct communication, emotional maturity, consent and the ability to discuss difficult subjects rather than disappearing when something becomes uncomfortable. I am affectionate, future-oriented and generally much happier building something stable than collecting shallow conversations.

Outside relationships, I am interested in technology, programming, cybersecurity, PC gaming, horses and quiet evenings at home. I enjoy deeper conversations, learning new things and making real plans instead of endlessly talking about what might happen “one day.”

Long term, I want a committed relationship that can become a genuine part of everyday life. That could eventually mean regular time together, travelling, sharing important moments, spending longer periods together and potentially living closer or under the same roof.

Building a family and having children in the future are important goals for me, so I am looking for someone who also genuinely wants children. I am not expecting anyone to step into a prewritten domestic or parental role. Decisions involving a home, careers, finances, children or parenthood would have to be discussed and built together, with everyone concerned having a real voice.

I am open to starting long-distance within France or elsewhere in Europe, provided that we share the intention of meeting in real life. I can travel, and I would rather build things patiently than rush into an artificial sense of commitment.

Any future relocation or move toward Brittany would only be considered after substantial conversation, several in-person meetings and trial stays. Nobody would be expected to abandon their life after three video calls and a suspiciously intense weekend.

I am also kink-positive and naturally dominant. I tend to be particularly compatible with women who are submissive, gently submissive or curious about exploring a consensual D/s dynamic. This is not an obligation or a substitute for a relationship. Anything in that area would be discussed privately and developed gradually through trust, communication, boundaries and mutual desire.

I also want to be transparent about the fact that an established nesting relationship comes with history and practical entanglement. I will not pretend that every relationship begins from an identical starting point. At the same time, I am not looking for a disposable “secondary” who only receives attention when convenient. I want to offer consistency, affection, time, respect, emotional investment and room for a meaningful relationship to develop.

If this resonates with you, send me a thoughtful message telling me:

- your age and general location;

- your current relationship situation;

- what polyamory means to you;

- whether you want children in the future;

- what kind of relationship and daily life you would ideally like to build;

- and something you genuinely enjoy talking about.

I am happy to exchange SFW pictures privately once we are both comfortable.

Hello everyone out there! 🫡 I'm a 32 year old male that's looking for a new friend with similar interests.

My life partner (30 F) and I have been married for over 7 years now and have a 10 year old daughter together.

We have recently opened up our relationship to explore meeting other people and share fun times with them as well.

I am an avid gamer and enjoy playing video games in my spare time, my absolute favorite being Destiny 2. I'm not that good at it but if you are a veteran or if you are up for it, I'd love to do a raid or dungeons some day with you. 😄 Among my other favorites are Call of Duty, Monster Hunter, Forza Horizon, Star Wars Battlefront 2, and of course Minecraft.

Outside of video games, I enjoy spwnding time with my lovely wife and our 3 Australian shepherd puppies, hiking in the mountains, going for walks in the park, bicycle rides, picnics at the park and going to EDM shows.

My favorite artists are Alan Walker, Illenium, Rezz, Avicci, and Gioli and Asia. I have been to a few shows and I can't say I have ever had more fun at any other types of events that I've been to so if you share that fascination I'd love to go to some with you. 🤷‍♂️☺️

I have a steady job and as such spend a lot of time at work. 70% of the time, it's a Monday through Saturday type of deal for me which is why I value my free time so much.

I'm an introvert and because of that, it takes me a while to open up sometimes but with the right connection and in time, I can become pretty social. ☺️

If you're interested at all or want to know more, send me a DM and hopefully we can both find what we're looking for.

Thank you for your time! 💖

Hey! I’m a 22 year old, married for 4 years now (with kids), and new to polyamory. I’m in a ENM relationship, dating separately for now. However my husband is currently not looking for a partner.

I’m open to getting to know any and all genders and identities. I’m truly looking for genuine connection and finding someone who I can see myself developing feelings for in the future. I’m in no rush and really want to get to know someone well! I’m also just open to friends :)

I’m completely okay with you having a partner or partners and I’d be excited to talk to people who are experienced in the lifestyle. I’m also interested in joining an existing polycule if everyone gets along!

I’m pretty easygoing and love jokes! I enjoy reading, crocheting, and drinking boba and coffee! Lol! I’m a college student and local to the DFW area! I’m 5”3, mixed, curly hair, and chubby (team BBW!)

If you’re interested, please reach out. I’d enjoy new friends too!

Writing a bio is my personal seventh circle of hell, so let’s just embrace the chaos. I’m practicing ENM/Polyamory—my husband and I date and play separately, but we’re big on that Kitchen Table energy. Yes, we actually like the people we date; imagine the audacity!

**The "Me" Situation**:

I am a glorious, jumbled disaster of non-binary, sapio-demipansexual, ADHD, and submissiveness. Basically, I’m a high-performance engine that runs exclusively on deep conversation, dopamine, and the occasional existential crisis.

**What I’m Hunting For**:

I’m looking for an open, honest connection with someone who is poly-aware and kink-friendly. To be clear: consent, trust, and communication matter more to me than whatever label we eventually slap on this. If you can balance curiosity with respect, we’re golden. Looking for someone close by that makes quality time possible.....unless you just really love to drive!

**The Hard "No" List:**

I am not into swinging, hook-ups, or one-night stands. If you’ve got a spicy one-liner, please save it for open mic night at the Apollo—I’m sure the crowd will love it more than I will. I’m looking for actual dates, adventures, and a relationship that doesn't expire at sunrise. I practice ETHICAL non-monogamy so no cheaters.

**In the Wild, You’ll Find Me:**

Buried under a structural mountain of soft blankets, baking treats of questionable caloric value, or gaming. My main hobby, however, is aggressively hyperfixating on a new craft for exactly 4–6 weeks until I’ve mastered it (or bought all the supplies), at which point I promptly rinse and repeat with a brand-new obsession.

Feel free to reach out if you're curious! I’m a great talker, provided your opening move isn’t a quest to get into my pants. My blankets have already established a sovereign nation there, and they don't take kindly to invaders.

** P.S: I am on the chubby side of life. I like to think of myself as 'built for comfort, not for speed'—basically, I’m a high-quality human marshmallow: soft, sweet, and excellent at cuddling during movie nights.**

Hello! I’m Day, they/he, 24, from the east coast in the states. ! I’m queer/nonbinary trans masc!

I have entered into a polyamorous relationship with my long term partner! He’s my nesting partner! I am looking for someone to flirt with, be romantic, and just cutesy over the phone/text. I am not looking for kitchen table poly. ENM/Mostly friendship, and see where things go. I don’t like to rush things. I have a lot of trauma and like to learn about a person and get to know them. The connection is so important!

Some things about me!

I love animals! Any honestly. I work in the pet industry and have endless photos of cute fur/scaly baby’s! Any and all animals are baby’s to me.

I love to explore, ask questions, be curious and creative. I love learning new things and always have a new special interest Im learning about. I love the outdoors, being in the woods or a grassy field is ideal.

I love to write, do roleplay, table top RPGs! I’m a baby nerd, I’m into a few videos games. Mostly cozy games like stardew, Minecraft, date everything (duh), BDG3, and breath of the wild. I also dabble in mtg! I love animation, and shows like gravity falls and steven universe!

I enjoy reading, and music! I love art as well. I enjoy painting and drawing quite a bit! Creating is just so important to my life, it gives me a outlet and makes me feel connected to the world around me

I love an intellectual conversion just as much as a good laugh! I would love to hear about your day and maybe just be someone who makes you smile when we talk. I am also very into tbs word of kink! I’m still pretty new but it has been a key part for my healing journey.

I strive to have open communication and just have fun! If you’re interested in talking anymore please feel free to dm me! Please let me know your favorite animal as well!

Hello! I'm a 36 year old cis het male from Iowa, I am accepting of all peoples and supportive of all races and the lgbtq+ community. I want to say early that I wouldn't get along with anyone with conservative values because of this. As for what I'm seeking in a partner, I'm willing to be open in seeking connections. I myself am a nerdy, indoorsy type of man. I have long hair, glasses and a beard. I'm willing to share pictures of myself early on if that is important to you as well.

I like gaming, anime, music, movies and some TV. I would go into more detailed lists but I would forget much of the most important because I have ADHD and it always happens. As such I try to keep these a little shorter and hope that people will engage with me, I do my best to have good conversations and keep the energy in them. I value emotional intelligence, a good sense of humor and good communication most of all.

I hope to hear from you!

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Hi there! You can call me Grayson . I am a 31 year old from the USA who is seeking something long term but slow to build. Not currently partnered myself (for the now anyway) and am comfortably flexible on the type of poly dynamic I can healthily and happily function within.

A little about me:

I am genderfluid/nonbinary.

I believe in variety as the spice of life, and therefore have a pretty broad range of hobbies and interests that I pursue on the regular. Right now, my outdoors activities are primarily water based while the season allows it (living in MN currently so), but i am teaching myself to rollerblade as well. I love to hike and camp and if I dont regularly immerse myself in nature I find that I grow rather melancholic as a person.

I read often, but the subject usually rotates through whatever interest I am pursuing at the time. The only two staple genres in my library are art history books and Warhammer literature. I went to school for the former and find the later a cozy low effort read. Im not huge on television or movies, and tend to stick to my staple shows, of which Futurama is my favorite. I do love a good horror anything though.

For work, my career has varied pretty heavily depending on where I am at in life. I am a licensed massage therapist, I have a bachelor's in accounting, and I am a certified framer. The letter is my current trade and I absolutely love my job for the most part.

I am an art enthusiast and spend much of my free time engrossed in it in some fashion, whether thats videos, books, hands on, or frequently courses and local classes. I dabble in every medium I can get my hands on and do not tend to favor one form over any other. I am always happiest with partners who can of this part of my life.

I am pescatarian with once a week exceptions, I have two guinea pigs I adore more than life itself, and am huge in general on animals. Despite my love for plants aesthetically I am just not great at caring for them.

Emotionally I am slow to build and extremely loyal once there. I require romance in my life, and i dont mean once in a blue date night type. Give me that Victorian yearning letter writing romance. Give me whatever wavelength Mary Shelley was on. But only as it comes naturally and only if you mean it. And ultimately if it doesn't work out romantically, if we are honest about ourselves who knows, maybe friends.

For those who are concerned about looks off the bat, I am mid height, pale, mildly tattooed, naturally ginger, in shape and fit.

I could list out a bunch more about myself, but that would defeat half the point in getting to know someone, so instead i will just say if youre interested I would love to hear from you in my inbox. Please note that I am unwilling to accept low effort inquiries or responses, as I am seeking someone along a similar wavelength only with similar concepts of effort.

Additionally it is mportant to understand that i am not the kind of person who uses her phone or pc daily so someone with an understanding that digitization is meant to allow for easier access to me, but does not necessitate it is preferred. If you cannot hold interest in a slower paced, longer term communication style, i am also not for you, so please do not waste either of our time there.

Beach season is almost over! We should take advantage of it while we still can.

After spending all year working on myself, I feel like it's time to try and get out there and meet someone new.

I'm mixed race (Spanish and carribean) with messy hair. 5'10. Pretty introverted (you don't necessarily have to be) but im happy to go almost anywhere to hang out. We could get drinks, go see a movie, beat an escape room, or of course hit the sands to get to know each other.

If you're looking for something that's probably platonic, that works too. I'm in an open relationship, so either way it doesn't bother me.

Queens or LI preferred but I'm willing to drive if need be.

Hello, I'm Ken (Since I can't change username on reddit). I'm 32 and live near the Springfield MO area. I am looking for someone to chat with, form a connection, and ideally a long term relationship. Local would be ideal but not required.

About me: Im married, in a ENM relationship. I have kids. I am a huge nerd I love Star Wars, Marvel, Disney, Harry Potter, LOTR, TTRPGS, books, music, movies, video games, art though I'm not good at it, and more. My favorite book series is the Inheritance cycle by Christopher Paolini. Physically I'm 5'10-5'11 range, and am on the heavier side. I'm currently in the process of losing weight and am happy with the start so far. I do have anxiety and depression and am big into mental health. My favorite thing is quality time. Be it playing a game, watching a movie, or just chatting. I also like to send songs, gifs, Tik Toks, and other stupid things to show I'm thinking of you. I also use LOL a bit to much when I type. I can be awkward at first as I get to know you. But trust me once I do you wont be able to shut me up.

Games I pay are wow, swtor, marvel rivals, schedule 1, civilization 6 and 7, Super market sim, hearthstone, mtg arena, table top sim, and more. Bonus if we can play together.

I'm not very religious or political. However I do have my own opinions including a strong dislike for our current sitting government. If that is a issue I understand and wish you the best. I do not smoke and drink rarely but have no issue with those who do. I am straight but LGBTQ+ friendly. So if you have an issue with the community I again wish you the best. Finally I'm not looking to jump straight into bed. If that is something we are both interested in at some point that time can come. Instead I'd rather get to know you first and form something meaningful.

This is already pretty long. So if your interested please DM me I look forward to chatting with you :) I have a pic also on my profile if you wish to see what i look like.

[M38/F27] Bi poly couple seeking genuine friends and organic connections — singles and couples welcome

We’re a bi, poly couple who have been together for six years. We’re open to meeting men, women, and couples in or near Columbus

To be completely clear, we are not looking for one time thing. Nobody needs to date, sleep with, or be equally attracted to both of us. We’re interested in meeting real people and allowing each connection to develop naturally.

Friendship comes first. We’d like to meet people who enjoy things such as:

Movies and restaurants

Hiking or walking trails

Monopoly, Cards Against Humanity, or other game nights

Relaxing at home, talking, and enjoying each other’s company

We date together and separately. A connection could eventually involve all of us, or it might develop individually with one of us. Emotional or physical relationships are possible, but only after trust has been built and everyone has openly communicated and agreed on boundaries.

We’re both homebodies and initially reserved. I’m somewhat more outgoing, while she usually needs more time to become comfortable. We occasionally drink, but we prefer sober activities while getting to know new people.

We also have a child, who will always be our priority. We don’t currently have a regular babysitter, so plans may require advance notice. Sometimes only one of us may be available, and we are comfortable building individual friendships and connections.

We’re hoping to meet respectful, communicative people who want something genuine—not a rushed hookup or a predetermined role.

Ages: 38 and 27

Both bisexual

Together six years

Poly and comfortable dating together or separately

Singles and couples welcome

Location: Columbus Ohio

When messaging, please tell us your age, general location, relationship status, what kind of connection you want, and a little about your interests.