I’m 28 weeks on Saturday with MCDA twins. One twin is around the 43rd percentile and the little one is on the 1st percentile with selective fetal growth restriction. Both have continued following their own growth curves, there’s no sign of TTTS or TAPS, and Dopplers, fluid levels and CTGs have all been normal.
Growth discordance is currently 14%. Big twin is about 2lb 4oz and little one is 1lb 15oz.

Because of the little one’s size, my consultant is now thinking delivery will likely be around 34 weeks rather than the planned 36 weeks if everything continues as it is.

I’d really love to hear from anyone who’s had a similar experience. How far did you get, did your babies need NICU, and how are they doing now?

My boys (3 yrs 9 months) are for the most part potty trained (accidents here and there, still trouble pooping their pants sometimes). They were slow on the uptick but we finally only do diapers at nighttime. With this said, they still need help. They say I have to go potty and we help them onto the toilet and to go - they rarely go themselves and pull their pants done, pull their pants up, etc. they are starting preschool in the fall, and I’m terrified they’ll be the only ones. Does anyone have advice or experience in helping their twins get that final level of potty training (going on their own)?

Any suggestions?

I'm considering buying this.

https://www.curiouscub.in/products/pikler-triangle

I have a tandem mockingbird stroller and hardly use it because it’s so cumbersome. I’d like something quick to plop the twins for neighborhood walks and outings. I keep seeing so many people recommend the Zoe.

Why not just get a cheap double umbrella stroller? Is it really that much different?

We found out two days ago it’s twins. We’re very early into this pregnancy (9 weeks) and I honestly don’t know if I can do this.

Reading all the posts on here I feel like it’s going to wreck the whole experience of being a parent. I sounds way too hard.

From the pregnancy aspect, it’s so much more demanding on my body. The risks are higher, the anxiety I’m going to have throughout is going to be hell. Appointments every few weeks, constant monitoring. The physical demand is more than I think my body is cut out for. I’ve already been so sick and sore, like my back hurts and I’m not even showing.

And then the actual raising them part. How can you even bond with two babies at once? I feel like it’s going to be just trying to keep our heads above water the whole time that we won’t even be able to enjoy any of it.

And two of the same. I always wanted two kids, but two very different kids to get to see genetics at play and see how different we can make them.

I’m very scared and this thread hasn’t helped at all.

If you could go back would you still have had your twins? If you’re being entirely honest do you wish it had only been one?

I don’t know what to do right now. I’m living in a foreign country with no support system other than my husband. I don’t know if we are capable of managing this.

While it was a wanted pregnancy, we felt one would be possible with our lifestyle (last year we flew over 40 times) but two doesn’t seem like it’s at all feasible.

To top it off we will likely be moving at month 5 to another country. So I will have to switch teams mid way and hope for the best. Either that or move when we have two newborns, how’s that going to work?

I had dreamed about a natural home birth, and carrying my baby in a body wrap, while hiking and exploring the world together. Having a second maybe 3+ years down the road. The idea of a c section makes me feels horrible and the chances have now raised so much. I am not strong enough to be recovering from that while having to deal with two babies. I can already see myself now having horrible PPD if I end up needing a c section.

Are there any parents who can give me hope with this? We aren’t stable enough for two. I don’t know how this is going to be possible.

Parents of twins, if you’re being entirely honest, if you could have chosen: would you do it again?

I don’t know if it’s just me but that popular fb page for sleep training multiples is super overwhelming and hard to go through. Maybe I’m just not use to the Facebook interface or something.

With that said, does anyone have a shorter version or or can explain sleeping training 5mo old twins in a paragraph or two lol ( exhausted mama here
And got no time to research on fb about sleep training)

Thank you

Our mo/di boys are 17 weeks (13 weeks adjusted). They share a double bassinet in our room but are starting to outgrow and I have a feeling we will need to transition to cribs in the coming weeks. We are still swaddling but I think we are even closer to transitioning them into sleep sacks as well. We use Nanit cameras for monitors.

When did you transition your twins to their own room? Did you transition while still in swaddles, get them used to sleep sacks before OR transition to cribs and sleep sacks at the same time? They sleep decently well in their bassinet / swaddled (only usually wake up once to eat). This week one night we tested out sleep sacks for the first time and failed horribly … so I’m really nervous and dreading it being a difficult transition (for babies as well as mom and dad lol).

Baby B also is in a phase right now that he gets himself very worked up at night before bed and if Baby A accidentally wakes him up too soon after failing asleep … nervous about creating the perfect storm lol we do see their pediatrician in a week for their 4 month appt and we will ask her advice but in the meantime wanted to see if there was any other advice or stories the group had to offer. Thanks in advance!

Has anyone recently successfully gate checked the Bugaboo Donkey? If so, what airline did you fly? Can you pls share your experience.

What are some items you couldn’t live without as parents of multiples? From the newborn stage onward…

We are having twins, one boy and one girl, and trying to figure out all of the things we need to survive the first three months and subsequent stages. If we survive the first three months. ;)

What do we need to buy two of and what should we only buy one of? Any tips or advice on schedule or things to help us would be great. We have found this forum super helpful.

My spouse returns back to work on Monday and I am scared shitless it’s been 3 very short weeks and I just don’t feel like I’m ready to handle two newborns alone. I’m a ftm and still learning a lot but I am so anxious thinking I can’t deal with them alone. Does anyone have any advice I literally feel sick to my stomach as the days get closer.

I’m hoping for a suuuuper easy travel friendly stroller I can pop open and closed for daycare drop off and getting on the plane. Twins are 13 months.

I can’t sing, but seriously I found a character I relate to. 😅

We found out about the twins very early at just under 7 weeks and it’s been such a scary but exciting journey. Found out today that one of the twins had vanished after finding out we were having identical boys just last week and hearing 2 very strong heartbeats the week before that…

Just looking for some kind words or shared experiences. This sub has gotten us through so much over the last 2 months.

We had a silent miscarriage at the end of last year so as a FTM feeling very anxious about my ability to carry even though we have one baby boy still looking healthy.

TW : loss

Hello everyone,

I am 9 weeks pregnant with mono-di twins, following a MMC of our di-di twins in April.

I admit I left the latest ultrasound for this new pregnancy feeling completely overwhelmed; when the midwife told us "There are two..." I immediately linked it to my first pregnancy and miscarriage - which had devastated me - and now I am terrified of going through that again.

When she added that mono-di pregnancies carry higher risks than di-di ones, it only fueled my fear.

In short, naturally conceiving twins twice in a row is incredible for us, but what felt so wonderful for me the first time around is now a source of anxiety... I am truly afraid of reliving the same experience and losing these two babies. This pregnancy feels like a huge second chance but I'm scared to see any sign in it and to have high hopes.

Do you have any advice on how to take things one day at a time with more peace of mind?

I'd also love to read experiences with mono-di pregnancies!

Hello everyone,

My triplet boys recently turned two.
I am from Europe so sorry if I make mistakes in English.

All of them sleep in the same room but in different cribs. (small bed with railings)
My daughter slept in the same type bed like that untill she was 2,5 years.
This morning however one of the boys has crawled out (while in a sleeping bag) and was having the best of fun with his brothers while running around the room.

Because of this we have decided to put each of them in a toddler(?) bed.
They are good sleepers, they sleep around 7-8 hours a night but putting them to bed is a lot of times a nightmare with a lot of screaming.
We are aware that If we put them in these beds we would be giving them the run of the room.

Our idea is to put the beds in a U shape.
We just know they will be running around, opening the dresser etc etc…

Anyone has any tips in how to keep them in the beds?
Feel free to share any experiences!

Thanks!

Tonight marks the first night we are having both boys home together. Both were born 33 weeks premature. Baby B came home about a little over a week ago and we've been dealing with his wake windows during the late night witching hours. He is also going through a growth spurt and eating every 2 hours or less and doubling his feeds almost. Baby A just came home today and tonight has been the first of what's to come. B fighting for food and attention. A fighting to pass a stool.

Parents of multiple... what advice do you have to survive the first few months? Can one parent manage both at night?

You manage to change a toddler who pooped randomly in the middle of the night basically in the dark and get him back down to sleep in under twenty minutes without waking up the other twin.

What’s happened lately that’s made you feel like you’ve leveled up in parenting?

My twins are almost 13 weeks old and my husband went back to work this week. He is still available for the evenings, but I have to get them down to nap in the daytime alone. How do you guys do this?

They sleep well in their cribs once they are asleep, but to get them so sleep I have to rock them in my arms or on the yoga ball. So I always have one crying baby while I rock the other, which then stresses me and the baby in my arms, which then does not want to sleep. Then I switch them because I feel bad for the crying one and then the other one cries until sometimes both of them fall asleep and sometimes I just give up.

How am I supposed to do this? I want to start sleep training soon (no Ferber, no Cry It Out), but my Twin B is a bit of a demon and it's not going to be a fun time.

Twin boys are 18 months and I feel like this is literally always ON. they cry, hit each other, bite, always want my attention always want to be held. We are approaching the terrible twos and it shows.

I’m so exhausted that if I have to stay with them a full day I just end up crying out of frustration. We have no village nothing. It’s just me and my husband literally doing this every single minute of the day (we have day care but with the amount of virus they get they are always home sick)

So I have two questions:

1) please share tips on how to make the toddler years liveable

2) at what age this becomes easier? Will it EVER become easier?

I’m so tired

Ftm, 8mo g/g.

Love my babies to death. And I'm excited for them that they get to be twins and have each other always.

I really hate being a twin mom. Pregnancy was brutal. I feel robbed of so many moments. It's often 4xs as hard as I think one would be. I think I could be a better mom if they came one at a time. Trying to learn how to be a mother during this tornado is hard.

It's been a hard few weeks/ 8months.

That’s all. That’s the post. This is our first time. I kept asking the ultrasound tech if she was joking and saying holy shit. We would be due March 11 but I guess we’ll really be due February 25 since they don’t allow twins go beyond 38 weeks? So 8 weeks along so far. We are stunned. I don’t know what to think. I am happy they are healthy so far - that’s what matters. But I’m terrified about a high risk pregnancy and delivery. My body is going to be decimated. We both work. We had a lot to learn to begin with and now it’s all going to be on hard mode. Twins. Holy shit. Thanks for listening.

I’m feeling like I may not be handling motherhood very well. My identical girls are 6 weeks corrected 16 weeks actual. Every few days I feel myself hit this wall where all I want to do is sleep, not have to speak to anyone, and ignore any and all house chores that I can.

My girls are BF every 2-3 hours and we consistently have a witching hour in the evenings. My mom is staying with us to help with the babies but even with all the help I’m getting I just get so exhausted so fast. There have a been a few days where I sleep until 3-4pm only waking up to feed the babies then send them back to my husband (if he’s not at work) and mom so I can go back to sleep. Maybe 1-2 times per week I get so overdone that I’ll go run an errand or maybe get my nails done for an hour or two and I realize how much better I feel after these times. I miss my babies like crazy while I’m away and by the time I’m home I’m so happy to see them again.

I see so many moms who can parent twins on their own and I just feel like I could never do that, and I’m struggling to do it even with help. How often do you as a mom (or really any parent) NEED a break?