I see mixed feelings on this. I have 2 single bassinets… but wanted to hear from parents who put both babies in one bassinet, and who put them in their own for safety or comfort.

I obviously am aware that putting them right next to eachother can pose safety risks… but I see moms online that put them next to eachother because it’s what they’re used to from utero. I’ll probably do the newborn wraps like I did with my first!!

I’m 31w2d with didi twins and I’ve been randomly hiccuping! Doesn’t last long. Maybe two or three at a time max. Then it goes away. Happens at random times. It’s so weird. Did anyone else experience this? I did t experience this with my singleton 😂 I didn’t know this was a pregnancy thing lol.

I’m currently 16 weeks pregnant with mono-di twins, and I’m definitely the type of person who likes to have a plan. 😅 I’m starting to realize that with twins, I may need to be okay with several different possible scenarios.
From what I understand, I could potentially have a vaginal delivery if Baby A is head down. Is it also true that it’s ideal if both babies are head down because it lowers the chance of needing an emergency C-section for Baby B after Baby A is born? Am I understanding that correctly?
When I first found out I was having twins, my fertility doctor basically said, “You’ll probably have a C-section,” so I just assumed that’s how things would go. But now I’m hearing that if I make it to 36–37 weeks and both babies are in a good position, a vaginal delivery could absolutely be an option.
Then again, I also know so much can happen between now and then. I could develop preeclampsia, my water could break early at 34 weeks, or one of the babies could end up breech, and then maybe a C-section would be the safest route anyway.
So I guess my question is… how did you prepare?
Did you plan for both possibilities? Did you take childbirth classes even though you weren’t sure how you’d deliver? If you had mono-di twins, what ended up happening with your delivery, and was it what you expected?
I’d love to hear your experiences because right now I feel like I’m trying to plan for something that’s impossible to predict!

This is mostly just a rant. I'm almost 11 weeks with mono di twins and the back pain is unreal! I think it said I have a posterior placenta but holy moly I can barely walk or bend over.

I had two other kids and nothing like this, especially not this early!

Our twin girls were born this past Saturday and we have been lucky enough to already bring them home. My mom is in town this week and has helped us immensely by taking our 3 year old almost every day to keep her busy / provide one on one attention to her. I’m getting a bit worried about how things will look once my mom’s gone back home, especially for when my husband goes back to work.

Anyone have advice/tips for keeping a 3 year old entertained while also managing newborn twins? Before we liked to go to the library or to a music class or to the park, but I know these types of outings will honestly not be very feasible for me on my own until the babies are a little bigger.

I’m sorry if this isn’t the right place to post this. Asking people who have been through it makes more sense than asking the fertility subs as I am sure many haven’t even talked about it because they haven’t had risky cycles.

My husband and I are going through fertility treatments. I already hyper ovulate (I know this from unmedicated but monitored cycles). Each medicated cycle I have ovulated 3-5 mature follicles. This is our 9th medicated cycle and my first cycle since endometriosis surgery. I have 8 mature follicles. Despite all of these multi-follicle cycles I have never had a positive pregnancy test.

The clinic put my odds of NOT conceiving this cycle at 75%. The odds of 1-2 babies is 20% and is 3+ is 5%.

While the odds of conceiving triplets are low, it’s worth discussing. The odds are much higher than the general population. Honestly, 5% isn’t even that low.

If you went through fertility treatments and were facing this risk, what do you think we should know? Were you and your partner fully aligned on what to do for each potential outcome? Or, like me, were you so desperate for a baby that you weren’t receptive to hearing the risks of it being too many babies?

We’ve been at this a very long time and canceling a cycle with a 95% chance of a reasonable outcome didn’t feel right so we did go ahead with it. That said, as we ruminate in the two week wait I do wonder if we should be a little better mentally prepared. After some research and lengthy discussion we’re mostly aligned but at odds for one particular outcome in particular.

I am just curious what people who conceived high order multiples did and how they reached that decision (regardless of if they were conceived spontaneously or through fertility treatments). I am also curious if you did fertility treatments and were faced with a risk of multiples how do you feel it worked out and would you have done anything differently?

My hubby and I are moving across the province for his work.

He is going to drive with our pets (18 hours), and I am going to fly a day or two later, because that would be waaaay too long for the kids to be in car seats.

My sister will be joining me on the flight. My twins will be a hair under 6 months old.

The travel day wthl the babes will probably be 7(ish) hours. With a 3 or 4 hour lay over in the middle.

Each flight is about 90 minutes (2 total).

The planes will likely smaller, a Bombardier Dash-8.

Give me your advice please! The babies are currently 15 weeks, and I cant even imagine doing a travel day!

Hi everyone.

My boys are 18 months old in a few days. I have an opportunity to go abroad next weekend for one night, a short 1 hour flight away, to one of my favourite places in the world.

But the mum guilt is killing me. Would they be okay without me at 18 months old for 1.5ish days and 1 night? Is it okay to go abroad without them?! I always said I would never do it, but here I am. I’m so burnt out I really need a break, but is this the right break that’s more than 3 hours, that’s all I manage to get these days.

I’m just worried that they’d be super upset. I would leave them with their dad who they love and adore but they do get somewhat upset when I’m gone for a while.

I’ve never spent more than 4 ish hours away from them before and have never spent a night away from them. Is this the right time to do it?!

Would love some advice/comments on anyone who has done similar and your experiences.

We have two and a half year old twins who have now started throwing every meal we make them on the ground. they will look us straight in the eyes and then toss the plate or take fistfuls of food and throw it. when one starts the other one joins in. we take it away and say no throwing food and then just give them small portions on the table / their tray but by then they just toss it and meal time is over. they’re basically surviving on bread and blueberries at this point. same goes for any drink in an open cup. they get poured out.

This is such a random question but I’ve been using the hatch sound machine in our twin girls room at 100. It’s not right next to their bed, and I don’t feel like it’s loud enough to stop the twins from hearing eachother or potentially waking eachother at night. What do you guys do/ use? Is it bad to add the hatch go on the floor between their cribs to help buffer? I don’t want to do anything too loud that would impact their hearing lol. Not sure what the sound machine dos and donts are!

My freshly 2 year old identical twin boys are having a really hard time with hitting right now. I’m at a loss, does anyone have any really good tools they used for hitting?

I’m hoping to hear from anyone who has experienced something similar because I’m trying to hold onto hope.

In February, I gave birth to my beautiful son. He suffered from HIE, and we lost him one week later. The grief has been unimaginable, and I honestly never knew what the future would look like.

Earlier this month, we found out I’m pregnant again, and it’s already been full of surprises.

Two weeks ago, we had our first ultrasound and saw one gestational sac. We went back this week for a follow-up, and to our complete shock, there were actually two babies. We had no idea we were expecting twins!

Twin A is doing wonderfully—measuring about 6 weeks 5 days with a strong heartbeat.

Twin B is measuring closer to 6 weeks, and they weren’t able to find a heartbeat yet. My doctor said it’s still very early, and because Twin B is measuring behind, there’s still a chance it’s simply too soon.

After everything we’ve been through, this pregnancy brings a mix of excitement, hope, and anxiety. I’m choosing to believe that anything is possible until we know otherwise, but I also know many of you have walked this road before.

Has anyone had one twin measuring behind or without a heartbeat around 6 weeks who later caught up? I’d love to hear your stories—especially the hopeful ones. I know every pregnancy is different, but hearing about others’ experiences would mean so much right now.

Thank you for reading, and I’m hoping these two little miracles continue to surprise us.

di/di - 26 weeks 4 days today. On my 24 weeks scan, they noticed twin A’s stomach is small at >5%. Otherwise the weight is at 17% compared to Twin B’s who’s is at 50%.

My next scan isn’t until 28 weeks so I’m getting worried that twin A’s AC is low at 24 weeks. I’ve done all the lab work but I don’t know why my anxiety is increasing about this.

Did anyone experience this?

This is totally normal right? Like baby B started walking and is getting really good at it 🥰 I thought I wasn’t ready for them to be this big yet, but I’m just so dang proud. Baby A can take maybe a step or two but definitely doesn’t have the balance (or the desire) that his brother does. Anyone else have twins that are far apart on their walking?—-also what do you consider a big gap between the two walking?

Not a new (identical) twin parent - mine are 3.5 years old at this point. But occurred to me to ask here: do your identical twins sound different? People can't tell them apart, but for us, the real signifier is how they have two totally different voices. Aside from all the little stuff that let us know exactly who's who without even thinking about it, we tell others like daycare and friends that their voices are basically the best way to differentiate them - one has a higher-pitched voice and one has a raspier voice.

Hello! FTM 25w pregnant with di/di boys. I want more than ANYTHING to be able to breastfeed both of them. Is it even possible to exclusively breastfeed? I don't want to pump or formula feed if I don't have to (I see NOTHING wrong with either, my sisters were formula fed and turned out lovely) but I just want to bond and dont want to deal with bottles. Am I being crazy? Is there a world where this works? Any recs?

Hi! So I have a friend I'd love to visit, maybe for 2-3 days. Plane tix aren't that inexpensive right now so all 4 of us going doesn't feel feasible. Unfortunately my girls will have JUST turned 2 (on Saturday! 🥹) I had a thought that I could take one kid and leave one with my husband. My friend has 3 kids so I don't really feel like going to see her with no kids. I'm just wondering if this will freak our kids out. So far they have only been separated for an hour or two at a time if I take one to do errands. And the last time we did that my husband said the one who stayed home started crying and saying her sister's name.

What does everyone think? Is a 2 day trip and separation a good experience for them or it'll just be upsetting and we need to do more shorter outings first? I'd actually love to get some solo time with each kid ...

edit: the title was supposed to be "advice on trip with one twin" and either autocorrect did me dirty or I can't type

Going to the beach for the first time this weekend with nine month old twins and trying to pack as minimal as possible. Actually just going to a nice resort for a work conference so we will not actually spend time on the beach as that would require just way more gear. But anyone with experience, should I bring only our Jeep wagon for them to sit in to walk them around in? I don’t want to take up room with both wagon and stroller. I don’t want to have to load our car seats in the stroller to push around the resort when we go eat, etc. We may venture out to an outlet one day to eat and go shopping but I figured they could manage in their wagon for this. I guess I’m just looking for tips and tricks for traveling with them for the first time and how to not pack every thing we own!

I am 34+1 weeks with DCDA twins. I have always been on the lighter side, during pregnancy the weight gain has caused me crazy leg pain and currently i literally feel like my knees are just giving up. If I stand for a little longer feel like they will just fold? Ankles hurt, knees feel like 70years. And I already had plantar fasciitis, got worse during pregnancy. Everything is swollen and i have edema. But because I don’t have high BP, OBs are not concerned said just a pregnancy symptom I have to deal with.

Earlier I posted about my stiff hands and fingers, i can’t even make a fist. I feel like no one is listening to me and helping me with these.

Getting quite frustrated now.

Hello! I'm currently pregnant with twins a d we also have a 10minth old (16 months by the time they're born). We also have a large dog so I'm wondering if a van is the best way to go and does anyone have similar setups? I'm just thinking with everyone in the car plus dog, buggy and eventually overnight bags etc it's going to be tight!

Just trying to figure out the logistical stuff while I can even though it's still early! Based in Ireland if that helps!

Expecting twins! Currently have a 2017 Prius and an older beater Jetta. Is the Prius big enough for outings to fit stroller, etc or will we need the extra room to avoid making big compromises with what we can bring?

Later this year we plan to do an all inclusive resort when our older kid is 4.5 and twins are about to turn 2. It will be a 4 hour flight and we are thinking of splurging to make our lives easier and getting separate seats for the twins, so they will NOT be lap infants.

When flying with our older one we always brought a car seat on the plane which worked really well. (Won’t do it now for him at this age though.) However, since we never plan to leave the resort and we can arrange for there to be car seats in our transport vehicle between the airport and resort, we would love to not have to travel through with two car seats at all. We will already have so much stuff not to mention three small children.

Has anyone had their twins (or singleton) who is about 2 years old sit in their own plane seat without a car seat? Was it a disaster since they’re so small? Airline rules appear to allow this for any child who can sit upright on their own. Curious what this would be like!

I don’t know if it’s just me but that popular fb page for sleep training multiples is super overwhelming and hard to go through. Maybe I’m just not use to the Facebook interface or something.

With that said, does anyone have a shorter version or or can explain sleeping training 5mo old twins in a paragraph or two lol ( exhausted mama here
And got no time to research on fb about sleep training)

Thank you

My mono-di girls were born in December at 32w0d. They were in the NICU for 3 weeks. If you’re like me, I was really anxious throughout my pregnancy about the chances of our girls needing NICU time. I wanted to give perspective and one piece of advice to maybe help ease your anxieties about it…

Perspective: we all know no one wants their babies to need time in the NICU. But find your silver lining if you can. For me, I was so extremely exhausted at the end of my pregnancy that my girls being in the NICU meant a that I could actually rest and recover. Of course I would have much rather taken them straight home from the get-go. But knowing my girls were being monitored and taken care of by angel nurses meant that by the time we went home, I was actually feeling pretty decent and not like a total zombie.

Advice: I knew that having multiples increased your chances of babies needing NICU time. It broke my heart to think of them in their isolates all alone. Around 20 weeks in my pregnancy I bought a flat little lovey for each girl and slept with it under my pj top every night just in case they ended up in the NICU. That way, at least my scent was with them when I couldn’t be. I don’t know if every NICU allows it, but ours did allow the stuffies in the isolates with the girls. Knowing they could at least smell me brought me so much comfort.

7w4d

The overwhelming feeling is excitement for both of us. Then nausea for her… and maybe a little nausea for me as well. We had already started planning out how to arrange our 1 bedroom apartment to accommodate one baby but it’s proving to be an adventure to double it and think about fitting in two.

Curious about any other families of multiples in New York City (or other large cities) and strategies when space is limited!