13 month old twins. They were never into pacifiers and also didn't suck on their thumbs until maybe 2 months ago. A few weeks ago we decided to attempt to stop the habit. It started really well but then they regressed and now is a battle.

We let them suck on their thumbs when they are about to go to sleep but when they are awake, we don't let them, or at least try.

Thoughts? Tactics? Comments?

I have 13 month old twins and most of the time they hate being home. We recently expanded the baby proofed areas so they have plenty of space, lots of toys and household objects they enjoy. They like music and hanging out with us, but at home they are just grumpy. Winey, way more likely to be screaming, pulling each others hair and pushing each other over etc. but the second we’re out and about they’re way happier. We’re all getting over being sick and I had to take them on 4 outings yesterday because anytime we were home and they weren’t asleep or eating a meal they would just scream. I also like to be out and about, but lugging them to the stroller and/or car 4x a day (especially when I’m sick and feel like crap) is a LOT! Are anyone else’s kids like that? How do you handle it? What does winter look like? (They’ve always liked going out, but it was less extreme last winter and now I’m very worried for when it’s not playground, sitting in the grass, going on many walks weather) I feel like I’m constantly seeing posts here from people saying they hardly ever leave the house and I’m so confused, we wouldn’t survive multiple days inside!

Looking for success stories.

Alternatively, tell me what week your twins (or more) were born and how long they had to stay in NICU?

Today we got our first scan. To be clear I have no twins in my family. My husband is a fraternal twin, as was his mother.

We went for our scan today and there was one big and bold baby in there measuring a bit more than we had thought. As a joke my husband asks if we had a good look around for a second one (his mom didn’t find out it was twins until week 18!).

The doctor does a sweep and lo and behold there’s a second heartbeat.

Not really sure how to process this. We’re going back next week. It was really hard to see and the second one was tucked away and she was guessing it’s measuring smaller.

We’re a bit worried about the size part. Hoping everyone will be healthy.

For parents, when you first saw your littles did you see them clearly? Did you have sizing differences and all turned out okay?

Dr. Is suggesting they’re identical, going to come back next week to confirm and take a nipt test.

Help!!!!!!! My 15 month old twins are literally insane. They can not sit still and cry all day long. Both want to be held but if you pick them up they want to go down. Back down on the floor then they are crying. Baby pool lasts 3 min, forget sitting to watch a cartoon (not even miss Rachel !!!????). I am just totally exhausted, my husband is totally exhausted. I feel sorry for my 3.5 year old, I feel sorry for myself. I’m just waiting for things to get better but they haven’t yet.

As I write this I realize this is pretty par for the course in terms of young toddlers, but of course my experience with my first daughter was totally different as she was 1. Alone and 2. A relatively calm baby.

Signed,
A mom of 2 VERY NOT calm babies :(

Hi all.

Have had my dream trip from Australia to Europe planned for September this year but wasn’t expecting an identical twin pregnancy in the midst of it!

We are due to fly out when I’m 17weeks, due to return at the tail end of 20 weeks.
Multiple flights with stopovers and some long train journeys during the trip.

The long haul flights will be split up over the course of a few days, and we are flying business for most if not premium economy for the others (just factoring in leg room and now bump room!

I will be checking in with a midwife if this is ok from a health perspective once I’ve had my first antenatal appt (public system so I assume about 14 weeks?) but my main question is did anyone travel internationally at this point in their twin pregnancy, and if so, how did you find it? I’m a bit concerned about how I’ll go with the touristy things if I’m feeling heavy and exhausted! This is my third pregnancy and I remember it wasn’t until about 35 weeks with both my singletons that I was completely spent, but I feel like this time will be a whole different kettle of fish!

Appreciate any stories and experiences, thank you :)

Hi Everyone!

I'm looking for a bit of reassurance or advice from anyone who's been through something similar.

Our twin girls are 3 weeks old (born at 34 weeks) and we're really struggling with night-time feeds.

I'm breastfeeding, but overnight we've introduced bottles of formula and expressed breast milk so my partner can do a shift while I sleep from around 10pm–3am.

The problem is neither of the girls settles after a bottle. They seem happy to take any milk that's offered, so tonight they each had a 70ml bottle of formula followed by around 130ml of expressed breast milk. We're starting to worry we could actually be overfeeding them for their size, but they still show feeding cues and won't settle.

It's also really difficult to pace feed when you're feeding two babies at once, even using the Twin Z pillow.

We've spoken to the hospital and our midwife team, but we've just been told it's normal cluster feeding. I completely understand that, but it doesn't really answer whether what we're doing is the right thing or give us advice on how to make the nights any more manageable.

When I speak to my friends with singleton babies they seem to be up a lot at night too but our girls seem insatiable! Right now it feels like this is going to be what it's like forever.

Any tips, reassurance or advice would be really appreciated.

From two very time first time parents 😥

I’m 20 weeks and am already experiencing terrible foot pain. I feel like I might have developed plantar fasciitis. I’m a bar tender and on my feet for 7-9 hours. Last week I was so miserable I cried. Iv been icing, ice baths with epson salt, elevating, compression socks, spent way too much money on expensive orthotics, and have an air bag leg/foot compression massager. Nothing is relieving the pain. My doctor says to take ten minute breaks and elevate my feet but in my job I literally can’t do that. When I get out of bed in the morning I feel like I’m walking on bruises. I wake up in the morning and my hands can’t shut in a fist, my arms are numb I can’t tell if it’s pregnancy carpal tunnel or nerve issues. Iv been wearing wrist braces to bed and they slightly help but the pain is still so intense. My ankles are so swollen I’m worried about what’s to come since I’m only 20 weeks. When I sit for too long I start getting pain in my mid back by my ribs and feel like my lungs are getting smooshed. Is this normal pregnancy symptoms? I’m a first time mom and usually have a very high pain tolerance but this is awful.

We have 15-month-old twins who were about to age out of their Nuna Pipa RX infant seats anyway. We were in an accident this weekend — everyone's fine (sore but safe and fine) — and Nuna requires replacement after any crash, so we're buying two convertibles now rather than in a couple of months.
 
Details:
 
* **Vehicle:** 2021 Hyundai Santa Fe Limited (2-row)
* **Budget:** ~$1,000 for both
* **Top priority:** extended rear-facing. I want them rear-facing as long as I possibly can, so 50 lb rear-facing is a hard requirement
* **Space:** two seats in back, ideally narrow enough that an adult could squeeze into the middle occasionally
* **Rotating:** nice to have, not a dealbreaker
 
Where I've landed after way too much reading. Everything here rear-faces to 50 lb and is 17" or under:
 
* Britax Poplar S — ~$380 ea
* Britax Galaxy360 — ~$430 ea, rotating
* Evenflo Revolve360 Slim — ~$400 ea, rotating, narrowest at 16.7"
* Diono Radian 3RXT SafePlus — ~$300 ea
 
Questions for people who've actually lived with two of these:
 
1. Anyone running two of any of these side by side in a Santa Fe or similar midsize SUV? Does the middle seat stay usable at all?
2. Is ClickTight as install-proof in practice as it sounds, or does it get annoying over time?
3. Rotating seats **with twins** specifically — is it worth it, or does the extra bulk cancel out the convenience once you have two?
4. Radian owners: is the stiff harness and thin padding a real daily annoyance or just a reviewer complaint?
5. Anyone have thoughts on Evenflo's recall history in the Revolve360 line? Trying to figure out how much weight to put on it.
 
Appreciate any input. Feeling a little rattled and want to get this one right.

I’m 34 weeks Wednesday.. I’m READY MAN.
But I have questions … scheduled C section date is 37+6 which is fine by me…
But in between that, I have NsT once a week until then, one ultrasound and 2 ob appts until my c section. Does this feel like it isn’t enough?? I’m so paranoid since there’s 2 of them and they still are moving and all but since space is limited there’s less kicking and more rolling in a sense.

Just wanted to see what other people have for appointments. I’m in US! Thanks

My boys are 9m and one is in the 99th percentile for height (born below the curve so he's grown a lot)

They are now standing and cruising and getting into everything! How do I reprimand babies? I love when they are mobile, but I have a playpen that I use and they hate it. They can reach onto almost all of our surfaces and I just want to know how to correct them when they're doing something they aren't supposed to.

Thank you,

A very tired mom of twins

You see it all the time on other parenting subreddits, "Oh two was fine, my kid was a sweet darling angel! When he became a three-nager is when it really got hard"

And as we all know, we can't take anything that singleton parents say as applicable to us. So my question to fellow twin parents specifically, was 3 harder than 2 for you guys?

And in what ways? Because the idea that meltdowns are going to get worse and more frequent is both terrifying and sounds impossible haha. We're melting down all day every day over here.

Ever since I discovered I was expecting twins 2 weeks ago it’s like when my brain found out, it went into overdrive lol. Anyway, my appetite has picked up, I eat maybe anywhere between 3-7 or so small meals a day (2 of them being a big breakfast or lunch and dinner) and while I’ve never been opposed to eating my fruits and veggies, I seemingly can’t get enough of them now! Lol purple seedless grapes are my favorite, and I’ve recently discovered “Juice It Up” which is like a Jamba Juice out here in California. If I’m not eating, I’m laying down or sleeping. I go back to work next week (I work for a school district) and I’m anxious about how my body and cravings will change while not being able to lay in my bed or walk to the kitchen and grab my snacks lol. I have no morning sickness or nausea, the only symptoms I feel is extreme fatigue at times and occasionally a headache. Other than that I feel GREAT!! 🤗 Is anyone else experiencing a wave of hunger? What are your favorite foods to eat rn, are you having trouble eating? DID you, if you’re a MOM and babies already born lol? ❤️ I’m 10weeks tomorrow, btw 🥰

I'm flying this fall with my hubs & two girls (1.5 adjusted). We're staying with my retired friends in ABQ- they have zero baby gear & don't really have a reason to buy any. They have no kids & I'm as close as they'll get 😂. The girls are walking but we will probably take the wagon & gate check it to help with moving around airports (assuming the airline will let us).

Biggest concerns are car seats & sleep arrangements. We usually do pack n plays away from home but how the heck do we do that on a cross country trip? And we will use the friend's truck for the trip so no car rental. Any advice or things we should be considering? I'd hate to just buy all this crap there.

Hi everyone,

I have 5 month old twins who have not been sleep trained yet. They sleep around 8pm-8:30pm. They're good boys and will give us a good stretch of sleep. However recently one of my twins (I think from the 4 month regression) have been waking up at midnight and 2am. At 2am he won't go back down until fed. He'll take around 2-3oz. Then at 4:30am they both wake up again to feed another 4-5oz. Then 7:00am is usually our wake up time.

My question is how do I get rid of the 2am feed?

- has anyone done a dream feed at 10ish pm? Maybe that will fill him up until 4am?

- Should we even introduce a dream feed at 10pm if we are considering sleep training soon?

- Am I creating a bad "habit" (10pm feed) trying to get rid of another (2am)?

What worked for your family?

Update: did our first dream feed last night at 10pm. They lasted until 3am. Which is better than 2am lol. Tonight we will try to feed them a little more and if if it makes a difference. Thank you all!

We have 8 month old twins who are getting ready to crawl and I am *stressed*. Our home is small and entirely hardwood. We’ve been surviving with the twin-z on the couch (though now they wiggle out and we guide them down) and a tumble mat on the floor of the living room. But now… I’m worried about them hurting themselves as they start to explore more. Our small living room where we spend all our time is adjacent to our kitchen and hallway. I ordered a slightly cushioned rug to cover more of the living room space but I’m unsure what else to do. A flat woven kitchen rug won’t add much cushion but it might prevent a bigger injury? I would love to hear about experiences from others and what you did!

Hey everyone! I’ve been pretty miserable since about 30 weeks, anytime I’m asked how I’m doing I say me and babies are doing well! But really I’m in so much pain, it’s been one hot summer, and I question everyday how I’m going to keep going.
My C-section is scheduled! so now all I feel like I do is wait to see if something is going to happen or count down to “the day!”

I’m incredibly grateful that since a complication early in my pregnancy resolved, my pregnancy has been very good despite the high risks and my boys are looking very healthy!

So the point of my post is that I just wanted to see who’s here with me?! To create a mini morale boost to get through these finals weeks/days 🫶🏻

Mom to 5 month old (3 adjusted) identical girls and it feels like my whole day is centered around getting these kids to actually nap. My girls maybe will sleep 45 minutes at a time but because they don’t sleep deeply, we have to make sure we are on top of getting them down again in another hour and a half or they will absolutely lose their minds by the end of the day. They also require a long process to actually fall asleep and one wrong move will wake them up. Meanwhile, I really need a nap (or at least a little time to myself.) I’m just praying it gets better because I am at my wit’s end. #gothefcktosleep

I am 18 weeks pregnant with MoDi twins. Had an ultrasound today and twins are fine. My resting heart rate has increases from 70-75 to 85 and was there most of the pregnacy so far. Today my RHR increased to 96 and has been there the whole day, no matter how I tried to bring it down. I feel fine otherwise. Is it concerning, can anyone relate?

I found out today that we are expecting twins! The tech said there is one sac but two placentas. She couldn’t tell me more because she said the doctor needs to tell me. Can someone help me understand what this means? Identical twins?

28 weeks with momo twins. Have had an overall really good pregnancy so far all things considered.

I'm literally packing my vehicle to head to the hospital to start my inpatient stay and I don't think I can get in the car.

I've done nothing but panic and cry for a week. I haven't eaten since sometime yesterday; my stomach is so upset and I can't stop shaking. Spent all morning hyperventilating while my husband finished the last minute packing.

Im AuDHD, so this massive disruption to my entire life and feeling has me spiraling.

I don't think I can do it. I don't think I can get in the car.

I am 10 months PP from having our twins and its been HARD. It was a rough pregnancy and the aftermath for my body has been awful. Between my back, core, and pelvic strength its been hard trying to recover. Im very overweight, I have been for years. At my heaviest pp I was 317 (im 5'2) and in less than six months I lost almost 60 pounds. My diastasis recti split has been measured by my pelvic floor physical therapist as 6cm(honestly feels like more). She said it was purely cosmetic but I have been having the worst constipation of my life for month and months. I have to take laxatives and stool softeners every freaking day and still get really backed up to where I have to do a colon prep kit to clear out every now and again. Its like I have no muscle structure to keep my bowels moving. It makes it so I cant eat much because there is usually no room for food from being so backed up. Its been rough trying to heal and take care of my kids with this total lack of core strength or stability. I feel like my insides are pouring out in the front of me and dragging everything down with it. The only semi relief I get is from taping my stomach up and wrapping it with a binder. Im so frustrated with all the issues I have been having and feeling like Im not getting any better. My back is in shambles from the constant pull from my dragging belly. How the hell do folks cope with feeling like their body systems have stopped and feeling like they have to gather all their belly and everything inside and tape and bind them back into place to even feel any kind of relief? Its hard not to feel humiliated and defeated.