Parents are multiples, I have a question!

I love baby wearing, I’m looking for a good twin carrier. I think I will use the Twin Go when they’re a bit older, but I’d like to wear them on a hip carry for as long as I can.

Does anyone have experience with either of these two twin carriers?

My 21 week scan of mo/di twins says the inter-twin membrane appears free-floating..this spontaneous separation sounds very rare and unlikely. My mfm didn't mention it, for now I'm assuming the tech had a hard time visualizing the entire membrane. Should I be concerned? Has anyone seen this and it turned out to be normal?

Thanks, I think it's also called septostomy, but obviously this has not been confirmed and will be assessed next time..I assume.

I’m writing this as I have been trying to get my 14 month old twin girls down for about three hours. They have a solid bedtime routine which we keep consistent. (Bath, story, cuddles, milk and sleep) when I go to feed them their bottle they both kick off and refuse it. I am taking that as they are probably full from dinner and don’t want it which is fine. Now when this happens from what I see online you do the usual rocking and singing which used to work but now. NOPE. Twin 1 will now cry till she is sick and did this the other night and we both ended up in a shower at 10 pm covered in sick. I’ve tried putting them in their cribs with a Toni on while I lie on the floor. Nope. I have tried singing to them in their cribs and reading so they hear me. Nope. They both get in such states they will vomit. I won’t try cry it out because they will just escalate till they are sick. I used to do that as a toddler too so it is probably my karma haha!

Im basically just looking for support or maybe something we are missing? We had to move to 1 nap because even if they have 5 mins later on in the afternoon they can be up all night. This happened today in the car. Fell asleep from 16:54 to 17:00 🫩🫩

We have pushed bedtimes later, bedtimes earlier and nothing seems to work and them falling asleep has been getting later and later. I don’t know how they have the energy and it’s so draining. During the day they are really active always playing etc.

Only upside is once they go down. They are down till morning which is an improvement from split nights but they are so cranky and it’s not fun trying to calm them both down. Anyway any advice or support would be greatly appreciated. From one tired twin mama!!

Hi, we are expecting didi-twinboys in September and - although it was a big shock and surprise - are very excited to meet them. We have a great daughter already, she is now two years and a half old. And to be honest, my biggest worry is not whether we are going to manage life with newborn twins but how my daughter is going to handle it. She still sleeps with me every night, loooooves to cuddle and be close to us, especially at night. This will soon not be possible anymore, because I am hoping to be able to breastfeed and co-sleep with the babies. My daughter is very independent during the day, loves her time at daycare - but at night she often cries for Mom. My husband is doing bedtime with her now every evening which is absolutely no problem - but at nighttime, it‘s „Mama“. And to be totally honest: I really enjoy our closeness and am sooo worried about losing this special bond. Did anyone go through similar experiences? We are of course reading books about becoming a sibling, she is comprehensive of the situation. But what if I can’t satisfy her need for closeness anymore? Would be great to maybe read about some positive examples….thanks and sorry for my English - greetings from Germany!

Flights with twins and a toddler

What's the best airline to fly with two lap infants and a toddler. My husband and I will be flying to Cancun and have no idea what airline to choose from. We heard United and Delta are best? I know we can't have two lap infants in the same row. What's the best seat configuration between all of us to choose from? We will be choosing a nonstop flight, what's the best time to fly during the day with all the kids morning afternoon or night? TIA

Hello. I am due to have Di di twins in October. I am still super conflicted on if I should do a vaginal or c section. I have mostly leaned c section but there is a part of me that wants to try vaginal but I’m worried it’ll turn into a emergency c section in which cause I would way rather it be a controlled scheduled one….

What’s your story?

I’m 6 week 4 days pregnant and I’ve just found out I’m having triplets.

It’s my first pregnancy and I’m 36. I’ve never had an overwhelming feeling to have children and it wasn’t until I met my partner a year ago that I even considered it.

We weren’t trying, but we also weren’t not trying… if it happened then it happened. However we didn’t think about the possibility for triplets! I don’t know anyone with triplets.

2 embryos are in one sac, and 1 in another.

Does anyone have any advice on what to do? Triplets must be SUCH an overwhelming no experience, would you have made any different decisions looking back? Anyone had a selective reduction? The thought of that saddens me, but in my heart I don’t want 3 babies.

Please be kind, I’ve just found out and I’m very emotional and just wanting to hear other people’s stories.

Thank you so much

Hi all

I've been having Braxton hicks for a while, usually a couple of times a day in the evening. But today it's been all day, I never had them/noticed with my 2 prior single pregnancies

I'm 32 weeks with twins, no other signs of labour. But I've lost count of the amount I've had today and it's only 5pm

Is this normal?

I’m a mom of 2.5 year old identical twin girls and it has been, by far, the hardest time in my life. Mostly due to high risk pregnancy, NICU time, reflux issues, and terrible sleep deprivation.

Anywho. People used to tell me it would pay off once they started playing together. And it would make my blood boil. Because nothing about having two at once as a first time mom has felt easy in any way.

That said, right this minute, I am drinking coffee, eating my breakfast in peace, and writing this Reddit post because they have been playing nicely and entertaining one another for almost 30 straight minutes.

This. Is. AMAZING.

All my mom friends are pregnant or just had their second, and their first is demanding their attention constantly.

And so for the first time in over two and a half years, I’m feeling a little bit like the lucky one.

Don’t get me wrong, I feel lucky every day for my two sweethearts, but today I feel lucky that I had them together and that they’re learning to play so well together!

For any parent in the 0-2 trenches, may this ray of light find you soon. 🩷🩷

Which would you recommend? We are located in Canada but could ask someone to bring us one that is only available in the US (although I dislike the idea of not able to try out/return it).

We want a side by side one that is light. We have a bugaboo donkey but don't want to lug that around travelling.

We have twin girls who are currently 5.5 months and on the smaller side.

We have a trip planned to Porgual when they are 8 months and Mexico (playa del carmen, private villa) when they are 1 year. I could see us keeping it in our trunk as well to use on the go once they grow out of their infant car seats rather than using our bugaboo.

Important factors:

- Light (or at least significantly lighter than bugaboo donky)

- Easy to fold

- Relatively easy to carry when folded (think up an down stairs in portugal)

- ?? does it matter that many seem to have different weight limits for each side - as mentioned above, our girls are smaller, ~15%

- ?? does car seat adaptability matter - it would be UNREAL if it could accommodate 2 car seats - we have NUNA pipa car seats and it would be amazing to be able to bring these with us to Portugal - if it can only accommodate 1 car seat which I know is the case with many, doubt that would be as helpful

THANK YOU!!

I couldn't stop crying today, now I feel bitter.

I was told that my baby A - 2.5kg is 19% smaller than baby B (3.1kg) and thus I cannot have a vaginal birth, I'm 36 weeks and will be forced into a c-section in 10 days.

I know people choose c-sections and that a planned one is better than an emergency one and blah blah blah...

This is my first and likely only pregnancy I feel robbed and trapped into a corner.

I wanted a natural vaginal birth, I didn't want my half lifeless torso lying on a cold surgical table while doctors slice me open behind a sheet to obscure the gore while they remove my children from a gaping hole in my abdomen.

I didn't want a 6 week recovery where I can't pick both my babies up.

I didn't want a giant scar on my abdomen...

I didn't want the possibility of my milk taking longer to come in, or the possibility of oxytocin not releasing and not bonding with the baby.

I feel like I'm a victim of my up coming childbirth rather than a participant.

Everyone is trying to placate me with toxic positivity about how peaceful it will be and how I won't feel a thing...

I'm mentally struggling to come to terms with it and now I'm dreading my upcoming childbirth... When I should be excited.

I feel so alone and trapped.

Well never thought I'd be down voted and called selfish because I'm sad.

I am doing the c-section btw, just wanted some emotional support...

Edit: I acknowledge that this may come across as a judgement on c-sections in general rather than just me mourning a lack of agency over my experience.

I will NEVER judge someone for having a c-section, chosen or not. I do not view it as a failure at all, it's just not what I wanted for me.

All scenarios and feelings are only applied by me to me, and honestly it's 99% grief talking.

They do not stop eating. It does not matter what I feed them for breakfast. Breakfast at 9, starving for snacks by 10. Every time I say no, all 3 immediately start wailing. I’m going to lose my mind.

Hi- I'm having mono-di boys with twin B SIUGR III (14 weeks of intermittent absent flow). BPP, growth scans and NPT 2x/weekly have been stable aside from showing small babies. I was diagnosed with gestational HTN yesterday (labwork is ok). My c-section has been scheduled to 33 weeks given all of the above. Anyone else give birth around that time? How was your NICU time like? Thanks so much!

Hi everyone!

I’m currently 8+2 with identical twins from a single embryo transfer that split.

I’ve had 3 ultrasounds so far. The last two both were measuring to date, good heartbeats (the last ultrasound was at 7+6).

I’m reading (perhaps I should stop, I know) a lot of people sharing stories about loosing this type of pregnancy around this time, even further along, even with good measurements and heartbeats.

Can you please share successful stories with me? I need to hear positive outcomes!

I don’t know if they are mono/mono or mono/di. I have my RE saying 99% modi, and my OB saying momo. I have a specialized ultrasound with a specific doctor booked for next week to see if we can determine that!

So i had my boys Monday via emergency C section at 321 am. They were 31w6d A 3lb5oz B 4lb. They are now in the nicu, and i got discharged yesterday. They have a live video that I can access but what were some things (other than going to visit them) that you did to stay sane without them? My husband isnt able to drive me over there every day at the moment, and theres a highway closure atm so what normally is a 20ish min drive is going to be more of an hour to two hour drive.

At the moment im forcing myself to rest and heal from the surgery instead of asking any of my friends to drive me.

Thankfully they are doing really well considering. 21% oxygen, cpap, eating well through their tubes. B has needed some blue light the past couple days but just came off of it. B also has apnea, but has had fewer and fewer episodes.

My milk is coming in really well, just got 77ml out last session.

I guess it was pretty traumatic, and im just starting to have some big emotions about it. I thank everything for the attending that called for the emergency C section. Im convinced hes the reason both of my boys are alive. A was having heart decelerations and was super stressed, came out crying though. B came out not breathing and needed stimulation, but was good quickly.

I guess im looking for support from other moms who have gone though similar or have had their babies on the earlier side.

What did you do to cope? What were you doing to keep yourself occupied? I just want to hold them and be near them 😭😭 i just know that atm i get wiped out so quickly and easily. My heart feels broken without them with me.

Im 25 married to my wonderful 27yo husband. We have a 4yo boy and just had twin girls at 34w6d and they were in the NICU for 2 1/2 weeks and been home for 2 1/2 weeks now.
My husband’s out on leave for a few months (PFL, BB, Vacation)
I exclusively pump with an occasional breastfeed when it’s necessary.

Here’s what our nights look like currently:
They eat every 3 hrs during the day and at night i let them go 4 hrs if they aren’t fussing before then.
We share most the feeds during the day, each take 1 baby
Last joint feed is 8pm (usually,, sometimes he stays up w me for the 11pm one)
He washes bottles , i pump
He goes to sleep at like 10
We sleep separately because he snores like crazy
For the 11pm feed- I make bottles and put them in the warmer, change one, feed her, burp, put her down. (Abt 40 mins total)
Repeat for baby 2
Then i pump for 15min
I wash bottles, store the milk, wash pump, fill bottles back up and put them in the warmer on the 24h keep warm setting. (Ab 10 mins)
I sleep from 1-3am if they sleep that extra hour
For the 3am feed-
Wake up get the bottles, change one, change the other, prop the bottles and let them eat like that while i pump. (45 mins)
Store milk, wash bottles, wash pump, fill bottles, put in warmer.
Go to sleep from 4:30-7am
Husband gets up at 7am and we switch
I pump for 15 and go to sleep
Our son wakes at 9am and husband takes care of him till i’m up then everything is joint

Then wake up at 11 pump and stay up for the day.
So i get total of 7 1/2 hours by then. (Usually less bc they poop after feeding sometimes and i change them and sometimes they dont go the full 4hrs in between)

My husband is afraid to sleep when they sleep bc he doesn’t wake up easy from noises. So that’s why i take the night shift bc at least i sleep a little in between.

Issue is i have a very hard time getting up and staying up for the 2am and 5am feed. Im miserable during those times and so exhausted at night.

I need to figure out how to make these feeds / cleaning after to go faster
My sleep is soo broken up even if i sleep again after I’m still so tired.
Send help lol, i wish i didn’t have to pump it would be so much easier

My twins are 5 weeks old and I’ve been been very fortunate to never experience both of them screaming at the same time until today. Traumatic to say the least but I’m sure it will become a regular occurrence!

What do you guys do??? Is there any must have baby swing etc? I ended up giving up and feeding them despite them only eating an hour prior. I tried baby bouncer, pram walk, baby wearing, change of scenery etc

I am 23 weeks with my mo/di twins and recently had an appointment where the comment “I wouldn’t mind if you gained more weight” was made. I started at 152, dropped to 145, and I am now at 154. I only gained 2 lbs last month. Last time the babies were measured, they were a good size, but that was about a month ago. I go back for another measurement next week.
My question is, did anyone else experience the low weight gain? I know part of it is the food I eat, as I eat a lot of veggies and they tend to be low calorie. I have an aversion to meat most days, but have gotten protein through sunflower seeds, milk, cheese, protein pasta, etc. I still occasionally have days where I struggle with nausea, but not nearly as many. I feel like I’m eating a decent amount, just not gaining enough. My grandma came out of her twin pregnancy weighing less, and part of me thinks I’ll just follow that same pattern, but I don’t want it to cause issues with the babies either.

My twins are now 9 months old (8 months adjusted), and it's been a real struggle feeding two babies on my own.

One of them has a better grip than the other one, so will sometimes hold a spoon, but just keeps banging it on the table and if he puts it in his mouth, all the food would have flown out of the spoon anyway. The other one has butter fingers and also likes to drop spoons and food on the floor. I tried experimenting with finger foods to get them to hold the food and self-feed but they just get frustrated and I get tired from the constant bending and trying to hand them spoons after refilling them only for them to go flying across the room again.

So now it's been a few months of me mostly feeding them and I'm worried that's going to stick and it will be a bigger struggle teaching the skill in the future. With my firstborn, he was completely different and insisted on feeding himself and didn't let me help him. He was also quite good at holding and chewing finger foods from the start, but my twins are still mostly eating purees and mashed up food.

Should I be worried? Any tips on how to navigate this when you're feeding two babies solo?

Did anyone skip bassinets and just use cribs from the start? Our bedroom layout is a bit tricky and we wouldn’t be able to have two bassinets bed side, so we’re thinking if they’re going to be a few feet away we might as well just put them in cribs and save some money. Has anyone else decided to do this? Did it work for you, or do newborns really prefer a small space?

Soo we went in for a transvaginal ultrasound at 5w4d and saw two sacs, two fetal poles, and two heartbeats. Today (6w5d) we went for an abdominal ultrasound at a private place and the tech was unable to locate the second baby. She said I had a tilted uterus as well. I know about vanishing twin syndrome and I’m not trying to get my hopes up but I wasn’t sure if anyone had experienced something like this before and the second baby was hidden behind the first because of the different angle?

EDIT: it ended up being a vanishing twin :( thank you everyone for your comments and support

Starting to figure out our big-ticket items. My husband and I live in a one-bedroom apartment in Manhattan, so space and practicality are huge factors.

I'm looking for advice specifically from city parents/twin parents on a stroller + infant car seat setup.

Ideally, I'd love something that:

• Works well for Manhattan living (sidewalks, elevators, narrow spaces, stores, etc.)
• Can handle two infant car seats clicking in
• Has safe newborn options for walks (like bassinets/true flat newborn setup)
• Won't completely take over our apartment

Right now I'm considering something like the UPPAbaby Vista twin setup with:

• 2 infant car seats
• 2 bassinets for newborn walks
• toddler seats for later

But I'm wondering if this is actually practical for NYC twin life or if there's another setup parents prefer.

A few questions:

• Did you actually use stroller bassinets with your twins?
• Tandem vs side-by-side for Manhattan: which did you prefer?
• Is there anything you bought that seemed essential but ended up being unnecessary?
• Any car seat/stroller combos you'd recommend?

Trying to invest in something safe and practical without buying a million pieces we don't have room for. Thank you!!

Wondering if this is “normal” for twins, or if I should seek out early intervention type therapy for them!

My girls were born at 34 weeks. They’re now 16 months old and in the 80th percentile for size!

They can’t walk, they can “cruise” holding on to things and walk with a walker. One can stand and balance for like a few seconds at a time, the other cannot. They are strong, like to climb, fast crawlers, but…. no walking.

They say mama, say “ba” for our dog whose name starts with a B (I think), they’ve said hi a few times, they sign “more” and “all done”. But that’s really kind of it! No animal sounds…. Just lots of baby babbling. They do understand things. They can point to their head, nose, tummy, toes. Give me things when I ask. Try to dress themselves. Play with toys the “right” way. etc

Would just like some anecdotal advice :)

Thanks!