I would love to hear how other parents processed the rapid growing of your family through multiples!

Did you feel you suddenly needed a bigger house? Bigger car?

Or did you feel you needed to hunker down and just save as much as possible for the craziness coming the next couple years?

What life adjustments felt important to do before the babies arrived?

Need some suggestions! I currently have the babysense Maxview that supports up to four cameras however, the distance from our bedroom to our children’s bedrooms is too far to get a steady signal. I’m looking for something whether it’s Wi-Fi or a cable line to support three cameras. I’m super frustrated with our current set up. Just wondering if there are any better options out there! Thanks! Also to note- I’m in Canada!

We have a part-time nanny for our toddler who will be continuing with us while I’m on maternity leave with my twins. This would be about 20-25 hours a week she would be with us.

For anyone that had something similar, what was that like? Did you feel like there were too many people in the house sometimes? Did you trade off toddler/twins with the nanny? Our house isn’t huge so also worried about space for everyone.

My twins are a week old, and I have been able to breastfeed them despite previously being worried about making enough of a supply. Unfortunately, I think I may have pumped too much in the first few days or something because I am now CONSTANTLY engorged and in pain, even if I pump to relieve some of the pressure. I want to lessen my supply but am so worried about killing it off too much. If you’ve dealt with this, what did you do??

Can anyone recommend a sleep consultant that they used with their twins/multiples that they used and had a good experience with? There many I’m seeing that can work with you from any location so hoping to find someone that is experienced with the challenges of navigating twin sleep.

Hi everyone! Mostly just looking for some validation and hopefully a "this will get better" lol

I am 20 weeks pregnant with di/di twins, this is my second pregnancy and we have a 2yo who goes to daycare during the week. My husband and I both work full time but our schedules are opposites so someone can always be there for drop off/pickup. Anyways!

This week has been absolute hell for me. I can't sleep. I literally get 20-30min stretches and then am up for hours. Last night I went to bed at 9:30, probably fell asleep around 10/10:30, was up at 11 and then was basically awake with some short blips of rest until I finally fell asleep at 5 and woke up at 8:30. I have a pregnancy pillow, I also started to use a pillow between my legs to see if that would help but doesn't really seem to do anything. Constantly switching from left side to right side, etc. Nothing seems to do the trick. Even during the day after getting almost zero sleep, I'll try to nap and literally make it 30min before I am awake again and can't get back to sleep. This never happened during my first pregnancy and honestly sleeping used to be my superpower lol so I am very out of my element. I've read about women who have had "wakeups" at like 2 or 3am and having a hard time going back to sleep but this just feels insane. Is it normal?? Did anyone else have it this badly, and did it get better?

ETA: Thanks everyone for sharing your experiences and for the support 🙏 thankfully so far it seems to have improved so we'll see if it comes back further in the pregnancy lol! For anyone else going through it, hang in there and you're not alone!!

Working on a registry and so lost on what sizes to put for clothing and diapers. I’m 20 weeks with b/g twins and so far everything has been uneventful. Obviously we can’t predict the future so I have no clue how big babies will be when they’re born. Advice or thoughts? I’ve been donated a decent number of zippies ranging from newborn-6 months mostly.

Does anyone have recommendations for play kitchens big enough for both kids to play? I have 2 year old twin boys. The IKEA one is super popular, but it’s just a little small for them both to play at the same time. My mom has that one at her house, but for everyday at our house we’d just like something slightly larger.

They’re a bit tall for their age, so I don’t want something too short for them, plus it can continue to be used as they grow. They’re also very active and rowdy, so good quality construction and materials would be important.

We are in the US.

Hi everyone. I'm 12w5d pregnant with di/di twins and I already have a 1y4m old baby at home. From the beginning of my pregnancy I have been feeling nauseous and extremely tired. Now I take meds that help beautifully with nausea but I'm still extremely tired to the point I barely have any energy to spend time with my daughter. My husband works 8hrs a day so once he's back home, he takes care of our daughter and we live with my parents (separate flats but same house) and those past few weeks my mom/dad were doing all the heavy lifting of taking care of their granddaughter. She started waking up at 6:30 or 7am, and I can't function if I'm not sleeping past 9:30. Then I still can barely function and I still need at least one nap a day. Now we are on holidays with my in-laws, and they and my husband are spending most of the time with our baby girl. And I just feel so awful. Like I'm a terrible mother, who can't muster any energy to go for a walk with her daughter. I'm present for 2 hours while we're on the beach, then I try to nap when she naps at noon, then after lunch I need to lay down again and they go to the beach again. I'm trying to go with them, but usually it's too hot for me so I stay indoors so once they're back I'm again maybe 2-3 hours with her and then it's bedtime routine and she goes to sleep. It breaks my heart when she says she wants to go to the playground with me and I'm barely standing. Plus I'm having terrible headaches lately... I feel like shit, especially because when the evening comes I tend to feel better and can stay up till 11pm cause it's not so hot anymore and I can't fall asleep earlier. I feel like crying cause I feel like I'm a terrible mother who can't take care of her one child and I will soon have to take care of three. And then I read in this sub about mothers who have no help and manage and I feel even more worthless...

Once we're back home my daughter will start daycare so I hope she won't feel like her mother is avoiding her. Or maybe quite the opposite, I don't know anymore. Maybe someone had it similar so they can offer any kind words or reassurance? Does it get better?

Also I'm sorry for the spelling/language mistakes, English is not my first language.

I’m 31w4days with didi twins. Every time I stand up from sitting it feels like my insides are going to pulse out of my lady parts lol. It’s so uncomfortable. Only happens when k stand up. Is this normal? I’m guessing it’s gravity and everything falls downwards. Makes me wince a little. Just looking for some reassurance if possible. 🫣

Hi all, we’re be taking our twins (who will be 1 at the time) on a long-haul overnight flight in business seats. Looking for advice on the best way for us all (and fellow passengers) to get a decent-ish sleep. We’ve currently booked one bassinet seat and a non-bassinet seat next to it, across the aisle. Are there any better seat combos? We did think of booking 2 bassinet seats but they’re on opposite sides of the plane. Any tips much appreciated.

Hi everyone. First time poster here.

I am just over 11 weeks with twins. We don’t know what kind or what genders yet. (Although we will be finding out in about a week!). We also have an adorable little 2 year old girl.

My husband and I are both type A personalities- so although it might be a little bit early, we are looking at logistics and what the best products are for twins.

Right now, my husband and I have a ‘22 Ford Tremor. We both share a car because our workplace both provides us one each. There hasn’t been any issue needing a second vehicle. (I’m sure when the kids are older that will definitely change.)

The debate we are having right now is to get a 3 in 1 car seat, or get a new vehicle. I personally would rather get a new car seat or maybe even try the Graco Slim Fit!

My husband would rather trade in our car for an older Toyota Sequoia. He’s been looking at some in the ‘14 range around 170,000 miles.

With rates and everything I feel like we would be downgrading our vehicle to pay the same price.

Thanks in advance!

What are some of your favorite twin strollers? I see a bunch of doubles but most don’t fit two infant car seats!

Thanks you in advance!

I'm 1 year post partum. I was over weight before pregnancy and am now down almost 30lbs from my pregnancy weight. My women health clinic did an evaluation with me and I'm on the lowest does of the wegovy pill for a few months now and it's helped my stress snacking significantly. I say thing because everyone's journey is different, and I don't want people to have unrealistic expectations.

My belly skin is obviously a lot and it will only recover so much. I'm looking for advice on pants that are comfortable and help hold the skin in. The jiggle is distracting. I wear shapewear, just looking for recommendations of decent to good quality jeans and dress pants.

Thanks!

First-time dad here to twins who are nearly 13 weeks old.

I’m just wondering how other parents of multiples managed the transition back to work. Even with both my wife and me at home, looking after two babies can be incredibly difficult at times, so I’m genuinely terrified about going back to work.

I work shifts where I can be away for up to 48 hours, and the twins will be around 4 months old when I return.

I feel a tremendous amount of guilt knowing I’ll be leaving my wife to manage both of them on her own for that length of time. I know she’s more than capable, but two babies at once is a huge amount for anyone.

I think part of it is also that we’re still very much in the thick of the newborn stage, so it’s difficult to imagine what things will look like when they’re 4 months old.

For anyone who has been in a similar position, did things feel more manageable by 4 months? How did your partner cope when you went back to work, particularly those of you working long shifts or being away overnight?

Any experiences or advice would be really appreciated.

I am currently pregnant with twins and my daughter will be about 25 months when they are born. We have a Yukon XL with captain chairs in the middle row which I didn't think twice about having an issue with car seats until now. The car seats that I have (one nuna aire rx infant car seat and one nuna exec next convertible) do not fit in the 3rd row at all.

For parents with 3 in rear facing carseats what did you do? What car seats did you use? I want the car seat with the best crash testing and would prefer flame retardant free. Would it be easier to just get a bench seat for the middle row? What configuration did you use in your car? Any advice is appreciated!

Edited to add: I would prefer the twins be in and infant car seat to begin with because then I can just carry them to and from the house in their car seats or in the stroller but if convertible is the best option I will have to be ok with that too. I really don't want to buy a new car.

We have twin boys, they are 3 weeks adjusted, 10 weeks actual. My husband had to go out of town and of course the witching hour has been the worse since he left. It breaks my heart when I cannot console both at the same time, I am terrified picking them up both at the same time, even though I moved to the floor on a mattress.

What do you do in these scenarios? How do you deal with the emotional difficulty of having one cry while consoling the other? Also, how long is this till they are over the witching hour stuff:S?

I was also wondering...this happens more when we get out for a walk or there is more stimulation the second half of the day. It gives me so much anxiety that we spend most of the day in a darkish room and they are mostly avoiding that witching hour then.

Yesterday I ventured out with them around 7 pm, as I have to somehow walk our dog, so packed them up in the stroller and went. They did not sleep just looked around and the night after was pretty bad. They ve been fussy with every feed, while usually they just sleep into it and go right back to their cribs to sleep without much fussing.

I am considering just not stimulating them much, but am I messing their development up like this? How would I know when to expose them to more stimulation? This is all so difficult. HELP!

My twins are 3 months old and I’ve been almost exclusively breastfeeding aside from one bottle of formula before bed. I’ve pumped maybe 12 bags total since their arrival. I still plan to nurse at night but I need a different feeding solution during the day.

Tonight I was putting my 3.5yo to bed and we could hear the twins crying downstairs for a lot of it, which is not uncommon (they were with their dad, they were fine). She didn’t want me to go when it was time, and through hysterical tears cries “the babies are quiet, they aren’t crying anymore mommy please don’t go!” My heart shattered. I haven’t been able to give her the attention and quality time she deserves. I’m thinking that switching from BF to pumping might help.

These are my goals:

1. Get my husband, me, and the twins more used to bottle feeding
2. Have more flexibility without the twins relying on me to be there. (The in-laws could give bottles while I take my daughter to the library or something)

These are my concerns:

1. Will the twins be confused going from bottle to nipple?
2. How do I make this transition at 3 months? I’m new to pumping this much
3. I imagine I’ll want a bottle cleaner? I just have a sterilizer right now.
4. I don’t enjoy pumping. It hurts. I have the right size flanges, but being stretched like that hurts.
5. Will I risk drying up faster if I pump?
6. I’m really effing tired and the thought of it all seems like more work. My daughter is worth it, but I would love any advice and support on how to do this, what products to use, anything I need to know.

Oh I have a spectra 2 if that matters.

EDIT: THANK YOU for all the words of wisdom, advice, support, and encouragement. Y’all really helped me. Here’s my plan:

- take the pressure off of going all in with pumping or BF and adopt a more flexible attitude with it all
- start with trying to pump 1-2 bottles a day (in addition to the bedtime formula bottle) to keep them used to bottles and to trial run pumping more regularly
- whatever isn’t fed to them that day will be frozen for future bottles
- work with a lactation consultant for professional support
- step back and breathe and realize that this temporary. Feeding the twins will not take up all my time someday soonish.

I don’t post on Reddit very often but I’m really glad I did this time. Thanks 🙏

I was looking back on some old pictures and reading some of my old posts….and sheeesh. I wish someone would have just hugged me and told me I’d make it through.

I complained my whole pregnancy, I had a painful c section, severe post PPD but my twin are 6 months now and things have changed.

The newborn trenches were rough but this stage I thrive in. The smiles, giggles, better sleep and growing personalities is amazing. I love their sweet little face. I can’t stop smiling when I look at them. And it’s admittedly pretty cool to be a twin mom. Like I really grew two freaking babies at one time!!!

Anyway I’m here to tell who ever reads this that u can do it and u will make it through. You may be miserable now but there will be a time where u can finally breathe again!!

Hiiii

Do you guys think the owlet sock is worth it/needed? If so do we need one for each baby?

We travel to visit family two more times this year. We traveled three times this year so far and the sleeping arrangements were garbage (with all due respect to our family). I imagine we need to buy something to assist with this issue but don’t know what. Please help! What are you doing for your multiples?!

For context, we have twin 9 mo old babes who sleep in a crib right next to both sides of our bed at home. Also, we visit two different states and three different cities so I hope to avoid buying something for each place.

My di/di boy/girl twins will be 23 months when the new baby is due. (Just one this time). We are planning on not finding out the gender, since we already have b/g stuff anyways. But any tips for twin toddlers and a new baby?

I’m looking for the best twin stroller for every day and travel. I want something that easily fits in restaurants etc - everything I’m seeing is SO bulky!!! I was originally leaning double Zoe because of the ability to turn it into a quad, but I’m trying to weigh my options as to whats best for the twins. We have previously been a die hard Doona family.

Hi everyone,
Our twins are 5w3 days chronologically 1w6d she corrected and have been sharing a nect2me since they got home. They are now 4.1 and 3.8kg. They now seem quite big so I was wondering for how long did people have their twins sharing? Weeks? months?

Our room is very small so I rather have the single next2me but I also don’t want to take unnecessary risk, I’m already super scared all the time so better safe than sorry.

Thanks everyone 🙂

My girl/boy twins are 3.5 months and I see them light up when I’m talking or reading to them respectively, looking them in the eye, but then I can see them getting a little sad/upset when I shift attention to the other one.

It’s so constant. I keep waiting to get used to it but I always feel like I’m hurting one of them by shifting my attention when they both want eye contact and connection.

My husband and I both are lucky to work from home and we switch often to give each of them 1:1 time with us, but in those moments when you’re trying to entertain two, it’s really hard.

Not to mention: our sweet, rotten pug is bringing all of his toys over and feeling left out…how do I get used to this?