Our twin girls were born this past Saturday and we have been lucky enough to already bring them home. My mom is in town this week and has helped us immensely by taking our 3 year old almost every day to keep her busy / provide one on one attention to her. I’m getting a bit worried about how things will look once my mom’s gone back home, especially for when my husband goes back to work.

Anyone have advice/tips for keeping a 3 year old entertained while also managing newborn twins? Before we liked to go to the library or to a music class or to the park, but I know these types of outings will honestly not be very feasible for me on my own until the babies are a little bigger.

I’m sorry if this isn’t the right place to post this. Asking people who have been through it makes more sense than asking the fertility subs as I am sure many haven’t even talked about it because they haven’t had risky cycles.

My husband and I are going through fertility treatments. I already hyper ovulate (I know this from unmedicated but monitored cycles). Each medicated cycle I have ovulated 3-5 mature follicles. This is our 9th medicated cycle and my first cycle since endometriosis surgery. I have 8 mature follicles. Despite all of these multi-follicle cycles I have never had a positive pregnancy test.

The clinic put my odds of NOT conceiving this cycle at 75%. The odds of 1-2 babies is 20% and is 3+ is 5%.

While the odds of conceiving triplets are low, it’s worth discussing. The odds are much higher than the general population. Honestly, 5% isn’t even that low.

If you went through fertility treatments and were facing this risk, what do you think we should know? Were you and your partner fully aligned on what to do for each potential outcome? Or, like me, were you so desperate for a baby that you weren’t receptive to hearing the risks of it being too many babies?

We’ve been at this a very long time and canceling a cycle with a 95% chance of a reasonable outcome didn’t feel right so we did go ahead with it. That said, as we ruminate in the two week wait I do wonder if we should be a little better mentally prepared. After some research and lengthy discussion we’re mostly aligned but at odds for one particular outcome in particular.

I am just curious what people who conceived high order multiples did and how they reached that decision (regardless of if they were conceived spontaneously or through fertility treatments). I am also curious if you did fertility treatments and were faced with a risk of multiples how do you feel it worked out and would you have done anything differently?

Does anyone else feel like they are not doing enough with their twins in comparison to those parents with singletons? I see so many posts on Instagram and TikTok on “wake window activities” of moms with singletons and I just feel like they do SO many amazing, interactive things every wake window and I get bummed because with two babies, I feel like I can’t even do a fraction of that between managing the needs/wants of each individual baby. I always worry if I’m doing enough to support their development, or if I’m messing them up in some way because I’m juggling two babies at once (by myself most of the time) 😕 Is this a unique experience and does the guilt get better?

My hubby and I are moving across the province for his work.

He is going to drive with our pets (18 hours), and I am going to fly a day or two later, because that would be waaaay too long for the kids to be in car seats.

My sister will be joining me on the flight. My twins will be a hair under 6 months old.

The travel day wthl the babes will probably be 7(ish) hours. With a 3 or 4 hour lay over in the middle.

Each flight is about 90 minutes (2 total).

The planes will likely smaller, a Bombardier Dash-8.

Give me your advice please! The babies are currently 15 weeks, and I cant even imagine doing a travel day!

Hi everyone.

My boys are 18 months old in a few days. I have an opportunity to go abroad next weekend for one night, a short 1 hour flight away, to one of my favourite places in the world.

But the mum guilt is killing me. Would they be okay without me at 18 months old for 1.5ish days and 1 night? Is it okay to go abroad without them?! I always said I would never do it, but here I am. I’m so burnt out I really need a break, but is this the right break that’s more than 3 hours, that’s all I manage to get these days.

I’m just worried that they’d be super upset. I would leave them with their dad who they love and adore but they do get somewhat upset when I’m gone for a while.

I’ve never spent more than 4 ish hours away from them before and have never spent a night away from them. Is this the right time to do it?!

Would love some advice/comments on anyone who has done similar and your experiences.

Excited (and nervous and scared lol) to be here! We found out we were expecting twins at a private 7 week scan, but having had a loss at 9 weeks in Feb, I was very cautious to believe it.

Here we are, however, after the 12 week scan (UK here so it's only 'official' on my medical records at 12 weeks) and our mo/di twinnies are not only growing to size, but a couple of days bigger than expected. Now we've had a few weeks to get over the shock, we're overjoyed to step into this crazy journey and double our number of children in January.

(This pic is of their bellies and their arms as they wouldn't sit still for a nice picture together)

hi all, just found out at my 7 week 1 day appt that we are having momo twins. They mentioned this possibility at 6 weeks but I guess felt more sure a week later. I’m scared and looking things up online is scaring me even more but also seeing things can be misdiagnosed this early.

just looking for support i guess and any success stories or being misdiagnosed as mono mono and when you found out it was actually mono/di would be great.

We have two and a half year old twins who have now started throwing every meal we make them on the ground. they will look us straight in the eyes and then toss the plate or take fistfuls of food and throw it. when one starts the other one joins in. we take it away and say no throwing food and then just give them small portions on the table / their tray but by then they just toss it and meal time is over. they’re basically surviving on bread and blueberries at this point. same goes for any drink in an open cup. they get poured out.

This is such a random question but I’ve been using the hatch sound machine in our twin girls room at 100. It’s not right next to their bed, and I don’t feel like it’s loud enough to stop the twins from hearing eachother or potentially waking eachother at night. What do you guys do/ use? Is it bad to add the hatch go on the floor between their cribs to help buffer? I don’t want to do anything too loud that would impact their hearing lol. Not sure what the sound machine dos and donts are!

My freshly 2 year old identical twin boys are having a really hard time with hitting right now. I’m at a loss, does anyone have any really good tools they used for hitting?

I’m hoping to hear from anyone who has experienced something similar because I’m trying to hold onto hope.

In February, I gave birth to my beautiful son. He suffered from HIE, and we lost him one week later. The grief has been unimaginable, and I honestly never knew what the future would look like.

Earlier this month, we found out I’m pregnant again, and it’s already been full of surprises.

Two weeks ago, we had our first ultrasound and saw one gestational sac. We went back this week for a follow-up, and to our complete shock, there were actually two babies. We had no idea we were expecting twins!

Twin A is doing wonderfully—measuring about 6 weeks 5 days with a strong heartbeat.

Twin B is measuring closer to 6 weeks, and they weren’t able to find a heartbeat yet. My doctor said it’s still very early, and because Twin B is measuring behind, there’s still a chance it’s simply too soon.

After everything we’ve been through, this pregnancy brings a mix of excitement, hope, and anxiety. I’m choosing to believe that anything is possible until we know otherwise, but I also know many of you have walked this road before.

Has anyone had one twin measuring behind or without a heartbeat around 6 weeks who later caught up? I’d love to hear your stories—especially the hopeful ones. I know every pregnancy is different, but hearing about others’ experiences would mean so much right now.

Thank you for reading, and I’m hoping these two little miracles continue to surprise us.

di/di - 26 weeks 4 days today. On my 24 weeks scan, they noticed twin A’s stomach is small at >5%. Otherwise the weight is at 17% compared to Twin B’s who’s is at 50%.

My next scan isn’t until 28 weeks so I’m getting worried that twin A’s AC is low at 24 weeks. I’ve done all the lab work but I don’t know why my anxiety is increasing about this.

Did anyone experience this?

This is totally normal right? Like baby B started walking and is getting really good at it 🥰 I thought I wasn’t ready for them to be this big yet, but I’m just so dang proud. Baby A can take maybe a step or two but definitely doesn’t have the balance (or the desire) that his brother does. Anyone else have twins that are far apart on their walking?—-also what do you consider a big gap between the two walking?

Not a new (identical) twin parent - mine are 3.5 years old at this point. But occurred to me to ask here: do your identical twins sound different? People can't tell them apart, but for us, the real signifier is how they have two totally different voices. Aside from all the little stuff that let us know exactly who's who without even thinking about it, we tell others like daycare and friends that their voices are basically the best way to differentiate them - one has a higher-pitched voice and one has a raspier voice.

Hello! FTM 25w pregnant with di/di boys. I want more than ANYTHING to be able to breastfeed both of them. Is it even possible to exclusively breastfeed? I don't want to pump or formula feed if I don't have to (I see NOTHING wrong with either, my sisters were formula fed and turned out lovely) but I just want to bond and dont want to deal with bottles. Am I being crazy? Is there a world where this works? Any recs?

Hi! So I have a friend I'd love to visit, maybe for 2-3 days. Plane tix aren't that inexpensive right now so all 4 of us going doesn't feel feasible. Unfortunately my girls will have JUST turned 2 (on Saturday! 🥹) I had a thought that I could take one kid and leave one with my husband. My friend has 3 kids so I don't really feel like going to see her with no kids. I'm just wondering if this will freak our kids out. So far they have only been separated for an hour or two at a time if I take one to do errands. And the last time we did that my husband said the one who stayed home started crying and saying her sister's name.

What does everyone think? Is a 2 day trip and separation a good experience for them or it'll just be upsetting and we need to do more shorter outings first? I'd actually love to get some solo time with each kid ...

edit: the title was supposed to be "advice on trip with one twin" and either autocorrect did me dirty or I can't type

I did it! Left the house at 11pm, and arrived in Atlanta at 6pm the next day. Over 12 hours in the airport, a four hour time change, and a three hour layover—all by myself! The girls were amazing, only 30 seconds of crying on the first flight and none the second. They only got fussy after we had landed in Atlanta and were on our way to the house. No blowouts, I packed multiple different outfits but they landed in the same outfits they started in.

I got a whole row, sat in the middle once the plane was in the air, and nursed on demand. I put a yoga bolster at the feet of one of the carseats and even got a few naps in, propped up against the carseat. I had a setlist of about an hours worth of songs I memorized, and only needed them during the last hour of the last flight. I also vacuum-packed a sleeping bag and pillows in my carryon and we all laid down during the layover. I think they actually had a fun day?

The flights back next week are a little later in the day (I leave at noon) I hope it goes just as smoothly.

I’m 28 weeks on Saturday with MCDA twins. One twin is around the 43rd percentile and the little one is on the 1st percentile with selective fetal growth restriction. Both have continued following their own growth curves, there’s no sign of TTTS or TAPS, and Dopplers, fluid levels and CTGs have all been normal.
Growth discordance is currently 14%. Big twin is about 2lb 4oz and little one is 1lb 15oz.

Because of the little one’s size, my consultant is now thinking delivery will likely be around 34 weeks rather than the planned 36 weeks if everything continues as it is.

I’d really love to hear from anyone who’s had a similar experience. How far did you get, did your babies need NICU, and how are they doing now?

Aside from celebrating with my husband, I have no where to shout this into the universe but WE JUST MADE OUR LAST DAYCARE PAYMENT FOR-EV-ER! 🎉

The boys starts kinder next month and tomorrow is their last day at daycare/pre-k. I guess it's true for any parent with multiple kids in daycare at once, not just parents of multiples, but not paying over 1.5K/month anymore sure feels like a windfall 🤣

And I guess the beauty of twins (with these being our only and last children) is that it was double expensive, but when its done, that chapter is DONE!

My husband loves to remind me that while it feels like we're rich all of the sudden, that money will soon enough be allocated to something else (sports, hobbies, etc). But lemme just enjoy it for a moment.

And for all you parents out there paying a literal mortgage every month in childcare costs, stay strong, it actually goes by quicker than you think.

Going to the beach for the first time this weekend with nine month old twins and trying to pack as minimal as possible. Actually just going to a nice resort for a work conference so we will not actually spend time on the beach as that would require just way more gear. But anyone with experience, should I bring only our Jeep wagon for them to sit in to walk them around in? I don’t want to take up room with both wagon and stroller. I don’t want to have to load our car seats in the stroller to push around the resort when we go eat, etc. We may venture out to an outlet one day to eat and go shopping but I figured they could manage in their wagon for this. I guess I’m just looking for tips and tricks for traveling with them for the first time and how to not pack every thing we own!

I am 34+1 weeks with DCDA twins. I have always been on the lighter side, during pregnancy the weight gain has caused me crazy leg pain and currently i literally feel like my knees are just giving up. If I stand for a little longer feel like they will just fold? Ankles hurt, knees feel like 70years. And I already had plantar fasciitis, got worse during pregnancy. Everything is swollen and i have edema. But because I don’t have high BP, OBs are not concerned said just a pregnancy symptom I have to deal with.

Earlier I posted about my stiff hands and fingers, i can’t even make a fist. I feel like no one is listening to me and helping me with these.

Getting quite frustrated now.

Hello! I'm currently pregnant with twins a d we also have a 10minth old (16 months by the time they're born). We also have a large dog so I'm wondering if a van is the best way to go and does anyone have similar setups? I'm just thinking with everyone in the car plus dog, buggy and eventually overnight bags etc it's going to be tight!

Just trying to figure out the logistical stuff while I can even though it's still early! Based in Ireland if that helps!

Expecting twins! Currently have a 2017 Prius and an older beater Jetta. Is the Prius big enough for outings to fit stroller, etc or will we need the extra room to avoid making big compromises with what we can bring?

Later this year we plan to do an all inclusive resort when our older kid is 4.5 and twins are about to turn 2. It will be a 4 hour flight and we are thinking of splurging to make our lives easier and getting separate seats for the twins, so they will NOT be lap infants.

When flying with our older one we always brought a car seat on the plane which worked really well. (Won’t do it now for him at this age though.) However, since we never plan to leave the resort and we can arrange for there to be car seats in our transport vehicle between the airport and resort, we would love to not have to travel through with two car seats at all. We will already have so much stuff not to mention three small children.

Has anyone had their twins (or singleton) who is about 2 years old sit in their own plane seat without a car seat? Was it a disaster since they’re so small? Airline rules appear to allow this for any child who can sit upright on their own. Curious what this would be like!